Dating

== == * To tell your guy friend you love them is an extremely difficult process, and usually needs to depend on the right time and place for the answer. So many people feel awkward or uncomfortable after they say this, but I have found if you go along with the right moment and play up to his mood (for instance, he's having an awful day be the consoling friend and ask him how you can help) it can really be a good thing. However, if your friendship is not up to the stress of another level, it may collapse under so much pressure. Be careful and be prepared for any repercussions. If your friendship is really deep, though, he will probably feel the same way.

* Tell him what effects he has on you, how you wish things would be with him (like "I'd like to wake up beside you every day", "I wish you'd want kids with me" )... [Comment: Take it slow and easy. Saying you would like to wake up beside them or having kids would make most guys terrified and run for the hills. Too much information all at one time. Be honest and tell the person you would like to try to take the relationship to the next level. If they ask what you mean by that say, 'Lets go out on a real date and see where it leads. I care about you and we get along so well.' Nature will take care of the rest. ]

A: I agree. Didn't mean to imply she should hit him with sth. like "I want to have kids with you" out of the blue, though this, too, might be the right approach, depending on her and his character. Important question is WHY does she want to avoid saying "I love you"? Is it too trite? A meaningless phrase to him/her? Would he misunderstand it? Does it simply go against her nature to talk about feelings? Is she just too timid to say it right out? In all these cases my advice is good though the two examples given were ..erm.. rather drastic, but they do clearly state that she loves him without her saying "I love you". Here are some less drastic and more obscure key sentences:

"I like having you around."

"Your absence impairs my ability to concentrate." "I feel safe in your arms."

"I'd like us to spend more time together. I'm not saying that I want to have sex with you (though I wouldn't mind), but I do want to spend more time with you."

* I am in the exact same dilemma. The odds of the person I love being you are probably about 1/5 million (I have no idea what the odds are) though so I'll go ahead and tell you what I am going to try and do. My story is a little more complicated, but I won't get into that right now. We're both single though. I have no idea if she feels the same way about me or not. We tell each other I love you all the time, but we always have. Just like you would tell any of your good friends. Now, however, I am absolutely in love with her. We don't live near each other any more, but the next time I see her...I'm going to tell her and pray that if she doesn't feel the same that at least our relationship doesn't fade. I know the feeling you are experiencing right now. == == * Show him in your actions. Not kissing or anything but how you treat him. Show him that you would do anything for him. Tell him how much he means to you. I love all my friends and I tell each and everyone of them that, but I tell them love and I save love for my boyfriend. Maybe that would be a good hint too? My best idea is showing him how I feel about him. That's how I do it... don't get to pushy and all over him... but show him by your actions. == == * What is so wrong about telling someone you love them? If you feel it say it. Don't throw yourself at the guy, but you will know when the time is right to tell him. If you can't tell someone you love them without fear in your heart then you never really did love them or the person isn't right for you. We never know when we will last see a lover, friend or family member so it's great to say every so often "You know, I really love you!" == == * If you really love that person, you shouldn't be embarrassed to show it. If you are embarrassed, maybe it's not true love. If you do tell that person: "I love you", make sure you say it looking deep into his eyes. If you say it on a messenger or on the phone or something, it's not that valuable. Don't be afraid to hide your feelings! == == * Sometimes it's difficult to say the L word....people are embarrassed and afraid of what the other might say. One thing I found that helped me was I eased into it. You can start off by saying you adore him, most people are afraid because they aren't sure what reaction they're going to get. This way tests the waters. And later when you're comfortable with it you can say you love him. You can always incorporate it as a little joke or make the way you say it seem amusing...it doesn't have to be a enormously serious event or at the perfect moment as this takes the pressure off both of you == == * Don't bother. Just say it! Honesty is a wonderful thing in a relationship. == == * I know it can be very hard sometimes to say 'I love you.' Sometimes you think that what if he takes it the wrong way or what if he never loved you; in short form you think that he may say NO and that's OK because you told him then if he doesn't love you he's the one losing something not you and its not your fault that you loved him. The heart doesn't know who the person is or if he will say yes or no it just falls in love, but don't worry, stay strong and keep believing in love because the second meaning of love is sacrifice. If you love them sometimes you have to let them go. That's life!!! == == * I think if you love the guy that you should tell that person that is all I have to say. == == * I know that if you love someone you just tell them but what if he's your really good friend and you are scared that after you tell him you might lose him because maybe he never loved you and now he will fell uncomfortable talking to you because you gave the relationship a new name and he doesn't like it and you're just going to lose both your friendship and your love and I've been heartbroken so many times so can't afford to sacrifice anything else!!! == == * Try also to see if he likes you back before telling him the L word before that just let insinuate (hint) around him to see how he feels about you and just appreciate him for the time being. == == * What type of love are you talking about? Friends love or more than friends. You can say you like him if it's more, but either way go for it and just say it. He will be flattered. == == * When you are alone with the person and having one of your intimate conversations simply tell you're friend you are very "fond" of them. This can mean either love or just a great friendship. He/she may ask what you mean by "fond" and that's when you could tell them you think you love them. If we all fear rejection (and we will experience it off and on in our lives) and don't take some risks then we could miss out on a lot. If I loved someone I would tell them so and take my chances. = = * Say, you're very nice, nicer then most people I've ever met. Hint it, that might work.......but yes, as said somewhere above, honesty is the best. * I loved my guy best friend. but I just told him I liked him. It's better to just tell them you like them first.

Women want to hear those three magic words: I HAVE MONEY!

Tell her that you're thinking of something special for you two to do, or that you've had a lot on your mind about the future and your personal goals. Let her know that you simply find yourself going into deep thought lately about the future. Here's the deal. Women have respect for a man who is a thinker. Especially when it's about the future and when he actually has a game plan. But you must be prepared to talk about your plan and it better not be a hesitated answer. I never said it would be easy...i'm 32 and I still don't understand women (LOL). Answer I would prefer the truth even if it's not what I like to hear. It's better knowing the truth than finding out a lie. A lie always comes out finally...

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Many men seem to have a problem expressing themselves. Never lie to her! If it's something about her you don't like just discuss it with her in a kind manner. By the way, our inner self is the only thing (besides our homes) that we can just be with ourselves, so I don't believe it's necessary to always explain what you are thinking. If you don't want to talk about it at the moment simply say, "Just day-dreaming!"

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Sometimes, I'm really not thinking anything. Answer What do you say when she asks you what you are thinking? The Truth! If you are thinking about how much you would like to defecate but you're embarrassed to stink up her bathroom...Tell her just that. Then you will both laugh your bottoms off. Be honest...its always the easy way out or IN.

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Simply tell what you are really thinking of!!

It means he has someone else in mind he's hoping to see over the weekend or to hang with or meet up with other than you. You're right. He does have issues, like "honesty" for one.

He may just need a break from the 'togetherness.' Everyone needs time alone once in a while, and some people need and value some solitude more than others.

Do you spend all of your free time together? Do you both have plenty of space and time to do things apart from each other? If not, then your relationship is not all what it should be.

But it doesn't mean he's cheating on you.

I don't know why so many people feel the need to stir up sh*t by telling people the only possible motive for any kind of unusual behavior is cheating. It's irresponsible and just plain malicious.

But why are you asking us what it means? Why don't you just ask him? Without making it sound like you are worried or suspicious, of course. Clinginess and unfounded jealousy are very unnattractive, not to mention annoying.

He probably wants you to discover more about yourself because he's not feeling you. Maybe you're not being yourself and he feels bored around you. Try to be more mysterious but talk, have fun, and laugh at the same time. Let him find out some stuff but while he do, have all the fun. Another thing is maybe he's wanting a little break. Needs to take a deep breath and live in fresh air for a moment. Give him space to explore the world too. Dont just stick together.

I would call because it's within the bounds they gave you - plus, it shows interest.

It is appropriate to call after one or two days. I agree with the above post that it shows that you are interested and that you are willing to put in extra effort to get the job.

The last job I got, I waited two days after a great interview and then called the employer... to my surprise, he said that he had been waiting for me to take the initiative to call.

Bottom line, employers want to hire someone who wants the job. You don't have to call every day and harrass the person, but it can't hurt to let them know that you are serious about the position.

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"How do you know if it is love or lust?"

1) He will make you feel really special.

[Comment: Nope. He may be doing this just to get in your pants (or panties). ]

2) He will go out of his way to talk to you.

[Comment: Nope. See above comment.]

3) He will be romantic.

[Comment: Nope. See above comment.]

4) If you walk into a room, he will not notice anyone else but you.

[Comment: Nope. See above comment.]

5) He will think of you everytime he listens to a certain love song.

[Comment: Great hint if you're a mind-reader...]

6) He will say really nice things to you.

[Comment: Nope. See first comment.]

7) He may seem a little shy when around you.

[Comment: Nope. See first comment.]

8) He will start hanging out with your friends.

[Comment: Nope. See first comment.]

9) He will take things slow and not move too fast.

[Comment: Weeell, if you can be really sure he's not seeing someone else as well ...]

10) He will show you in more ways than one how much he loves you.

[Comment: Nope. See first comment.]

[Comment: Don't think so. I see only two ways to make sure: One: He's putting A LOT more effort into you than you'd be worth if it were just lust, meaning he could easily seduce girls sexier than you with far less effort. Or you could make such an effort a pre-condition, like "no pre-marital sex". He probably won't make such a commitment if it's just lust.

Two: Satisfy his lust (shouldn't be a problem if you like sex). If he stays and still gives you the feeling he likes you, then he really does. Which does NOT mean he always will. In fact, how he treats you while having sex should be a big hint already.]

You know a girl likes you when:

• She laughs a lot when you talk to her, even if you aren't being very funny.
• She makes excuses to touch you, even just for a short second, to have the physical connection.
• She messes with her hair if she catches you looking at her.
• Her friends laugh and shove her around or whisper in her ear and joke with her if when you walk by.
• She will either make direct eye contact with you or will look hurriedly away if you catch eye contact.
• She will also want to sit by you in your classes
• You catch her looking at you "wistfully."
• She turns her head to the side when she looks at you.
• She walks away in the playground when she sees you.
• She hides her face when she watches you play sport.
• She walks around you to find out what you like.
• She shows interest in whatever you talk about.
• She smiles at you, when you talk or while she talks.
• She laughs at your jokes - even if they're not so funny.
• She hugs you not only to say hello and goodbye.
• She is kinda mean but jokes around.
• She acts like you are the biggest idiot in the world.
• She will look at you a lot.
• She looks at you while you don't notice.
• She tries to always get next to you in line.
• She will always talk to you.
• As she wants to talk a lot about you and not give it away, she has code names. For example, if your name starts with "S" she would make a girl's name out of yours, like Shakif-Sandy/Sally, etc.
• She will quickly start conversation with their friends when she spots you (never stay silent) unless her friends are already talking, and then she will stay unnaturally silent, look around at random things, hoping you are looking at her.
• From a distance, she will try searching you out.
• She will want to, at one point, start a conversation with you.
• She will want to keep in touch online with you (so just give her your email address!).
• She will be super sweet to your mom or dad.
• If she is shy she will hide behind her friends.
• If she blushes around you a lot and she finds every excuse to talk to you, even asking for a pencil or something when it would be more convenient to ask someone else and she asks you anyways. If she likes you and you smile at her, she'll either smile back or else look away really fast. If she knows things about you that most people don't, like you schedule at school, she probably likes you.
• also she might ask you for help on things like homework or with sports (if she does ask say yes!)
• she will try to be around you as often as possible and will smile A LOT around you and not always know what to say when you are near

New Answer:

I believe that if your boyfriend loves you he will tell you he does.

He will not cheat on you or flirt with other girls.

He will treat you with respect, and he will be loyal to you.

I would say that if he loves you he wouldn't lie to you, which i kind of still think.

But i learned with my boyfriend that sometimes they lie to you so that they don't hurt you. My boyfriend would lie to me about smoking pot, and i only asked him not to because he had just got out of rehab, but he still did it like every day, and he would tell me he wasnt, and then one day he finally told me that he had been lyin to me for almost 9 months straight, but he said it was so he wouldn't hurt me,

I kind of believe that but at the same time i don't think it is okay to lie if you love someone, expecially not as much as he did.

This may not be right, and you may not agree with me, but this is how i feel a guy can mostly show you that he truly loves you.

Good luck ! :)

He will usually (not always) act a little different around you. Don't expect him to ever act the same twice. With guys, they just don't do that (Unless you've got a really one-of-a-kind guy.) Usually he'll go out of his way just to be around you, and he'll be nice, or he'll happen to be nearby a lot, and (pretend) picks on you. Now, I'm not one to talk, but just say something nice, or funny! It's really discouraging to a guy when he likes a girl and she doesn't start the conversations. He may think you don't even slightly like him if you don't. But don't think that means he will stop liking you. Guys are very persistent. He'll probably keep it up for a month or more. That doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't like other girls though. He may just want to be your friend. Try to be alone with him sometimes, and observe how he reacts. He will usually loosen up a lot, and may just come clean to you! (But girls, if he doesn't, either it means he didn't have the guts at the moment, or he isn't really into you, he has just been trying to get a normal friend all along!

A.) Flirts with you constantly.

B.) Looks at you a lot.

C.) Acts nervous around you when he's with friend.

D.) Seems to try to get attention from you, or talks to you a lot.

E.) You don't know unless you ask

F.) He touches and blushes about it.

Additional Advice:

• Maybe you hear him talk about you or see him state at you.
• Either he: A.) Flirts with you constantly! B.) Looks at you a lot. C.) Acts nervous around you when he's with friend. It's just a matter of time before he asks you if he can be your boyfriend.

  if you don't know what i mean by moments. Its when your and the boys eyes meet and stay there. kind of like you 2 are staring at each other but better cause if he doesn't look away he likes it.

1. if he got a new watch or braclete/band ask him: "hey nice watch/band can i see it" if he likes you he will show you his whole arm, if he doesn't like you he will take it off and show it too you
2. if you want the boy to like you ask him if he can open a water bottle or something you can also drop your pencil and ALWAYS praise him.
3. and if you don't believe me watch one of those old sappy movies
4. when the girl drops her hankerchief why do you think the boy picks it up???

• If he tries not to look at you It means He doesn't want you to see him looking at you because he knows that if you see him looking at him You'll know he likes you.
• 1. you don't know unless you ask 2.if you want to know if a boy likes you he will try to get close to you so he can talk to you or stare at you
• Sometimes you know when a guy likes you when he looks dead at you, or when he touches and blushes about it. Also a boy likes you when there is a connection between you and him and no one will end it.
• He angles toward you when you talk. Sometimes it's hard to tell. If his chest is facing you, then he probably likes you.
• His palms face up. When his palms face up he is excited to see you and feels open and confident around you.
• He touches your arm, hand, and/or waist. This is a big sign that he likes you and that he is ready to be in a relationship. If you are too, acknowledge it.
• He stops what he is doing to say hi to you and/or talk. It's a sign that he's crazy about you when he stops what he is doing to see how you're doing.
• He cracks more jokes around you. If a boy likes you, he might crack a few more jokes or be a little more obnoxious to get your attention.
• He looks into your eyes. When he looks into your eyes, he definitely likes you. If he doesn't, don't worry. He may just be shy. You might have to make the first move.
• He might talk about other couples. If a boy talks about other couples or asks who is going out with who, he is obviously giving you some hints.
• You just know. You put one and one together and it becomes obvious. He tells you verbally or by his actions that he does. Just ask if you can't take the mystery.
• You can tell he likes you if he talks to you a lot, flirts with you often, and/or always looks at you. You can tell he likes you if he likes to hang out with you or when his face lights up when you enter the room.
• You can also tell if he likes you if he DOESN'T look at/talk to you. Trust me on this. He may take the mick out of you. He either likes you or hates you. It's an untrustworthy one.
• you can tell when a boy likes you when he makes fun of you cause he is trying to hide the fact that he loves you and when he likes to talk to you and he asks you a lot of stuff cause he is trying to find out more about you to see what is the same about you and him.Also you can tell he likes you when looks at you and won't stop even at times when he is not supposed to.

HINTS HE LIKES YOU....

• Hint:1 if he says your name for no reason
• Hint:2 if he stares at you without blinking for 4 seconds
• Hint:3 Being your friend
• Hint:4 Showing off (maybe at football, art, anything that girls admires really)
• Hint:5 Occasionally stares at you, if you start staring back he normally looks away quickly.
• Hint:5 Stands up for you once in a while (for example, if you are being called a geek, he might say that so is he even though he isn't!)
• Hint:6 Maybe teases you (this depends on how old the boy is - 4 - 11 year olds tend to tease the girl however, 12 - 18 year olds tend to either tell you straight away or just ignore you)
• Hint:7 Doesn't mind working with you, like if you are paired up for a science experiment he won't go "But i wanted to be with my friend" but normally just keeps quiet.
• Hint:8 Occasionally smiles, if you catch him smiling he will stop so to break the tension, smile back
• Hint:9 SOMETIMES is silly, this depends on the kind of boy, if he is your everyday sweetie then he will be silly normally. But boys who tend to be sensible in class depends for example i have had a totally sensible boy who was being silly round me.

• If someone calls you a geek say hold up it takes a geek to know a geek!

• If you really want to know if he likes you, pretend you are really excited about something then run up and give him a big hug. Watch his reaction carefully, if he doesn't hug you or pushes you away, then he doesn't like UNLESS his face is red, he may just be too stunned to do anything. If he hugs you back he may just be polite and hug you in a friendly way. But if he likes you and hugs you back he will do it affectionately and you will know. But make sure you have your story straight about why you are excited in case he doesn't like you. But if he does then he won't really care why you hugged him he will just be happy you did.

• Of course, all these depend. Just ask him, and tell him it's not a dare if you have a reputation of that kind of thing!

• YES! he loves you, but is too shy to say so. but I say GO FOR IT! you'll never know if you don't try. as Wayne Gretsky says: " You'll miss 100% of the shots you never take ­"

• Every boy is different. Act like yourself around him. You definitely don't want him to like the person you're trying to be to impress him! And definitely don't go to a movie with him and bring your gorgeous blond best friend.

• Go on Youtube and type in " 5 ways to show that a guy likes you" there's a guy that actually explains what is interested ,how it happens and stuff like that.
• if a boy interrupts in other converations with other boys does that mean he is jealous?

Marcy

Hmmmm, most Asian men are probably pretty shy about talking to girls, but that just means that they aren't playas and good at the game like sweet talking guys of other races that tell you fantastic crap to get into your panties and leave once they do. Ken

I think, is is not an essential nature of Asian guys to be shy. Maybe the symbolic meanings in relationship with other ethnic girls makes them uneasy. Actually, the idea behind romantic love is a framework referring to the role-model of brother and sister. It do not work with different ethnicities. So you can be sure, that the meaning you are investing in interracial relationship can not be regarded as the natural thing. I am the opinion that make the people feel uncomfortable, because they know that they are under the gaze of the invisible majority. Certainly, everyone will understand, that the behaviour is more clumsy, if there are unknown curious eyes out there.

Another aspect is that the Asian did not create an energetic street culture like other ethnicities, street culture are very body-centered, it teach you to love the gaze of other people. Actually, Asian adapt the habits of the middle-class and surround their efforts on written culture.

If you have a fear of public speaking, you will probably be shy to talk to strangers, especially of the opposite sex. You don't have to be Asian to be shy.

OMG!!! okay, here's something coming from an ASIAN GUY!! this might take a while so pop a squat and start reading. ok, now has ne one, NE ONE seen commercials on tv lately? wut do u see when an azn guy is on? a kung fu master or nerdy guy? EH wrong! trick question, the answer is both! that's our stereotype! but azn women are cute and porno stars! we azn men also have the stereo type of small penises! can u live that down? NO! and then wut? if we have the guts to date a girl, wut kind? an azn girl? EH wrong, "how stereotypical!". A white girl? EH "My friends r making fun of me, so i think were gonna have to break up". A black girl? HAHA i dare u to try! And if you notice, were the butt of all jokes. i mean here's an example: "TIGER WOODS!!" "hey is that a black joke? your racist!" "sorry" "let's make fun of the azn guy" "HAHAHAH" and then they come up with BILLIONS of azn jokes. but anyways, yes it's hard, even if u do have the guts. so if ur a girl hu likes an azn guy, don't count on them asking u out, do it urself. cuz i damn well know it's hard for me! I've never asked ANYONE out before! and my competition? big white guys? big black guys? wut's so great about azns ne way? wut's make u say yes? "oh his squinty eyes, and his shortness". so yah, and yes I'm older than 13 so - oh and go ahead and make jokes, it'll just prove my point even more. oh and if u read the whole thing, bravo

Ha I know from personal experience that is so the case. Well, it's not the all Asian guys are 'shy' it's just most of them come from a 'very' conservative background. I should know since I'm Asian-filipino to be exact. Most Asian parents generally discourage both Asian guy && girls from dating throughout highschool because they want us to focus on our grades. And trust me, they nag you like hell. So that's half the reason why Asian guys are don't date period. The reason they're so shy? Again, it's their culture. Asian parents bring up their sons to be formal and to treat a girl with respect. And let's face it, in our generation, not many girls want respect anymore. They want a guy that has alot of self cofidence and a big ego. Girls like guys that take control and you have to admit, freaky. Where as Asian guys would mostly let the girl make all the moves because they're afraid they will do something wrong. Well just opinion of it. Plus, I've seen alot of Asian dramas:taiwanese/Japanese/Korean and even the 'tough' guys are shy when trying to kiss the girl.

Totally agree with everyone here... Asians are witty when talking to girls online or over the phone, but can't put two words together when confronted with a girl they like.

Considering I am a Mexican/German girl who only dates Asian guys, I should highly disagree. All of my boyfriends have been openly able to talk to me, ask me to go places with them etc etc. I'm actually more of the shy one. I mean sure there will always be some people in the world, no matter the race, who will be so shy they don't want to talk to the person they like. I myself am an example of that. I can tell you from personal experience though, the shy Asian guys always are some of the cutest. I won't start ranting about them though, because I could go on for ages. xD

But some advice to you Asian guys out there, take it a step by step. :]

Get to know the person you like, be a good friend to them but don't get so close you're afraid to discuss anything about romance with them. Trust your gut feeling even if it doesn't work out. Take my boyfriend for example, since I won't say his first name I'll call him J Dinh. He's 3/4 viet and 1/4 Chinese and he told me he felt that I would never say yes to dating him because he thought that Mexican girls didn't like asians. Boy was he relieved when I told him I only date asians! But to the point everyone gets shy at one point, it's part of life! So get out there and have some fun.

Well, as an Asian all i have to do is agree with pia. Like her i am filipino, and i guess I'm shy but she has all the points. Parents worry about their kids education so i guess we aren't very 'sociable' but doesn't mean i don't have friends.

Its not just asian guys. I mean everybody can be shy. Especially in front of the one they are crushing on. I am an asian guy and used to be shy because i figured hey no one likes asians then i figured out its not about that its about being able to treat the girl right and show them that they are special and the only one for you. I just got out of an amazing relationship because the girl thought i cheated on her when all her friends and my friends told her i would never cheat. Then a girl tells her i did and she breaks up with me after telling me im adorable and super sweet. It just depends on the situation and the guy

Coming from a shy guy myself, I like it when a girl notices me. Even if i have a girlfriend atm, just being invited to hang out is awesome. Maybe try and get a friend who knows him a little to talk to him.. maybe let him know you wanted to invite him to the movies (just act like you didn't know he/she was going to tell him). But for me, no matter how it's done, I like being let know.. it makes me feel good. Just let him know =) good luck!

Answer to the 'what if...'

I have the same problem. I like a guy who's been in at least one of my classes since the tenth grade, but in the course of three years, we've probably only ever exchanged less than five sentences. I am a very shy girl, particularly around men. So I want to show him subtly (key word here!) that I like him. I usually give him little smiles every now and then, and because he sits directly across the room from me, I meet his eyes, but not too often. If you have mutual friends that you trust, ask them to drop little hints, but not be upfront about it, and maybe something will happen.