Cheating

if she did that to you how would you feel? always think if the roles were reversed how would you feel and then go by that!

Will this married man get over it?..yes he will no doubt about it. When married men do have an affair, who they are is selfish. If he is not selfish, why would he think of crossing the path of affair, knowing that his hurting his wife and maybe his kids. There are two things that married men have selfish is one of them. Second is his needs. Do you think if this married man is getting what he wanted from his wife, he will get out of his way to find another woman's friend? But when it comes to feeling hatred, I think not because they are man. Maybe they will feel bad and he might hate himself for what he did, but that will only last a few days because he got caught.

You make the decision to end the guilt. In the long run, guilt is useless. Remorse is another side of guilt, however, remorse is the absolute conviction that you will never repeat the behavior again. Guilt is just chest-beating. Or worse, "confessing" to your partner in order to find absolution or redemption. Redemption comes from within, where your "god" lives, the God that loves you and forgives you for being imperfect. This is an inside job, one that requires you to know who you truly are. Forgiving yourself doesn't mean that you will go out and do it again, it simply means you recognize a mistake was made and you will make the necessary corrections; i.e., you will not repeat the behavior. If your relationship with your partner is not strong, and this was the reason for the affair, it is up to you to either end your relationship or work to improve it, BUT not out of guilt, which is simply your willingness to beat yourself up because you were a "bad person". If you can see the affair as a "wake up call" of some sort, you will then be able to put it in better perspective, see your part in the whole thing, and then put it behind you. Forgive yourself.

well, yeah it's the worst kind of cheating

Dump him! He's probably cheating on you! Men are all scum. Date women, you will enjoy the "pleasures" more, if you know what I mean. ;)

stop cheating on him?

- well maybe you are doing something that you are unaware of but your husband senses other things , that leads up too you cheating on him.

To not cheat. Cheating doesn't prove anything, especially not to yourself. These exams are to evaluate your progress, why not reflect on how you are doing so you can improve. In a working environment you cannot cheat... They expect you to do the work.

well apparently not.... No. Sorry. All relationships need to be based on trust. If you can not trust the person that you are with, you should not be with them. If you cant trust em ' , sure as heck cant be with em .

No- libra men cheat....period. To top it off they don't even feel bad about it.

That's probably the worse idea ever. Don't cheat on your current boyfriend, especially with your ex. First of all, your ex-boyfriend is an EX-boyfriend for a reason.. your currently boyfriend of two years will most likely be devasted. You don't want to live with that guilt.. And although things are getting "stale", there are ways to fix that. Don't cheat on him, because more often than not, you will regret it -- your boyfriend will most likely leave you, or you will FOREVER taint the relationship. If you don't want to be with your boyfriend of 2 years, break up with him first. Tell him it's just not working out anymore - but by all means, don't cheat. You leave a bad reputation for yourself, and your current boyfriend will go through trust issues long after you do this. If you want to pursue your exboyfriend, break up with the current one first. But, I hope you think this through. Remember, "You don't know what you got until you lose it". Good luck.

In that situation now...so far so good. But the fact that I even looked this subject up is reason to pause. Hmmmm...we will see what happens.

I think you are in the process of throwing up because your stomach is upset, don't you agree?

As often as they want to.

== == == == == == == == Everyone is sexually stimulated by hot girls, you don't suddenly only become attracted to ONE girl when you go out with them. Maybe you aren't providing the sexual interest he needs or maybe he just wants to look at a variety of people rather than just...one.

You can't tell me as a girl that you are no longer attracted to any other man on the planet now you have this guy, of course you are going to talk to them, but you would have no intention of cheating.

Why do you think he's cheating? if its these pictures alone then you hardly have a foot to stand on. If you ever think a guy is a cheating and you don't have evidence, but you let them know you think they are cheating, they are far far more likely to cheat on you because being accused of cheating because of a few pictures would definitely make me want to dump my girl.

If your boyfriend wants chat friends why aren't they male? That's a good question to ask him! Yes, it's a form of cheating. He's on the prowl and if you were smart you'd tell him to hit the "reality bell" and stop hanging out on the computer and collecting all those pictures. Pictures can be altered like crazy, so some of those women may not be what they appear. I've seen it happen often. I wouldn't put up with it. Tell him he hits that delete button or you're through with him! You get the respect you deserve. You did nothing wrong, and what he's doing is wrong. Feel free to kick his lazy butt off that computer chair and out the door. No at least not to me it isn't and don't worry I'm not saying that cause I'm a guy because I'm a girl! It is one thing to be attracted to the opposite sex while going with someone and both men and women admire other attractive people, but it's 'admire and no touch, no contact' and posters who suggest that collecting girls pictures off the Internet is not cheating are not facing reality. Again I will state there should be some guys mixed up in there and yes, although there is no sexual contact it is still classified as a type of cheating. Nowhere in this person's question did they state 'porn pictures' but 'chat friends.' If you are happy with your partner then why bother collecting women on the computer? There is absolutely nothing wrong belonging to a chat and talking to both sexes or even sending pictures occasionally if one wishes, but as the person said 'it's all girls and nothing else.' I doubt if a poster was a woman then they wouldn't like it anymore than he would like her collecting men's pictures. Wake up!

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Confront him with your news. If he denies it and has given you reason to trust him, leave it alone. If you don't trust him, you two need to sit down and learn about each other to find out if you really belong together. Trust is everything in a relationship... they don't work without it. My advice to you is to go out there and find yourself a real man who doesn't lie.

Love isn't all about sex as many people think. It's about your mate being your best friend, your lover and your confidant. It means respecting each other. So, it's up to you to communicate to your mate about your feelings and try to seek counseling for both of you ... at least try! If the person has no sexual drive it could be from diseases such as diabetes, heart problems (low libido) or even some medications can cause low libido, especially SSRI's for depression. Your mate should be checked for hormone deficiency. If all this is done and your mate doesn't want sex, then discuss how you feel and that you need sex and sometimes couples come to an amicable agreement about the one partner having sex with another person and both partners are OK with this, but still love each other. However, you are getting an affair mixed up with a quick roll in the sack. An affair is generally with someone you are attracted too and may even love. If it's pure sex then don't be cheap and hire a high class prostitute for your needs. ---- Figure out what the second female is doing in bed and do it yourself. ASK and DO, or it will fall apart later from resentment. If U R not willing to do new things in bed then love may not be there. Marriage without sexual compatibility is a BIG mistake.

well, in my opinion, you should be friends with him, because that's what he wants. But, if you think its just an act so he could get you back, you should still be his friend, but keep your heart protected and don't fall for his tricks. If he asks you out again, then its best if you say no because what kind of girl wants a guy who breaks a girl's trust TWICE!!. Sp i really hope you think it over and hope that you make the right choices. =)

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Not suggesting anything here, but it sounds like she's bored. Try different things to get her back in the mood, it may help and if not, take her to a doctor. You don't say your wife's age, but my wife is 58 and we still go pretty strong in the sex department.

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It is hard to justify what you are going through, but did the two of you talk, really talk like man and wife? Amazing when something goes wrong to a marriage, just like yours, things feels different right? Accept my apology but I will be blunt to what problem you think your having. I don't think something is wrong with your wife, did you even think of that? The answer to your problem is right in front of you love, she was the one who always participate. Do you ever made your wife feel so special, how about made her feel that she is worthy of everything a wife do deserve. When was the last time you approach her in bed that will make her feel amazed by you?

Do you know what is wrong to your wife? Do you know why she seems not enjoying sex with you anymore? Do you know why she act like "get over it already?" Your wife is finally got tired of being that person who "will" particifate." Love your wife finally got tired, period. So you better make things right, instead of thinking of your self only, you can start thinking how to make your wife feel good.

My advice is stop seeing him altogether. I'm sure he wishes things could continue on as they have been, but he's the only one who seems to benefit from it. Neither you nor she will ever have him all to yourselves. He is married to her. There are much better guys out there for you. You deserve to have someone just for you!

He's obviously very upset about this. This is notsomething you talk about over the phone-its an in-person conversation. He feels guilty. You need to see him face-to-face, and let him know how you feel

Long Distance relationships can be a toughy. If you know for sure that he is cheating, he is not worth the anguish and dread you feel. You need to cut him off without telling him the reason, but don't explain at all (this is the key) Then you will find out if he truly cares for you as he will repeatedly try to contact you and find out whats wrong or that you are ok.

This may sound like one of those relationship "games" but its imperative to have this premise for you to really find out his true feelings towards you.

Let him hang for a day or two before you answers his calls or msgs. Phone calls are always better for long distance as he can't recite what's he says (unless he's a Shakespeare scholar) You will know if it comes from the heart.....If he indeed has one.

If the affair is over and done with, and you and your husband have worked things out, then you just walk right on by, and don't even acknowledge her. Don't get into an argument or a fight with her, as this will not only bring you down to a lower level, but may also put your husband in the position of feeling he should defend the other woman. Yes, there are some husbands who would feel sorry for the ex mistress being 'attacked', and feel sorry for her. Do not put your husband in that position. Your anger would be completely understandable, but he made a mistake, but it's over now, and you and he have moved on. So just keep moving forward, not backward. Also, not defending the other woman sleeping with a married man, but HE is the one who took the vow to honor, love and be loyal to you. If you're still with him, then I assume that means you forgave him. If you can forgive him, you need to try to forgive her, too. It won't be easy, it will actually be one of the hardest things you've ever done. But I promise you that it will make all the difference in the world for you, and will help you in ways you can't even begin to imagine. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die. Although, if the affair is still going on, and if it were me, I wouldn't have had the problem of my husband and me running into the other woman, because I would not have been there with him if I knew he was actively involved in an affair.