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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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How do you get your girlfriend to lose weight and not break up?
You have to decide for yourself if her weight is a problem for you in the relationship. Basically, this is one of those things that people have to learn: the other person has a right to live their life as they will; you cannot make people lose weight or any other thing that would be good for them by making it part of the deal of staying together, but you might inspire them... Amazingly, as we grow older, some of these things (weight, health issues) take a backseat to the caring, love, sex, and companionship within the relationship. The difference is, by then, we recognize their value.
ANSWER 2 - From a guy's point of view, who has been exactly where you have been:
As the previous answerer rightly said, when you grow older physical attraction takes a backseat and love is based on other things, however when you are both young looks do matter, at least for a large number of guys. Why sacrifice on the opportunity of being with a pretty girl at least during the prime of your life. Looks are anyway going to deteriorate, and character is what will remain; but there is nothing wrong in wanting BOTH good looks and good character in a girlfriend/boyfriend.
I am 31 years old and my girlfriend of 2 years had the same 'problem'. I am no longer with her, and have been an absolute jerk to her, for which I will always be sorry since she is one of the nicest people I have known. So based on my experience this is the 'right' way to get her to lose the extra pounds.
Get a joint membership for both of you at the local 24 hour fitness place ($55 - $75 for 1 month). Make sure you go regularly for workouts (5 times a week if possible) even if she doesn't initially. Never directly suggest that she is overweight, this is rude and is an absolute NO NO; but say things about YOURSELF like 'I don't like my spare tire, and have to work out'. Girls will never lose weight if you ever DIRECTLY suggest that they are overweight; not only that, if you confront them later on about this, they will say that they WOULD have lost the weight if you had not forever scarred them by saying the rude things you did (this is an easy out later on, don't give it to her.)
When you go out to eat, get yourself the healthiest meal possible (like a salad), this will make her think twice about ordering the cheesy dish she would have otherwise got. Avoid soda and junk food, and tell her about how you've given these things up completely (of course be true to yourself, and really give these up yourself, not indulge in them behind her back). If she suggests dessert, tell her to go ahead and get what she wants, but you won't partake because you are watching your waistline; there is nothing wrong in saying this if you are really following through with it.
If all this still fails, then once you are in good shape yourself, you can confront her about this in a nice way, ask her why she continues to indulge in binge eating and not working out. She will NOT have that 'easy out' of saying you were the one who pushed her to it by being mean to her etc etc., if you had played your cards right and not been a jerk by directly telling her she is fat. Then if she is not able to justify herself, you can say that it is time for you to move on to someone who appreciates you more.
Trust me guys, I have told my girlfriend that I would like her to lose weight, because I was naiive and impatient, and too frank for my own good. Tact is important always. Even if you do decide to break up with her, a better alternative will be to not make her feel that you broke up with her because she is fat; here is where tact is needed; you can just probably say that you don't have the same feelings for her as you used to etc... (the it's not you it's me routine, but more polished). She will hate YOU but not HERSELF; this is the least you can do for her if you are dumping her. I did the opposite and regret it more than anything; because now she will have self confidence issues for the rest of her life, and this was not my intention at all.
Remember that it is OK for looks to matter in a relationship, and if one person is unwilling to switch to healthy habits just because of their own selfishness or desire to be lazy, the other person is not inclined to stay in the relationship; after all anyone can lose weight, it is just about trying, it is not like going bald or being short, which you have more or less no control over. Or if one of you get into an accident which disfigures you permanently; this is not something you had the power to change, so it would be a jerk move to dump someone for this.
NOTE to guys: If in the RARE case that your girlfriend really cannot lose weight because of some hormonal imbalance (this is quite rare but possible), then it is up to you to decide if you want to be a jerk for a day and dump her for that, or endure a lifelong relationship where your heart is not completely in it, and the relationship is based on guilt and sympathy, not on true love and attraction. Or you can bite the bullet, and make the ultimate sacrifice and stick by her and tell her you think she is still beautiful; a very noble act, which few people are capable of.
NOTE to girls: Even if your man says he doesn't care what you look like, don't be absolutely sure of this, after all men are attracted to physical beauty, and this is natural. Stop wallowing in self-pity, and taking the easy way out. You have to work for your man; just as you expect him to work for you and be there for you. What is wrong in adopting a healthier lifestyle and looking great not just for him but for yourself in the bargain? If you let yourself go, be sure that your guy will be checking out other hot girls around him, and wondering what he did to end up with you, even though you may be the sweetest person. Don't fool yourself thinking that all the hot girls are 'anyway b*tch*s', because trust me, I know a lot who are not, and who are actually genuine and pleasant to be around; so it is not 'either this' or 'that' for your guy; it is practically a candy store out there for a guy who is in shape and who is reasonably smart and good natured; he will pick up a pretty girl within weeks of dumping you, and this time he will be wise to choose a girl who actually cares about working out for herself and not for him, (most likely at the gym).
What do you do if your boyfriend leaves you for his ex?
Dont Worry Because There are over fish in the sea! Hope That Helped From Supersauge
Can love grow if someone says they love you but are not in love with you?
- honestly yes love is able to grow. but DO NOT EVER SMOTHER SOMEONE WITH LOVE.if you smother someone they cant breath and no one wins in the end. love takes time its not something that happens over night or even over a week. u need to give this person room to grow and if they find that there is something in there feelings for you then congrats. however you might move on or that person will. Love is found simply, u dont get a map or compass whatever you find your gunna love it anyways.
- Bottom line: give the person space and try to move on if you find out that you still "love" this person and that they feel the same for you then id go ahead and ask
Is an ex interested if he asks about your love life?
Not necessarily - he may just be asking to be nosey and possibly get upset as most times an ex doesn't want you but they don't want anyone else to have you either. Don't entertain him with what you do - tell him it is none of his business as you do not owe him any explanation.
She must have her reasons not to come back to you. You obviously split up because of your indifferences. You both had a chance to rectify the problems and didn't make the effort and that's simply not love. Take the hint and leave the poor girl alone. She knows what she wants and doesn't want. Hopefully both of you have learned from this experience. Sometimes the people we marry, we don't often know until after marriage that the chemistry isn't quite right. Let her go and have her future and you will also find someone else and have a good life if you try in that marriage. Good luck Marcy
How do you know if your boyfriend is thinking of breaking up with you?
Heres a few sights that he might say if he wants to break up with you.
If he says"Hey can we talk about us?" (this might go both ways)
If he not answering you calls/texts act.
If he says "Were over" (srry that a no brannier)
If he picks video games over you
If he's just not talking to you
If he's picking his friends over you
If he's showing flashes of anger around you
He's picking sports phone ect, over you.
If he's cheating on you
Makes you feel bad about yourself
says i hate you
What to do when you have been dumped?
you sit there and think this person has caused me all this pain do i even want him back?
How should you get your ex boyfriend back?
Show your boyfriend that you have changed and try and make it clear that if you messed up the first time that it won't happen again. If you show him that you are a changed person and willing to put things on the line and accept the consequences for him then maybe you could get him back. Don't do anything like lying or manupilating him because once he realizes it, he may leave you for all eternity.
The truth is that there is no foolproof way. Lets assume that he wanted to break up with you without any regrets, in that case there is no way you can get him back, I wonder If you'd really want to anyway. So if all else fails, move on and try and find someone else and don't repeat the same mistakes you made earlier, don't dwell on them either.
For me, If I break up with a girl, it probably means that I want things to simmer down for a week or two, especially if I say no to other girls that ask me out. If you dumped him, then he might be mad for a while, but if he asks if you to can still be friends, wait a few days then he should be ready to go out with you again.
What should you do if you have deeper feelings toward your friend with benefits?
Tell him or her that you are in love with him/her and you guys can be more than just friends with benefits . If the feelings are not mutual then don't be ashamed and continue being friends with each other . If you can continue the FWB thing then its even better but if you think can't continue with it then please dont practice it , because you'll end up feeling that you are being used . First ask yourself that do you really want a FWB or do you want a commitment. Do not settle for something that you don't want , i mean that make sure you do not say no to yourself while you are saying yes to othrers.
How do you make a girl never forget you?
If you want to make her never forget you cause you might never see her again, then buy her flowers and chocolates and say really nice stuff to her. If you dont want to be cheesy, then do something so funny so that no one will ever forget you.
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Get her to fall in love with you. She will never forget.
How do you get over your ex girlfriend when you and her are best friends?
this is a lousy answer, but all i can think of is time
the same happened to me. and it does take time and eventually the feeling will just fade away
How do I know if my ex boyfriend still cares about me even if he says he doesn't?
you want to know? he does NOT love you anymore.....so kick him to the curb!! go find yourself someone better than him. you know he is not the only one and GOD has someone better than that him. you are not a loser, so forget about him and move on.
My ex girlfriend answers my texts does that mean she isn't seeing anyone?
It means she is answering your texts. No more, no less.
that is true, i mean my sister still texts all her ex boyfriends but just likes them as friends.
don't hit on her though that's a big mistake
How can you guess when a woman is playing mind games with you?
well if you see her often she will always lookk at you when she is with another guy to see if you are jealous, and she will try to tell you wats happening so u get even more jealous :P........... well that's wat i think znywayz//... you should know if she is playing mind games because if she is with another men then u should already know that she is playing with you
maybe he needs some space or he's realy mad @ u. consider the first time he seemed peeved and any previous fights you may have had. what did you do or what did he do? ^_^hope it helps^_^
What happens when you like a girl?
Just go to her and say I know you like me so do you want to do lunch.And before you know it you guys are gf and bf
How do you deal with angry ex boyfriend?
i I would try to stay away as much as possible and make the situation a good thing. Make believe it does not bother you and you will be the better person. Do not try to talk or make him bother you or he will get the joy. Some ex's are easier to get along with than others, which would make coexisting with one in the workplace not so hard or uncomfortable as you would think. If he is a bit of a problem, just be as courteous as possible, and limit your intearaction with him.
How can you tell if your ex is still in love with you?
Youd have to see how he reacts when he sees you and how he presents himself when your around. Or you could just try plain old asking him... but only if you still love him! if oyu dont you might be leading him on if you ask that...
How should I dump my boyfriend?
If you just plan on "dumping" your boyfriend for the summer in hopes to pick things back up after the summer - things just don't work that way. With that being said be honest, straight forward and polite - simply let him know you want to end the relationship between you at this time.
Should you go back to your ex husband?
No, if you are currently in a working marriage, it's never fair or appropriate to terminate that marriage just to take back up with an ex. You should allow your ex to be a father to his children, yes, but leave your current husband to reconcile with a ex husband you should not.
What would happen if you and your ex boyfriend kissed?
Don't tell your boyfriend, just keep it a secret and anyway why woold you kiss your EX-boyfriend???????????????????????????
Another Answer
Well... firstly... why did you break up with your ex-boyfriend? and secondly... if you kissed him purposely then it means that you still like him... but if you kissed him accidentally well then that was an accident...
i broke up with my boyfriend well now he's my "ex"- boyfriend... but... i still like him and he doesn't like me just because i can't kiss him... one day i was going to kiss him but before i did he just said "let's break up..." so after that day onwards i just... started to cry everyday...
How do you get your ex back after you left him?
There is no need to let him go, unless you can really understand that things are over! Ask yourself who broke who's heart? When you can answer that question, you should be good to go! My Ex. of 4 years moved 7 states away after he and i broke up, but we broke up because he had to move. Why did the set individual let you or, or vise versa?!? once you can answer these questions, you should be able to let them go!
What are some of the causes that leads to broken relationships?
- Some reasons why people breakup are: they fall out of love; one has cheated on the other or both have cheated on each other; one of the two people involved in the relationship may use too many street drugs; drink too much; have a criminal record and end up in prison; financial stresses; flirting too much; jealousy; mental instability (mental disorders); health issues; unexpected pregnancy and the young man deserts his partner or, sometimes the young woman may be the one to desert her partner if she is pregnant. These are but a few reasons, but the most popular reasons.
How do you get over a crush who is in half your classes?
Think about someone else. It's hard, ofcourse! But try focusing on other things, more important
How can you win back someone you love after they left you due to you accusing them?
You should have thought about winning this person over when you were going with them. I just answered a post a few moments ago with the same question you have just asked. I suggest you sit down and figure out who you are and where you want to go in your life. We all need to improve on ourselves until the day we die. You are no different. We are also entitled to make mistakes, so I really hope you actually SEE your mistakes and tell her how you are starting to change. You just might get lucky. When something is precious in your life and you don't give it care, love or nurture it, it's simply withers away or walks away! Good luck Marcy Sit him/her down, and acknowledge your mistake and tell him/her what measures you are going to take to make sure that it does not ever happen again. Let him/her know that you know that you have hurt him/her but you are willing to do whatever it takes to mend the hurt. Then give him/her space. If he/she loves you he/she will return.
