Friendship

how do u not? how do u not?

ANSWER

If you like the person and they like you it will happen cos you will both make it happen. It doesnt matter who they are friends with or their history what will be will be. And all is fair in love and war.

Wiki s contributors share their ideas:

• To be more than friends, you and the person you're interested in must both agree that you have stronger feelings for each other than just a friendship feeling. However, don't rush things. Start off as friends first and as you get to know the person more, things will unwrap themselves. If you and the individual are meant to be more than friends, it'll happen.
• It takes time, a lot of time usually. I was friends with my current girlfriend for over 2 years before we got together as a couple two months ago, and after having an established friendship we're happier than we've ever been. Just stay friends and it will happen in time.
• Make sure that you like that person and that they like you back. And make sure that the person is single and wants another boyfriend or girlfriend.
• I'd like to also add that it is important that you both feel physically attracted towards each other beyond friends. The part about making sure that the other person wants a girlfriend/boyfriend is important.

  I tried to be more than friends with a past friend of mine and she didn't want a relationship because I lived a little too far away from her house. I guess to her, a 40-minute drive was too far. It either will work or it will not. But once it does not, it will be very awkward to be friends again because of the memories.

  Some other advice is that if you two start to date, at first make it daytime dates, stuff like that, but if you both start to want to make it more serious, then go on some night time dates... a movie, or a restaurant, something like that.

• The way to become more than friends is make sure they know how you feel about them - exactly how you feel - so they can compromise. We all know being rejected is really painful and not good if you are weak. Well, it's not good for anyone, really. But you have to take the chance if you want to be more than friends. And you never know she/he might catch on and ask you out , but if not... do it yourself, take the risk. You will never know unless you try, so I'd go for it.

  Let me add this: If you ask him/her out and they say No, then it will be awkward to be friends again for a while. So just keep on the down low. And then, when the time is right, get the courage to talk to them and it will hopefully for you move on from there!! Remember... sometimes it's just not meant to be!

• Say that you have been friends with this boy or girl for more than 3 years and he or she still does not know how you feel about them. Well, you two have been friends the longest and know so much about each other, then just tell him or her how you feel. They might have feelings for you too and were afraid to say so because they felt the same way you did because you could not find a way to tell him or her. You will never know until you take the first step. And if he or she blows you off then you won't feel so bad because you will think at least I got blown off by a friend and at least they know how I feel about them than getting blowed off by somebody else because every time you walk by them you feel weird. That will save you embarrassment. You never know, he or she might be that special someone, and you don't want to see him or her with someone else and you're there thinking, Gosh, I wonder what it would have been like if I had told him or her how I felt. Just give love a try.
• Well, do you WANT to be more than friends? Ask yourself that first. If it's a yeah, then take things slowww... REAL sloww. But not THAT slow that it's too late. Remember how patience has its own reward. And if nothing works out, even if you waited for literally years, it's okay; obviously that meant that there is so much more you have coming ahead of you and you know everything happens for the good. So if nothing worked out and you waited years, it's ok, because you WILL find someone. But in friendship, you HAVE to go slow, so don't worry. Just go as slow and smooth as possible and see the outcome as you go along. It's not as easy as I say it, but it's not as hard to accomplish.
• I believe if you love this guy and you care about him a lot, then he probably feels the same way! If youu think that you want to be more than friends, i would open up to him. I would tell him all this complete stuff about me! When you tell a guy personal stuff about you, he may open back up to you. I reckon this is when he and you will find something within each other that is special!
• If you wanna become more than just friends with a girl, and you are already friends with her, just ask! I know it sounds hard, but I want my best guy friend to ask me. The girl probably likes you if she talks to you all the time, sits next to you, makes eye contact, is friends with your friends, asks you about your interests, etc. So, get out there and ask! You may be nervous, but it is probably going to be worth it.

• Conversation is always good as well!

'Jealousy' can be good or bad, depending on the situation, but is a very powerful emotion which needs to be carefully controlled.

The Hebrew word is 'qinah' meaning 'insisting on exclusive devotion, tolerating no rivalry', zeal, ardor.'

1. GOD is holy, a God of peace (Isaiah 6:3/1 Corinthians 14:33), but he is called 'Jealous' at Deuteronomy 4:24(Zechariah 1:14/Exodus 34::14), which means he expects and deserves'exclusive devotion'. He is the creator, he loves his creation and knows what is best for all. Serving HIM ALONE means our lives and he is 'jealous' for this, as a marriage mate would be rightly 'jealous' to protect their marriage. It's a righteous jealousy. He has a RIGHT to feel jealous for the devotion of his people. And he can perfectly control his actions.

2. Then there's also an UNrighteous Jealousy, concerning people who insist on devotion, or on something else that they have no legitimate right to. ...they do not deserve it. This is the type of jealousy that does harm, as can be seen by these scriptures. This would be 'ENVY'. This type of jealousy is a work of the flesh, and when in the hands of imperfect uncontrolled humans becomes 'rottenness to the bones'. (Proverbs 14:30) (Proverbs 12:4)(James 3:16)

(Proverbs 6:34) For the rage of an able-bodied man is jealousy, and he will not show compassion in the day of vengeance. . .

(Galatians 5:19-21) Now the works of the flesh are manifest, and they are fornication, uncleanness, loose conduct, idolatry, practice of spiritism, enmities, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, contentions, divisions, sects, envies, drunken bouts, revelries, and things like these. As to these things I am forewarning YOU, the same way as I did forewarn YOU, that those who practice such things will not inherit God's kingdom.

An improperly jealous person suspects others without reason or unjustifiably claims something as his, desiring or 'coveting' what others have achieved, often expressed in Greek as 'phthonos', or "envy."