Breakups

• Yes, divorces are too easy to get for most unless there is a business or properties involved. For the general public it should be more difficult to get a marriage license and some time to think if you are making a wise decision. In these modern times it appears that some couples feel that if they don't like being married or they are too lazy to work on their marriage they can either cheat or breakup. There appears to be a lack of staying power. Nothing in life that is worth something comes easy.
  

Well, if you have a boyfriend now, then you should kinda think to yourself which one do I really like more. But if you are currently single I think you should just walk away. If after 2 weeks you are still hung up on him- write a letter saying all the bad things and (if there are any) good things about him. Address it to him, but hide it in your room or some place no-one will ever find it, it should stop you liking him, then if you start liking him again just read the letter.

Moving on is an important part of heartbreak cause now you know he doesn't like you, you can move on to other boys

Another way is making him jealous of you by flirting with other guys.

Time is a great healer, you will feel better as time goes on, in the meantime just take one day at a time. Good luck.

Be happy. Spend time with your friends and have a lot of fun. You don't need a boyfriend to make you happy if you tell yourself your going to have a good time.

If your 'ex' dumped you for an 'ex' that dumped her, chances are she's gonna get dumped again.

Well,

I heard that he is seeing a girl that goes to NW University. She is from Vail, CO. I also heard that she is pretty, but has the typical Vail attitude....so not sure how long it will last...

Hope not long, as I am next in line!

Kathy

Damn that isn't good....all of your friends and you should talk about it...find the source of the problem, pinpoint what the present situation is, and FIX IT

If the ex-boyfriend is the father of the baby, and wants to be a part of that child's life, I would say absolutely! However, if he is not the child's father than I believe that decision belongs to you and you only. Only you know how that relationship has evolved.

I'm confused ,you want to get back with her but your grand scheme involves totally ignoring her??....this is more like not taking you medicine in order to get better., In neither case do you get what you want.

So stop ignoring her, approach her and tell her how you feel and see how it goes. As my girl friend once told me "people usually know you care about them when you show them that you care". So if you want to get back together with her go and show her that you want to .

Being a Scorpio male myself, I think I can answer your question for you. We tend to be deep within ourselves, hot tempered, and rude at times, especially when someone we don't like gets in our way. Jealousy is a big part of our lives, and we are very insecure at times. We aren't all negative, though; we do have our good points, especially when it comes to love as the sign Scorpio is supposed to be one of the best lovers of all of the zodiac. On the other hand, when we are mentally abused or hurt, we may never forgive you or anyone who did hurt us. We are creative; it comes naturally as though it were a gift from heaven. We rarely quit anything that we start, and if you are looking for a man or boy who will NOT stand to see you insulted or hurt in any way, your Scorpio male will protect you with his life if need be.

Wait patiently. Maybe she will want to get back together with you, maybe playing the field is her way of saying bye-bye in a nice way. Either way, manipulation isn't a good idea.

back is the keyword here, they can't go forward properly so back is invevitable. he's gonna go back with ex AGAIN i do believe. this time i am in my apt. and he left me. thank GOD i have a lease in my name.

I'm done with this dude. he is insane. my insanity is in believing in him ever & at all.

I'm afraid you are the only one having the answer for that, meaning you should "halt time" and make an effort to understand, to see beyond the obvious, to make connections. Relationships are all about give and take. A couple is happy together when both parties feel that they're getting what they need. When balance is broken (usually due to a stressful situation in a specific time frame), one of them should compensate by giving more and expecting less, until equilibrium is restored. The 'bleeding' and the bitterness start when one of the parties feel unbalanced all the times or most of the time. I think that it takes a lot of hurt (in all its forms, i.e., misunderstanding, loneliness, lack of respect, etc.) to get someone out of the door for good. Think about it.

Sounds to me that he wants to be able to keep you in arms length. Sounds to me ( cause its happened before ) that he may be seeing someone else and wants to keep you in the back burner just in case that doesnt work out. I would confront him and say, its me or leave me alone. He has to make a decision its not fair to string you along.

Go for it mate to be honest what have you got to loose have a good life enjoy it and don't be scared b4 it is too late good luck!

It all depends on how much you love, like, or enjoy the person's company. If you can not stand your partner, and would love to end the relationship, go ahead. But if you feel a spark, and have a feeling you can have a wonderful relationship with that person, go ahead and give it a try. REMEMBER, EVEN IF YOU DON'T SEE A SPARK, TRY AND LOOK FOR ONE! MANY RELATIONSHIPS CLOSE TO FALLING OFF THE EDGE WERE ABLE TO BE FIXED, AND TODAY THOSE RELATIONSHIPS ARE VERY FAITHFUL AND STRONG!

Most abusers are about control and they never like to deal with "the one that got away." He remembers you in the text as always having control over you, so 10 or 20 years later he is going to pick up where he left off. My question is, "how would you know if he's not over the relationship if you haven't talked to him?" Don't even entertain the idea of being curious over this low-life abuser by perhaps asking friends what he is up too. Take a fast step out the door! Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy His Mother told me this. However, although she has a very kind personality, she does and never has seen her son as he really is. She said some mean personal things to me the other day. I told her I am sorry hes not doing well but I have moved on. There is no way I want him back. Yes he had alot of control. It was much like a parent/child relationship. I was 23 he was 36. He broke my heart and I got over it completley. I just wondered cause i found it odd that ten years later she would say this. I mean a whole lifetime of events good and bad have happened in my life since that time and i cant imagine feeling that way after ten years of not seeing a person. Maybe he just enver found another woman who was so niave and so easy to control. Hi there Thanks for sharing in more detail about your problem. It sounds like his mother wants her son to be happy (is in denial as to what he is ... an abusive person) and is trying her best to get the both of you back together again. Stay clear of her! You've done a fine job of getting him out of your life. This guy shows every sign of being irresponsible, immature, and certainly not independent. I doubt any of his relationships have worked out and his life will continue to go this way. Keep going! You have a great Christmas a I wish you good things in 2006. Marcy

Most likely she was sure that she really liked you and cared about you before, but something has changed and she isn't sure anymore. Ask her what has changed. Have you changed? Has she changed? Have the circumstances changed? This could be caused by any change in the relationship; you just need to find out from her what it is. She was obviously not confused before, but something lately has made her wonder. Find out what that is and then try to fix it. -DJ Craig

It sounds like he wants to be friends. It means that he cares about you but that he does not want to date you or persue a boyfriend girlfriend relationship with you. It means "He's just not that into you.". I am sorry, it hurts. You may want to ask him why or what happened but you may or may not want to hear his response and it may hurt you more. With time things may change, but I wouldn't count on it. Wish him well and move on by involving yourself with others who care about you whether you can or can't be friends with him right away. God bless you. you said ex- boyfriend.... perhaps you are viewed as "to good", and as rare as it may be he thinks he will only hold you back in life. or its a ploy to get you closer in thoughts of bigger rewards either way ex is ex and you need to move on in life

Perhaps she WAS on the rebound and got too deeply involved with the new guy too fast, but that's a moot point, now. The new guy isn't new anymore. Some rebound relationships last, sometimes for keeps. This might be one of them. If you're still carrying a torch for your ex, let her know how you feel and see how she reacts. She may not be all that happy with her current relationship and just biding her time. Who knows? Perhaps she regrets your breakup and would be willing, even eager, to get back with you. We're not fortune tellers, and the Magic Eight Ball is an unreliable source of answers. If she blows you off, I'm sorry, but time heals all wounds. But if you don't ask her, you'll never know and be nagged by I-wish-I-wouldas.

You could well have a very high opinion of yourself and she isn't suffering as much as you think. You've broken her heart and you know the reason. Still, it appears you are actually titilated by her reaction and high on ego to think you made someone you thought you loved hurt. Be a man and either smarten up and try getting back together with her, or grab reality and leave the poor girl alone. THE HEAD OF THE SNAKE ALWAYS TURNS AROUND AND BITES YOU ON THE BUTT! This means that what you dish out to others (in a bad way) you will get back! Think about that one!

It's a showing-off thing. They want to show you that they have lots of friends so that you think they are popular and lots of ex's so that you feel lucky that you have them and the other girls don't (anymore). He wants you to think that he is in high demand. That way you won't let him go. I'm not saying that it is a good thing to do or that it works, but theres the reason they do it. -DJ Craig

Since your girlfriend is pregnant, the focus of your relationship can no longer be the two of you. Is your current realtionship one that will be healthy for a child? The best predictor of the future is the past...take a look at what she is accusing you of. Try to see it from her side, then add the hormone factor of her being pregnant. Pregnancy can be a wonderful thing, but it can also change the way a person reacts. Did you take breaks before she was pregnant? If not, stand by her and do not give up. If so, you two need to discuss what you can do to make a peaceful place in this world for your child.