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Cheating
This category contains all questions regarding cheating and everything it entails, whether it is emotional or having physical relations with someone other than your significant other.
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Well when i am older, i am not gonna gett married, because women think that they have a say in men but they dont! Back when men was started, men had to have so much sex with different women to keep the human race alive!!!!!!! Now women think that men should stay with them, AND IT JUST PISSES ME OFF!
He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either or see you move on its a control issue and your letting him still have control of you after you breakup. You must break free and let go.
How do you break up with your husband after 16 years together and you know he is cheating?
My first husband cheated and cheated on his mistress too. The only thing that makes any sense is to divorce. File for divorce and either have him tossed out until you sell your home and divide everything up according to the law and move on. It's not as hard as you think. Once a cheater always a cheater.
I'd first make sure 100%! not just a hunch some SOLIDevidence that he is before you possibly throw away 16 years. (Not trying to defend but there is always that small chance.)
Can you catch your wife cheating?
You can - just depends on two things: if she actually is and how expensive you want to go in order to find out. Anything from nanny cams to private investigators can help you figure out if your spouse is cheating on you. Just be careful - if she isn't cheating, this may just drive her away.
Yes. Some adolescents (and possibly older men) view sex as a conquest and the partner is pretty irrelevant. If you're talking with boys in the locker room, it's all about quantity and not quality.
On the other hand, why does that matter? If he cheats with someone he isn't attracted to, what will happen when he meets someone that is actually likes?
When husband was in Iraq cheating and abandon you and the kids is that an argument in court?
Cheating is cheating no matter where it occurs and (with proof or uncontested) is still a legal cause for divorce. Abandonment is a different issue, particularly if your husband was in military service in Iraq. If the abandonment happened when he came back, that is another story.
No if he say its his mom every tyme u ask him. Dats mean dat he is talkin 2 another gurl No if he say its his mom every tyme u ask him. Dats mean dat he is talkin 2 another gurl
How can I make my cheating husband jealous?
If you try to make him jealous, it will be the result of a second problem to solve.
Making him jealous is not a way to get his attention on how you are hurt. He might not be afflicted by what you will try.
Communication and Counselling (therapy) would be a good start.
Try to talk to you bf more and try to connect with him by webcam. Phone each other more and talk more let him know that you care and think to yourelf how great your bf is and think about all of the bad points that the other person has.
Everyone has there own opinion and I really don't know the whole story on this situation, but it sounds to me like he has put you on a shelf until he figures out whether or not he is positive about leaving his wife....You need to find a single man that will fall in love with you and wont have to worry about leaving a wife....Just think " If he is cheating on his wife with you wont he do it again to his next lover/wife which will be you next" So just think hard, you are being used and you deserve better... I honestly don't think he has any intentions on leaving his wife, and as long as you let him go back and forth between the two of you he will continue doing so.....so don't let him get away with it and tell him if he loves you like he says he does he will leave his wife of forget him because he cant have his cake and eat it to..but I am 18 and I have never been in the position you are and I probably don't need to give advice but i love to help people. but you deserve better and more then what he is giving to you ...Good luck,..and don't let him keep going back and forth between the two of you.....
AnswerI am sorry to say, but you aren't hearing the messenger. You say that you are trying to get over him, but it's obvious you are still seeing him or you wouldn't be hearing those lies coming from his greased lips! Yup, this guy is doing a con job on you. I bet he's older too! Older men know how to manipulate young women because they are older and been around the block a lot. They know the right words to say while getting what they want. The messenger is saying "This jerk is not going to leave his wife!"I am really sad that so many young women don't get the drift of what these men are doing to his wives (perhaps children) and that these wives have feelings just like you do. This man once loved his wife and now he's cheating on her! Why would any young woman want to waste her precious time on such a jerk! Do you think you're special? Do you think you are better than his wife? Well you aren't and if you should snag a married guy into leaving his wife he either won't put that engagement ring on your finger or, if by chance he does marry you, he'll cheat again when he gets tired enough of you.
I am sorry to hurt you in this way, but the truth does hurt, and please, for your own sake don't date married men. They take up precious time from your youthful years and more than that they take your dignity and pride. If you meet a man that is divorced then that is a whole different ball game.
Get that dignity and pride back girl, and kick this jerk to the curb!
AnswerYou don't know he is being truthful unless he leaves his wife.I am in this situation myself and I have now severed all contact with him. I will not wait for this situation to change any longer, I am worth more than being second best. If he does leave his wife, and I am available, then so be it. I know it is hard to get over someone you love, especially if they say they love you too and I'm sure his reasons seem justifiable to you at this time. How long would you be willing to wait? 6 weeks, 6 months, 6 years? Think how you would feel, if after all this time waiting, he changed his mind and decided to stay. Please don't delay living your life for a promise..
AnswerI was your situation & found the best way to the truth is to reveal everything to his family. I did so with mine & found out how he really thinks & feels about me & it wasn't nice, despite all the "Ilove you"s & "I can't live without you"s he had been uttering only moments before. Men will quickly adapt to having 2 women meeting their needs whereas it's a rare woman who can do this. Many men will remain in their marriage because of the stigma & risk separation brings. Mine wouldn't leave because of what his father would think. It takes a strong man to leave his wife & those are the married men you should be going for, if at all. These men at least have some integrity & quickly realise how selfish it is to cause so much pain to those they profess to love. Ironically it becomes more difficult to leave as the affair goes on longer, the way of life becomes entrenched & the man usually becomes stuck.Remember the truth is that any man who is prepared to lie to their wife & children will have absolutely no qualms about lying to teir mistress, whatever promises they make & he has already broken the biggest promise he ever made by seeing you.
MAN PROBLEMSYou get the hell out of the situation as fast as you can. He does not love you, plus why would you be with a married man? No one with any experience in situations like this would council you any differently. You (and he) made a mistake. Your best advice would be to think about yourself and what you need to do to "get clear" of this man and the situation. If he continues to call or whatever, you have leverage in that you can threaten to tell his wife. There will be time for grief and recriminations later. Right now, it is important to break the ties and step clear and get moving. How do you get over a married manwell,in the first place you shouldn't be seeing a married man,but it is your choice. I know from experience that they very rarely or ever leave their wives. The reason for this is because they still love their family life and don't want to lose everything they have built up in the marriage,because they know they would lose their ass in a divorce. Then again he could possibly still love his wife and doesn't really want a divorce just alittle on the side. If these married men even thought the little wife was doing the same thing or even thought about it they wouldn't put up with it for a minute. It's a EGO thing for some of these men to think they are studs if they can juggle two women at the same time. When and if he is finally caught he will drop you like a hot potato,this is if he is really in love with his wife. I would move on as fast as I could if I were you. Months and possibly years are being wasted stayinhg with a man like this.Its not easy to do..
I hate to say this but I will, though. I am in love with a married man. But I think I have a claim over him more than his wife does. We were together for two years before he met his wife. It was an unwise decision he made. First, we broke up because of a very unacceptable reason. We had a lot of misunderstanding that month. Secondly, after trying to make things work again, we just can't. So we were drifting apart. And HE decided to end our relationship. He told me I wasted his two years. Of course hurtful words were said. But if you will see through it, it will hurt you because of two reasons, one is pride, second is "because you love him dearly". I go for second. Weeks after we broke up he get hmself a new girlfriend. Brought her in his house, introduce her to his family. After a month he accidentally get this girl pregnant. And so that's the story! He had to marry her. And I was stuck. I was hurt. I was in total agony of having to see him everyday with his wife and kid. He's my neighbor, mind you. But there's something I forgot to mention. His dad was very sick and He was like compelled to give him a grandchild already. I was pressured and frustrated at the same time.. I was still studying, I was in third year of my major. That's the reason we had a lot of misunderstanding. Trust was lost, we got even! He got himself a new GF and of course i did the same. And now, we can't get over ourselves. I love him. He loves me. But he's married so there's no way things will be brought back to the way it used to be. But we did. We are together now. Though he hasn't left his wife yet. He can't FOR NOW. Why? because his wife has nothing to do with us. Because his wife hasn't done anything wrong with me, and with him. Because his wife had been nothing but good to him and to his kid. Its just LOVE that's between me and him. We're happy when we're together and we are EXTREMELY sad when his with his wife. How would you know if he's being truthful? Me? I'm weighing things. Him being honest about the goodness his wife shows to him and their son, him being honest about being unable to leave his wife for now coz there's really no reason to do so except for the fact that HE loves me more than his wife. You see guys, sometimes, there's really reason why young women hold on to married man. Its wrong in the eyes of many people, but all things has reasons behind. We will not choose to be in this situation if we are just plain stupid. Or yes, most people are stupid, when it comes to loving somebody so much you don't care if what you're doing is wrong or right.
I am in the same situation now but the difference is my bf (married man) choses me against his wife because he doesnt love his wife anymore and he dont want to stay in a relationship with no spark, no care and no love. For him his child will be the one who suffer most because of daily fighting routine and no sweetness at all. And whatever consequences may occur between us i am ready to face and accept it, because I chose to be happy with the man i truly love and he chose to stay with as his true love..
Answeryou are getting played. Hes trying to fulfill the fantasy of two women at once. Most men have tried. Nearly all are successful at some point. Stop thinking with your heart. Think with your head.Because he's full of Sh*t. What do you mean by a course?He's just trying to come up with some story , which by the way is not even a good one, to save himself. He must think that you are stupid if he thinks you'll believe that one.How would lying about where you went test someones trust in you! That doesn't make any sense at all.
And yet apparently you have not caught him since, so he is either behaving, or has learned to conceal such things better.
Does he frequently not answer his phone when you call? That might mean he is talking to "her".
When he does answer, is he abrupt, and needing to hang up fast? That might mean he has "her" on the other line waiting.
When his phone rings, does he not answer it? That might mean he knows it is "her" and doesn't want you upset.
When he answers his phone, does he claim it's a wrong number a lot? That might mean it's "her".
Does he like to go into another room when his phone rings, or when making a supposed business call? That might mean it's "her".
However, having said all that, there is a quote from Othello that you might find relevant: "Oh beware, my Lord, of jealousy! 'Tis the green-eyed monster that doth mock the meat it feeds upon!"
How do you break up with your boyfriend for lying and cheating on you?
easy u slap him, maybe call him a name and say its over
You want to leave your wife of 10 years you have 4 children?
it is a hard decision to make and it should also be a careful consideration of making such a move. if you do not love each other anymore, or if you are constantly fighting, the kids ( and you) will be better off in the end, with separated but happy parents.
on the other hand all relationships has ups and downs, and when there also is kids involved it can be worth a try to make it work.
there are no right or wrong answers here. in the end it is you that has to decide based on your own feelings.
good luck, hope it works out in one way or another!
Why do the mistress always want your husband to leave you as if your the bad person?
because in order to justify herself in her position as the mistress she has to vilify the wife to relieve herself of guilt she is in fact doing him a favour helping him escape from his evil wife. This way of thinking is often originally created by the man who when has explained that his wife doesn't understand him, is mentally unstable, is cruel, and horrible to him, doesn't care about him etc and may also lie and say she has affairs, is selfish with money etc
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Because the mistress knows she was the one that gave the husband special treatment that he never get from home, ( even if it's a lie). She knows that the married man can always count on her when it comes to having sex, will never say no to her. And this is what most mistress think.
What do you do if you think you are going to cheat?
Stop and think, what's causing to want to cheat. Is it really worth it? Many people often choose to be in a serious relationship: out of desperation, marriage at a young age, out of love. Though, pretty much everyone these days does not put in the effort to search for someone who is truly compatible with them and instead find someone based on feelings.
- Humans make mistakes for different reasons. It is obvious you are missing something in your marriage; perhaps your husband takes you for granted; you have lost touch with each others feelings; you feel lonely; perhaps depressed; perhaps at an age you feel you need to know you are still attractive to another man. Unfortunately, you will have to tell the man you are having the affair with that you think highly of him, but you had no business getting involved with him while married and you want to work things out with your husband. He should be mature enough to understand and he will get over the hurt. Honesty is always the best policy. After you have told this other man then you should communicate with your husband and ask if he would consider going to marriage counseling to perk up your marriage. He may not want to go, but give it a try. If he should refuse and ask what is wrong with the marriage tell him (it's the truth) that many marriage can hit stale points and you could go on a romantic getaway so both of you will be more attentive to each other without distractions.
You did something wrong and stupid. Pick up whatever shreds of dignity you have left and move on. Do you want a proven cheater anyway ? If you got him , it would only be a matter of time before he cheated on you .
Why do men and some women think cheating isn't a big deal?
People think cheating is alright because in this day and time, we feel that it's all about "me". It doesn't matter how it might hurt someone else, it's all about what feels good to me at the time. We have become a "what feels good right now" type of people and feel that we can deal with the consequences later or just ignore them. ---- Some people definitely do not think that cheating is all right.
People who do cheat don't place any value on being trusted by others. Somehow they can still manage to get upset if you don't trust them.
How can you be in a relitionship with someone who is having an affair?
u don't have a relationship with him if he is cheating on u now then if u take him back he might do it again
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If you are the wife or the girlfriend it will be hard because your trust will be ruin and yourself esteem will be destroyed. Some people will never realize how painful it is when you have a relationship with the person who's having an affair.
Why does your inapropite parts hurt when you watch kissing my cousin has been begging to ask this?
...honestly that might just be a personal issue.
How do you check wives infidelity to their husband?
If they flirt/ check out others, work lots of "late shifts", you can check their emails/phones, and ic they are acting distant/ uninterested towards you.
How do you know if some guy is cheating on his girlfriend?
For his girlfriend:
-when he stops talking to you and when you try to have a conversation with him he doesn't seem to be interested at all.
*he found someone he finds more interest in than you.
-If you see him texting all the time with the same other person but he never let you see who they are or when you ask to see his messages he refuses and acts as if it's a big deal to let you look at them.
ps: if he smiles (like in a sweet or flirty kind of way) to his phone when he receives a text and read it, you'll just know there must be something going on.
-also, if he starts making really flirty status (something for example like secret codes he made with another person) on his Facebook account and you know for sure it's not about you, he's up to something no good.
when you realize he's lying..
-if you called him a thousand times and he said he was busy or worse, saying 'My phone didn't ring at all! I was at home the whole time!' or when you call him you heard him walking into another room or tells you to wait and you can hear him walking away from something/someone, he's hiding something from you.
-when you're friends tries to avoid talking about what happened from above and glances at each other like they're afraid to tell you something. They know whats happening but they are just scared to be the 'bad guy' who told you the bad news.
*and no, it doesn't always mean he's planning a surprise party for you.
he's got his share of secrets, he may be asking advice from your friends about how to not let you know, or telling them to not tell you.
-and if you accuse of what he did from above and wants to make it clear what's happening, he plays with what's in his hand or avoid eye contact with you or suddenly his messages are all 'accidentally' deleted, he's lying again.
if he's not cheating on you, or betraying you in anyway, he will go right out and tell you the truth about everything.
Remember, once a guy cheated, he can NOT be trusted in a relationship again.
the first time a man cheats on his girlfriend/partner, he'll be afraid to let you know, but if he gave in and 'luckily' you didn't notice, he'll remember the joy and excitement he had the last time he cheated, and he'll go back for more.
Good Luck.
