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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
Should you break up with someone who lied?
You should dump him, who's to say he won't keep doing this kind of thing behind your back in the future? He may feel as if your his "fallback" girl..because of problems he had with his ex. If he truly wants to be with you he should break things off completely with his ex..and that is that. You can always play the "reverse phsycology" on him..and do the same he does, and just wait for his reaction to it. It depends on what you want out of a relationship. If you just want occasional servicing, what does it matter if he cheats? On the other hand, if you want someone who will be a companion, he certainly doesn't sound like the kind of guy who will ever commit. If he can't make up his mind now, what makes you think he'll ever be able to commit to a relationship? It's only been two months, and he's already showing his true colors. What would you expect 6 months to a year down the line, when he doesn't feel the need to be on his 'best' behavior anymore?
What do late night texts mean from your ex boyfriend?
- 'Ex' means the relationship is over and unless he is serious about getting back into a relationship with you again then you should be moving forward into your own future. Tell him in your next text message that if he wants to see or hear from you then he can do so in broad daylight and in person. This way you will know by his facial expressions and his body language if he is stringing you along and not being serious about committing to you only (without another girl in his life as well as you.)
How do you let YOUR wife down easy?
I take it you are either going to ask for a divorce or you have some other woman on the string. There is no easy way! Be a man and simply tell her the truth. Beware! The grass isn't always greener on the other side, and, if you just want a divorce it's wiser to get a separation and take some time apart to be sure this is what you want. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder.
How do you break up with someone you love when you know its not going to work out?
It is not a simple thing do but if you know very well that it is not going to work ,then it's good to be frank and tell the person that you do not think that it is going to work for both you.And do not be so soft in the that your partner tells you that it's going to work you say that you will consider it,that is not the best thing to do at this stage.
Its been a month since I broke up with my boyfriend and I haven't heard a word from him?
Give him some time, then try talking to him later on in a cheery, just friendly way - for now.
If he starts to be 'horrible' to you then you should try ignoring him for a bit, then maybe he will realise what hes missing out on. (:
How do you forget someone that broke your heart?
its not easy and it would depend on how much you love them and everyone takes things differently sorry to brake the news but a girls heart is like a car once its damaged its damaged its fixable but it will never be completley 100 percent in saying this its going to take time to get over it you cant force yourself you can lie to everyone else but not yourself give it time get distractions get a hobby work or a guy friend i would suggest gay lol they understand better listen to music it really helps and try helping people with there problems you forget about yours time heals all wounds and one day someone will sweep you off your feet
What if your ex boyfriend and you work together and its not working out getting back together?
Don't be awkward. Just pretend they're not there and work like you used to. If they say hi, say hi back and start up a conversation if you'd like. They are you're ex for a reason, and it's because they're not the one for you. Be your usual amazing self and don't be caught up with worrying over that person.
Look forward not back.
You can just be friends with them^^
How to tell if your husband doesn't love you?
The best way to tell if your husband loves you is if he shows you respect. He and you are allowed to get angry every once in awhile, but if it happens all the time, it's time to take stock of your situation and make a plan to address it. All marraiges go through ups and downs, but if there are patterns of behavior that have changed dramatically, you need to discuss them with him and come to some agreements, maybe even some compromise. It is also important to consider if you love him and if your behavior has changed or if there has been some trigger event to ignite these feelings for you. A loving relationship is hard work and while it is easy to judge or question another person's love for you, it is equally important that you feel you are worth being loved. If there is something he has said or done that leads you to believe he doesn't love you, stop and think about how this fits into his behavior overall. If there is something blatant or serious that has happened, you are the best judge. Listen to your gut and if it still bothers you tomorrow, prepare your thoughts and talk with him about it. If you aren't ready to discuss this with him, write down your thoughts so you can prepare to discuss your relationship in a mature way. Make sure he is well rested and approach him lovingly, not with blame or neediness. Last and most importantly, take a look at your self-esteem and find ways to bolster it so that you aren't seeking rejection or relying on your total happiness through his love for you. Know that we have all been there at one time or another in our lives and that by reaching out, even through an online service, you are taking mature responsibility for your feelings. That is a person worth being loved. Good luck.
How do you get back ex-girlfriend?
well is obvious is ur ex for a reason! that's what i keep telling myself an if its meant to be it will no matter what u do so just give it time an space an in the meantime keep having fun with ur mates an enjoy life an try to smile! is all u can do x
Why would a married man contact an ex girlfriend?
curious on how they are doing without them in their life????
It would be a rotten and under handed thing to do and the person trying to split the couple up would become the loser in the end. Forget about them and move on.
But if you really want to...You have to learn the art of sabotage. Sabotage is a great way for people to play tricks on people. Now the reason you might be doing this are...
*You want your parents to get a divorce.
*The Boy/Girl You want to go out with goes out with someone else
*You just want to do it for fun
*You want a fun way to split up with your boy/girlfriend
Now the art of sabotage is jokes and stuff like cutting holes in your t-shirt and spreading rumours. Sabotage should be fun and if you get caught you can be in well bad trouble. Try not to get detected and these are some suggestions you could use.
*Cut holes in the victim's gym kit or best top
*Spread a rumour about him/her cheating or if you go out with someone spread a rumour about him/her cheating then when you hear it again look like you feel horrified and dump them.
*Take some worms and slugs and put them down his/her back
*Take their deoderant and hairbrush or clothes and towels when they are in the school showers.
Hope these help you and happy sabotaging.
Why can't you stop loving a married man?
Usually people that seek out married people like the game of "winning over" that person and also these people are afraid of real committment. It's easy to go out with a married man because deep inside you know you'll have fun, keep the magic in your relationship (but only for so long until he grows tired of you ... and he will) then to be mature and have a relationship with someone who is single and actually work for the relationship that you want. You love this man simply because you can't have him. It's human nature. Did you honestly think this guy had any intentions of keeping his promises to you? Most married men love the thrill of another younger woman thinking he is pretty hot stuff, then the novelty wears off or the wife finds out. Having a relationship with a married man is a disaster in most cases and a very low percentage ever work out. There is always that question, "If he cheated on his wife, will he cheat on me?" The answer is, most likely! A smart woman is independent and has pride, and she knows what it would feel like to have her hubby or boyfriend cheat on her with another woman. The "other woman" usually never wins, and the poor wife is left with a jerk! Start getting out with friends and start dating single guys. It would be a good thing if you decide to concentrate on yourself and ask why you feel you need to date a married man. What is missing in your life? Why do you need a married man, and more so, why do you want this guy when it's obvious he had his fling with you and has gone back to his wife or onto another woman? All of us makes mistakes during our lives and hopefully we learn from them. Give it time, the hurt goes away. You'll meet someone new (hopefully single) and be glad you didn't settle for second best.
What does it mean when a girl breaks up with you and says she wants to get over her ex boyfriend?
* When a couple breaks up it can be difficult on either one or both and she is not ready to get into another relationship right away. That's a good thing as she won't be on the rebound if she decides she wants to go out with you in the future.
How do you announce cancelled wedding?
Canceling a wedding:
- Get in touch with the church and cancel
- Get in touch with the reception hall or wherever you are having the reception. You may well lose your deposit.
- Contact your maid of honor and bridesmaids immediately.
- Cancel the limo service if you are having one.
- Then you will have to personally telephone all guests (do not email) and tell them that the wedding has been postponed or you have decided not to get married.
What if you still think about in ex bf?
If you dream about your ex more than usual it probably means you want to be with her/him and you haven't got over your partner
How do you get your girlfriend to lose weight and not break up?
You have to decide for yourself if her weight is a problem for you in the relationship. Basically, this is one of those things that people have to learn: the other person has a right to live their life as they will; you cannot make people lose weight or any other thing that would be good for them by making it part of the deal of staying together, but you might inspire them... Amazingly, as we grow older, some of these things (weight, health issues) take a backseat to the caring, love, sex, and companionship within the relationship. The difference is, by then, we recognize their value.
ANSWER 2 - From a guy's point of view, who has been exactly where you have been:
As the previous answerer rightly said, when you grow older physical attraction takes a backseat and love is based on other things, however when you are both young looks do matter, at least for a large number of guys. Why sacrifice on the opportunity of being with a pretty girl at least during the prime of your life. Looks are anyway going to deteriorate, and character is what will remain; but there is nothing wrong in wanting BOTH good looks and good character in a girlfriend/boyfriend.
I am 31 years old and my girlfriend of 2 years had the same 'problem'. I am no longer with her, and have been an absolute jerk to her, for which I will always be sorry since she is one of the nicest people I have known. So based on my experience this is the 'right' way to get her to lose the extra pounds.
Get a joint membership for both of you at the local 24 hour fitness place ($55 - $75 for 1 month). Make sure you go regularly for workouts (5 times a week if possible) even if she doesn't initially. Never directly suggest that she is overweight, this is rude and is an absolute NO NO; but say things about YOURSELF like 'I don't like my spare tire, and have to work out'. Girls will never lose weight if you ever DIRECTLY suggest that they are overweight; not only that, if you confront them later on about this, they will say that they WOULD have lost the weight if you had not forever scarred them by saying the rude things you did (this is an easy out later on, don't give it to her.)
When you go out to eat, get yourself the healthiest meal possible (like a salad), this will make her think twice about ordering the cheesy dish she would have otherwise got. Avoid soda and junk food, and tell her about how you've given these things up completely (of course be true to yourself, and really give these up yourself, not indulge in them behind her back). If she suggests dessert, tell her to go ahead and get what she wants, but you won't partake because you are watching your waistline; there is nothing wrong in saying this if you are really following through with it.
If all this still fails, then once you are in good shape yourself, you can confront her about this in a nice way, ask her why she continues to indulge in binge eating and not working out. She will NOT have that 'easy out' of saying you were the one who pushed her to it by being mean to her etc etc., if you had played your cards right and not been a jerk by directly telling her she is fat. Then if she is not able to justify herself, you can say that it is time for you to move on to someone who appreciates you more.
Trust me guys, I have told my girlfriend that I would like her to lose weight, because I was naiive and impatient, and too frank for my own good. Tact is important always. Even if you do decide to break up with her, a better alternative will be to not make her feel that you broke up with her because she is fat; here is where tact is needed; you can just probably say that you don't have the same feelings for her as you used to etc... (the it's not you it's me routine, but more polished). She will hate YOU but not HERSELF; this is the least you can do for her if you are dumping her. I did the opposite and regret it more than anything; because now she will have self confidence issues for the rest of her life, and this was not my intention at all.
Remember that it is OK for looks to matter in a relationship, and if one person is unwilling to switch to healthy habits just because of their own selfishness or desire to be lazy, the other person is not inclined to stay in the relationship; after all anyone can lose weight, it is just about trying, it is not like going bald or being short, which you have more or less no control over. Or if one of you get into an accident which disfigures you permanently; this is not something you had the power to change, so it would be a jerk move to dump someone for this.
NOTE to guys: If in the RARE case that your girlfriend really cannot lose weight because of some hormonal imbalance (this is quite rare but possible), then it is up to you to decide if you want to be a jerk for a day and dump her for that, or endure a lifelong relationship where your heart is not completely in it, and the relationship is based on guilt and sympathy, not on true love and attraction. Or you can bite the bullet, and make the ultimate sacrifice and stick by her and tell her you think she is still beautiful; a very noble act, which few people are capable of.
NOTE to girls: Even if your man says he doesn't care what you look like, don't be absolutely sure of this, after all men are attracted to physical beauty, and this is natural. Stop wallowing in self-pity, and taking the easy way out. You have to work for your man; just as you expect him to work for you and be there for you. What is wrong in adopting a healthier lifestyle and looking great not just for him but for yourself in the bargain? If you let yourself go, be sure that your guy will be checking out other hot girls around him, and wondering what he did to end up with you, even though you may be the sweetest person. Don't fool yourself thinking that all the hot girls are 'anyway b*tch*s', because trust me, I know a lot who are not, and who are actually genuine and pleasant to be around; so it is not 'either this' or 'that' for your guy; it is practically a candy store out there for a guy who is in shape and who is reasonably smart and good natured; he will pick up a pretty girl within weeks of dumping you, and this time he will be wise to choose a girl who actually cares about working out for herself and not for him, (most likely at the gym).
What do you do if your boyfriend leaves you for his ex?
Dont Worry Because There are over fish in the sea! Hope That Helped From Supersauge
Can love grow if someone says they love you but are not in love with you?
- honestly yes love is able to grow. but DO NOT EVER SMOTHER SOMEONE WITH LOVE.if you smother someone they cant breath and no one wins in the end. love takes time its not something that happens over night or even over a week. u need to give this person room to grow and if they find that there is something in there feelings for you then congrats. however you might move on or that person will. Love is found simply, u dont get a map or compass whatever you find your gunna love it anyways.
- Bottom line: give the person space and try to move on if you find out that you still "love" this person and that they feel the same for you then id go ahead and ask
Is an ex interested if he asks about your love life?
Not necessarily - he may just be asking to be nosey and possibly get upset as most times an ex doesn't want you but they don't want anyone else to have you either. Don't entertain him with what you do - tell him it is none of his business as you do not owe him any explanation.
She must have her reasons not to come back to you. You obviously split up because of your indifferences. You both had a chance to rectify the problems and didn't make the effort and that's simply not love. Take the hint and leave the poor girl alone. She knows what she wants and doesn't want. Hopefully both of you have learned from this experience. Sometimes the people we marry, we don't often know until after marriage that the chemistry isn't quite right. Let her go and have her future and you will also find someone else and have a good life if you try in that marriage. Good luck Marcy
How do you know if your boyfriend is thinking of breaking up with you?
Heres a few sights that he might say if he wants to break up with you.
If he says"Hey can we talk about us?" (this might go both ways)
If he not answering you calls/texts act.
If he says "Were over" (srry that a no brannier)
If he picks video games over you
If he's just not talking to you
If he's picking his friends over you
If he's showing flashes of anger around you
He's picking sports phone ect, over you.
If he's cheating on you
Makes you feel bad about yourself
says i hate you
What to do when you have been dumped?
you sit there and think this person has caused me all this pain do i even want him back?
How should you get your ex boyfriend back?
Show your boyfriend that you have changed and try and make it clear that if you messed up the first time that it won't happen again. If you show him that you are a changed person and willing to put things on the line and accept the consequences for him then maybe you could get him back. Don't do anything like lying or manupilating him because once he realizes it, he may leave you for all eternity.
The truth is that there is no foolproof way. Lets assume that he wanted to break up with you without any regrets, in that case there is no way you can get him back, I wonder If you'd really want to anyway. So if all else fails, move on and try and find someone else and don't repeat the same mistakes you made earlier, don't dwell on them either.
For me, If I break up with a girl, it probably means that I want things to simmer down for a week or two, especially if I say no to other girls that ask me out. If you dumped him, then he might be mad for a while, but if he asks if you to can still be friends, wait a few days then he should be ready to go out with you again.
What should you do if you have deeper feelings toward your friend with benefits?
Tell him or her that you are in love with him/her and you guys can be more than just friends with benefits . If the feelings are not mutual then don't be ashamed and continue being friends with each other . If you can continue the FWB thing then its even better but if you think can't continue with it then please dont practice it , because you'll end up feeling that you are being used . First ask yourself that do you really want a FWB or do you want a commitment. Do not settle for something that you don't want , i mean that make sure you do not say no to yourself while you are saying yes to othrers.
