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Cheating
This category contains all questions regarding cheating and everything it entails, whether it is emotional or having physical relations with someone other than your significant other.
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Is forgiving infidelity possible and forgetting impossible?
I know several couples that have gone through this experience, Infidelity if it happens and it happens far more often then you think, should be accepted as a fact of life and simply stored away in the back of the mind as is done with everything we do and see. Forgiving if that is the term required depends on the individual. After all if the partner does not pick up an STD there is really no practical difference to the aggrieved party.
- My condolences on the death of your partner. You only think they were having an affair and not sure if they were. As hard as it is for you forgive and in the scheme of things it is truly not worth using up extra energy to stop the ex girlfriend from attending the funeral because you will be far too busy with guests that attend. If you are sure they had an affair then yes, you can ban the ex girlfriend from attending by letting two of your best friends stand by the church door and tell her it has been requested by you that she does not attend.
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What percent of people are in more than one relationship?
* About 25% to 30%. * There are no true statistics because people who are in other relationships (considered cheating) are trying to hide the fact, not advertise it.
* 'Afternoon Affair' is just what it says. The people generally meet during the afternoon instead of the evening to continue with their affair. This can often happen in particularly the working class. It is more convenient. Men/women often find an Afternoon Affair more convenient as their spouses would expect them home after working hours. As bizarre as it may seem I have known one person who meet a certain gentleman once a year on the same date and has been doing so for 20 years. I don't ask why!
That is slightly cheating. think about it would you want your boyfriend getting ground on by another girl.....I don't think you would.
Because he's married and that's the right thing to do. We don't all get what we want. Sometimes we do the right thing out of integrity and honesty.
Answer****Answer**** He is/was telling you that he loves you because he "wants to have his cake and eat it too". You were/are being used for HIS own selfish purposes. He is a MARRIED man that made vows before God to his WIFE. This is supposed to be an exclusive relationship, between the wife and the husband. The contact with you has stopped because the married man is honoring his vows that he made with his wife. His wife may have found out about the affair with you and gave him an ultimatum that he stop the affair with you or his marriage to her will be over. This is the only way that the marriage can survive. Please honor their marriage contract and stay out of their relationship. You will be much happier, content and blessed by finding a SINGLE man to have a long-term or life-long relationship with. AnswerAre there children involved? AnswerI know you came on here to get answers, not to be repremanded for what you did or didnt do. Affairs happen. No one goes out and says, "Gee I think Ill have an affair with a married man." Think of that next time you comment people. She didnt do this on purpose. Ease up. If you cant give her civil advice, don't comment.I think maybe he was feeling guilty. Maybe his wife did find out. Maybe he didnt want to hurt his kids. Or maybe he was just using you and the fun was over for him. I don't know. I know its hurtful, painful without him in your life. You had him in your life for 8 months. You became very close to him, he became your best friend, your lover, and you loved him very much.
He stayed with his wife maybe for a lot of reasons. You may never know. But obviously he had feelings for you and maybe he does love you, but he loves her more. He chose her over you for some reason. Who knows, maybe he just told you he still loves you, so you wouldn't hate him or think he used you just for sex.
I don't know honey. I don't know the answers. But as much as it hurts, as much pain you are in without him, let him go. Find someone who respects you, wants you, who cherishes you, and who wants just you.
Obviously there was/is something missing from his marriage and he found that in you. So many times, married couples take each other for granted, change, lose the love they once had, drift apart, but continue to stay together for the sake of the kids or just because there still is something between them.
You gave this guy your time, love, built up his ego, his pride, and probably made him feel so wonderful wanted and needed by two woman. But having an affair; emotional or sexual, takes away a lot from his marriage. Im sure it can be exhausting living a double life, being with two woman. Im sure it was a boost of ego to him at first and then it has become stressful, consuming, and difficult for him to continue pulling this off with two woman.
Let him go honey. Find a single man for you.
If this married guy should call you, email you, don't take his calls and don't answer his emails. Avoid him at all cost. It maybe painful and very hard for you, but make this time for you. Let him go. Learn for this hurtful experience and move on. It may take time, but you can do it. And above all, don't let anyone make you feel guilty, or make you feel bad for what has happened and for how you feel. Im sure you are doing that enough to yourself.
And for all the people coming down on you need to realize that this can happen to their marriage too. Dont think it wont, because it can. If a man can have an affair, I don't care how happy he is in his marriage if he can have an affair, he will. If you don't think he cant, your are fooling yourself....
Is this man fond of alchol.You mention about him being a party animal.believe me if drink forms a big part of his life unfortunately he won't have time for you.He may have turned off his phone,possibly fallen asleep.You are better off without him.There are other decent men out there mentally and emotionally this man is draining you, you deserve better.Don't believe he,s sorry.I'd advise you to read about domestic violence. does your boyfriend display any signs verbal are usually first TAKE CARE
talk to her about it
Can a mistress sue her boyfriend for not leaving his wife as promised?
No she can't. A mistress is a mistress: there for pretty much sex and nothing more. Marriage however is not only an intimate relationship but a legal contract between the husband and wife. The mistress is just a random third party. It would NEVER hold up in court because the mistress is helping the man cheat.
What if your boyfriend wants to go to a concert with his friend which is a girl what should you do?
well just ask her and let out your feelings every girl would love a boy who is honest and dosent lie at all
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Let him, now a days we all love to go to a concert especially if its our favorite, band, orchestra or singer. It is an innocent fun with friends where you will see lots of people having fun. Trust your boyfriend and try not to put him on a short leash, or else you might loose him.
Is the marriage over if your husband can't communicate with you emotionally?
This is a personal problem. Your a an idiot if you need a computer to make a serious descision for you.
It sounds like your husband is in complete turmoil. On one hand, he is pushing you away but on the other he's trying to hold on with protestations of how much he loves you. This is going to sound strange but he's probably in as much shock about what's been going on as you are. To have an affair - and keep his sanity - he has had to compartmentalise. This is where he puts his mistress in one water tight box and your marriage in another. So in his mind, what happens in his affair does not impact on you and he's doesn't have to worry about hurting you. Now the truth is out and this juggling act looks pretty stupid plus he's finally having to face up to what he's done.
There is a second problem here. He is angry with himself for letting everybody (including himself down) but instead of facing up to these feelings, it's much easier to get angry with you.
Throw into this heady mix, he has to decide what to go next. His mistress is probably putting all sorts of pressure on him and he doesn't know which way to look. let alone what to think or feel. That's why he's giving such mixed messages.... he's a pretty mixed up guy.
So what should you do. I would not rush to make a decision. The golden window for recovering from an affair is months not weeks. So take your time, get help from friends and probably in a few weeks time, he will begin to make more sense.
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Hmm, that's a toughy. Should I, or should I not. Yes, when it comes to breaking up it may be quite difficult but if it's the first time the lover has done you wrong then you should talk to him. Maybe he wants you to know about them to get you jealous cause he's heard things about you and other men that aren't true, but rumors. If it's more then once that you've found him cheating, still talk to him. Ask him WHY? WHY? WHY? or not. Then just break-up with him. He's doing wrong and has a lady out there anyways.
If a girl is cheating on her boyfriend with you will she do the same to you?
It's a distinct possibility. If she is doing it to her current boyfriend with you, why wouldn't she do it to you if you became her boyfriend?
What if you get postitive test result after you had tubalization 9 years ago?
Surgical sterilization can reverse itself. The human body is amazing that way. It's entirely possibly that you are pregnant. See your OB/GYN immediately. False positives on pregnancy tests are extremely rare.
Why does the wife compete with a mistress?
Because she does not blame her husband and chooses to believe it is all HER fault, so she will harass the mistress trying to get her to go away. Usually the wife feels like she is loosing control of her marriage and it's easy to be mad at the the other woman.
This is foolishness of course. It is the husband who is to blame. If a husband doesn't communicate with his wife when he feels there is a problem with their relationship or that he's not happy with some aspect of their relationship, then he is a coward, or self centered, or selfish to deal with it using (and I mean the word literally) a mistress. When a husband fulfills his own needs at the expense of his wife, then there's no predicting how a wife might react.
Of course the same is true when a wife takes a lover and is unfaithful to her husband.
Is it cheating when you are only dating?
Of course it is. If you are dating on a steady basis then you are suppose to be in love and want to be together. The relationship should be based on honesty, trust, integrity and compassion. If you have fallen out of love with the person then have the guts to tell them and move on, but don't cheat! If in doubt always put yourself in the other person's shoes. I don't think you'd like it done to you!
What should you do if you cheated on your girlfriend and you want her back but she refuses?
You need to respect her needs. She needs someone that she can trust; you have violated that trust and she is saying that she can't trust you any longer. Your most responsible and mature option would be to be mature, give her the space she needs and learn from your mistake IF you decide to become involved in another relationship with a DIFFERENT person. Life is about learning from our mistakes. Couldn't have put it better myself. You figured you found somebody better, hurt your girlfriend over it and now you "want her back." For how long this time before you find somebody better? Move on Jack, this one is all done for you.
I've been married for 35 years and happily married, although I know what you mean. If anyone says their marriage is perfect they're lying! Yes, you are getting a raw deal if you aren't the jealous type. Believe it or not men go through a type of menopause called 'Andropause' and it sounds like he could well be in it and doesn't know what he wants out of life. You have two options:
- Try saving your marriage and sitting down with your husband and express to him that you aren't putting up with his antics and you want to know right then and there if he's willing to change his ways and if not you'll meet him at the lawyers office re a divorce!
- You can sit and reflect on your marriage (try remembering good times) and see if he's even worth communicating with. Either way you need to make a decision and you and you alone are the only one that can do it.
Go to the person who y have wronged, tell them what you did, apologize, ask for their forgiveness, and pray they are gracious enough to give it to you.
By doing the right thing, or talking to someone about it.
How csn you tell if someone is skitzo?
If you mean "skitzophrenic", Then...1. If they think everyone is after them and say insane remarks and just act crazy!! If someone is skitzo STAY AWAY FROM THEM!!
I have a similar problem. The best advice I can give is to talk. when i say talk i don't mean row or shout, i don't mean bringing up things from the past and i don't mean to throw accusations. Just simply say something along the lines of "I trust you enough to know you wouldn't cheat on me, but there must be a reason why this woman interests you so much and it hurts me to know that you'd rather spend time and money talking to her than addressing our marriage and making me feel secure. I have no problem with you being friends with women but I'd like it if you'd consider my feelings." If he gets defensive then he may be cheating, but like my partner that may be his only way of communicating when under pressure. Keep tones low and stay calm and if you're upset cry with grace lol :)
Hope I helped x
- The truth of the matter is that when a married man cheats on his wife and has a mistress the wife of course will be hurt and angry, but she is also humiliated and jealous because she is wondering what she did wrong and that her husband finds another woman more attractive than her. The thought of another woman sleeping with her husband is extremely hurtful. Anger and jealousy in this case go hand in hand.
This is a good question that do happen to lots of couples having problem. When married man end up having an affair, first thing he will feel are excitement, nervousness, and thrilled because of the other woman who is not his wife. Most married men will not feel bad or guilty, it's what they want to do. Maybe some spouses do feel guilty at first but not bad enough to make them stop. The only way they will stop feeling guilty is to go right back to their mistress and continued their sin. And the reason why he told you he hates himself for what he did is he got caught and now his wife is probably wanted a divorce. Who wouldn't right?
