Cheating

A manwhore, pathetic, waste of human life, an abomination, there are allot of things you could call him

People's feelings can change. Either you are having your last romance or there will be another one after this one.

From what the Media is saying on TV, the answer is Yes, but who really knows the truth. Anyway its not for us to judge.

they are so sweet and lots of. other stuff.

You sure are a brute for punishment. This guy doesn't need space he's a flaming gypsy and a spoiled one at that! He wants to do as he wishes, with whom he wishes and acting like a spoiled brat, and, to make matters worse, you are an "enabler!" YOU allow him to get away with this behavior. Haven't you wondered how many other women he's been with and that for every person an individual sleeps with they are actually sleeping with more than 10 people per person when it comes to HIV, Herpes, etc.? This guy has more than one woman on the string, so think of this ... if he's seeing 5 different women that's at least 50% more chance that you are going to contract HIV, Herpes, or other venereal diseases. When you love someone you make a full commitment and this guy doesn't know the word. I am sorry to tell you this, but he doesn't respect you either and is using you and your place as a "flop house." This is what you do the next time he phones. Tell him to get over to your place and get his clothes. Then you take those clothes and either pack them in a box or throw them out on the front lawn! Tell him he is not to bother you again! Hon, if you don't act as if you should be treated with respect then you won't be and this guy is making a complete fool out of you. There are lots of nice guys out there, so dump this jerk and start breathing some clean air by getting out with good friends and eventually meeting a nice guy that you deserve. Good luck Marcy

It really depends on the age of the children. It is my opinion that the matter of an affair is the business of the parents, and them alone until the kids are old enough to understand certain things.

If the kids are young, I would use a metaphor.

For example: You know your favorite doll, the one you never are without? Well, pretend you made a promise to that doll to NEVER play with another doll as long as you had it. Well daddy/mommy broke the promise to his/her doll, and is very sorry.

But like I said, it's really the business of the parents. Your kids will forgive you in time. That's what it takes, time. You can't rush forgiveness, you can't make it happen. Accept responsibility and condemnation for what you did as we must do with all our mistakes and move on the best you can. Your children love you and will understand things in time.

• Cheating is low and hurtful to that individual's mate. People are just human and an individual can make a mistake of cheating and yes, there are some reasons for cheating such as loneliness in the partnership; abuse; neglect; rape or, the person is searching to be loved (in the way their mind thinks they should be loved.) If a person only cheats once; is honest about it to their partner and never cheats again then they should receive a chance as no human is 100% perfect in some area of their life. If the person who cheats does so over and over again they need psychological counseling to get to the root of the problem.
  

Not necessarily .Maybe he is insecure. Maybe he can't belive his good luck to have you. Maybe he is afraid he'll loose you. If it's bugging you, tell him to relax and reassure him.

Madame is what you call a married French woman and Madam is also the title given to a female pimp who runs a brothel.

That would really depend on how you two feel towards one another, circumstances surrounding everything, the time lapse between now and then, if your still compatible or if your both really into it. Try taking time to get to know one another again - don't try jumping into anything quickly, get reunited first.

2 things either he likes his wife better than you or hes an idiot. its simple really

It's refreshing to read that you are considering the young woman's feelings at this point in time. Thanks! It depends on the two people. It's very natural and both usually know when the time is right. Don't push it though. We usually called it "petting" in our day (he, he) and that included kissing and fondling. Today it's considered "the tongue" and making the "mad grab." Whatever, it's all the same thing. If you are truly unsure regarding this girl then just discuss it with her. Sex today is talked openingly more than in my day. Still, nature does take it's course. Don't forget that protection and don't be afraid to wait.

They clearly stop talking to the mistress because they feel the need to get closer to their wives & make up for it. Even though they shouldn't have been cheating in the first place, it's best if they don't talk to the mistress. That would be awful if the wife were to find out that they still talked.

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The big answer is right in front of you, " got caught" Did you think that the two of you can stay friends after the affair the two of you did. But let say that this married man didn't stop talking to you while he is making amends to his wife, you will become his " Friend with benefit" And if every time the two of you meet, he might think what the two of you had together. What you need to do is leave him alone, let him correct all the bad things he did to his wife. Maybe you can ask your self this, what did this woman did to me that I help his husband ruin her life?

From there on you can see the pain that you gave to his wife. You can't even say it wasn't you that started it.

He treats you this way because he knows he can. Find your self respect because he will never respect you. This is not a marriage. Take your losses, take your life back, walk away.

I am 20 years old I was in a relationship for 3 years with a guy I really loved and thought he loved me too but one day he told me he wanted a break and I was heartbroken, I then later found out he had been cheating on me the entire time from the start to the end with many different girls, one girl he even apparently secretly dated for 3 months while being with me and she confronted me about it. It was really hard to hear all this because I had so much trust in him, he was my first love and I am a really respectable girl friend but it made it easier to get over him after I found out all the stuff he had done.

It has been a year and I now started dating a new guy about 6 months ago. I told myself I could never date or trust a guy but when I met my bf now I knew he was a really great guy and we fell in love. I have been sooooooooooooooo happy with him but lately I guess we have gotten so attached and close I keep having all these negative thoughts about how hes gna hurt me and it almost feels like everyday I wait for the day hes gna break my heart.

I hatee feeeling like this because he really is a great boyfriend he makes me feel so good hes always calling or txting me throughout the day and we see each other every weekend the entire weekend, Il either stay at his house or he will stay at mine (we live an hour and 20 min awy from each other)

His friends live by me so we always see them every weekend too its usually like 2 days w just us and one day with his friends and us or the other way around so its not like he never sees his friends but I understand he needs guy time too so he does hangout w them alone as well. The problem is his friends are the definition of jerks, they would and have cheated on their girlfriends when they had them, they say stuff in front of me like how my bf shouldn't have a gf his last year of college n stuff like that and it makes me really upset. Ive also seen them txt him stuff like is ur gf coming out tonite lets get laid and he just replys back like yea she is and just changes the subject but I have also seen stuff in his phone like his friend says i wish i had a girlfriend and hes like yeaa its so much better having a girl friend. He tells me to just ignore his friends and that just bc they are his friends doesnt mean that he is like that. I do understand that but then when I am alone I replay all the things his friends have said and done n makes me scared that I am going to get hurt again. You can tell that he is more mature than them and that hes been through that stage of hooking up w random girls and now its just not fun to him and he rather have a girlfriend that he is really happy with but that they are just still in that stage n havent met the right girl yet but I still have panics whenever hes out with them that he is doing the worst things in the world n I am going to end up hurt.

I don't know what to do because in the back of my mind I know hes not my ex and he isn't really suspicious like my ex was, he lets me see his phone if i wanted to, he always calls me and tells me how much I mean to him and how hes been in love once bfore but never like this and how he knows he wants to marry me and wouldn't do anything to ruin this and loose me and everything is fine when I am with him but when Im not all i can think about is wht his friends say n how i am going to be hurt again...I don't know how to help it and I try to not talk about it with him too much bc I don't want this to ruin our relationship but I just want to stop thinking these bad things and just be happy and ignore his friends

Because he doesnt have balls and doesnt want responsibility...he wants it it easy, and easy is what he is going to get.

I don't know, but you may want to spend your energies reexamining how you got yourself into this fix. It sounds like you have gone way overboard with someone who does not deserve the risks you are taking or perhaps you have an overactive imagination. Back off from the relationship with him, resolve the issues in your marriage and get back on track to having an honest life where you live with integrity.

They usually like both girl/boy so they really don't wanna give up either of them

paranoia. You are subconsciously paranoid that every time your husband leaves the house it's to see another woman. Sometimes you even see him with a woman for work or something which makes you paranoid in you conscious mind. If your husband IS cheating on you it will be obvious. Trust me.

You should definitely tell them!!! I mean, if they truly love u they should understand! Don't freak out, just tell them the truth, and tell them u'll never do it again! God luck . . .

I agree but disagree with this advice because if u tell him he will leave and never forgive you because he is only as human as anyone else and if you truly love him you should ask for forgiveness from God and never cheat again. I know this is tough but things will eventually work out in the end. Also, are u not sure that ur man is cheating on u and if he is he ain't going to tell u trust me on this one. I repeat don't tell him and let it go. Good luck...

Never trust no one not anybody can be trusted they will tell the hole world.

I would personally say that if you feel like something is going on, then something is probably going on. I would probably out right ask my husband if i had one about the situation. I think it is best to clear the air and not hold on to an assumption that may or may not be true. Then you won't have that nagging thought in the back of your mind, plus you won't feel as stressed. But then again, you said that the wife already knows he has one. Then I would just leave the relationship. He obviously is not worth the time, because his attention is somewhere else. You can love anybody you want, but you have to be loved back for it to work. I would say the same thing if a husband knew his wife was with someone else.

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It depends on individual, but for some I think she will, to make sure the type of woman her husband desires. Some wives might also because looks also have something to do with it, the affair

Cheating is considered bad by those in relationships who feel a deep bond with a person that they do not want to share. In some people, cheating gives a much better feel than a normal relaitoinship as it is 'more exciting'. It is like Homosexual people and homophobic people, except cheating is more widely condemned. Basically humans feel the need to 'possess' a mate, and it is an instinct to not want another male to impregnate their 'mate'. This is due to an Alpha-male like gene from way back when humans were still devolping. If you do not get the concept of why it is bad, than that may suggest mild Autism, or something similar.

What if you did get pregnant. A soul is waiting to live, can you put its hopes down? If you are pious, I believe you should not for sake of the child's life and abortion. True, that you may be unprepared and the child's future will be at stake but without giving the child the future, all will be useless. Practically, if you can't take care of a living being, give it to the adoption centers where unfortunate parents are unable to have their own child. If you can do nothing more, it's up to you. But the best and unselfish action is not to abort it. Just please, try not to.