Cheating

• Humans are not perfect and they can make mistakes and in the case of your affair which did end you hopefully learned from your mistake. Unfortunately, when you chose to have an affair you were irresponsible; hurt your wife and you were not honest enough to tell her about it yourself and she had to find out the hard way. You broke that bond of trust that comes with loving someone. Hopefully, good communication skills between you and your wife and perhaps marriage counseling will let you earn her trust back (which may takes months or even a year or more) and then the trust is earned back. Just be patient with your wife. Spend time on the weekends with her and if possible, take her out for dinner (does not have to be at an expensive restaurant) buy her flowers once a month (even one single rose with a bow on it) and to get her mind off the hurt (and if you can afford it) plan a romantic vacation somewhere even if it is just a few hundred miles from home. Bed/Breakfast places by the ocean; lake or just looking at mountains can be a romantic place to mend fences.

People can react differently when they are confronted about cheating on their spouse. Some get defensive, some confirm the adultery, the reaction can vary...

You dont......... Plain and simple.. Move on really, if he left you for someone else then you are better then him and he wasnt fully into the relationship.. You dont need to do anything to get back at someone.. Just know that you are the better person here and move on........

Bravery is doing what needs to be done, despite fear.

Jumping into shark-infested waters to rescue a child is not bravery unless you know about the sharks. There needs to be known risks, willingly assumed, to benefit someone in danger who is unable to rescue himself unaided. Bravery means doing something that you may not like to do. You can do anything you put your mind too. Bravery means doing something that you may not like to do. You can do anything you put your mind too.

As we used to say in the 60's: you can look, but don't touch. If he is just ogling women, he could reduce the behavior, but may never make it all the way. However, if he is flirting and taking other women out (and so on), then you need a new deal. He has to clean up his act, or you need to examine whether your life would be better without him in the picture. Excuses and promises are not acceptable: look for the actions. There ARE good men out there who know when they have a good one.

If you are in a relationship, yes. If he's the only one in a relationship, you are either hoping he ends it to be with you or wanting a reciprocation of your feelings. You wouldn't have been honest with him unless you were hoping he would want to pursue an emotional and possibly sexual relationship with you.

• After a husband cheats and comes home to his wife, he has broken that serious bond of trust and will have to earn it back which will take months to possibly a year or more. The relationship between the husband and wife will not be the same as she will always be reminded of his cheating and wondering if he still is cheating. Time is the factor to gain the trust back and treating the wife with respect and with love. If the husband cannot display this affection he would be doing her a favor of leaving her.

Men that cheat on their wives or girlfriends are often bored, don't like their significant other, or simply got drunk. It is not always their fault, but if you ever are in such a situation the proper thing to do is to not lie about it and be open. If it gets you dumped, so be it.

YOU CAN SMELL HIM FOR ODORS THAT ARE UNUSUAL.

WHY DO YOU THINK THIS? HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN THINKING OF THIS?

YOU CAN ASK HIM OR HIRE PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR FOR A FEE.

Answer2: The best thing you can do is sit down in a calm, dignified and non confrontational manner with your mate and tell him/her why you feel there is a third person in your relationship. Talk about your feelings and get everything out in the open and ask, are you having an affair. Wish you the best.

I guess I did this wrong... I have been dating someone for 2 years. He lost his wife about 3 years ago, they have 2 younger children. I have never been in a relationship where someone has spoken to me the way he does. He is constantly putting blame on me for his out bursts. His own children think he is psychotic and agree that he snaps out of no where and is just down right nasty. His issues have nothing at all to do with losing his wife. How do you stop the verbal abuse? I love this man, want a future with him but NOT under the circumstances. He is on his best behavior a wonderful, generous man. Will this ever stop? How do you get them to see that they have anger issues and are being verbally abusive, when I draw it to his attention and ask if he would like some man to speak to his 15 year old daughter the way he speaks to me...he says NO, and that I dont deserve to be spoken to that way. My family loves him, so do my children but I am certain that this is not "normal"

yes

well that's entirely up to the individual, in my personal opinion he should not stay in a loveless marriage but it depends on the consequences... if there are children involved or financial implications or maybe the thought of being alone keeps him in a marriage.

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Gosh I hope its not happening to you right now. But from my own experience you can tell if your husband or spouse is having an affair. Pay attention to his body language and then watch him when his home or the way his been acting. If he have a cell phone watch how he use it.

a- your spouse will keep his cell phone away from you. The statement will be

kept so you wouldn't see the calls that he made or the in coming call.

b - if your spouse never dress up when he goes to work and all of a sudden

he start making himself look good

c - your spouse will take a shower twice a day one in the morning and

when he gets home at night.

d - your spouse will smell different when he comes home. He will smell fresh

with the smell of different soap which is not what you are using.

e- he will have this different look in his eyes like he just won a price.

f - he will make a lot of excuse about working late or working early.

This are some of the sign which happened to me so I think it will be the same to most wife. But I hope he is not because the pain of betrayal will never go away.

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Unfortunately, I have had some personal experiences with this sort of things... See below for a couple of things to look for: 1. He/She may begin to be suddenly into things/activities that he/she hasn't been into like salsa dancing, movies, exotic foods/restaurants, etc. 2. He/She may start having more time periods that are not accounted for. Also, what goes with this is he/she may stop answering calls to their mobiles phones. Working late or having to attend some family/friend/semi-work functions or activities may increase as well. My advice is to stay calm, as hard as it is. Don't do anything to make the situation worse. It is human nature for them to run the other way if you try to hold them down or bring them closer emotionally. Your raising hell or generally providing other unpleasant experiences with him/her will usually make the situation worse. Realize the fact that there are many good people out there, and act as if you are really gonna be fine (you must believe this deep inside) without them. If you act like you can't exist without them, they will respect you less and reduce the chances of getting them back. As hard as it is, you have to have a balanced and objective view of what you bring to the table; you must love and respect yourself. Your mileage may vary, but usually there are some good reasons why your partner started looking or got involved with someone else. Have an honest accessment of your relationship and do your best to meet his/her emotional needs. Initially, depending on the situation, you might have to be very tactful and patient, and you may need to pull back on meeting their emotional needs to make them realize that you and what you do for him/her should not be taken for granted. Yes, this contradicts what I said in the previous paragraph, but getting back your spounce is an art and will take a lot of courage, self-restraint, love, and tact.

• No, once a spouse has cheated they have broken that bond of trust even though humans are not perfect and can make one mistake by cheating on their spouse. The spouse that was cheated on will always have that hurt tucked away in the back of their minds and be very wary of their spouse cheating again. However, many times a spouse may cheat; that bond of trust broken, but if it was just a one time issue then the married couple can still have a good strong marriage if they work on their communication skills and are honest with each other regarding their feelings.

yes. Any thing that you wouldn't do in front of your spouse, to me is considered cheating.How would you feel if the tables were turned?

if the boy broke up wiff her; she wants to be friends or more than friends.

if she broke up wiff him; she wants to be friend, get backk, or make another boy jealous.

Not all married men do, for those who never had affairs, those men have a soul and they will never gamble their life just to have affairs with other woman. But for those who do or did, they will tell you that they have their own reason, they were push to do it, or the most popular reason most married men say is " my wife stop giving my needs." Either way it will come out to be some lame excuse just to feel excited.

If you have a gut feeling something is going on, just keep your eyes open . Ssometimes the cheater loves to talk about the other even to their spouse. Signs can be coming home late, car seat in different place, he likes to argue over nothing, seems distant to you. These can all be signs that he would rather be at work with her. Is he in a hurry to go to work and have you noticed he makes sure he looks extra nice. This may sound silly but smell him when he comes home; he may have she smell on him.

Its understandable that you suspect your partner may be cheating on you but you can not wrongfully accuse them without proof. That could Jeopardize your relationship if something isn't going on. Like the other answer look for signs, does he act differently when he comes home than before? Does he seem less happy to interact with you? Is he hurrying to go to work? If all these signs are answered with: Yes, then there MAY be a problem. Talk to him. Start with: "Hows work? Anything new happening?" Then without giving yourself away start saying how special he is to you. How he is the only one you have ever loved etc. If he doesn't respond, responds less enthusiastically, then you may want to go to work with him one day, bring him lunch or something. Have a look whats going on and ask some people from his work.

Answer2: You don't state the reasons for your suspicions, but for your own peace of mind there are things you can do. Approach the matter with your mate in a very calm, dignified non confrontational manner. Be open, honest, upfront and talk about your suspicions and ask. Let your spouse know that you are not necessarily suspicious, but explain why you feel uneasy and suspect an affair. Talk it out and if your mate does or does not confess, you have options to stay or leave. (see 3/1/05 Watchtower article, Marriage Can Succeed in Today's World on Jehovah's Witnesses official website)