Cheating

Yes. of course!

Its a cheating. You can't do like that.

Divorce is taken when you feel uncomfortable with your partner after your marriage.!!

The marriage is not a business and its a bonder of relationship with your husband and you, you and your childern.

You can not take such hard decisions to cheat/make hurt your partner.

Of course now a days everyone feels to get divorce even if your partner makes small mistakes.

We should understand his/her feelings.

We should obey his/her good and bad things.

and we should love and care them for life long.

I don't know why you would ask that... but you would probably get a divorce ( if you have kids) get your children taken from you, become homless , become hated by everyone but you parents,becoming depressed,going emo, eventually getting an overdose of "Anti-Depressants" and passing out and waking up in the hospital, owe a large fine, and dying the day after you are let out of the hospital because you committed suicide.(Good answer huh?)

Why did you get married if it not to commit completely to this person, no matter what came? What are you even doing, having an affair? Why did you even start by flirting?

You are luckier than you realise, having someone to whom you could commit wholeheartedly in a public ceremony. People like me will never find 'that person', and never have the commitment you so readily throw away.

Count yourself lucky; and don't throw away what you already have.

It's time to sit and talk to your husband. Have a family member or a trusted friend take the children for 3 or 4 hours and shut the TV off, and keep the environment around you quiet. Tell him you aren't putting up with it and he has one choice ... smarten up, grow up or you're leaving with the children. If he refuses and still denies he's having an affair, then see a lawyer as soon as possible so you can get joint custody of your children and start divorce proceedings.

BEWARE! Unless you have actually caught him in the act, or a friend has seen him with another woman, then be careful you are not accusing him of something he hasn't done. Men can work long hours, shift-work and be extremely tired when they get home. He can show a lack of interest towards you and the children if he's bone tired. I realize raising 4 children is exhausting and it takes up much of your time, so perhaps you could sit down with him and simply ask him if he is unhappy in the marriage. Marriage and children are such a balancing act, and it's possibly time the two you made time for yourselves.

Women often make the excuse that they have children and can't afford a babysitter. I'm not buying that one. If you have girlfriends do a "trade-off!" You can take their children if they want to go out one night of a weekend, and they can take your children when you and your husband want to go out. Just because you have children doesn't mean you can't have some adult fun.

I think it's wiser to try first to save this marriage. Communicate with your husband. Children have a difficult time with divorce as I am sure you realize. To them each of you is just plain old "mom and dad" and nothing else matters. They don't understand what can happen between two adults.

If your husband refuses to work things out, then do as I suggested and seek out legal counsel and get joint custody of your children and protect yourself! You deserve the house and one vehicle and child support.

Good luckMarcy

Tks Marcy

Do you see what have my husband had replied!

Our problem is not my work or my business. The problem is about yourlow level of trust on me. Similarly, mainly because of this, I findthat I can't confide or trust you on a level that You would like.

Till a few days ago, I told you my business and my whereabouts. If youreally need to know any further, I don't mind sharing matters withyou. Till now You have kept taunting me with all other issues. Nowsuddenly, you have taken a new approach and showing sudden interest inmy business affairs. Very Interesting !!!

LET ME MAKE ONE THING VERY CLEAR, " THERE IS NOTHING ILLEGAL ORUNLAWFUL ABOUT MY BUSINESS ". However, I have to respect my clientsand maintain a high level of confidentiality. From my presentdealings, you get be well assured that there will be absolutely nocourt matters or illegal matters.

I am not a seven year old child for you to accompany me for mymeetings. It is almost as ridiculous as me asking to attend all yourCompany's meeting.

I do not wish to repeat and settle all matters for one or two weeksand then for you to show your true colours again. Perhaps, we shouldmeet on Thursday or Friday evening and sort out matters, once and forall. At this meeting, i will be very clear on what my directions wouldbe and I hope the same from You.

Please do come prepared with all your doubts and questions! because this will be a very importantmeeting in our lives!!=====

Marcy, my husband has written clearly that he did not trust me or by trusting me I might ruin his business, this is funny don't you think so...Marcy, I cannot divorce my husband because the society will laugh at me, this is my 2nd marriage. Maybe i shall separate from him for a while and stay with my mum with my children - what do u think?? I can't see my husband guiltness thru his face and trying to safe the marriage. Let him progress in this life or having an affair with his childhood friend it doesn't bother me.. the only thing is i can't see him going out late night and travel frequently and say that he has some urgent matters etc.. etc... I just do not want to see this... Pls help

he probably cares more about himself then you, honey. He probably wants to keep on with his promiscuous ways without the guilt.

He might, he might not.

Some guys are silly enough to try and get away with it whenever they can. Others are honest enough to know they screwed up and learn from their mistake.

Believing that a guy or anybody will change for you will only get you in trouble. People don't change much even when they want to.

The other spouse may not know; may know, but is saying nothing or, they just don't care and may be cheating on their spouse. No one is getting away with anything as cheating is selfish and cruel and not necessary. Instead of cheating on someone it is easy enough to break up whether going steady; engaged or married, but people who cheat never consider anyone but themselves. The winner will be the loyal person even though they are going through heartache because in the future they will their true love. Individuals can go down many paths of life (some painful) in order to find the right person to settle down with.

• If he is out looking for this girl then yes, he is interested in her. If she was just an old friend then he should have no problem having you around when he sees her. You should let him know that you aren't going to put up with his behavior. If he's unhappy in your relationship then he should be honest with you.
  

if he truly loves u

yes. he is more interested in any thing or anybody else. we have sex maybe even three to four times a year. he forgets or says that he has been meaning to have sex with me. meanwhile i am lonely and left feeling unwanted. he watches porn and says he does it so that he does not have to deal with me. i mean literally he stays on the Internet m the time he wakes up until its time for me to take our children to school. then as soon as i walk out the door to go to school or work he is back at it. how i know? well numerous times i forgot things and not even five Min's later i am back to get it. he is either sitting there in only under ware and has a towel shirt or what ever to ejaculate on or he is naked. i only lock the bottom lock and when i return both locks are lock so he can hear a key struggle. his alarm. it doesn't work. now he tries to stay out at night and tells other women that his sex life with me is no good. when i try to have sex with him he isn't interested and tells me he want to have sex with other women. my heart hurts!

• Sometimes two people that get married find they are not compatible with each other and fall out of love and if the man has an affair he may fall in love with the other woman and although cheating is not the right thing to do if he left his wife he does not love for the other woman then he made the right choice. If he still loves his wife then he has hurt her deeply by cheating with another woman and he could well have lost a wonderful and loving person over an affair. Often the other person in the affair is not all the married man thinks they are and he will be the one to pay the price.

• The 'other woman' is the mistress and she has no business seeing another woman's husband no matter what the married man says is wrong with the marriage so there is 'no other side' for the other woman. If he is so unhappy he can separate or divorce from his wife and has no excuses for cheating. Some men use the other woman for a sexual relationship and at first some men may actually feel they are in love with her, but it is generally pure physical attraction and the excitement of someone new in their life. The mistress is left thinking she is the one and only in the married man's life, but there is a very low percentage of a married man ever marrying his mistress. The mistress is generally used as an end result and hurt and left alone in the end or, used by the married man.

because they want to date other people thats why there dont want you to tell anybody that you date him

• If your husband wanted to be with his mistress instead of you he would either make excuses not to come home (working late; meeting a client, etc.) or, he'd make an excuse such as going out with his male friends so he can meet his mistress. Sometimes the mistress may phone to set up a time to meet him either on his cell or sometimes the home phone and if you pick up and no one is there you can bet it is her.

the woman should just say their gonna break up and just walk away

Sit down with him/her and tell them your inner feelings if they still flert then dump them

tell him you know and don't care.

If you will not move on, Then move out. Make a choice and get it done.

Do you trust her or do you not? That's the bottom line. If not, certainly a peek at the phone bill where the list of phone numbers that were connected to her phone is in order. A lot of guys would be pretty uneasy with this kind of behavior. And they would have pretty good reason to be. Did you have accesss to her phone before? And what kind of reason for hiding and locking her phone is saying "friends send rude messages" to her? Sounds odd. Most reasonable people would agree with that. Does the word "lame" apply here as regards her explanation? If you trust her you'll do nothing. If you opt not to do that, fasten your seat belt and make sure of your facts before saying anything. Let's review that: make sure of your facts before you say anything. Keep your fears and suspicion under control and let your head rule your actions on this one. Give your heart some time off. Stay calm and think your way through this situation. What would Joe Friday do? Good luck.

I think all of us have made fools of ourselves at least once in our lives, but I too agree that you should remain friends with her until she sees the light. Chances are she is a nice girl and just needs to have more experience in the wisdom of love. If you are both meant to be together you will be. By the way, nice of you to be very concerned about this girl. We should all be so lucky. The question is, does she KNOW he cheats on her? If yes, she's a fool and weak. Do you want that type of girl? If no, then she's in line for an eventual hurting. Are you capable of handling this when (not if) the news comes out? Certainly you don't want to be the one to break this to her, not even secretly or anonymously. Believe me, it will come back to haunt you. Probably the best thing to do is to be her friend because she's going to need good friends when the hurting comes. well as long as the boy she is dating is not a tough guy then you should tell her

Assuming you know because he confirmed it, of course you will be distrustful for a long time. He will need to earn your respect and trust, that will take time. Get marraige counceling immediately, this is the part where many couples get divorced - during the healing process. Counceling will make things smoother. Also, do not deny him sex. That is the #1 mistake after an affair. His eyes will wander if you deny him the first thing that keeps men interested and attached to their wives. The only reason to deny sex is if he has yet to get a blood test (make sure he is disease free). Then get right back to it. Even if you are upset and still angry. Going through the motions is important for healing. Keep watching him, checking up on him and keeping close tabs. He knows he screwed up and deserves it. You will find yourself easing up with time.

Oddly, I was in that situation and still a little am. I was considered the girl who had the guy friend and we used to see each other EVERY day and talked on the phone for no less than an hour a day. We dated for about a year, broke up, and remained best friends for years afterwards. We both moved away and have our separate lives, but still are the best of friends; however, the guy's new girlfriend despises me because of what her boyfriend and I used to have and also over the fact that we are still friends. She subtly tells him to cut me out from his life and it puts too much pressure and emotional turmoil in our friendship. She's coming off as a jerk who can't handle sharing her boyfriend with other girls (she's basically asking him to drop ALL friends who are girls). From my perspective and what I have been through, I would say to control your jealousy and don't put TOO much pressure on her because she might probably just see him as a good friend. I might suggest she don't see him so much and to cut down on phone time, but don't have her cut him out completely because that would make you somewhat of a jerk. If she's saying she won't talk to him anymore, it would depend on how long she has known him. If it's only a few months, then that would be possible. However, if it's a year to a few years, then her saying that isn't possible. All I can say is that you trust her.

Absolutley! cheating is cheating! wether one cheats physically or emtionally, the other person is more than likely going to end up gettig hurt... i know that if i was in your shoes i would be very upset!

• Each man is different as to how often he may think of his mistress. Some men may feel ashamed of cheating on their wife; other men are just sorry they got caught; some men will wait until things cool down with their wife and then go back to their mistress. Cheating is selfish because the husband does not care how he will hurt his wife and possibly any children they may have together. Cheating is the lowest form of hurt one human can do to an another. If a man is that unhappy in his marriage and loves the mistress then he can be a man and get a divorce and marry the mistress. The odd thing is few men ever marry their mistresses and simply use a mistress for sex.

It could mean that or that he's trying to soften the blow for admitting some other deed he shouldn't have done; however, it could also mean he just deeply admires you and wanted to show it regardless of there being an occasion. It'd be up to you to make the final judgment call.