Breakups

he wants to get back with you. he misses how things were between you and him. or he just desperate and tries to see if you fall for it :P but you can tell which one he is playing on you

There is no doubt that time is all powerful and it heals all wounds. But then when in love do you really want to get way with that wound and the pain. Yes if sever all contact with that person, and better still and mutual contacts as well, it will help you in getting rid of the painful feeling, a feeling of worthlessness. It sure will. But then what will you do, if that person asks you to be a friend but doesn't commit to love. Will you still be so strong as to sever all ties with him/her. The important point, according to me, is to understand whether you want to get rid of the painful feeling or not. People will say that there are millions of people out of which you have to find the one who truly loves you. Let me ask you this. Are you willing to compromise by letting go someone you loved. Why would you have to go out to find out someone else..why not just the one you love. People will say, you deserve something better, or that future has lot better in store for you and you just need to see around. Are you REALLY looking for someone BETTER than the one you love?? You dont. Right? So what will you do..enjoy the pain dear. Its worth it. Its YOUR feeling. Learn from it. Be a little more better person than you are. Are you asking me why to become "a little more better person" when you dont get your love in the end? It is because, no matter whether you get your love or you dont, all wound does heal with time and yours will too..its the way of nature. So, if you haven't got the one you love, and in turn become "a little more better person" than who know...you can be NEXT TIME LUCKY. so cheer up...go for the one you love whole-heartedly. Even if the one you love is DESTINED to be of someone, dont believe it even for a second and you never know.......As Paulo wrote in his gem "Alchemist" ..When you truly love someone or soemthing the entire universe conspire to help you achieve that..

Show your ex that you're stronger and don't let him hurt you! You are a strong, independent, self-empowered individual who can conquer the world! Your ex is only getting satisfaction out of your pain, so reverse the power by hurdling over them and their selfish ways!

I'm in a similar situation and am taking the whole situation as a learning and growth experience, so I'll just share some of what I've learned. Everybody says to give up and move on. I've discovered that this is not the right answer, it's just the easy way out. First, you need to assess whther you love the ex enough to put in the work it's going to take to rebuild the relationship. Second, you have to honestly own what it is you did wrong to contribute to the demise of the relationship. You always contribute some negativity, it's never a one-sided thing. When you own up to your deal-breaking behaviours, you have to be willing to change. It's long, it's arduous, you'll be discouraged, but you have to be totally determined to stick it out. Keep being nice and friendly to your ex, even when he rebuffs you. Show that you still care, but don't ever say it. The two of you can sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk about what problems you both were having, and you have to demonstrate to him your changed personality. Over time the two of you can slowly rebuild the trust and rediscover the love and have a better relationship than before the breakup. It's a lot of hard work and self-sacrifice, but this is what a real relationship is. If you prefer the heady feeling of infatuation and being "in love" then the best route for you is to recover from the breakup and move on to the next relationship, like the usual advice says. Good luck and I wish you love.

ASK SOMEONE HE'S CLOSE TO BUT NOT OUT RIGHT YOU NEED TO JUST HINT IF HE'S INTERESTED IN SOMEONE AND IF HE WANTS YOU BACK I'M SURE HIS FRIENDS WILL TELL YOU .....OR IF YOU REALLY BRAVE YOU COULD JUST ASK HIM STRAIGHT OUT. ANOTHER WAY IS IF HE'S TREATING YOU LIKE HE DID WHEN YOU WERE TOGETHER (LIKE THE SAME LOOKS OR THE WAY HE SPEAKS TO YOU)

Your question has your answer. If he loves other girls and he's telling you he loves you then he is playing with all of your hearts and heads. How you get over him is realize that he is to selfish to give himself honestly and lovingly to you and you will never get the respect you deserve from him. Believe in your self and know that you are special and will find a real MAN, which this guy is not, that will treat you well.. Surround yourself with positive people that have nothing to do with this guy. Go to different places to meet people and get your self on the right track. Good luck.

• I am sure that your boyfriend has discussed how he felt when his girlfriend at the time died (or perhaps after they broke up) and it would have been very traumatic for him. He may even blame himself even though he shouldn't. If he has talked to you about his deceased ex girlfriend then your subconscious mind can sometimes hold onto that particular thought and causes the person to dream about the deceased girlfriend. It's normal. Our brains are active during sleep and a human dreams every half hour to release the tension of the day and most of the dreams we don't remember when in full REM sleep and the dreams we do remember are seconds just after you wake up and that is when you can remember dreams or nightmares.

First, you need to be real about what went wrong the first time around. If it was not something unforgiveable (abusive behavior, cheating) or unforgettable (you left for someone else) you might have some reasonable expectation of success. All you can do is to call, write and express your feelings for her and ask her to go out. If she says no, or is with someone else by now, then move on.

As soon as possible. Yesterday. Immediately. Why would you stay in abusive relationship another minute?

Immediately most of the time. If you talk to the abuser and they are willing to get help, it's up to you if you want to stay and try again, but the person has to be willing to get help and do it right away.

When you feel "dead" inside. The sooner the better though but sometimes people wait to hit rock bottom before realizing they have to leave the relationship.

You should leave the minute you are abused. My husband and I were having a verbal fight and he raised his fist and punched his hand towards my face. This really scared me so, I immediately moved out and we are separated. The moment he did that to me. I thought maybe next time it would be my face. Being that, I had experienced a physical abusive relationship in the past. I instantly flashed back to what happened. This is why left.

If you've tried to understand why he might be out of out control and impossible; (He's under a lot of stress, We all have our moments etc...) and you realize that your acceptance and understanding have been mistaken for permission to continue to disrespect and mistreat you. When he tells you that his anger and mistreatment are your fault. When you start avoiding your friends and relatives because you're so ashamed of yourself. When you find yourself making excuses for his behavior, but he won't forgive or understand you.

IMMEDIATELY - When we notice the first "Red Flag". Why would we want to take the abuse? Why would we want to waste any of our time being disrespected and treated like we aren't even human?

As soon as you noticed it was abusive, you should no longer be in that relationship. In other words, now.

When you're ready, trust your gut. This may sound insane, because the obvious answer is to get out as soon as possible; but if you're not ready to leave then you'll probably fall back into the abuser's grasp. Its happened to me. Your best bet is to start quietly separating yourself from them- disconnect your emotional state from theirs. Put away things they've given you, do anything that allows you to disassociate yourself from them so it is easier for you to leave. When you're out of the relationship, burn those things you hid. It makes things more final, and you'll be less likely to fall back on those things, or worse, your abuser for comfort.

I'd say, when you start asking questions like "how do you know when to leave an abusive relationship".

I suppose it depends on what you mean by too nice? If you mean should you be civil, kind and thoughtful of him/her I'd say it isn't possible to be too nice to your ex. If being too nice involves actions that make your current partner/spouse uncomfortable, then perhaps you need to think about what you are doing. It is also important that the other person understand that by being nice you are not trying to get back together with them, another words be clear in your actions and words about the hows,whys and limits of your new relationship as exes.

How to stop thinking about an ex best friend is really hard (I must know cause it has happened to me.) There are 3 steps to forgetting about an ex best friend. 1: First you have to just get them out of your mind. Clear your mind of them. 2: The second thing you have to do is start hanging out with some of your other friends. If you don't have any other friends you can try to make friends by talking to other people and see what you have in common. 3:The third thing is if the first two things don't work out you should ask some one of what you can do or you can try the first two things again. Remember... a real best friend is like a brother or sister that never tries to hurt you in any way.

Because you loved them for so long and it can be very hard just to break away from a before thriving relationship but if it is not what is best for you then you should end it as soon as possible.

It hurts because you probably don't want to hurt them but you know you will anyway .

maybe he just doesn't want to!!! (:(:(: btw hi how are you!

It can mean two things. 1. she is just lonely 2. she wants to hook up with you... trust me, I know. I am a girl. You can usually tell by her body language or the tone of her voice, unless she is shy, then it can be hard to tell.

It seems he is not sure what he wants but may be always keeping options open for something that he thinks may be "better" but while keeping you around as to not be alone as well as being selfish. Don't allow him to use you.

You can't. That is pretty much on you, as far as how much trust you have in him. Just remember, it is not your fault. He decided to go outside of your relationship, and if you want to continue, then I would suggest some relationship counseling, not only for him, but for you as well, to help you get through your issues with his infidelity. Good Luck to you. Trust yourself! Let yourself be vulnerable & willing to improve both of you in the whole relationship. Don't deny your emotion. Sure it's a contaminated mess...your mind. that is. Stop asking why! Let it go for awhile. If your gut still naggs ya then P.P.P. Plan protect PROOF. Ultimatly all these answers confuse you more. Ask yourself is his effort lifting our relationship higher? Is he putting me before his needs? Can he provide a emotional bond with me? Will he trust in you enough to be honest? LIES are just friends we haven't meet yet...

Don't take his words for granted, look at his actions. If he loved you so much, why is he currently dating someone else? Tell him he can get in touch with you when he's no longer in another relationship. Establish no contact with him---don't contact him and don't return any of his calls/texts/emails. Even after a bad breakup, it's easier to remember the good parts of the relationship and forget the crap that went on. Write a list of your ex's bad traits/behaviors from when you were dating him--anytime you have the urge to contact him, read that list before you do.

Like you break up if it's for different reasons too. Depending on the guy it might be better not to tell him you're leaving him for someone else, but in general being honest is the better choice. However before you do that, make VERY sure you're not just having your mind twisted by someone who won't make you happier than you are already. Find out whether you really don't love your boyfriend anymore and whether you really love the other guy. Don't take quick steps, take it slow and make sure you won't regret things you do later.

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It is simple: never, ever leave someone for someone else. Stay and finish the relationship, allow time to be on your own and then go looking. I've seen women go through this cycle over and over. Each guy turns out like the last one.

Your ex boyfriend is proably in love with you again and wanted to apologize

You should have learned from the first mistake when you cheated on him. 9 chances out of 10 the guy did the right thing and forgave you and you let him down by not respecting his kindness. Basically, you deserve what you got because you have one lousy track record. When you truly love someone you don't entertain the thought of cheating on them. Cheating can happen out of loneliness (the partner not being there that much) or, an argument that could have possibly been patched up. Sometimes the lack of commitment gets in the way.

Hopefully you'll have learned from what you've done because if you pull this off again with anyone else you're going to be one lonely person or end up with someone that uses and abuses other people as well.

I'd call him up and he may meet with you, but I have to say, if this guy was smart he'd kick your booty to the curb!

Marcy

Because he thought that he was irreplaceable

As he knows that you are no longer there , next to him he tried to find someone that reminds him of you which is sweet but offensive to that girl.

There is absolutely no other way to break up with a boyfriend, but to be honest with him. Yes, he will be hurt, but it's better to be honest than stay with him and perhaps end up cheating on him because you are unhappy which would hurt him worse.

You could be kind about it and simply tell him that you are too young, or you want to experience more in life and don't want to get into a serious relationship at this time.

There is now right or wrong time but it has been said that people who date before the first year is out have gotten in a lot of arguments with their families because of it. You should start dating when you feel you are ready to move on, and only when you are ready. It is up to you to decide.