Relationships

Time will tell. If he makes a clean break with his wife and treats her with respect and tells her the truth, then MAYBE he could be your soul mate. But only if he chooses you. If he stays with the comfort of the familiar life with his wife, he is not your soul mate. keep on looking and good luck. you sound heartbroken.

ANSWER!

Yes You two can be soul mates, the fact that someone may be married is not a question of doubt to if he isn't yours. It is possible (people!) that he could be with the wrong person "his wife" and him not leaving his wife for you is not a sign of his love for you....maybe a greater sign of his love for his children. In other words...yes you two could be soulmates, he may be with the wrong woman but if he doesnt leave his wife for you...it does not prove or disprove that you are "the one" because perhapse he does not want to ruin a family "and does care for his wife" and his children and whoever may be involved in his choice to part from them. 5 is greater than one.

The only thing you can do is move on with your life........It wont end well for you.

On one hand if he leaves his wife...you will have to live with your own guilt and deal with the pains of that guilt and his divorce. on the other hand if he stays with his wife, you will be the one to be heart broken...even if your affair does not end. It will still sting not having the one you love and waiting for a change that will NEVER come.

I wish you good luck though.

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"How do you know if it is love or lust?"

1) He will make you feel really special.

[Comment: Nope. He may be doing this just to get in your pants (or panties). ]

2) He will go out of his way to talk to you.

[Comment: Nope. See above comment.]

3) He will be romantic.

[Comment: Nope. See above comment.]

4) If you walk into a room, he will not notice anyone else but you.

[Comment: Nope. See above comment.]

5) He will think of you everytime he listens to a certain love song.

[Comment: Great hint if you're a mind-reader...]

6) He will say really nice things to you.

[Comment: Nope. See first comment.]

7) He may seem a little shy when around you.

[Comment: Nope. See first comment.]

8) He will start hanging out with your friends.

[Comment: Nope. See first comment.]

9) He will take things slow and not move too fast.

[Comment: Weeell, if you can be really sure he's not seeing someone else as well ...]

10) He will show you in more ways than one how much he loves you.

[Comment: Nope. See first comment.]

[Comment: Don't think so. I see only two ways to make sure: One: He's putting A LOT more effort into you than you'd be worth if it were just lust, meaning he could easily seduce girls sexier than you with far less effort. Or you could make such an effort a pre-condition, like "no pre-marital sex". He probably won't make such a commitment if it's just lust.

Two: Satisfy his lust (shouldn't be a problem if you like sex). If he stays and still gives you the feeling he likes you, then he really does. Which does NOT mean he always will. In fact, how he treats you while having sex should be a big hint already.]

You know a girl likes you when:

• She laughs a lot when you talk to her, even if you aren't being very funny.
• She makes excuses to touch you, even just for a short second, to have the physical connection.
• She messes with her hair if she catches you looking at her.
• Her friends laugh and shove her around or whisper in her ear and joke with her if when you walk by.
• She will either make direct eye contact with you or will look hurriedly away if you catch eye contact.
• She will also want to sit by you in your classes
• You catch her looking at you "wistfully."
• She turns her head to the side when she looks at you.
• She walks away in the playground when she sees you.
• She hides her face when she watches you play sport.
• She walks around you to find out what you like.
• She shows interest in whatever you talk about.
• She smiles at you, when you talk or while she talks.
• She laughs at your jokes - even if they're not so funny.
• She hugs you not only to say hello and goodbye.
• She is kinda mean but jokes around.
• She acts like you are the biggest idiot in the world.
• She will look at you a lot.
• She looks at you while you don't notice.
• She tries to always get next to you in line.
• She will always talk to you.
• As she wants to talk a lot about you and not give it away, she has code names. For example, if your name starts with "S" she would make a girl's name out of yours, like Shakif-Sandy/Sally, etc.
• She will quickly start conversation with their friends when she spots you (never stay silent) unless her friends are already talking, and then she will stay unnaturally silent, look around at random things, hoping you are looking at her.
• From a distance, she will try searching you out.
• She will want to, at one point, start a conversation with you.
• She will want to keep in touch online with you (so just give her your email address!).
• She will be super sweet to your mom or dad.
• If she is shy she will hide behind her friends.
• If she blushes around you a lot and she finds every excuse to talk to you, even asking for a pencil or something when it would be more convenient to ask someone else and she asks you anyways. If she likes you and you smile at her, she'll either smile back or else look away really fast. If she knows things about you that most people don't, like you schedule at school, she probably likes you.
• also she might ask you for help on things like homework or with sports (if she does ask say yes!)
• she will try to be around you as often as possible and will smile A LOT around you and not always know what to say when you are near

New Answer:

I believe that if your boyfriend loves you he will tell you he does.

He will not cheat on you or flirt with other girls.

He will treat you with respect, and he will be loyal to you.

I would say that if he loves you he wouldn't lie to you, which i kind of still think.

But i learned with my boyfriend that sometimes they lie to you so that they don't hurt you. My boyfriend would lie to me about smoking pot, and i only asked him not to because he had just got out of rehab, but he still did it like every day, and he would tell me he wasnt, and then one day he finally told me that he had been lyin to me for almost 9 months straight, but he said it was so he wouldn't hurt me,

I kind of believe that but at the same time i don't think it is okay to lie if you love someone, expecially not as much as he did.

This may not be right, and you may not agree with me, but this is how i feel a guy can mostly show you that he truly loves you.

Good luck ! :)

There is nothing wrong with dating someone 12 years older than you if you have feelings for each other, I have been married 13 years I married when I was 18 my husband was 30. The age difference has never played a negetive role in our life, but I do know from experience that through the years of 18 till now that the mind changes alot so what is exciting and new to an 18 year old will change over the years to responsibilities that a 30 year old has already figured out so you will need patience and room for growth. Good luck

I don't see why the age difference should make a difference as long as the two parties involved hold a mutual attraction for each other. Be true to your feelings about her and don't let the disapproval of outsiders influence your relationship. I wish I had taken that advice a few months ago when I was in a similar situation as you. I had the same question as you except that I am a 31-year-old female and he is an 18-year-old male. Even though he wanted me to be his girlfriend and I really really liked him alot, I let the disapproval of my parents, the fear of being considered either desperate or a cradle-robber by society, and the thought that I would be doing something "immoral" be the reasons why I kept rejecting him over and over again. I also wan't very honest with myself about how I actually felt about him. Now that he has moved on and we no longer talk on the phone, I still find myself stuck on him and wish that I had gone with my heart. So, if the two of you truly care for each other and are clear on that, then by all means, go for it. Good luck!

Since the last time that I answered this question, I've had time to think about the answer that I gave. One reason I failed to mention about why I rejected him, as difficult as that was for me to do, is that I took into consideration the fact that he still needed to grow and discover who he is. At 31 I was at a different level in life than he was and I thought that for us to have become involved romantically with one another would have unfairly caused him to grow-up too quickly, not to mention the fact that he had raging hormones. I figure if we are meant to be together, then in the future he will come back to me after he matures more, and if not, then that's life. So while legally, there is nothing wrong with the two of you being together, at least consider the maturity factor before making your final decision. Again, good luck.

to me age is just a number.I was 42 years old and I married my wife,when she was 18.she even agree that age is just a number,that age should'NT matter,and it doesn't for us.as long you love each other,care about each other,and trust one another,and you are very sure of it,then you can not go wroung.my wife and i have been married for 5 years now,and have a 2 year old son.we are still in love to this day.so I think no matter the age,it should'NT matter.go for it.

He will usually (not always) act a little different around you. Don't expect him to ever act the same twice. With guys, they just don't do that (Unless you've got a really one-of-a-kind guy.) Usually he'll go out of his way just to be around you, and he'll be nice, or he'll happen to be nearby a lot, and (pretend) picks on you. Now, I'm not one to talk, but just say something nice, or funny! It's really discouraging to a guy when he likes a girl and she doesn't start the conversations. He may think you don't even slightly like him if you don't. But don't think that means he will stop liking you. Guys are very persistent. He'll probably keep it up for a month or more. That doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't like other girls though. He may just want to be your friend. Try to be alone with him sometimes, and observe how he reacts. He will usually loosen up a lot, and may just come clean to you! (But girls, if he doesn't, either it means he didn't have the guts at the moment, or he isn't really into you, he has just been trying to get a normal friend all along!

A.) Flirts with you constantly.

B.) Looks at you a lot.

C.) Acts nervous around you when he's with friend.

D.) Seems to try to get attention from you, or talks to you a lot.

E.) You don't know unless you ask

F.) He touches and blushes about it.

Additional Advice:

• Maybe you hear him talk about you or see him state at you.
• Either he: A.) Flirts with you constantly! B.) Looks at you a lot. C.) Acts nervous around you when he's with friend. It's just a matter of time before he asks you if he can be your boyfriend.

  if you don't know what i mean by moments. Its when your and the boys eyes meet and stay there. kind of like you 2 are staring at each other but better cause if he doesn't look away he likes it.

1. if he got a new watch or braclete/band ask him: "hey nice watch/band can i see it" if he likes you he will show you his whole arm, if he doesn't like you he will take it off and show it too you
2. if you want the boy to like you ask him if he can open a water bottle or something you can also drop your pencil and ALWAYS praise him.
3. and if you don't believe me watch one of those old sappy movies
4. when the girl drops her hankerchief why do you think the boy picks it up???

• If he tries not to look at you It means He doesn't want you to see him looking at you because he knows that if you see him looking at him You'll know he likes you.
• 1. you don't know unless you ask 2.if you want to know if a boy likes you he will try to get close to you so he can talk to you or stare at you
• Sometimes you know when a guy likes you when he looks dead at you, or when he touches and blushes about it. Also a boy likes you when there is a connection between you and him and no one will end it.
• He angles toward you when you talk. Sometimes it's hard to tell. If his chest is facing you, then he probably likes you.
• His palms face up. When his palms face up he is excited to see you and feels open and confident around you.
• He touches your arm, hand, and/or waist. This is a big sign that he likes you and that he is ready to be in a relationship. If you are too, acknowledge it.
• He stops what he is doing to say hi to you and/or talk. It's a sign that he's crazy about you when he stops what he is doing to see how you're doing.
• He cracks more jokes around you. If a boy likes you, he might crack a few more jokes or be a little more obnoxious to get your attention.
• He looks into your eyes. When he looks into your eyes, he definitely likes you. If he doesn't, don't worry. He may just be shy. You might have to make the first move.
• He might talk about other couples. If a boy talks about other couples or asks who is going out with who, he is obviously giving you some hints.
• You just know. You put one and one together and it becomes obvious. He tells you verbally or by his actions that he does. Just ask if you can't take the mystery.
• You can tell he likes you if he talks to you a lot, flirts with you often, and/or always looks at you. You can tell he likes you if he likes to hang out with you or when his face lights up when you enter the room.
• You can also tell if he likes you if he DOESN'T look at/talk to you. Trust me on this. He may take the mick out of you. He either likes you or hates you. It's an untrustworthy one.
• you can tell when a boy likes you when he makes fun of you cause he is trying to hide the fact that he loves you and when he likes to talk to you and he asks you a lot of stuff cause he is trying to find out more about you to see what is the same about you and him.Also you can tell he likes you when looks at you and won't stop even at times when he is not supposed to.

HINTS HE LIKES YOU....

• Hint:1 if he says your name for no reason
• Hint:2 if he stares at you without blinking for 4 seconds
• Hint:3 Being your friend
• Hint:4 Showing off (maybe at football, art, anything that girls admires really)
• Hint:5 Occasionally stares at you, if you start staring back he normally looks away quickly.
• Hint:5 Stands up for you once in a while (for example, if you are being called a geek, he might say that so is he even though he isn't!)
• Hint:6 Maybe teases you (this depends on how old the boy is - 4 - 11 year olds tend to tease the girl however, 12 - 18 year olds tend to either tell you straight away or just ignore you)
• Hint:7 Doesn't mind working with you, like if you are paired up for a science experiment he won't go "But i wanted to be with my friend" but normally just keeps quiet.
• Hint:8 Occasionally smiles, if you catch him smiling he will stop so to break the tension, smile back
• Hint:9 SOMETIMES is silly, this depends on the kind of boy, if he is your everyday sweetie then he will be silly normally. But boys who tend to be sensible in class depends for example i have had a totally sensible boy who was being silly round me.

• If someone calls you a geek say hold up it takes a geek to know a geek!

• If you really want to know if he likes you, pretend you are really excited about something then run up and give him a big hug. Watch his reaction carefully, if he doesn't hug you or pushes you away, then he doesn't like UNLESS his face is red, he may just be too stunned to do anything. If he hugs you back he may just be polite and hug you in a friendly way. But if he likes you and hugs you back he will do it affectionately and you will know. But make sure you have your story straight about why you are excited in case he doesn't like you. But if he does then he won't really care why you hugged him he will just be happy you did.

• Of course, all these depend. Just ask him, and tell him it's not a dare if you have a reputation of that kind of thing!

• YES! he loves you, but is too shy to say so. but I say GO FOR IT! you'll never know if you don't try. as Wayne Gretsky says: " You'll miss 100% of the shots you never take ­"

• Every boy is different. Act like yourself around him. You definitely don't want him to like the person you're trying to be to impress him! And definitely don't go to a movie with him and bring your gorgeous blond best friend.

• Go on Youtube and type in " 5 ways to show that a guy likes you" there's a guy that actually explains what is interested ,how it happens and stuff like that.
• if a boy interrupts in other converations with other boys does that mean he is jealous?

Marcy

Hmmmm, most Asian men are probably pretty shy about talking to girls, but that just means that they aren't playas and good at the game like sweet talking guys of other races that tell you fantastic crap to get into your panties and leave once they do. Ken

I think, is is not an essential nature of Asian guys to be shy. Maybe the symbolic meanings in relationship with other ethnic girls makes them uneasy. Actually, the idea behind romantic love is a framework referring to the role-model of brother and sister. It do not work with different ethnicities. So you can be sure, that the meaning you are investing in interracial relationship can not be regarded as the natural thing. I am the opinion that make the people feel uncomfortable, because they know that they are under the gaze of the invisible majority. Certainly, everyone will understand, that the behaviour is more clumsy, if there are unknown curious eyes out there.

Another aspect is that the Asian did not create an energetic street culture like other ethnicities, street culture are very body-centered, it teach you to love the gaze of other people. Actually, Asian adapt the habits of the middle-class and surround their efforts on written culture.

If you have a fear of public speaking, you will probably be shy to talk to strangers, especially of the opposite sex. You don't have to be Asian to be shy.

OMG!!! okay, here's something coming from an ASIAN GUY!! this might take a while so pop a squat and start reading. ok, now has ne one, NE ONE seen commercials on tv lately? wut do u see when an azn guy is on? a kung fu master or nerdy guy? EH wrong! trick question, the answer is both! that's our stereotype! but azn women are cute and porno stars! we azn men also have the stereo type of small penises! can u live that down? NO! and then wut? if we have the guts to date a girl, wut kind? an azn girl? EH wrong, "how stereotypical!". A white girl? EH "My friends r making fun of me, so i think were gonna have to break up". A black girl? HAHA i dare u to try! And if you notice, were the butt of all jokes. i mean here's an example: "TIGER WOODS!!" "hey is that a black joke? your racist!" "sorry" "let's make fun of the azn guy" "HAHAHAH" and then they come up with BILLIONS of azn jokes. but anyways, yes it's hard, even if u do have the guts. so if ur a girl hu likes an azn guy, don't count on them asking u out, do it urself. cuz i damn well know it's hard for me! I've never asked ANYONE out before! and my competition? big white guys? big black guys? wut's so great about azns ne way? wut's make u say yes? "oh his squinty eyes, and his shortness". so yah, and yes I'm older than 13 so - oh and go ahead and make jokes, it'll just prove my point even more. oh and if u read the whole thing, bravo

Ha I know from personal experience that is so the case. Well, it's not the all Asian guys are 'shy' it's just most of them come from a 'very' conservative background. I should know since I'm Asian-filipino to be exact. Most Asian parents generally discourage both Asian guy && girls from dating throughout highschool because they want us to focus on our grades. And trust me, they nag you like hell. So that's half the reason why Asian guys are don't date period. The reason they're so shy? Again, it's their culture. Asian parents bring up their sons to be formal and to treat a girl with respect. And let's face it, in our generation, not many girls want respect anymore. They want a guy that has alot of self cofidence and a big ego. Girls like guys that take control and you have to admit, freaky. Where as Asian guys would mostly let the girl make all the moves because they're afraid they will do something wrong. Well just opinion of it. Plus, I've seen alot of Asian dramas:taiwanese/Japanese/Korean and even the 'tough' guys are shy when trying to kiss the girl.

Totally agree with everyone here... Asians are witty when talking to girls online or over the phone, but can't put two words together when confronted with a girl they like.

Considering I am a Mexican/German girl who only dates Asian guys, I should highly disagree. All of my boyfriends have been openly able to talk to me, ask me to go places with them etc etc. I'm actually more of the shy one. I mean sure there will always be some people in the world, no matter the race, who will be so shy they don't want to talk to the person they like. I myself am an example of that. I can tell you from personal experience though, the shy Asian guys always are some of the cutest. I won't start ranting about them though, because I could go on for ages. xD

But some advice to you Asian guys out there, take it a step by step. :]

Get to know the person you like, be a good friend to them but don't get so close you're afraid to discuss anything about romance with them. Trust your gut feeling even if it doesn't work out. Take my boyfriend for example, since I won't say his first name I'll call him J Dinh. He's 3/4 viet and 1/4 Chinese and he told me he felt that I would never say yes to dating him because he thought that Mexican girls didn't like asians. Boy was he relieved when I told him I only date asians! But to the point everyone gets shy at one point, it's part of life! So get out there and have some fun.

Well, as an Asian all i have to do is agree with pia. Like her i am filipino, and i guess I'm shy but she has all the points. Parents worry about their kids education so i guess we aren't very 'sociable' but doesn't mean i don't have friends.

Its not just asian guys. I mean everybody can be shy. Especially in front of the one they are crushing on. I am an asian guy and used to be shy because i figured hey no one likes asians then i figured out its not about that its about being able to treat the girl right and show them that they are special and the only one for you. I just got out of an amazing relationship because the girl thought i cheated on her when all her friends and my friends told her i would never cheat. Then a girl tells her i did and she breaks up with me after telling me im adorable and super sweet. It just depends on the situation and the guy

Coming from a shy guy myself, I like it when a girl notices me. Even if i have a girlfriend atm, just being invited to hang out is awesome. Maybe try and get a friend who knows him a little to talk to him.. maybe let him know you wanted to invite him to the movies (just act like you didn't know he/she was going to tell him). But for me, no matter how it's done, I like being let know.. it makes me feel good. Just let him know =) good luck!

Answer to the 'what if...'

I have the same problem. I like a guy who's been in at least one of my classes since the tenth grade, but in the course of three years, we've probably only ever exchanged less than five sentences. I am a very shy girl, particularly around men. So I want to show him subtly (key word here!) that I like him. I usually give him little smiles every now and then, and because he sits directly across the room from me, I meet his eyes, but not too often. If you have mutual friends that you trust, ask them to drop little hints, but not be upfront about it, and maybe something will happen.

There's only one way to know for sure if a guy likes you, and that is to ask. Yeup, it's much easier said than done, but you have to do it. Either that or drop major hints. Don't have your friends ask him for you, because that shows a lack of confidence and is quite unattractive. Also, don't ask him through text messaging, instant messenger, etc. Because this is quite immature, and if you think you're mature enough to be in a relationship, then you've gotta do it face to face. Basing a relationship on text messages and IM conversations is really not a good way to get to know a person. Plus, a relationship involves things called "DATES" where you get to know the person before you're officially "Going out" or "Exclusive" Here's my advice for your situation. Suggest that you guys go to a movie together or hang out at the mall. Just you two. No friends. Just get him alone. If the guy is interested, he'll show you that he likes you. If he doesn't show you that he likes you, then you deserve someone who actually has guts. (hence, if he doesn't man up and admit that he likes you, drop him like it's hot) Oh, and I'm a high school student writing this, and obviously I don't know you're age. Anywhoo, I hope I was of some assistance. Good luck. Go get him!

If a guy likes you he will stare at you alot. If you look at him and it looks like he turned his head, then he was probably staring at you and he likes you.

Some guy's don't like you they just want to get in your pants because your hot or because it's a bet, sometimes guy's like you because they have known you a while and they really like you because they think your funny.

I wrote this, and im a guy, I see people doing this in class all the time and Iv'e seen things that are really disturbing and wish I haven't.

He will look at you always and look away when you notice it. He will look at you before any one in a crowd. He will act like if he is inferior or should I say, act clumsily. He won't mind if you sit very close to him (or even better on top of him) He will try to steal your attention by being funny and repeating things he noticed you find funny. Will try to make little jokes out of you (or your best friends if he is close to them), don't worry he is not flirting with them, he is just trying to earn their friendship to score more points with you (note this hint only works if he follows some of the others, if not, then he is flirting with your friends for real). He will not loose any chance he has to touch you or be next to you. He will somtimes ignore you for a short time for you to notice him. He will behave strangley and act serious and mature when you are serious, and be infantile when you are being infantile. Respond your messages shyly. Sometimes play hard to get and stubborn, but most of the time he will be on your side. If you are close enough to him as a friend to ask him who he likes he will become red and won't answer or tell a lie. Prefers to be with you than with his best male friends. Extremely jealous of other guys that talk to you if they are the same age as him. Will be extremely polite to you and respectful too If someone says out loud "x" loves "y"!! He will try to act as if he isn't blushed and lay low for a couple of days at maximum. Give you a gift if you give him a gift.

To all who read this, hope it helps!! and remember we boy's aren't fortune tellers, we also need hints to be sure if you like us because most shy guys don't ask girls out if they are not 100% sure that the she likes them back!!!!

Ok, I was looking up the answer to this question, and after reading through this page, I realised that the above post was mine. Although I wrote it a long time ago, it holds true. Follow your instincts, but don't trick yourself with too much false hope.