Salman Khan

No, it really has nothing to do with the abuser not liking certain foods. The only time an abuser will be fussy about their food is if the woman makes them dinner then many abusers will throw the plate upside down on the table or across the room and accuse the victim of being a rotten cook. The food could be very good, but the abuser has to make a statement of some sort to inform the abused they are still in control. Some abusers are just pure mean to the bone.

You or anyone you know does not have to put up with this treatment! Please, if you are abused or someone you know is, seek out the Abused Women's Center in your area, or at least "Mental Health" and they will direct you to the proper programs. These programs do teach you that indeed you are an individual and a worthy person; deserve to be treated better, and give you the tools as to how to stay out of contact with your abuser or, choosing another partner in life that is also abusive.

Abusers are controllers and master manipulators and they do a good job of brain-washing their victims whether it be woman, man, child or the elderly. They are cruel, conniving, and have a yellow streak going right down their back because they would never pull off this action in a workplace or out in public. They hide behind secrecy and behind closed doors. Unless you or the person who is abused comes out of hiding then no one can help you. There is a life out there after abuse.

Good luckMerry ChristmasMarcy

AnswerHi. I have noticed a real pattern after this last one ending the relationship. All of the creeps I have been involved with hated almost to a phobia, onions, green peppers, mushrooms and would be irate at a restaurant or refuse to eat anything i made with these things in it!!!I have noticed much more obvious similarities in these men as well. See below:-masters at inducing guilt, fear, abandoment-don't let go easily-namecalling to idolizing you in the same hour-threatens to leave you-copies your personality-weak-turns physically violent-beleives following you around is just part of the normal process of getting what they want. My ex husband actually stated that he saw nothing wrong with a man following a woman if he wanted her cause how else do you get her.

I now see these signs clearly which will help me avoid future disasterous relationships.

AnswerThat was an interesting post. My question is: "Because the abuser is human and has some dislikes to food (like most normal people) is it not possible that if they are served those onions or green peppers they are simply just cranky (that they can get away with in public) and complain, rather than simply being an abuser who is picky?"

I volunteer at an Abused Women's Center and have never heard of this, but you got my mind going and it's a good question to ask some of the abused women.

ThanksMerry ChristmasMarcy

AnswerHi there. Yes I notice they get VERY insulted if someone forgets their food preferences. The will act very offended even swear about it, they act like a spolied brat! AnswerHi

Thanks for your answer. See, even at 64 I learn something new every day. LOL Those little rotten rascals! I guess they'd pretty much complain about anything if it wasn't perfection.

You have a great Christmas and all the best in 2006.

Marcy