Breakups

there is no easy painless way of doing this. Be honest but kind, tell her how you feel i.e that you are growing apart from her, not feeling the same as her, but don't blame her for the way you feell. Tel her that just because you feel this way doesn't mean that you don't think she is a very special person or very lovable. One thing that I would however suggest is that once you have made up your mind that you make it very clear that it is over leaving no room for her to misunderstand your intention to leave her as this leaves the door open to guilt and manipulation.. Don't contact her for a few weeks to see how she is doing however guilty or sorry you feel- she feels worse and there is nothing worse than pity when you have been dumped espeically off the dumper.

There can be many reasons i guy would go back to his ex, most of them don't involve you. First, I guy could have just broken up with his ex over something stupid and now regrets it. If you'd started going out with him pretty soon afterwards then he might not have had enough time to realize it was not over between them. Or she could have broken up with him and she was his first real love. Maybe what you two have is so new to him that he just wanted to go back to something he new.

Either way don't beat yourself up about it or wait by the phone. If it's meant to be with you two then let it go and it will happen. Just don't put your life on hold because Mr. right could be right around the corner.

Know the difference between jealousy and envy.

Narcissists are inherently jealous; they dislike when others think someone else is better than them. However, narcissists are not envious because they believe that they are better than everyone else... envy goes against everything a narcissist is.

You need to remember that you broke up with them for a reason, and if they broke up with you, you need to relieze that they caused you pain. It may be hard to get over someone, but if you put your mind to it then it'll work out. try to focus on other things and the feelings will eventually eaze away.

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Don't listen. If you've been together in a loving relationship that long, and then she wants to leave you, she never had interest. Don't allow her to "take some time off" without getting an exact reason why. If she's cheated before or if there is a HIGH chance she's unfaithful, then she only wants away to hook up with someone. Ask and find out. If she won't answer, ask her family. Find out if it's a personal problem of hers or if she's mad at you. Just don't blame yourself.

Basically this is a yucky situation. The fact that your girlfriend is bisexual is irrelevant; if she were straight and were in love with your male best friend, you'd be in the same boat.

It sounds like you are not okay with the situation. Some relationships might be negotiated to allow this kind of situation, but you are obviously not open to this situation. You simply have to tell your girlfriend that you need more of a monogamous relationship. It's okay for you two to love each other but also decide not to stay together.

If your friend has expressed interest in your girlfriend back, then your friend has betrayed you. If she has not, or doesn't know, then there is no need to raise any of these issues with her. If she has, you should tell your friend that she has betrayed you (how and why), and that you are mad. Whether you two can reconcile depends on where you go from there and how you feel.

Sometimes they may feel overwhelmed and not ready for such a commitment, there could be someone else, they could be rethinking the relationship, they could feel smothered if they are not "allowed" to do things they enjoy, issues outside the relationship but feel its getting in the way or can't offer the time they would like to it - among their own personal reasons. Whatever the case may be when they need a break this would indicate there is something going on with them or bothering them with their current situation whether it be with the relationship or not. Its best to allow them their time and space and if/when they are ready they may come back around to talk or they may not - try not to put pressure on them as there is already something.

Yes it is because they are an abusive nature. They treated you like garbage, yet in their own twisted way they did care about you. Abusers are about control and even though he may be running all over town he doesn't like the idea of another guy having you and sure hates the thought you may have become independent and found someone you actually love. He's keeping an eye on you! If this abusive ex keeps turning up in too many places and bothers you in anyway it's called "harrassment or stalking" and you can never be too careful. There isn't much you can do if he turns up at a public place, but if he phones you, turns up where you live or bothers any of your friends you can nail his butt! Be careful! NEVER underestimate an abuser or a person of a quiet nature. They may fade off into the sunset and leave you alone, but many can come back and harm you and some, will even become so enraged they can attack and kill. Still waters run deep! I suggest you change where you hang out if they are place you both use to frequent. Good luck Marcy

if the boy broke up wiff her; she wants to be friends or more than friends.

if she broke up wiff him; she wants to be friend, get backk, or make another boy jealous.

yes u can marry twice or more ex in some state u can get married once and get married again while till married with 1st wife

It really depends on exactly what you mean when you say that she's contacting you. If it hasn't been too long since you broke up, i.e. a month or so, then the case may be that she thinks that she has made a mistake and wants to get back in touch to later attempt to get you back. Or the case may be that she has genuinely moved on but wants to continue being friends. But if she is contacting you talking about your relationship and other things along those lines, the chances are she is regretting dumping you.

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Many things can tell you if a relationship is over. First thing that starts to happen, You and your partner fight more than ever. Instead of talking you fight all the time. Signs to look for in fights when your little fights turn into big ones. This can happen from time to time but if it happens alot the relationship is going down hill.

When you start thinking about being with other people. That is a big sign. When this happens you start to think about what else is out there. When things are going good you only think of your partner. Not others.

When you and your partner fight about who is the better person in the relationship. This is when your partner starts telling you that they put all the work into the relationship. If this topic comes up alot its not a good sign.

When you have alot less sex with your partner. This can be a big problem because they might be cheating on you if they stop having sex. If they stop all together it shows that they most likey are cheating on you. If your partner is cheating they will not want to cheat on their new lover.

Last sign is when you or your partner starts to treaten a break up. When a big fight happens sometimes one person will say "Well I don't want to be with you anyway" or "We are over" something like that you know what I mean. This kind of stuff always happens when it is about to end. This is when you are thinking about ending it with your partner. You just don't have the guts to go all the way threw with it. Most of the time your partner will get very upset and get you to come back to them right away. But if it happens over and over you know that things arent going so well.

These are just some of the signs that your relationship is going down hill. Keep in mind that you can pick up on the signs and try to make things better.

There are many different views on the idea of love.

However if a person is not dating you, if you don't show mutual signs of compassion, or if you have to ask-

then most likley the person doesn't love you but rather is infatuated with you. You can tell by long stares at you, showing signs that they want to talk to you or don't, perhaps they get nervous if they do try and talk with you.

If your in highschool it is most likley just puppy love, a normal part of growing up plus the hormones.

• Think of other things and other ppl instead. Try going out with your friends and new people. Try out new hobbies, whatever grabs your attention and just have fun with them.
• The quickest way would probably be to fall in love with someone else, although this can be hard to do on command. Except for that, the best advice is probably to go out and keep busy. There are no miracle cures that I know of, it takes as long as it takes, so the best one can do is keep living and not spend too much time dwelling on it.
• Get amnesia.
• Try thinking of something else or doing something else. It also helps to go out with friends and having fun.

1. He still is trying to control you and the relationship. I wouldn't give this person any more of your time. Cut it off and let him wallow alone. Also its about him and how he looks. If he cuts off contact, he looks bad but if cuts off contact but says he still wants to be friends he looks good. He really doesn't want to be friends but doesn't want you mad at him or think he is being mean if he cuts off contact. Its about their image and how they are perceived.
2. They can hold on to an old supply they can return to if needed.
3. It's because he views ex girlfriends as trophies...his collection.
4. If a narcissist insinuated being your friend...that means, can I continue to treat you like garbage whenever I choose. Realize that narcissist have to win in their screwed up heads. They are extremely satisfied when they manipulate. This validates their power and control over you.

you get over her!! She left your ass. Let it GO!!!! Don't think about her or, put stupid questions on answers.com about her. Go out let your friend buy you beer. Whatever you do don't wallow in self pitty.

and there is nothing wrong with checking out her sister, you know if she's nice. Or maybe her mum if she ain't too old

The reasons depend on whether the man is actually really cheating. If not then it's because they feel insecure about themselves and lack self confidence. If the man is cheating, then they trust their intuition. Otherwise they judge others by their past personal experiences of being cheated on.

He probably didn't do it on purpose but that doesn't make it ok. I think that you should go out with someone that doesn't fool around with other girls when your not there. Make sure whomever it may be treats you like your his queen. Good luck, and the decision is yours. You got a heart... Now use it

The girl i really loved and got away is always first in my heart. As long as I'm not in another relationship she could walk in my life anytime. And she did and were currently getting along great. We split on bad terms the first time. True love will climb the wall. You can only abuse a person's love so long and then they build a wall around them to protect themselves. Unfortunately, some people never see what's right in front of them that's the most important thing in their life until it's too late. Sorry, but this wasn't meant to work out and this guy is long gone. Marcy I would disagree, if someone doesn't love you any more then it means they never did, if this guy claimed to be in love with you it means he was just in lust, Are you really in love with him? would you still feel this way about him if he had no legs or something? I agree with Marcy. When you are madly in love with a person and they either don't feel the same and/or abusive, you build up a wall. Over time the love you had for that person goes into such a state of disrespect as you know that person would not protect your heart. Unfortunately, many people do not realise this until the person hurt has left them. ---- == "The demand to be safe in relationship inevitably breeds sorrow and fear. This seeking for security is inviting insecurity. Have you ever found security in any of your relationships? Have you? Most of us want the security of loving and being loved, but is there love when each one of us is seeking his own security, his own particular path?" for full text, see link "JK on Love" on left I found 'JK on love' a good read and there is some truth to it, but you can take any subject and break it down right and left and come up with a big fat zero which appears to prove 'there is no love.' While I agree that since man no one has been able to define love. We each must seek what we feel is love and it can be very difficult. However, people that dissect every feeling there is re love, feelings of guilt, feelings of independence, etc., are like some scientists so into the subject and so intent on finding the answer they miss the point which a 5 year old could pick up quite easily because they are innocent and have not experienced what life can throw at them and clutter up their wee minds. Because it's right before our noses and because an adult brain is so complex and so riddled with what one has experienced we don't see things as clearly and innocently as a child. Love then begins to become complex. Why? Because we feel we are adults and have all the answers. Instead of moving with the wind we're moving against it in many cases. We simply expect too much from others and when they fail to meet our standards then the love for that person can wane or, one can leave the other or the two splitup. Each individual has to learn to be a leader in some things in their life and not a follower. No one has the right to tell another they are seeking love in all the wrong ways. We love, but sometimes are not loved back and it's this very subject that we must remain strong and realize there is someone out there that is meant for us and to have the strength to keep going until we find each other in this large world. Love is not perfection! I'm 65 years old and certainly wondered myself what love is. I've been hurt by love, but popped back up like a spring board and continued on with life. I didn't dissect love, but used my common sense to know it when I saw it. Did sex rule my life? Absolutely not. That in itself is a fallacy. One never went blind without sex. I never slept around for the sake of sex, but was very selective. I was married once, it failed because I didn't get the respect from my first husband. Was I expecting too much? No! I gave respect and expected it back and when he didn't deliver and cheated on me I was very independent and moved on. Was I searching for love; trying to find out if there was such a thing ... no! I am a laid-back person and get on with the beauty and joys of this world and worked hard, helped others, stopped and smelled the flowers and was happy. I learned that not everyone is as strong as myself and that they need help and may be down on their luck and by helping them in any way I can (volunteering or just a friend) it fills my heart with joy and yes, love for that person. When I give I give without strings attached. I was introduced to my second husband and I would be lying if I didn't admit that we were both attracted to each other, but I felt as if I'd known this man all my life. We dated and took things slow and easy getting to know each other's spirit. We laughed, had fun, shared our friends, discussed life in general and became each others best friend first! Of course sex is sharing the soul of each other and we took it seriously, but we never allowed sex to rule us and we have been there for each other for over 40 years (married to each other for 35 of those years.) Now here is the kicker. My husband is fighting for his life due to illness. We've stood strong together no matter what and both of us are fearless when it comes to each other. There is nothing on this earth that could stop us from protecting each other and our whole being goes into it. We look at each other during bad times and say to each, 'Babe, this is going to be a tough one, but we're not sputtering our way through it, we're going to go down in flames and they'll know WE existed.' When he's down and can't fight you bet I'm there and it's not fear of insecurity (again I'm very independent and have a good life ... not wealthy, but middle-class, fairly healthy, am a Christian and a believer of that faith because I've experienced the miracles of that faith) and when I'm down my husband is there to fight for me. It's a wonderful feeling although it sometimes can be exhausting. There is no secret, it's a matter of knowing some battles you will win and some you won't and if it's your time to leave this earth then the quality of time with your partner or loved one is of the most importance and when they are gone it's the good memories they leave in your heart and the strength you have built with each other goes on in yourself. I believe every person you allow into your life leaves an 'imprint' and we can take what we have learned from that person and become stronger. After the person passes away we can eventually smile at the very thought of them and know that they were part of what you are today. You smile at the world and proceed on with your life never forgetting your one and only true love. There is nothing either of us are afraid of and we are realists and know that our lives can't go on together forever. We face it, embrace it and enjoy each other while we can. Is our marriage perfect? Heck no and I wouldn't want it to be. We have our arguments, but have learned to respect each other enough to walk away to cool off and then sit down and discuss it like two human beings and take a little of each other's opinions and resolve the problem the best we can. We have much laughter in our marriage and we hug, kiss each other when times are down. Sometimes we just lay down on the rug with that huge TV cushion and cuddle and that's the best comfort knowing you have found someone that you respect, who respects you back and both are willing to fight anything in this world that tries to divide your souls. I've found it, but it takes work. I believe in love, but not the panting, excited type of love through sex we experience in youth. That's a small part of loving someone. Love IS like a flower that you nurture and watch it grow from a bud to full bloom and smell it's perfume, but, what lingers is the perfume surrounding the two that are in love and you can smell it, see it, feel it and through that you pass on that scent to other and it DOES make a difference and I'm here to say it's so.

He is likely just looking at you as he likes what he sees or it could be just concidence and he seems like he is looking at you but just looking in your direction.

Well you have no choice but to give him a break. Now it depends on why or how long you have been together but it probably means he doesnt want to be with you or he wants to do other "things". At least he took a break and didnt cheat. I would recommend not hooking up with anyone in case you get back together you don't want to have that in your mind. But if you fight him on this then he will run farther away because if he needs space then smothering him wont help. My boyfriend said he wanted to be single for away so he didnt have to answere to me. Then he slept around and when he was done wanted me back. Dont let him do this, but just be strong and independent during the break and that could make him realize he wants you.

If your man needs a break, give it to him. Sometimes men need time to themselves to do their own thing. Just like you do, even if you don't realize it. Chances are he wanted this break because you two spent too much time together and he just wants some time to figure out what he wants to do. Be careful, I lost someone I loved very much because I didn't give him his space.

I wouldn't use that for a divorce reason etc...but I would seperately sue my husband in a heartbeat... Extremely cruel and warped behaviors..that have had horrible results....and caused extreme emotional damages... These pukes have got to own up to this sick warped crap...and sueing is darn good idea....in My Opinion!