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Paternity
Ask questions here pertaining to the role of a father during his child's development in the womb. Also pertains to paternity tests and possibly determining the father of the child as a result of intercourse with different men on specific dates.
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Visitation Denial Evidence-How does a father prove he's being denied access to the children?
# Take a witness along with you, preferably an off-duty police officer, deputy sheriff, or another neutral official. Have your witness stay in your vehicle, but with the window down so that he/she can hear the tone of the conversation, and with the vehicle parked in such a way as the witness can easily see you all the time.
# Take a copy of your divorce decree along with you which shows that you are supposed to see the child(ren) on that weekend, and at that time. DO NOT BE EVEN 5 MINUTES LATE.
# Take a tape recorder with you. Have it running from the time you approach the residence, and do no stop it until you leave. DO NOT have it on the "voice activated" setting as you need to show the time elapsed during your stay there. Keep it running as you leave the area.
# As you approach the residence, state the following facts into the recorder:
a) Your complete name;
b) The address you are approaching;
c) The reason you are there ("l am going to see my son/daughter/children as this is my weekend to visit with them...." etc.);
d) State who is with you and why;
e) State the time of the day and a.m. or p.m.
# As you leave, state that you are leaving and state the time and briefly what occurred which did not appear on the recorder (she/he made an obscene gesture, etc.).
# Keep a calendar of each denied visitation, and keep a written record of the number of recordings you have.
# Make sure you have a credible witness each time that you try to go see the child(ren) and DO NOT MISS A VISITATION PERIOD.
# If she/he calls the police, keep the recorder running as long as they will let you.
# Remember to use a new tape for each attempted visit, and make sure it is blank except for your attempted visits, as admitting a tape into evidence admits the whole tape, and everything on it.
# When recruiting a person to go with you, always have a back-up just in case your first choice cannot make it, but DO NOT GO ALONE. Start out early to give yourself plenty of time; you can always stop at a store near her/his house and get a soft drink to kill time. NEVER drink a beer or any other alcoholic beverage before going there.
# If your child(ren) come to the door before they can be told to go back into the house, the first thing you say to them is, "I love you and miss you." They simply come first and must know that your absence has not been their fault and that you have not wanted to stay away.
# DO NOT ARGUE with your ex regardless of how hurt you are and how mad you are or what your ex has to say. Staying calm and recording the conversation is the smart thing to do and will get her/him in the long run and make you and your child(ren) the winners.
---- "I am here to exercise my visitation . Going by our court order, I am to pick up (child[ren]'s name[s] ) at this time."
(If told that you cannot see the child, that they are sick, or that they have other plans, then use one of the following)
"I have a copy of our divorce papers which says that this is my weekend with ________________ (or "the children") and I miss them very much and want to be with them, and I know they miss me."
(If illness is claimed:) "What is wrong with ."
(Then say:) "I will take their medicine with me, and see that it is taken as ordered by the doctor."
(If you still are refused, say:) "I want to see and that I am sorry he/she is sick. Who is the doctor, so that I can talk to him/her and see how is doing?"
(If still refused, then leave with the recorder running and follow other instructions.)
(If told that "they have other plans," say:) "I can take them where they are going if you will tell me when and where."
Below are links to examples of Notice of Intent, Notice of Violation, and a Motion For Enforcement of Visitation Rights.
See Dads House for additional info and help.
How soon can a paternity test be preformed?
Paternity test can be performed with newborn baby and even it can be done on unborn babies through mother's amniotic fluid but its risky process.
How is it dono to get a paternity test while still pregnant does your insurance usually cover some?
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"Can you have a paternity test while you are pregnant?"
How do you tell the father of your baby he is the father?
Be upfront and honest. Approach him calmly and at the right time. The right time should be when you know he is calm and relaxed and in a setting you know he will be comfortable. Beyond that it's just a matter of being upfront with him and telling him everything you know.
But don't expect him to adjust to it right away...there might be a shock period, but if you are calm and understanding he should get over that quickly and hopefully you will be able to plan with him how both of you want to handle the whole thing.
How many partenity test can a mother request in AR?
I wouldn't worry so much how many in your state, just contact the Maury show and you can have as many as you want trust me there are people with full seasons dedicated to them and they are free! Contact Maury 'fo sho'
If paternity test says 99.9 percent should the child look somewhat like the father?
Genetics are a funny thing. You get half of your chromosomes from your mother and the other half from your father so you are getting your genetic traits from both parents. The child may not look like the father but he may have other traits that are not seen yet like: height, eye color, balding traits, etc.
Is it free to get a DNA test at the hospital the day you give birth if not how much does it cost?
No, and if it involves paternity, about $500. It is not a part of the standard testing. The mother can also refuse to allow an invasion of her privacy, so you may need a court order.
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Can you get a paternity test while ure pregnant?
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"Can you have a paternity test while you are pregnant?"
Do the lab call you with the result of the paternity?
It depends, like our lab gives results on people request like Mail, Post and rarely by FAX. We try to avoid giving results on phone because it is possibility that different people may ask the results. Some lab may have rigid verification system but still its not confidential and secure. Its always good to check policies of result declaration.
If you are unmarried do you need a paternity test?
Should get one in every birth as there's a 30% rate of paternity fraud
A person taking DNA for the courts can make a mistake determining paternity. Normally if there was a match, it is correct.
It could complicate things terrifically. We would give serious thought to skipping it. He doesn't sound like a guy who would be really good at child support or parenting, so...
He should still get supervised visitation with random testing. Fatherless children still fair worse, and society pays the price. see link
Can the Court order no paternal father rights?
A court can terminate parental rights but that would not necessarily terminate the parents responsibility to support the child.
When a water test is done what things are looked for?
Water testing looks for harmful chemicals, bacteria, heavy metals like lead, and naturally occurring contaminants such as radon. Water can also be tested for hardness and for flouride content.
How does someone become a family mediator?
There are no set requirements in the US to become a family mediator. You do not have to be a lawyer. The family court system in most states sets a minimum number of hours of training and experience to be listed in a family court referral system. 40 hours of training has become a default standard in the profession, but most practitioners would say it takes many more hours than that. Many advise setting up a mentor, doing co-mediation (mediation with a more advanced practitioner), and volunteering at a community mediation center to get actual case experience. A community mediation center also provides an environment where your work can be evaluated and you can be coached.
For a list of trainings, go to www.acrnet.org and click on "Find a training" on the left.
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Joint Physical Custody-How do you prepare for a custody challenge?
When sharing custody with a parent, it is important to prepare for challenges. A person needs to have back up babysitters, and a workplace that is understanding of the challenges set before them.
What do you do if the father does not want the baby?
It doesn't matter if he wants the baby or not, if you choose to get child support from him, you can get a court order saying he has to pay and how much. They will even take it out of his check before he gets it. (Sort of like taxes.) If you choose to just let him stay out of the babies life, have him sign a paper giving up all rights forever from the baby. Be sure to have a lawyer or judge do this paper so it is guaranteed legal. If you don't want to raise the baby without a father, then you have the option of adoption. There are many types of adoption. You'll have to go to an adoption lawyer or agency and find out what it best for you. If you choose to keep the baby, just know there are lots of moms who raise children without dad's; for a number of reasons. And there are also lots of dad's that raise kids without mom's for the same varying reasons. There is lots of help out there if you ever need it. You do what's right for you.
AnswerMy boyfriend didn't want the baby but since she looks just like him, he can't ignore the fact that he loves her. If the father really doesn't want the baby, it doesn't matter. I thought because my boyfriend didn't want the baby, I was going to be lonely, and I even thought of giving her up for adoption when I was pregnant. But the moment she was born, I had a dramatic change of heart. My baby brought me so much happiness. I can't imagine not having her. I don't even care about guys anymore. For the first year of her life, my daughter did not see her father because he was immature and stupid. I had so much fun with her, because she was mine and only mine. There was no guy to be bothering me or telling me how to raise her. I made all the decisions for my daughter. Now that her father wants to be in her life, I feel like, Oh man! It was better when it was just me and my daughter because I did what I had to do when I wanted to. The fact is that I am going to get child support from him and he gets a right to see her too. AnswerI am a single parent bringing up my 17 month old beautiful baby boy alone. My son's father refuses to contribute any money towards his son and has not seen him for the past couple of months, i don't know the reason why because he does not Evan have the decency to call and let me know what's going on. At first i felt like my child was going to miss out on something. However, i know I'm a strong women and i will do all i can to make sure he has everything he could need and most importantly my love.I know that one day his father will decide to come knocking on the door and when he does i can't wait to close it back in his face. My son will make up his own mind when he's old enough.
I think it's so sad that this day and age there ares till people having children and not caring for them, how can you turn your back on your own child. I have so much respect of single parents it's a tough job at times.
For all you fathers/mothers out there who don't look after your children YOUR MISSING OUT.
Keep it yourself.
