Cheating

Crimes involving moral turpitude

historically have been defined as

those which are mala in se, as

opposed to crimes which are mala

prohibita. W. LaFave & A. Scott,

Criminal Law § 6, at 31 (1972). In

other statutory contexts, the Court of

Criminal Appeals has classed as

crimes involving moral turpitude

most offenses constituting a felony,

as well as offenses such as petty

larceny, Price v. State, 546 P.2d 632

(Okl. Cr. 1976), and illegal possession

of stimulants, Ruhm v. State, 496 P.2d

809 (Okl. Cr. 1972).

That depends on if the "other girl" was reading more into it than it really was and that maybe it is what she wanted it to be. However, the married woman could also be bicurious - the only was to know for sure is if you speak with her concerning her behaviour.

It doesn't have a formal phobia name (or at least not that I'm aware of). Its just called "fear of infidelity". Here's a fairly comprehensive list of phobias, I suggest you find something better to worry about...

http://phobialist.com/

It is possible to forgive someone of a wrong they refuse to admit to because forgiveness is something that happens within yourself. How? By simply letting the issue go. You could say (whether to him or just to yourself), "I forgive you for cheating on me. I forgive you for keeping it a secret. I forgive you for denying your wrongdoing. I forgive you and I will not hold it against you any longer." Then move on. True forgiveness brings freedom and rest to the forgiver, regardless of how the forgiven one reacts.

• Many people may flirt a little and most do, but discreetly as people like to know they are attractive to the opposite sex, but with a normal married person this is as far as it goes. A husband openly flirting with other women everywhere he and his wife goes is unacceptable and the wife should not put up with her husband's nonsense or she is enabling the situation. To start an argument at an event or any social gathering would be foolish, but once alone let your husband know you are not going to put up with his behavior and if it continues you will kick his hide out the door. If he denies he does not flirt and tries to blame you for being overly jealous stick to what you know is true and not let him back out of it.

Here is some input: * Money has nothing to do with love. There are many stories of women married to rich men who are unhappy and leave them for a poor guy because she fell in love. It isn't wise financially, but in your sixties she is probably thinking she wants to live out her life in happiness not wealth. * I am 34 and I kicked him out. I had NOTHING but a dumpy place to live, our beautiful daughter, who is the most important. He used to threaten me to leave me broke, well we aleady were broke as he would not give me any money and I was a student in university. This was two years ago. One day I looked at him and told him I don't care how I survive but get out. I am a lot stronger as a result. I would much rather be happy and have peace than steak dinners and heartache. Rethink your situation. You are in your 60s but that is still young. There are still tons of men out there in your age bracket when you are ready to date again. Don't let money keep you there. Talk to a lawyer if you have legal aid in your area. My divorce did not cost me a cent as I went through legal aid. They help you find a lawyer. Money isn't love. You have one life and deserve LOVE. If he has been abusive or unfaithful, the courts will take care of you financially. Don't wait. What are you going to do? Leave him "LATER?" All you'll be is betrayed and two years older. I'm 65 so I know where you are coming from. It isn't easy to give up on your marriage and start over again at that age, and if you aren't working then trying to find employment is more difficult, but it can be done. My aunt left her husband when she was 63 and is remarried. Miracles never cease! LOL The poster that mentioned Legal Aid gave you some good advice. In Canada women are entitled to half of everything their partner has and that includes the home, vehicles (if there are two one has to go to the wife), RRSPs (for retirement) RIF (bonds for retirees), property investments, etc. I would however suggest that if your husband is extremely verbally abusive and even raises a fist to you (without hitting you) that you call the police and because this is on a report and will help you further when you see the lawyer. Good luck & God Bless (you can do it!)

There's a lot to be said for group mentality. Adults, like kids, tend to be influenced by the people around them. If your boyfriend immerses himself in a group of people who condone and might even encourage cheating, he's more likely to test those waters. Then again, maybe you have a partner with solid morals and respect for you. I think if he is hanging out with that type of people, yes I think he would cheat. But then again, he is his own person. How easily is he influenced? If his friends tell him how great it is to cheat, I think he would. But it also depends on your relationship. Tell him how you feel and tell him your fears. Good Luck. My Answer - I would be concerned about him hanging around with people like that. I myself would feel uncomfortable if I were him. Ask him what he thinks of these people and if hesays its just a bit of fun and no harm done, what they don't know can't hurt etc, alarm bells should be ringing inside you for the future and consider walking before it happens to you.

Although the percentage is much higher with men leaving their wife and children there are also women that do this (lower percentage by a lot.) Some men are brought up with no discipline and lack responsibility. They can get a woman pregnant, but some men feel she has the children, she does the cooking, cleaning and raising the children and he expects that. Apparently what he doesn't get is he has responsibilities toward his wife and children too. A male is not a man when he will desert his previous family. Sometimes people just fall out of love, but if he was mature and had any respect for himself he would willingly be sure you are taken care of (until you can at least get a job) and certainly pay Child Support. Some men are strictly out for themselves and are narcissistic in nature ... either unwilling (in denial) or incapable of feeling the hurt they have inflicted on their wife and children. They can be selfish and self centered. It's a slap in the face to your children that he has met another women with children of their own, so on top of a father that has deserted their children you are going to have think of counseling for your children (if young) so they realize none of this was their fault and cope with the feeling of being replaced by another woman's children. To children it's simply 'mom and dad' and no matter what the problems in the marriage that's as far as children think. Believe it or not people who have husbands (or women) that desert their spouses and any children are lucky. Who wants a dud like this around. It's devastating and frightening for any woman to suddenly be alone raising children, especially financially. If you own a home, property, etc., then get a lawyer and take this sucker to court and nail his hide to the wall. Show no pity! You are fighting for the years you put into the marriage and have to watch out for the welfare of your children which includes good health care and a good education (you can't do this alone.) In time you will realize there are lots of nice guys out there and you'll fall in love with the right one. For now fight for YOUR rights and the rights of your children. If he wants this woman and her kids then let him have the, but there will come a day he will regret it as all do. He will have to come full circle one day and eventually come full circle and at least face one or more of your children when they are old enough to understand their father deserted them. All he's manage to do is live in denial, did not learn communication skills, did not work at his marriage, and he will drag these into his second relationship and will more than likely have the same problems all over again. This man doesn't know the word of communication and responsibility.

Depends how much you like the guy. If you like him alot, text or talk to him alot but not in a flirty way, just so you get on his radar. If he starts texting you first, or is flirty with you, Flirt back! But do not tell him you like him until you're 100% sure he likes you back because if he doesnt like you back, he might tell his girlfriend that you like him... And that spells D-R-A-M-A all over it. Hope i sortaaa helped! :) good luck!

Well, if you would otherwise have intentions of continuing cheating habits (as most do - some people are simply incapable of being monogamous, and it's not necessarily their fault), just go with it. If you want to stay with him, but still be allowed to 'have fun' with other people relatively guilt-free, this would be the best choice. Be aware, however, that unless you and he are very very close this may tear your relationship apart. If you're okay with this, continue. If you hypocritically are incapable of being with him and 'sharing' him, then simply leave. The relationship is most likely not worth pursuing. If you truly believe that you are capable of remaining faithful to him, ask him for a second chance at staying exclusive - but give him one (or more, as needed) 'freebies' to equal out your infidelity, so that he does not feel so much like you're using him or lying to him to keep him around. If you don't like this, remind yourself that it was your own actions that brought this situation to you, and you will have to suffer the consequences.

There is no such thing as 'sort of having an affair' ... you are having an affair and it's not right! 'You' can help what you are doing if you restrain yourself. He has been living with his girlfriend and they have a child together, but yet you have lost your self respect by going to bed with him and even worse, you are more into him than he is with you. You will never be the winner and his girlfriend will win out and he is actually the one at fault for not having the common sense to say 'no' to you! You are cheapening your reputation and could cause a family to break up (whether they are married or not) and if anything you should be thinking of his child before yourself. As hard as it may be for you it's time for you to grow up; get back on track by not seeing him any longer; going out with friends and dating single young men and stay away from the men that are living with their mates or married.

it sounds like you are very insecure, your girlfriend has a life, she will like other people to talk with her and be friends with her she is not your personal property to be watched over, if you act like this, I can assure you , she will NOT be your girlfriend for very much longer.

• Yes, the wife can feel like a mistress when her husband is having an affair because he may well either love his wife; love both women or, he wants to continue with a sexual relationship with his wife and the adventure of having a sexual relationship that is exciting with his mistress. A wife that puts up with her husband's cheating is an enabler and if she allows it to go on then she is not only stripping herself of her dignity and self worth, but she her husband will not respect her for putting up with it. 'You' are in control of this situation and sit down with your husband and tell him you are not putting up with his cheating and he either goes to marriage counseling with you; drops the mistress or you are divorcing him. This should get his attention!

• Honesty is always the best policy. When you are alone and you know you have proof he was cheating and not secondhand gossip, tell him you know he's cheated and then it's up to you whether you want to continue on with the relationship. Think very hard about staying with your boyfriend because he may just cheat again and even if he doesn't he has broken that bond of trust you had for him.
  

• Yes, an extreme difference in ages when married has a higher percent that will lead to infidelity because the youngest partner will have much more energy and therefore want to do more social activities whereas their older partner may not be able to keep up the pace and therefore infidelity is far more alluring to the younger partner to get what they need.

not sure if serious question

You have two options. One, love this girl for who she is which means you must accept that you will not be her only lover and that you must ALWAYS wear a condom. Or two, kick her sneaky, disrespectful, slutty a** to the curb and pick up your broken heart and move on. Remember, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

Answer I doubt it that you are pregnant, but to make sure, why not get a pregnancy test and take a load off your mind. With your tubes tied i don't see how that's possible, but please do the test anyway, they don't cost that much to have peace of mind.

The key word is friend. He is probably just being friends with her, or maybe helping her through a hard time. This happens alot. You just have to know when the lines are being crossed. If you love him, and he says he loves you..you have to have faith and believe in that. Trust should never been an issue.

Umm...... go to the doctor?

this is not a very serious problem! it happens when your husband doesn't give you pleasures or your not open to him while you two in bed or at any part of life he behaves different than you want him to. so go on ask yourself what is that you like about the other man that you dont see in you husband when you find that answer you simply tell your husband I'm sure he would love to make you feel good! this is what relationships are all about!!!

It's impossible to give correct stats because some women keep this a secret for the rest of their lives and often their boyfriend never suspects and he thinks the break-up is for something else. I'm happy to say there are still some young woman (older ones too) that have the honesty and integrity to tell their present partner how they feel and that they want to break the relationship off. Most women don't want to hurt their present boyfriend any more than they have too.

You can't make him do anything, and thinking you can do so is proably exactly what made him stop being affectionate in the first place. You wouldn't want him to try and change you right? As a relationship progresses, you become more comfortable with eachother. You don't have to smother them with sweetness to keep them around anymore. Women do have expectations, some higher than others, that need to be met for personal happiness. If you expect to have his attention all the time, your too high maitenance. Super models don't even have the power to keep a man's attention every second of the day. Just relax and let your relationship be.

• If your husband has never had an affair before this then no, you should not leave him. Some men 40 plus go through 'Andropause' (some men different than others) which is similar to women's menopause. The man can be moody; depressed and feels old and would like to reach back into his past to see if he is still attractive to the opposite sex and all the while they are unaware of what an affair will do their wife if she should find out. Although cheating is never right 'to err is human.' If you and your husband can sit down and communicate to improve your marriage or see a marriage counselor that is better than ending 30 years of marriage. There are many people who have gone through what you are going through and their marriage has become stronger.