Breakups

The question was directed as to what is she thinking and will she miss me? Her parents loved me being with her and her whole family. Which of course she made me get highly involved in. We broke up once before and she begged for me back. When I finally realized I couldn't be without her I came back. She then started to just call me five times a day and rarely hang out with me. I told her that after a year I wanted more and ended it. We have had no contact for a month. Any ideas? Thanks

It means they still want to be friends, but not in a relationship. They enjoy your company, but you are not compatible lovers. She's your EX. You're addicted to the chase. Let her go, or try to win her back, but don't waste your energy trying to solve mysteries that you already know the answers to. When people aren't clear with one another in romantic contexts, they are trying to turn you down easy. One thing about human love and attraction, when it's there, it's so clear that it knocks you upside the head. She's not really being compassionate, it's just easier on her own heart to try to cut you away without hurting your feelings. It comes with the territory of "good people", which she probably is a good person. Don't take her compassion personally. Read her mysterious comments as an inability to face the challenge (and it is a challenge) of setting your heart free. None of your actions (such as ignoring mixed signals) are powerful enough to stun destiny; let it go. PS: I am a girl.

Not much. These type of men want fun and the feeling that another woman actually wants and needs them and of course, sex is always at the top of the list. In ways, he's used you and he should never have started this relationship with you in the first place. He's had his fun and he's off and running. I am not trying to hurt your feelings, but it sounds like this guy hits like a mac truck and leaves the walking wounded behind him. Keep going and don't look back. Be thankful you found out now. Marcy

No contact. That's the rule. However, it does not mean that you must write off your stolen valuables. Well, not yet, anyway. 1. You, not he, must manage the distance: and always increase it.How did he get word to you about his offer to return the stolen object? Did he phone? Write? And has he already broken the rule to do so? Whatever means he has chosen to contact you, do not use the same means to respond. Instead, choose a different method--one that indicates greater distance. For example, if he phoned and left a message on your voice mail, you should not just pick up the phone and call back. Instead, relay a message to him through a third party. 2. Recruit a trusted friend as your "N buddy." Use your N buddy as an intermediary to contact the N for you and to make arrangements for the return of the stolen valuable. Good candidates: your brother; a platonic male friend; someone in a religious role; your uncle who happens to be a cop. Your N buddy should not be an attractive female, even if she is your best friend and knows karate! Nor should your N buddy be a minor. (I am assuming that you and the N were in a romantic heterosexual relationship. If that's not the case, alter the N buddy profile to suit.) 3. Don't let him in the door! The exchange should not take place in your home if there is any way to avoid it. He should never, ever "have the run of the place!" The mischief in the mind of an N is almost limitless. An example: if you let him in the door, he might ask to use the bathroom. If you let him use the bathroom, then he has access to the medicine cabinet. Who knows what he might take, or leave behind, or find out about you or other family members--just by gaining access to the bathroom? On the other hand, if he asks to use the bathroom and you refuse--how will that sound when he repeats the story, about how he came all that way just to do a good deed and you're such a mean, ungrateful person that would not even let him.... etc. etc. That's just one tiny example. By the way, your car is an extension of your home. Do not let him get into your car. 4. Do not meet him alone.There should be a witness present whenever the two of you are together in the same place. This is not about the fear of potential violence: not all abusive Ns are physically violent. It's about the poison that he will pour into your ear if you give him the slightest chance. 5. No concessions. If he tries to use the stolen valuable as a bargaining chip, be prepared to write it off. Go into this situation fully prepared to walk away without your stolen item if you must. Your sanity is worth far more. The N is a pollutant in your emotional life. Treat him as such. It's tough, it hurts like hell, but in the end it's the only answer. All the best to you! This narcissist is still in control! He never wanted what he took from you in the first place and only took it from you to punish you. He is playing mind-games with you. If you were smart let him give you that valuable item back (without any conditions attached to it .. NO CONTACT) and then split! If he won't give it back to you without conditions attached remember that there is no article important or expensive enough to remain with an abuser. Hit the bricks and leave this guy! He is likely using it as an excuse to see you/manipulate you. If you really want it back, you could ask a third party (friend or relative) to get into contact him and coordinate the return (including just having him mail it). Anyone who has been in a relationship with an N, knows how addicting it can become to re-engage in the fantasy (assuming they are in best behavior mode). Contact can be like 'one' drink is to an sober alcoholic... tough to stop. Best of wishes and wisdom... -AlwaysLearning

I've been with my 45 y.o. fiance for more than 3 years (I'm 31). About 4 months ago, he told me that he feels that he's getting nowhere. He was so frustrated and he felt that he was beginning to look old. He said he needs to be free so he could pursue his acting & singing career. I support him in his endeavors but he doesn't see it that way. He always thinks that I'm trying to pull him down. I'm a professional in the medical field. We talked about it and finally decided not to break up. Two weeks later, he was in a financial trouble. I was surprised because he had a full-time job and I was wondered where all his money was going since I cover most of the bills. He was also acting a little strange. He gets mad over little things. He would criticize or say hurting words towards me. I had a gut feeling that he might be cheating. I started going over his phone bills. Two numbers kept coming up. I asked him that night if he knew those numbers (from MY phone) because I'm changing my phone & I don't want to lose any of my contacts. His face turned white and he got defensive. I let it go that night. The next day I called the 2 numbers and it was an Indian girl. She sounded very young. I mentioned his name pretending it's a wrong number and hung up....15 minutes later my fiance called and asked me why I'm calling his friend's house. I just told him I made a mistake. I knew then that she's a girlfriend. I further researched. I found out that his friend who has a kiosk at the mall introduced my fiance to his new wife (who just turned 19). The 19 y.o. started calling him and that's when it started. They started their affair about 5 months ago. I confronted him about it after I gathered all the information but he was denying it. He said that he was just friends with this girl. About 3 weeks ago, I decided LET HIM GO because the whole thing is just too stressful. He disappears between 2 pm to 6 pm. He is constantly on the phone (like a teenager). His dishonesty really hurt me. I told him I forgive him but I'm letting him go. He told me that there was nothing between him & this 19 y.o. It was just a "phone thing"....he would never have sex with her because she's young and he is not really looking for sex just someone to talk to other than me. I was devastated!! For the past weeks, I've been trying to just stay away from him but he still calls me. He calls me in the morning like he did before. He would go to my house and just be there. He would ask me to go with him to places that we used to go to. I gave in once but it just hurt me so much to be reminded of the good old days. He even told me that the other girl is also slowly fading. He has no girlfriend now and he's totally free. He is still confusing me with his words & actions. I want to move forward from this. I don't want him back but sometimes I do.

Yes because you aren't being truthful with yourself or you wouldn't want to kiss him. You still have feelings for him. If you didn't a hug or a hello would be sufficient. 'Ex' means you are no longer going with that person so leave it lay. If you are still interested in him then get together and communicate your feelings properly (without sounding desperate) and see where it takes you.

Absolutely not.

If your boss is a relative that is totally different because they are not just your boss even though it is wrong you are family and they could be just talking personally.

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Keeping an arms distance is an old expression which means that you should stay away from someone who could end up causing you heart break.

That is a complicated question because human behavior is very difficult to figure out. After all, we are the most complex species on the planet. So complex that one popular psychologist wrote a book entitled; Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. He may, for several reasons, not want to be seen with you when his freinds, or other potential girlfriends are around. But when school is over, and those other people are gone, he finds it convenient to be with you. Most likely, he is trying to keep himself available for other relationships. Part of the dating, and mating, game is to explore the possibilities. That is what he may be doing. The best advice I can give you is to talk to him about it. If he keeps changing the subject, then maybe you should change boyfriends. I think that the fact that he is seeing you after school is a good thing. Absense makes the heart grow fonder and I bet he likes to see you walking round school with your friends and it turns him on that he can't talk to you. It is good to have space too because if you are constantly with each other you will get bored and will have nothing to talk about.

Because if you dumped them for another girl then yeah they have a right to be mad! But if they found out you were cheating on them they will be really really mad!

*Play it cool. Just ignore they should stop. Its usually not a great idea to be enemies with your ex's. I'm best friends with all my ex's. It's weird, but good.

What exactly do you dream about from the other relationship? Maybe you could try to analyze that more and figure out why its appealing to you or how your current relationship lacks it. More importantly, doesn't it seem like a red flag to you that even after being apart from the first gf for two years and then getting back together, you're still thinking about other women? My instincts tell me that either a) she isn't right for you or b) you're not entirely sure what you really want out of a relationship.

It means as long as you don't bother her, then she won't tell everyone your secerts and short comings in bed

It means you miss her and you want her back. Or it could mean that youre happy for her and wish the best. Or it could mean that youre a voyeur. Honestly, you shouldn't try to interpret a dream like that. You probably know how you feel better than the internet does.

if you get emotionally stressed very easily and new things begin to happen to your body.

I personally know Apostle Bishop "Pop" Brown, and he and Vickie Winans were married after high school. I believe they were high-school sweet-hearts. To this union, Mario Winans (Brown), was born. However, Pop and Vickie got divorced and she went on to marry, the now, Pastor Marvin Winans. Mario, probably being raised by Pastor Marvin, later on took his last name. I've met Apostle Brown, Mario Winans, and Curtis Brown.

It all depends on what kind of a guy he is, and what caused the relationship to end. If he wasn't such a great 'guy friend' or boyfriend for that matter, and he made the mistake of breaking up with you, or you ha broken up with him, he might actually be trying to get closer to you.

However, if he was a nice guy and the relationship ended due to mutual parting, then maybe he's just trying to be friendly. He may also just want to be civil with you.

Like I said, it depends on how he was as a person. It also depends on the present, and how expensive it actually was.

If he wants you to change for him, he's not worth it. He should love you for you, not how you dress.

No, he shouldn't.

break up and forget him or her and then find a new someone.

Answer: Nothing. You can't make someone love you, if they don't love you. Move on and just try to forget about them, it will always be someone better and hotter for you.

This could be because she isn't sure that you and her friends will get along. It could also be that she doesn't want to put pressure on you or her friends to spend time together. She could not want to exclude her friends by inviting you because she feels that if you're there she will neglect them, or perhaps she just isn't comfortable with that kind of social interaction. It doesn't mean necessarily that there is anything going wrong in this relationship, or that she doesn't want you to be there, there are a number of possible reasons why. If you're still unsure simply express to her that you would like to go out with her and her friends because you want to get to know them. She will probably value your honesty.

UNFORTUNATELY IT MEANS THAT HE IS NOT COMPLETELY OVER HIS EX. HE IS USING YOU & HIS EX. DUMP HIM. HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF, HE DOES NOT HAVE ANY RESPECT FOR EITHER ONE OF YOU GIRLS. MOVE ON. YOU HEARD THE OLD SAYING "THERE ARE ALOT OF FISH IN THE SEA". DONT RUSH INTO ANYTHING. LET THINGS HAPPEN NATURALLY. YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED BETTER.

He's indecisive--but since he keeps getting to be with both of you, he's getting the best of both worlds. Is it worth staying with this loser?

It means that both women are fools and should both dump the guy. He's playing two ends against the middle and always making sure he has SOMEONE to run to.

He's immature, insecure, and needs to grow up.

SEX and COMFORT...why else would he keep going back. His ex is making it too easy for him by allowing him to come back everytime you guys split up. I would seriously cut ties and move on. Why put yourself through this pain, is he really worth the trouble and heartache? How do you know he isn't seeing her when you guys are together.

Be a strong women and get rid of him.

He can't stand to be alone with himself, so he goes to his familiar ex. If both of you would refuse to see him, he'd have to live with himself without any distractions. He probably would not like that.

usually when i get back with my ex he always tells me he loves me and no one else can compare. so basically their in love with that person.

it means they never learn...

• It depends on what your ex was like. If your ex was a kind; loyal and honest person then yes, you could try to get back together, but if they were not kind; cheated; did not treat you well then consider yourself lucky and keep moving forward in your life and in time you will forget your ex.

yes it is wrong get your own boy friend and screw him

heyy im going through the same thing..it feels so wrong but you cant help it! get your mom and her boyfriend to break up and then you can screw him cuz that's what i did and it works....