Breakups

Female's View:

It means you should ditch him and find someone else who will respect you.

Male's View:

It means you're a lucky girl for even having a boyfriend- an honest boyfriend who loves you so much that he doesn't care that you're fat and ugly.

Well,I'm 13 and I got my first boyfriend when I was about 7 or 8..But you're parents are probably saying you're too young to have a boyfriend,right?You are kinda young but you still are old enough to have a boyfriend...When I had my first boyfriend,We were just walking around at church and then he walked upi to me and said "hi,you're pretty"and i said thanks...then we started going out..but back to you..i think if you really want a boyfriend you should be yourself...go to him at skul and find something to talk about...see what yall have in common,then you have to see what he likes in a girl and if he says stuff about how he likes a good smile,,,or if he says something that you know he's talking about you when he says it,that means he likes you,,or you could just ask him,but don't ask it out of the blue,start asking a few questions first then start going into the "do you like me?"conversation...but i think that you should at least wait a few years before dating,,but im not your boss so its not my business,,but you should live life first,,have fun,,but if you see a guy you like or a guy you know is the one for you....i say go for it..because people are gonna hurt you in life no matter who they are,,,BUT you just have to find the people worth suffering for,,,like your parents and family,,,they will always be worth suffering for,,,because they're you family,and family always sticks together,,,sorry for making this message so long,it's just that i have a 10 year old cousin and she wants a boyfriend at age ten...you remind me of her,,,and my cousin,,,we are very close so i would do anything to protect her..hahaha..but i would,,and i hope it works out with you and your crush,,,if you have any questions please message me,,,i will answer them as soon as i can..thank you and have a nice day...:)

A friend of mine who is a psychologist once told me, 'If any person that is in your life is making you feel sad more often than making you feel happy then it's time to move on.' I believe in that statement. When someone loves you they should be there for you to the best of their ability, respect you and the same goes for yourself. I noticed a change in my husband. He was lethargic, moody (when he is generally a very laid back person, and losing weight) so I decided to make a doctor's appointment for him myself and I went with him. I wanted to be sure there was nothing physically wrong with him before I lowered the boom on him. At first I thought it was his thyroid because he'd had a thyroid operations 10 years ago, but, it turned out he had what they call Celiac Disease which is a problem with wheat gluten. I am so glad I went this route or I could have made a very big mistake. I suggest you try getting your husband to a doctor first to be sure there is no physical problem with him. Men from 40 up also go through what they call 'Andropause' and use to be called 'Mid life crisis). They can have hot flashes, depression, become moody and miserable. Sort of like a woman going through menopause, but not quite as dramatic. If this is the case then your husband should have his testosterone levels checked and a good physical. The doctor may feel that your husband may need to be on short term antidepressants. If you feel the above is not the cause and he is cheating on you or he doesn't love you, then you are going to have to move on no matter how painful it is. I was married before to a man that was mentally/physically abusive and I did love him with all my heart, but he was difficult to live with and also cheated on me. It broke my heart, but I knew if I stayed he would ruin my life and I decided 'I' deserved better. I caught him cheating and I immediately filed for divorce. I kicked him out, found an apartment, got a new job, made new friends and life was wonderful. At first I just got my toes wet and went out with my girlfriends, but then I started to date. Some of the men I dated were losers, but thankfully most were nice guys, but we were more friends than anything (I still have a couple that I am friends with to this day.) I eventually was introduced to a wonderful man by one of my male friends and we've been married now for 35 years. Don't give up your life on someone that can't put their all into your marriage or is disrespecting you. If you can honestly say you gave it your best shot and nothing is working then move out and know that you are independent, strong and will meet the proper mate in the future.

A Lunatic, Nutter, crazy, looney, loony, nutcase, weirdo, bedlamit (ancient)

first off all, if your in 5th grade & have a boyfriend there is prob something wrong with that.. & if he broke up with you he doesn't want you back. & if you broke up with him then he might still likke you but you gotta tell him how you feel before he movess on(:

Well, there are two answers yes and no.

I once dated a guy who turned out to be a jerk and lied about our whole relationship.

So in depends on their actions and etc.

Teen problems huh?

We are over You can use one of these old cliches: "It's not you, it's me"; "I need some time off by myself"; "I need my own space"; "I love you but I am not in love with you"; "It's not the same anymore"; "The magic is gone"; or you can be truthful with him and tell him why you wantto break up.

1. When she asks how she looks, shrug and say "could be better." This will keep her on her toes, and girls love that. 2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of weakness. If she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really hard until she cries (this will impress her by showing her what a strong man you are). 3. Once a month, sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Girls are like dogs; they love to be roughed up. 4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If she is, say "you better be." Repeat this 4 or 5 times until morning. This will show her you care. 5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement, and every girl needs some improvement. 6. Recognize the small things, as they usually mean the most. Then when she's sleeping, steal all her small things and break them, because jewelry is for wussies and Asian ladies. 7. If you're talking to another girl, make sure she's looking. When she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words "**** you" and grab the other girl's ass. Girls love competition. 8. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning tire yard. When she starts to get upset, tell her you were just kidding and now you're really going to take her to dinner. Then drive her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something like that, lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear "...because I can." 9. Introduce her to your friends as "some chick." Women love those special nicknames. 10. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD. 11. Warm her up when she's cold...and not by giving her your jacket, because then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and say "if you don't stop bitching about the cold right now, you're going to be bitching about a black eye." The best way to get warm is with fear. 12. Take her to a party. When you get there, she'll have to go to the bathroom (they always do). Leave immediately. Come back right when the party is dying and yell at her the whole way home for ditching you all night. 13. Make her laugh. A good way to do this is if she has a small pet. Kick the pet. Guys always find stuff like that funny...why shouldn't girls? 14. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she's fast asleep, wait 10 minutes, then jump up and scream in her ear. Repeat until she goes home and you can use your arms for more important things (like basketball). 15. Spit often. I hear girls like guys that spit. 16. If you care about her, never ever tell her. This will only give her self-confidence, then you can never turn her into the object she deep down desires to be. 17. Every time you're in her house, steal one of her shoes, earrings or anything else that comes in pairs. Only take one of the pair. This way, she'll go crazy. 18. Take her out to dinner. Right when she's about to order, interrupt and say "no, she's not hungry." Make her watch you eat. Girls love a guy that speaks for her. 19. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then punch her in the face. Girls love a spontaneous guy. 20. Give her one of your t-shirts, and make sure it has your smell on it (but not a sexy cologne smell...a bad smell. You know what I'm talking about). 21. When it's raining, keep asking her if she's crying. She'll say "no, it's just the rain." Ten minutes later, turn to her and just scream at her to stop crying. Girls like a tough man. 22. Titty twisters and plenty of them. 23. If you're listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her no. This way she'll think you're mysterious. 24. Remember her birthday, but don't get her anything. Teach her that material objects arent important. The only thing that's important is that she keeps you happy, and your happiness is the greatest present she can ever get. 25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it. Then, next time you know she's coming over on a trash day, leave the trash can open and have the present visibly sticking out of the can. Girls actually don't like this one that much, but guys think it's funny

Look inside yourself. (Theorectically of course.) What comes to your mind when you think of your boyfriend's brother? Do you think, "Aw, yeah! He's totally HOT!" or do you think things like, "Awww! My boyfriend's brother is soo sweet!" Of course I am speaking in general terms. If you feel like your feelings for your bf's brother are more lust than love, then it's just best to ignore these feelings, even though they are deep. If it is love, then what kind of love is it? The rest is up to you, but think to yourself, is ditching your boyfriend for his brother worth all the heartache it will cause?

Then give him alittle space. Even if you love him you gatta let him have time of his own. In a puppy love relationship to one with marriage you always gatta get away from each other some times. Just show him how much you love him and how much he means to you. Comment to him with sweet saying and do things he enjoys doing. Show him he truly has your heart and he wont leave you. =) <3

Either A.) He's jealous, or B.) He still likes you Either way its not good, especially if you broke up with him. You need to ask him why. Some people just have a hard time letting go

"King Lear" - Shakespeare

Break-ups are losses. When there's a loss, we grieve. The five stages of loss are as follows : Denial, Anger, Depression. Blame, Acceptance. We can move through various stages and keep going back to one or two or more all at once, it depends on how we are wired. The key to over-coming grief (according to Kubler- Ross in psychiatry), is to accept but the other stages, need full completeness until this happens.

Shock and Denial

Shock is the initial reaction to loss. Shock is the person's emotional protection from being too suddenly overwhelmed by the loss. The person may not yet be willing or able to believe what his mind knows to be true. This stage normally lasts 2 - 3 months. Intense Concern

Intense concern is often shown by not being able to think of anything else. Even during daily tasks, thoughts of the loss keep coming to mind. Conversations with one at this stage always turn to the loss as well. This period may last 6 months to 1 year. Despair and Depression

Despair and depression is a long period of grief and the most painful and protracted stage for the griever. But during which the person gradually comes to terms with the reality of the loss. The process typically involves a wide range of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. Many behaviors may be irrational. Depression can include feelings of anger, guilt, sadness, and anxiety. Recovery and acceptance

The goal of grieving is not the elimination of all the pain or the memories of the loss. In this stage, one shows a new interest in daily activities and begins to function normally on a day to day basis. The goal is to reorganize one's life so that the loss is one important part of life rather than the center of one's life.

Keep safe :)

If she's your ex and you haven't been doing anything to make her think you want to get back together (or at least "hook up"), then she's probably doing it to mess with your mind.

You'll have to investigate further (if you care) to find out what form the mind-messing is taking; she may want to get back together with you, she may want The D but feel it would be unladylike to say that, she may just want you to start wanting her again so she can dump you publically to humiliate you.

Breaking up is just less specific, in that it doesn't imply who ended the relationship. Getting dumped generally means that that person still liked the other person, and that the other person did not like them and chose to end the relationship.

Of course, the real answer depends on the level of hurt, but here are some general guidelines....

1) Women need to hear that you are genuinely sorry. This doesnt mean just to say your sorry, but to express how deeply sorry you are. You may not think you are at fault or should apologize, but that doesnt matter. If you are interested in repairing your relationship, you must shove all pride aside and apologize sincerely. Show through a combination of actions and words that you mean it.

2) While in the repairing process, your woman might still express her anger towards you for whatever you did. At this point do not attempt to defend yourself or to blame her; this will only worsen matters. Simply keep the blame on you and reinforce that. Remember to put your feelings about the incident aside.

3) After you apologize and blame yourself, express how it hurts you to hurt her, and that hurting her was not your intention.

4) Go back to basics. After you clear the air, there will still be some uneasyness. Remember what made your relationship work so well in the first place, and take her back there. Remind her why she choose you in the first place. Win her heart back, and your infraction, at this point, should mean very little. Just dont do it again!!

Good Luck

You seem to assume that you can manipulate the emotions of another person. This is not possible for any length of time, and attempting to do so will generally alienate the person from you further.

The best thing that one can do is move on, rather than trying to live in the past. If you are honest and true to yourself, you will find another person who will care for you. But it is unlikely that you will be able to re-establish a relationship with someone that you have broken up with, because you are both likely to return to the state that you were in when you broke up.

spend more time with her and give her more attention. If you are not being attentive to her needs, your relationship, or are not sharing any feelings with her, being rude or demeaning her in any way these things could tend to push her away or even if your too overbearing, too needy, too controlling or just being clingy these are also reasons you could push her away. Talking with her and finding out exactly why she feels this way would be a good start.

• If a person maliciously gloats over you be calm, simply smile and say 'good for you' and then walk away. Gets them every time.

honestllly,

your cramping his styllle. and he wants to be with his friends mmore. yeah.. give him space, more than enough space but make him regret he told you that. make him "want you."

You can't and you shouldn't be trying to. Just imagine if your dad was trying to get you to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It's the same thing for him. This is his decision and his girlfriend is his business. If he is trying to bring her around you and you don't feel comfortable, let him know that you don't want to be around her. That's pretty much all you can do.

The same way you'd break up with anybody else- in person, in a respectful manner. If they bi polar most in likely they will be up with you know need to worry about break up