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Manners and Etiquette
The rules of social conduct, and procedures for interaction in polite society and official life. This is grease that makes the wheels of human congress turn smoothly. From the formal addressing of an envelope, to where to seat people at a dinner party, from the correct way to answer a business phone to the intricacies of wedding planning, we will try to find answers to all of your quandaries and do so in the most mannerly fashion possible.
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How do you offer to pay when invited?
This is a common occurrence: you would like to go out to do something fun and share it with a friend, but you cannot afford to treat the other person. There are two things to keep in mind at the start:
- You cannot do this with someone you are dating or want to date.
- You cannot ask the other person to pay for both of you.
If you are already at work, for instance, you can simply say, "I'm going to (name the place) for lunch. Would you care to go along?" Or something equally casual.
If you are going to call them on the phone, it's perfectly acceptable to say "I'm going to the (the movies or out to eat). Would you like to go with me? I'd love to treat you, but I can't just now. However, I will (buy my own ticket or pay for my meal)."
Just keep it light and fun, and don't dwell on the fact that you can't pick up the whole bill, this is what friends do. And just a tip: if you are ordering a meal and yours costs close to what your friend's cost, just offer to split the check and the tip. It's much nicer than spending time trying to figure out who pays what for each item. Either that, or when the waiter comes to take your order, say "Separate checks, please." Then you will get a bill for only what you ate.
When signing a greeting card whose first name should appear first mine or my husbands?
Traditionally the husband's name was always placed first.
Ex: Bob & Nancy Smith
However, this tradition has changed a lot (since around the mid 1970's).
It is now dependent on the sensibilities of the family you are sending the card to.
I have friends who put the wife's name first. On our home phone message my wife's name is first. But often at Banks and other "traditional institutions" they always ask for my name first.
So it's really your call. Today, anything goes, but if you want to stick to "Man is the head of the household" style values, place the man's name first.
They husband's name still goes first , as a sign of respect. We all know over 95 % of this social obligation falls to the wife anyway .
How much do you tip a pastor to perform a wedding?
If you are getting married at a church, the congregation may guidelines for how much should be given to a minister performing a wedding. Many times this ranges from a discretionary amount to about $300 depending on the situation.
As a minister, I and many of my colleagues don't just perform the wedding, we also take part in a process that involves getting to get to know the couple and this will often times include pre-marital counseling. We want to make sure that your wedding day is meaningful for you and that the words spoken at the ceremony and vows exchanged fit your and your fiances relationship and family situation.
When is the proper time to leave a party?
- When you are at a birthday party and you have no reason to leave, but want to, then you should leave after the birthday cake is cut and served. Then make an excuse and leave. If you have an appointment or have to home at a certain time then show up at the birthday party and when it's time for you to leave go to the person who is having the birthday and let them know you had a good time, but unfortunately you have to leave.
How do you get rid of annoying sister in laws without hurting your husband?
You can't, when you married him he came with family. My best suggestion is to remember "Manners are for people you don't know or don't like". Try to minimise your interactions with the sisters-in-law, and when you must be around them be extremely polite... eventually they will either "get it" and start being nicer or your husband will notice and try to spend less time with them.
Couples have enough difficulties to face without manufacturing extras they can avoid. As there will no doubt be family gatherings and occasions when you must deal with the in-laws (and the out-laws), if your manners are impeccable no one can fault you for your behaviour. This way you get to keep the nice husband and not put undue stress on his relationship with his family.
Why not go out and play a game of sport together, that way you will engage in something positive. Who knows, you may not find each other so annoying after a nice friendly game of sport, you'll be doing yourself a favour too! there are over 500 different types of sports to choose from so Play to win Sportkin :) !
Is this a polite way to say it?
Say what ? Please give us an example of what it is you want to express.
Should you go to your friend's grandfather's funeral?
Well if you have met him before then yes but if he is just an old man that you don't know one bit then just don't go
When is it appropriate to use slang or jargon?
In a personal letter to a close friend or this one to
When you are communicating informally with people who definitely understand what you are talking about
What is the etiquette for paying musicians at a memorial service?
this depends on whether the musicians are already receiving a stipend (payment) for their services. A decision to offer a gratuity is also culturally based, as where in almost every other country, stipendiary musicians would not be expected. The US, for example, has a propensity to expect gratuities for, well, pretty much anything, from pouring a cup of coffee at a counter, where the staff have merely done what they were employed to do, to the porter at a door, who was hired to do the same thing.
Using an extremely rough guide, approximately twenty percent of the fee would be an 'etiquette' based rule of thumb for the US. It should be handed to the conductor or lead, to distribute among the other musicians.
Outside of the US, stipends for a single musician, such as a pianist to organist, can range anywhere from circa GBP£50-150. (USD$75-200).
Can you wear a eternity ring on left finger when not married?
You can wear anything you like on your left ring finger when not married. In fact, you can do it when you are married, though most marital traditions reserve that spot for the wedding ring, if one is used.
Is it bad luck to buy your wife a watch?
No, any gift will be appreciated, don't be superstitious! As long as you know she will like it (get one of her friends to check) you cant go wrong! Q: How does a Real Man get his wife's watch repaired? A: She doesn't need a watch, because there's a clock on the stove.
The annoying kid on family matters?
Omg i love that show! Well if you mean the neighbor, that is a total dork and nerd and is love with Laura and changes to Steven sometimes then it is....Steve urkel, but i think they call him stitch at times
It is imperative to provide the highest quality of customer service to others. I think about the proverb... "do unto others as you would have others do unto you". Treat the customer with courtesy and respect. Most of display to the customer the best professional appearance without regards to their race , ethnic background or religion.
How do you address an envelope to 2 doctors?
Dr. John Smith
Dr. Mary Brown if they are at the same address, of different genders and not married.
Dr. John Smith & Dr. Mary Brown if they are at the same address and married but not using the same last name.
Drs. John & Mary Smith if they are married and using the same last name
Dr. John Smith
Dr, Fred Brown if they are at the same address of the same gender and not married.
The progression is the same as above if they are married.
How do you respond when someone say they appreciate what you have done for them?
you are most welcome
How much do you tip a waitress in US?
The general rate across the U.S. is 15% of the bill including beverages / alochol however in major cosmopolitan areas which are know for an exceptional dining scene such as New York or San Francisco, 18% - 20% is common.
What is the meaning of dining etiquette?
Dining etiquette refers to how a person handles themselves at the table. It can be anything from not having your elbows on the table, to holding your fork properly, and which fork and spoon to use with your salad and soup.
Should a man remove his hat in an elevator?
Hats off inside the home or business or restaurant, for flags, introductions to ladies, and funerals, even a cortege passing by.When indoubt, doff you hat. Better to be too polite, than ever rude.
How do you address a letter if the wife is a doctor and the husband is not?
You address the husband who isn't a doctor and the wife that is as:
Mr. John Smith & Dr. Jane Smith
It is protocol that the Mr. comes first and not necessary to put the female doctor's name first.
Decline a baby shower invitation do you still have to send a gift?
You are never required to give a gift. If you don't go, you MAY send something, but you don't have to. Many people wait and give a gift when the baby is born.
How do you congratulate someone who makes a Bat Mitzvah?
The Bat Mitzvah is a ceremony that celebrates a girl becoming a bat mitzvah, that she is now old enough to take on the religious responsibilities of an adult , in her faith community. The traditional wish, after her first time reading from the Torah publicly is "mazel tov" and to comment on how good a job she did.
If you wish to know what the appropriate gift is, in most communities, girls will register at gift stores. Alternatively, if you wish to give a monetary gift, the tradition is to give multiples of 18 as this is the numerical value for the Hebrew word for life. If the girl in question is not a close family friend, $18 dollars is suitable.
What do you say when you meet someone who has just returned from a long trip?
Hey! How are you? How was your trip? Tell me all about it! What was the coolest thing that you did? How was the plane ride?
Most Captains in the Armed Forces work hard to get their doctorite so they often prefer to be called 'Dr. or Doctor.' It depends on the individual. Examples: * Dr. Samuel Smith & Dr. Doris Smith * Doctors Samuel & Doris Smith If it is a formal invitation to a wedding or large event then it should read: * Dr./Captain Samuel Smith & Dr. Doris Smith
