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Cheating
This category contains all questions regarding cheating and everything it entails, whether it is emotional or having physical relations with someone other than your significant other.
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Yes; since this may lead to abuse, domestic violence and a lot more dangerous things that you don't want to deal with.
I'm going to be honest here, but I think that you were in the wrong. You cheated on your Husband, which is always something to be ashamed of.
Since the man that you're having an affair with is starting to get more possessive; I would recommend telling your husband, if it gets worse call the police.
Good luck
You should not of been having an affair in the first place. If you really loved your spouses you would not have begun the affair, nor would you feel the need to get over one.
What does it mean when all a person wants to do is sleep?
because all the kids are sick and tires of school.
What can be done about your wife being involved in fraternizing?
I am thinking you are the person that left another post regarding the Navy and what could happen if a female and male crew member were found having a relationship. I answered that post. It's unacceptable! When women started to join the forces and other male dominated sectors in the world, there are tough rules of fraternizing with the opposite sex. If they hold a position of an officer they could lose that, and for sure one or both would be transferred somewhere else. You didn't mention if you were in the Navy as well? Doesn't matter. Next time you get to see your wife you let her know that you know what is going on and you won't put up with it. If you aren't in the Navy and can't keep an eye on things give her an ultimatum .... she either is honest with you and you part your ways, or you'll report them! Also mention that you aren't the kind of guy to sit around waiting for her to decide who she wants in her life and you aren't giving her anymore chances. Tell her that you want a life as well and if she doesn't smarten up you are filing for divorce so you can be free to pursue your future with another woman. What she is doing to you isn't right and she is disrespecting you. When we get married we take vows and she's breaking those vows. Cheating is a chicken way to handle problems in a marriage. We have the choice of talking to our partners and getting through the problems or divorcing so there is no need to cheat. People that cheat want their cake and eat it too. Don't be a statistic. Good luck Marcy You didn't mention what "fraternizing" really means in your case. If you wife is just a flirt and looks, but doesn't touch then there is no harm done. As long as she leaves with you then it should be OK. If it still bothers you then have a talk with her and tell her you aren't going to put up with it (and mean it.) Many women love to feel attractive to other men (just as men feel the same way about women thinking they are attractive) and as long as it doesn't get out of hand then there is nothing wrong with it and you should be proud of the fact men find her attractive and she's your wife. Often women going into perimenopause to menopause can have hormone frenzies all over the place and they can feel as if they are losing their looks and need to prove to themselves that they still have it. By the way, it's not a midlife crisis that a man goes through, but an actual male menopause and often men will stray during this time of their lives. If I didn't hit the target on your problem, please answer my post with a little more information and I'll be glad to help. Good luck Marcy =wife and another crew man on board the same navy ship kind of fraternizing. and i know its more then attraction. she's been seeing him outside of work
What are signs of a guilty in a conscious relationship?
well the signs of guilty in a conscious relationship. is jalousie or acting mysterious constantly mad about any thing distance from u...
it may mean that even though he left you he wants to stay on friendly terms. It may also mean that he's using you for his own gratification either way just tell him your'e not interested and move on. explain to him that you loved him once but he broke your heart and even though you've forgiven him you want to move on with your life.
What does public administration mean to you?
To provide better administration to public. The government servants are called public servanct. We are public, and hence all the government servants starting from peon to IAS Officers are our servant. Even except president of India, all other administrative head as also public servant as they draw public money from Consolidate Fund of India.
Lying and cheating can sometimes be helpful?
Of course it is helpful. Why would anyone do it if it weren't helpful? Yes, it's dishonest. Yes, it can get you in a lot of trouble. But there are certainly advantages to lying and cheatin. If there weren't, no one would do it.
If you truly belive that he or she or it is really cheating, you aren't being unreasonable at all. You deserve the best relationship you can get and if some butt of a person is ruining that for you, you dump them like yesterdays trash.
Is infidelity worse than stealing?
Not exactly. All Sin is Sin but the Bible does say: Don't cause someone else to stumble (sin); so if you cause your spouse to sin as well, then that would make it be far worse. Looking at it this way, it is far worse. You should not do either.
Bible quote that cause someone else to sin: Wow unto you!
Which percentage of married man do musterbate in congujal life?
I can't give an actual percentage number, but I am sure that a great many married men masturbate sometimes. Some might do it only when the husband and wife are in different places for a whle. Others might do it because he has sexual urges more often than she does. Some might occasionally just want the "quick fix" rather than go through the motions of trying to get her interested.
Why you love that men who cheated you?
Love is the most powerful emotion, which is why it leads people to do both great & terrible things. No one who genuinely loves somebody else stops loving that person at the blink of an eye-even when his or her heart is broken. Loving somebody doesn't cease in a day's time.
Are you cheating if you stop saying i love you?
No
ANSWER:
It depends, but in a way it's normal to someone not to say the words I love you.
Most men are the one that have a hard time saying the words love. Don't feel bad because the man I married hardly say to me the words love.
Can a woman sense who the person her husband is sleeping with if she someone that she knows?
- Yes, it is sometimes possible to have a feeling as to who your husband is sleeping with, but dangerous to guess and more important to prove. To prove it you could take a friend with you and follow your husband; hire a detective if you can afford it and make sure your women's sense of intuition is really true.
How do i find out if she is lying?
Take her to bed, if she likes it too much, she's lying!
ANSWER:
Next time the two of you talk, go and hug her, then ask her something that you been wanting to know from her, if her heart beat a little faster, that's when you will know she lied
Can you still be in love with your spouse if you committed adultery with your ex?
You tell us..do u still love him? i however don't think so..if u did u would have controlled yourself and acted like an adult. By cheating on him you proved that you have zero respect for him and that your either still in love with your ex (if that) or u want to have 2 much fun to be married to one man and be devoted
You might love your husband, but you don't respect him. Concern for the other person's happiness and well beign is an important element of love. How would you feel if your husband cheated on you?
What are the reasons that you decided to have an affair with an ex? You must have some dissatisfaction in your marriage.
Yes you can. There is different degrees of love. Obviously you are not getting all you need from your spouse. I understand completely why you turned to your ex. I too have done the same thing. Infact, I have been doing this for 2 years now.
I love my husband. He is the father of my children, a great provider, and so on. He is a great lover and so fort, but he lacks when it comes to being there emotionally for me. I get this from my ex.
My ex, I can talk to him about anything and everything. He can make me laugh like no one else. I can tell him my secrets, my dreams and my desires, and he wont make me feel bad. And we can make love like there is no tomorrow. He has a wife and kids, and I have a husband and kids. Neither one of us want to hurt anyone, so we continue this, hurting ourselves.
I love my ex and I love my husband. I get something from each one of them that I dont get from the other. I know this is wrong, but I dont want to hurt anyone for my own happiness. I know that doesnt make sense, but we plan on no one finding out. We dont want to hurt others.
Good luck
Look if you have to ask and you also committed adultery, I highly doubt it. What kind of love does that. We are all human and have wants and needs. If you need to be with your ex you should have not only had respect for yourself but for your spouse to tell them before the deed was done. If your relationship had been strong you would not strayed in the first place. Humans are creatures of habit and we form attachments to things in our life whether it be a person or an object and sometimes it is hard to leave things behind. Still there is no good excuse or reason for betraying the spouse and an heart felt apology is in order and you need to ask their feelings on how they want to proceed with the relationship and swallow what you created. This happens all the time, your not a horrible person just one that made a very poor decision. Life is too short to waste on the what if's and the we should have, make a clear path for yourself and stick to it, I promise there will be less strife in your life. Good luck.
I totally agree with the last poster. This man is immature and he's continuing to cheat so therapy isn't about to help him. Life is too precious to lose on second and third chances! Marcy You were gracious enough to forgive him the first time (which I believe in) and tried to make a go of your marriage, but this time is unforgivable! He's got the "Peter Pan Syndrome" (he doesn't want to grow up) and he's acting like a love-sick child. He hasn't got the guts to be a man and just come out and ask you for a divorce so he's acting like a love-sick child and whining to you about this woman. From approximately 40 up, men go through "andropause" (similar to menopause for women) and some men feel they have failed themselves miserably and have this deep need to see if they can attract someone else's attention besides their wives. Your husband can't make himself be the one to walk away from you and he wants YOUR permission to do so, so he won't feel so guilty. Don't give him permission, but get him out of there! It's time you kicked this guy to the curb and you be sure that you get your fair share of everything! Also, see if you can get the house (if you live in a house) because there is no reason you should be hiking all over town looking for another place to live. As much as it hurts your heart let him go live with this woman. Trust me, "the head of the snake always turns around and bites you in the butt." Until he decides to grow up he'll never have a good relationship with anyone. My first husband was not only cheating on me (had a mistress) but he also became mentally abusive and later became physically abusive. It took me 3 1/2 years to finally see he would never change and I kicked him to the curb and moved on. I do know how it feels to be so-called "replaced" by another woman, and I was partially blaming myself for our split-up (but later told by many it was not my fault) and I was also lonely for a few months, but when I got all that past me it felt so good to be free, to have a chance to know who I was and just how strong I was and I didn't need my ex in my life. I had good family and friends, a good job and I had a blast. I eventually met and married a wonderful man and we've been married for 34 years. Pack his things and get him out that door! If he wants her, let her have him and with all the problems that go along with him. I will warn you ... be prepared in a few months that he'll be knocking at your door begging you to take him back. Don't do it! Good luck hon Marcy First off, get a good idea of your financial situation in case of a separation or a divorce. If you can, privately discuss what you can expect with an attorney. Get an idea of what your income would be on your own, what living arrangements you would have. As far as your marriage, you're going to have to make the decision whether you want to stay with your husband or not. If you decide to stay married, he needs to agree to marital counseling and ending all contact with this woman. However, the probability is high he will continue to have affairs and may possibly decide to end your marriage sometime in the future. Be realistic and prepared for your own future. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- And the reason you accept this and stay with him is??????? Y-THINK-Y
What do you do when he's cheating on me?
You Tell Him Your Breaking Up With Him If You Really Loved Him He Would Respect That But I Guess He Really Doesn't Care So Tell Him Its Over Cause it Should Be Over If He's Cheating On You And Really Get Some Payback
If you have to sleep with this man, a thousand answers from others will not stop you from doing it. You need to ask yourself THIS question - "A man who doesn't love his wife (who gave birth to his children, and with whom he took vows on the altar) would he love me, after sleeping with me behind closed doors"?
AnswerMaybe he wants to get the people that he cares about the most, opinion, of whether they approve of you or not. He obviously has no respect for his wife, if he is willing to involve his children and friends in his dating outside the marriage. I would think long and hard about your involvement with this man. Could it be that he is just giving you a line to get you into bed by giving you false hope that he wants others to know of you. I would make sure that he follows through on his word first before having anything sexual happen. Have respect for yourself and for your husband, enough not to break your marriage vows, for a bunch of words. Do you know for sure that he has spoken to his children about you?Have you spoken to his kids, in person? Have you met any of his friends yet. Alot of married men make promises they have no intention of keeping for lack of decency and for sexual desires. Be a smart girl and don't have sex with this guy until both of you divorce your spouses, then you will see how long he waits around for you. Dont let him pressure you into it either, if he is willing to do this to his current wife, what makes you think you will be any different, in a relationship with him. He doesnt sound like a man, he sounds like a rat.......I think they do this because it works, at least for the short term.
