Breakups

sorry trying to be inspirational
There are many, many different people providing answers. Some of us are kind and gentle, while others of us think that what a lot of you really need is a good swift kick in the pants and that a stupid question deserves a stupid answer. Also, since ANYONE can answer a question, you can't discount the fact that a lot of people are basically jerks, and that the opportunity to be a jerk semi-anonymously is very tempting to many.

If the questions in ... er ... question were in the "Teen Dating" category, then honestly the answer to the vast majority of them can be boiled down to "You know, rather than grasping at straws and hoping for some sort of magical way to make your crush fall in love with you, why don't you try something really crazy like, oh, maybe talking to the person the question was about?" Which is, admittedly, "hard," but almost infinitely more likely to actually produce useful results than other options. Even if the response is "I would rather date an ourangutan with loathesome diseases," hey, at least you get closure instead of wasting years of your life on something that's never going to happen anyway.

Just be yourself and talk - maybe even open with a joke or a little sarcasm. Remember either way he is your husband and you are/were married to him in which at some point you could converse. Be cordial and try to relax - I realize that may be easier said then done but you still are one another just seperated. Try to avoid personal questions or offer personal information as it could become uncomfortable.

Breaking up is never easy, especially when you're the one breaking up with someone who is probably going to be very hurt. But you have to remember that you aren't breaking up with him with the intention of hurting him. You're doing it for a reason and you have to look after yourself (and it may be good for him, too). Keep this in mind if he starts getting emotional, crying or hanging on desperately. Stand firm, because if you don't, you'll continue going around and around in circles with this guy until finally you just can't take it anymore and you'll end up hurting him even worse than it would today. Better to break the ties sooner rather than later. Good luck, girl.

He may just be confused on what we wants or may not truly know. Another scenario may be that he would prefer to break it off and does not want to break your heart, yes I know some guys do have feelings believe it or not. Sorry I couldn't help more.

Answer2: The answers to why many guys do this vary, but please know that your guy is NOT committed to the relationship. It's time for you to MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

Liking a guy that doesnt want a relationship no more,I would have to say he doesnt see you the same way you see him in that case i would have to say find another man or wait for him to realize you are the one for him which of course may never happen. This sort of thing can happen to most of us so don't think you are singled out and the only girl in town that has been rejected. No one likes rejection, but being rejected is a good lesson in like because in the future you are going to have to learn that not everyone is going to like you and you're not going to like everyone you meet. Start going out with girlfriends and dating again. If there is anything there and he sees you dating he may change his mind, but if not, move on and you will meet someone you care about.

• Why people change sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worst is that life is a circle and we learn from every year of our lives that goes by and some people take a good path in life while others choose the wrong path. As each individual experiences life it depends what happens in their life as some people seem to have it fairly easy in life while others may have had tragedies or heartbreak in their lives. Individuals are the product of their environment in which they grew up and if they were nurtured properly by their parents then they often are giving and loving people throughout life, but, if the parents just didn't care enough to give the quality of time to their children; perhaps were verbally or physically abusive to that individual child then that child bares the mark of psychological difficulties. If someone you know is not nice to you it could mean that person is either angry at themselves or angry at society and their heart hurts and a wise individual would look past what that particular person said and try to find the good in them. Some best friends are made from this sort of action. We live in a robotic world and a 'me' generation and there are many lonely people out there, but thankfully many wonderful people as well. Individuals change because they have no alternative and it's called 'growing up and maturing' but it doesn't mean one has to be all serious and they still can have some fun. So, if you know someone that is grumpy or not too nice to you then reach past what they seem to be and if the person is worth it then try talking to them so you can better understand them .. you may be surprised. Life can certainly be difficult for many; but it's one rush of a joy ride!
  

a poser, a wannabe

• Ex means the relationship is over and he may have moved on in his life and started dating again. As much as it has left you heartbroken the reality is that you should start going out with friends; get back out in the social world and start dating again yourself. If the two of you are meant to be together then you will be and if he does not come back he was not the right person that should be in your life, but if you start getting back out in the dating circuit again you will have a far better chance of meeting that special person that should be in your life.

• If a man truly loves a woman then excuses are not needed. However, both partners should be mature enough to give each other space to be with their own friends or do things on their own or the relationship will wither. In your case it is important to learn to communicate with whomever you are with and let them know you are not the type of woman to be taken for granted. If you are getting excuses and the next time he gets in touch with you then you give him an excuse right back.

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You are close to your ex and feel comfortable with him, so why not talk to him about your new love interest? And after all he is your ex, and everybody has to move on eventually.

It just depends on how the other person acted around you when you two were together. If the person tried to not talk to you in person that mean he or she didn't even like you but if they did it means they did like you.

* Some women of all ages seem to be drawn to the 'bad boy' type and perhaps it's because they feel they are that special woman to tame him or, she wants him because she can't have him. While bad boy types are intriguing to some women it's best to stay away from them because generally they are either mean to the bone or fearful of commitment. It's a waste of energy and life. If you don't have respect for yourself then don't expect others too and the old saying 'if you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas.' Society will judge you by who you hang around with.

Totally ignore the ex. It's that simple. Eventually he will become bored with no response from you and learn to find someone else to pick on. As stated below, don't talk about your ex at all....GOOD OR BAD. Don't even mention his name to anyone/ever. TOTALLY IGNORE HIS EXISTANCE. It's the only way to ensure that he will leave you alone. Also, it the ex continues to be mean to your son, there is nothing you can do about it. It is what it is. Love you son and be his soft place to fall. ANSWER: don't let what your ex is saying about you. your son is grown now he has to make the decision on what to do with his dad. don't tell him to stay away from him. if you keep on loving your son and he will know who is right or not. your ex got a hate toward you and wants others on his side. don't talk bad about your ex.

Yes it's fairly common. When we love someone with all our heart and they have either disappointed us, dumped us, or cheated on us, then it hurts the heart deeply and it's a grieving process one goes through. It will take time to get over the hurt, but eventually the hurt will subside, anger will set in a little and then you will be well on your way to getting back out into society and start dating again. I truly believe we go through some bad times with certain people in our lives so we know when the right person comes along. When we experience ex boyfriends (or girlfriends) that have hurt us deeply we are actually learning what signs to look for in future relationships, what we need in our lives to help make us the best we can be, and if lucky we end up with someone that loves us as much as we love them. Good luck Marcy

Why do you want him back if he got another girl pregnant as her boyfriend? Are you ready to be a mother? =Answer= Either this young man is a true rarity and ready to take on the responsibility of his child, or he's putting you on. If he truly didn't care for his ex then he could be there for her (still be going with you) and take the responsibility of being part of his child's life and paying child support. I like to think your ex boyfriend is one of the rare people that really does care about his unborn child. It's true that a large percentage of young men would head for the hills if they found out they were going to be a father, but there are some young men that truly do care. When a couple is having a baby there is that bond there and it only grows stronger once that child is born. I know this hurts your heart, but he's made his decision and it's best to move on. Don't consider this a slap in your face, but try to think of it as you are proud of him for taking on this responsibility. Put yourself in his ex girlfriend's shoes. I have learned that life is full of curves and rough roads, but at the end of each path there is a light and so, perhaps further on in your future you may meet up with this young man again. If not, I know you will find someone else you truly love. Most of us did.

the answer is take her on the same date where you realised you loved her. be that the first date or the 20th, repeat the night perfectly and she will remember all the feelings she felt that night.....

It's obvious he doesn't want to make anything out of your relationship and is lethargic enough where he doesn't want to deal with the problems you have with each other and has given up. Usually when someone makes the statement "I don't care what you do anymore" they are exasperated and fed-up, so something more is going on in your relationship than you are telling us. You have two choices. Sit down and resolve your problems or, leave. The ball is in your court and I highly suggest you are more honest with your own feelings.

• It appears you are playing games with your ex girlfriend and trying your hardest to make her jealous. Did it occur to you that she really is not that jealous, but perhaps just hurt that you would rub her nose in it. Think about that! If you love your ex then stop playing games and see if the two of you can get back together. If you no longer have any feelings for her then never mind what she thinks one way or the other and do not go out of your way to make her jealous.

  shes crazy run while you can.

• if she catches you shell superglue your testicles to the inside o your legg

• Your relationship with your ex boyfriend lacked good communication skills. Communication is far more important than sex and the two of you should be able to sit down and express your feelings to each other. If your ex boyfriend is not contacting you then you should leave him alone and leave him in peace. He has his reasons for not contacting you and he may still care for you or, he may be having some difficult problems at the present time. Once and for all meet with your ex and discuss your break up and whatever he decides is best then you should respect that and leave him alone.
  

yes , definitly he is a gay boy...