Breakups

He continues to initiate contact with you, or he continuously mentions his new relationship to you or to people he knows you talk to. Is your ex so worthwhile that you should waste time worrying about him? Stop contacting him, ignore his calls and texts and act indifferent if other people bring his name up. Don't try to find out gossip on him or whoever he's dating. He's not worth the trouble. He talks about her all the time when you are present or to a friend of yours. He writes about her in his blog and makes a huge display of the relationship, he starts writing very romantic comments on her blog or hi5 or whatever. He will try to get your attention while he is with her but may not put a huge display in front of you coz he wouldn't want you to turn around in disgust. he may do that if he wants to hurt you or taunt you, hope this helps,

First, why is that important? Why is it necessary to tell him? What purpose would it serve? What is your goal? Second, what was the nature of the breakup? Did you break it off with him, he with you, or was it mutual? Were the terms of the breakup civil and sad or nasty and angry? Unless we know that, we really can't answer.

he's DRUNK and he's only texting you hi, i think you're looking too deep into it, its probably nothing really

It's one of the most helpful and important things you can do for your friend. Just listen, nod, and let her know that you hear what she's saying and that you understand. It's so simple and yet so often we don't do it.

Find someone better.

Then take one yourself too.

if you really truly love a guy, dont give up on him. eventually they should come around and realize that you are the one they love also!

Do you love your ex? Do you miss him? Do you want a relationship with him? Why'd you two break up? He is apparently sorry for whatever he did, but it is over text. If he was actually sorry, you'd have gotten a gift or asked to dinner or coffee or something. Text messages are ways that guys use to communicate so that they don't actually have to talk. Guys are jerks and often use lame ways to try to talk to girls. If he really misses you, he will call and ask to see you.

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This is what I think. You have failed to let him know that you are serious about not wanting a relationship. I suspect you do want him back, in which case, let him know the terms. If you really don't want him, end it by telling him to stop the messages or you will get a restraining order against him.

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Ok i do love him and want him back we have had our fights over the past 6 years weve been together..but we broke up but we still had to live together due to money issues until dec.then i moved out we still talk we both still love each other an miss each other..and we talk txt everyday and see each other every now and again..but he says he don't want a relationship with anyone..but why does he keep saying i love you i miss you..and if he don't hear from me he is txting my daughter wanting to know if im ok..ive tried everything..but nothing..if i try backing away for awhile he gets hurt..its like damned if i do damned if i don't...

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Hmm... well... maybe he was very hurt by what all had happened during your breakup and he doesn't want that again. He seems like a sweet guy... maybe he thought that he hurt you when you two broke up and he doesn't ever want that again.

Tell him how you feel. Ask him if he has time to see you this week, like maybe lunch or coffee, and just tell him exactly how you feel about him and you. He still loves you, so he will talk to you.

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well we have done that but he don't budge..he tell me he wants to change his mind but all i get is idk...he is a great man and i live alone and he pays for everything still..he is a very stubborn man..part of me wants to give up but i know we both have so much love..but when is enough enough my nerves is shot..i know he want to come back but whats stopping him...i get so confused hearing i don't want a relationship but i love you i miss you..are you ok.....paying my bills giving me money an he gets jelous when i go out..help..lol

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This is turning into a discussion. Meet in the discussion area.

He may be trying to find out if he will miss you.

Depends on who broke up with who. If you broke up with him, means he is still not over you but he broke up with you then that means he is not ready for another relationship and just wants to keep contact with you because you are good friend to him.

Dreams are fake, if you're thinking about your ex it is your choice to go back to her or stay with the person you're already dating. But if your ex was just an ungrateful h*e then you stay with the person you love. It depends if your current girlfriend is nice and kind and sweet and not being a total b**ch.

whatever u do dont break up over text,email,or phone. meet him some where and tell him how u feel. Maybe u can work it out. if not tats when u tell him that u want to break up

Be honest - don't keep him hoping. It may hurt him (and he'll get over it) or it may be a relief if he is losing interest too.

remain friends

Call yourself whatever you like, but I think it is of benefit legally to refer to yourself as "a single woman" rather than "divorced" on documents of a legal nature.

• You should take a little longer to think about working at the same company your ex boyfriend is at because you are probably fooling yourself that you are over him. It is better to try and find a job in another company if possible. If you have tried extremely hard to find other work and you need to work at the same company he is at then hopefully you will be in a different department than him. If you should run into him just be pleasant; have a smile on your face and ask him how life is treating him. Keep it that way and romance in the workplace is a messy business.

Only he can truly answer this for you but he obviously has some issues with the relationship and feelings or lack there of towards you.

If are not ready you have to be straight forward and honest with her and explain to her that you don't appreciate her being the way she is. There has to be compromise in your relationship and if she is not willing and does not like what you have to say or want to wait you may not have the relationship you thought and may have to decide what is best for you and possibly move on - you may not be compatible especially if you want different things.

Its not up to any of us to tell another if they should be bothered in this circumstance. As I'm sure you know, that depends the values and beliefs that each of the partners have. Males and females are always going to think that others are attractive or sexy no matter how much they love their partners - its part of our nature. The issue becomes whether they can agree on if it is acceptable to openly display these attractions, and what it means to make such comments. I would give this advice though: if this happens and you're bothered by it, tell him how you feel, ask him what making that comment means to him, and ask him how he would feel if you did the same to a man's picture on the internet. The most important thing is to be open with each other.

hes cheating! deeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrr

it means he wants time to think so u should let him if he loves u he will come back

Hormones and how many girls are out there! =)

If he's comparing them to you, and you keep on being worse, then he doesn't like you. If he's remembering them fondly, he might leave you, and if he's putting them down he's misogynistic. That's a no-win situation, except if he's comparing them to you and you keep winning. In that case, he likes you.

No. This sounds harsh- why should you? That is when you were friends. It is a memory of the friendship that you once shared.

Tell her why you broke up with her in the first place. You probable hurt her, just tell you love her and want to be together. Send her a sweet email, or letter by mail, or drop in and visit her especially if it's a long distance relationship!