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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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How you can make yore ex girlfriend feel sorry for leaving you?
Fake like your going out with another girl then your ex would want you back.
Why do you have to tell that you have to tell your ex boyfriend that you felly him?
Your question makes no sense ! try re-submitting it but THINK about what you want to say before-hand
did you cry a lot when he broke up with you the first time? did you keep asking him
why? he still wants to leave you but he feels trapped and guilt-ridden. honestly it would be better for both of you if you let him go. don't be a jerk about it, don't try to hurt him. you've got to be the bigger person here or you'll have to go through being dumped by him again when he gets the courage or finds the motivation to bail. we (as guys) find it easier to stay in our old routines and make the best of it rather than face confrontation and difficult questions (like 'why?' no one wants to get into that. if it's more your fault he's trying to spare your feelings, if it's more his fault he's trying to keep his conscience clear.) until we can't hide how we really feel or we just stop caring. you'd be much better just ending it on your own terms. that way you can keep your dignity and you both get out of an inevitably doomed relationship.
unless he cheated on you (or lied, or stole from you, or treated you like crap, or like you weren't there), then you shouldn't even be considering taking him back. i hope this helps in some way.
okay firstly don't meet people u fall in love with on the internet(i should know) coz u don't know where they live for all u know they could be in America or japan.(btw go on a chat room not runescape). what u should do is say sorry don't ask ' what did i do?' coz she'll walk off of log off. just say watever and try and add her as a friend. just sulk or be in a bad mood. girls don't like that so she'll have 2 talk and say wat u did wrong
Your heart has no peace in your new marriage?
I have always been a bit of a player during my 12 year marriage. I had a problem of always wanting to feel wanted and needed and to know that I could still pull. Also the excitement of a first date and the first kiss which very rarely led to sex was an addiction to me. To get eye contact in a supermarket or to get a smile from a girl walking by. All true and all wrong when I look back on it.
Two years ago I felt I needed out of my marriage due to me just wanting to be free and be the open player I always wanted to be... no more telling lies or making excuses but just having my own apartment and living it up! So I left my wife. When I called up an estate agent a lady came to show me the apartment I was interested in... knowing me... I tried my luck and one thing led to another and one year down the line I'm now married to her. At first the sex was amazing. I felt I was liberated and I honestly didn't mess about one bit because I had all I needed at home! We made love 3 to 5 times every day for about 6 months before getting married...now we're married it's only 1 or 2 times a day, but the quality is getting better and better still!
So what's my problem? It's this... I have a 7 year old boy and a 9 year old girl with my ex-wife. With my new wife she has a 6 year old boy, a 12 year old daughter and a 14 year old son.
A few things have happened here:
#1) I feel I have betrayed my children by having more kids and thus depriving them time from me simply by having these new kids around. If I were single and living alone it would be easier for all of us to deal with. I realize this might simply be in my head but this is how I feel.
#2) I feel guilt and regret to the point where every week I think of ways of leaving my current wife so I can be single and at home and ready for when my first ex-wife is ready to come live with me. I know she still wants me and this just hurts me inside. I feel I want to make amends and put things right.
#3) I was wrong in so many ways to have left my first wife but I am still shocked how she never really fought for me and just let me go.
#4) I'm very confused. My heart is not in my current relationship because I really don't think I am in love with her... our relationship was physical from the start but she went into a psychotic obsessive relationship mode with me after a few months. I tried to leave her about 8 times over nearly 2 years and each time I can't get rid of her. Right now I feel I need to just end my relationship and never have another relationship again as all it does is cause pain. Single life for me then I guess.
An non professional answer:
First, you got one thing right. You've owned up to the various ways you went wrong.
Two, starting at the end of your story, your solution is the same solution that you've tried in the past, JUMP SHIP! Recognizing a problem and escaping is not going to end the cycle. Until you put your 'big boy' pants on and actually deal with some of your issues, you will do repeat the same routine over and over. And yes, the children (all of them) are the ones who pay the price. When you marry someone with children, you are making a obligation to them also.
A marriage is a partnership, commitments were made. When you have a problem in a marriage, the first one you need to work with is your spouse. Right now, that is your current wife (phrases like psycho and get rid of are not the words of an adult in an adult relationship). Whatever you do in relation to this marriage, you should do it WITH the partner in the marriage. That doesn't mean just telling your wife how you feel and that's that. Communication is explaining to your wife that you are not happy, how you feel, how does she feel about you and the marriage, and actually discussing (not telling each other) what would be best for both of you.
The only problem for the children is your own guilt and lack of maturity. They're innocent, they didn't make the mistakes. But when you married their mothers you created a 'family', whether blood or not. And families deserve to be respected and treated accordingly. With a little maturity and commitment to their needs instead of your own, all five children can be a family, IF they can depend on all of their parents. How all of these children feel about themselves and each other will be how their parents behave toward them. And I warn you, their learning years are short, so stop wasting their time with your issues.
Whatever role that your first wife plays in your future must be derived from how you and your current wife handle your own situation. You can't 'fix' one problem by creating a new one.
There is one other warning that may play a big part in your previous behavior; that is, you may be your sabatoging relationships as a form of self-destructiveness. This is something that you should consider seriously. I also recommend that you find some type of professional to help, not only to untangle the problems that you've created, but to learn how to prevent such mistakes going forward.
What are the usual excuses guys make to girls to break up?
- I have too much stuff going on right now, I'm just not ready for this commitment
- The relation fells like a "marriage" in the sense it has become no fun
- It's not you, it's me
- my parents said no relationships
- I'm too mature for you
- I never see you
Your boyfriend just cut you off all of sudden how do you get him back?
Your man just deaded you for NO reason at all and you want to get back with him ... i see something wrong here ... If someone that i was going out with just dropped me like i never existed i tell you one thing the first question i would ask is if someone was free on Saturday NOT how can i get back with them ... whats to say that he wont do the same thing again ... And then what your going to do run back to him again ... There a word for people that do the same thing over and over and expect a different out come that word is INSANE ...
You don't need someone in your life that can just forget about you just like that ... I'm sure that you can do betterthen him ... He has NO respect for you ... He's NOTeven a man a man does not abandon his better half with no reasoning at all ... Give it time time healsall things ... with in that time get your self right get back on track with your life ...
If the girl has sex at the age of 10 to12 breaking her hymen can it be developed again?
- No, once the hymen is broken in a 10 or 12 year old girl is will remain broken.
How do you break up with a fragile girlfriend that you have been with for a long time?
It will be hard for both of you when you break up, due to all of the private information you have shared with eachother. Make sure the reason that you are breaking up is not selfish, and tell her that you loved being part of her life, but feel that it will be best for both of us if we just try being friends. (If you have a good reason). Be gentel and try to think about how she is feeling.
What word would use if someone has put you in a bad position?
- The person a 'manipulated' up into the bad position whether they realized or not. Take control of situation and resolve it with this person and put the ball in their park by confronting this person and letting them resolve the issue they have caused.
What should you do if your ex still loves you but you're afraid he'll breaks your heart again?
i would tell him to get away from me because you did not love me and i did not love you or we would have never broke up my ex just tryed to get in my pants he said for me suck his u know wat and i did because i thought that i love him but then i learned the true meaning of love and that is if you truly love someone then u will never fight or brake up and if u do then it was just not meant to be hope i helped :-) bi loveya 143
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How do you arrange a meeting to break up with someone?
- You could phone the person and ask them to meet you in a public coffee shop (perhaps sit outside to have a little privacy) or, you could go for a walk somewhere more private, but where there are a few people around.
She was angry and felt he was attracted to you while he and her were dating. Even if you're not dating her ex, she probably feels (right or wrong) that you were encouraging his feelings. Only you know whether that's true or not.
The only thing you can do is be honest with your friend about what happened between her ex and you and accept whatever decision she makes, even if it means your friendship cools for a time.
If you're now dating your friend's ex, how can you be surprised that she's mad at you?
By dating him, it appears as though you have chosen him over your friendship with her. Feelings don't end when a relationship does; by choosing to date him, you've damaged if not irrevocably altered your friendship. If she were the one to date your ex, you'd be just as hurt and upset about her decision as she is yours. Accept the consequences of the choice you made.
men are very... complex, to say the least.. they don't want to lose what they once had, even if a better package is right in front of them... they also like to keep the option of having that past relationship open because they can just go back to the way things were and not have to worry about the whole "beginning stuff" of a relationship... they want to have a sense of openness, even if the ex is not good for them..
Im still fighting that battle but as time goes on i see its because they think of us as a safety and to be there if nothing else works. babe please believe me it hurts but whenver he yells or fusses or throw in your face that he isn't your boyfriend pull away slowly of your like me you still call or text and if he wonts t be your friend still he does the same. so play non chalant only have sex when you wont if your active and see how he acts. if he continues to wont both sides then don't answer and never call. it helps alot!!
What do you do if your boyfriend is mad at you because you wouldn't tell him a secret?
He'll get over it.
just by the fact that you are asking that is your answer. you wont know until you do it. it appears to me that you are aching to know what is it that you are missing, but are too afraid to give it a shot. know that whatever decision you make will have a consequence. if you stay in the relationship, those lingering thoughts of what is out there might linger for many more years to come and in the end you will make the same decision. on the other hand, if you decide to leave and find out later, after you play the field, that it was him you wanted after all and it might be too late. bottom line, it is never an easy decision to make. however, you might want to discuss openly the whole issue out with your significant other and you might find out that both can find other alternatives together.
She obviously likes you a lot. I dont think you caused the end of the relationship. I think, by the sound of what happened, that an alterior reason caused her to break up with her. Girls don't normally break up with some one on the same day that they admit their love for him. Maybe her parents didn't approve. Maybe she fell for some one else. I don't think you did anything wrong. Sit her down and have a talk with her. Ask why, exactly, did she break up with you. get the reason out in the open and then talk about it and see if their are any ways around it. Good luck, you are going to need it.
* Men don't like possessive women and it's a sign of immaturity and insecurity and your ex boyfriend could see that. If you were getting engaged then you must have trusted him at one time, but, you are not mature enough to marry him because you obviously don't trust him and feel his sole attention should be on you. Marriage is a serious union of two people and it takes a lot of work by both parties involved. With the way he works he will be gone long periods of time so your relationship with him will have to be based on trust and you will have to fill in the void of his being away for stretches of time. He doesn't want to have to put up with your immature antics while he's trying to concentrate on work. When he is back in town (and only if you mean it) phone and meet with him and talk over your relationship. Either you are going to mature and have independence of your own and trust him or, let him go!
No most women don't. Some have the guts to tell their boyfriend that it's just not working out and they break off the relationship. Other women may not mean too, but they are missing something in their relationship (usually attention and being told they are loved) and seek it out in another man or men, while some women just can't get enough of men and have several men on the string. Men can be much the same.
