Cheating

very common case. They usually do that because when they are obiously wrong they cannot take that so they decide to say things like you are invading my personal space... when this happens they usually want them selves to be right so they will not have to get the divorce...

he's really and love with her

they are bad people and you should stay away from them. I agree, ^ men who get married and make a promiss to be by there lovers side forever and be there one and only, rock, but if a married man wants to break that vow, he's not a real man in my eyes, he's still a boy.

maybe you should'nt want to be a stalker. so stop trying to find out some poor girl's phone number. just ask

* Communicating with your ex husband is the best way to go. You have custody rights as well and you can let your husband know it upsets the children when they see their father with his girlfriend and you prefer not to have her around. Hopefully he will agree. If not and she seems like a nice enough woman it is to your best interest to act calm while she is around because children learn from their parents and if they see one or both of their parents upset they will pick up on this. Most of the time it's not about the children at all, but between the two exes.

Depends on how many times she cheated on you. If once, i think you should give her a chance. If twice or more, i think you should be separated with her for a while because it's emotionally unhealthy for both of you. But before you jump off to divorce and stuff like that think things over, do yoga or pilates, relax, try to have some alone-time while figuring what to do next and then talk to her. In the end, the decision is still yours anyway.

You should talk to your niece and see if she is with her and you really need to trust that she is with your niece because that could make her really cheat.

Well. first of all if he cheated on you; he is what I like to call a man whore and only wants sex. Second of all, that is total manipulation. Sorry if it sounds harsh but just forget him.

I'm sorry to say this but your husband is already emotionally connected with the other woman. In scale of 1-10, when a married men get involve with another woman and he always get back to her mistress he is following his heart. In short your husband is in love with her. But if your husband only wanted sex from this woman, after the first time he will look for another one that he can be with. Why don't you talk to your husband and tell him that it's time to have a separate life so you wouldn't have to deal with his affair. The truth is, no one in their right mind will put up what the married man is doing...

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Easy. This man and his wife weren't completeley in love with his wife when they married. Or he loves someone else more. I really don't like it when people commit adultery. I am sorry. :(

there is nothing to say

if he really wants it, he'll find a way to do it, but i suggest that you make him get out of his marriage before he cheats again if he is that into you. if not, let him go, hes taken, dont be a home-recker

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Sweetie, it doesn't matter if you put him inside a small room and lock it, when a married man wants to find someone that can make him happy,esp. in bed, take my words for it he will find the way.

• The one thing you should do is tell your husband he is not going to have this affair and live with you as well and if he is not going to try to save the marriage then he can pack his bags and move out. You could file for a separation which will give you both time to think things over and come to the conclusion as to whether or not you both stay together and hopefully the latter will apply, but don't let him off the hook easily and persist upon seeing a Marriage Counselor to learn tools to deal with your marriage. Don't whine, cry or hang off your husband begging him to stay and remain calm and mysterious (so he doesn't know what your next move is) because this would be unnerving to him not knowing why you are not more upset. Let him know that you can have a life without him and will file for that separation, but be sure if there are children involved that are minors that you get child support. Realize in yourself your own strengths and look confident and neverlook beaten down or needy to him. You are in control of your own life so start taking control back by not putting up with his affair. It is true that not many married men stay with the mistress he is having the affair with so she'll lose out too and the big loser will be your husband.

Ebay the computer, then you will have plenty of time to talk.

you go to her house. meet her , tell her he loves you and she needs to find someone else

Your wife would want to and deserves to find out the situation from you first, instead of a third party (especially the other woman.) There is no easy way to confess to having an affair; it will most likely cause an emotional division between you and your wife. This is also the time for you to decide what you are committed to--your marriage or the other woman. If you do not want to give up the other woman, you need to do your spouse a favor and leave her. If you want to work on your marriage, you need to be honest with your wife, end the affair and have no contact with the other woman unless it is through your attorney.

Suggest ASAP to the other woman about having a paternity test done in order to establish if you are the father or not. Also, it is to determine if there is an actual pregnancy---it isn't unheard of for the other woman to fake a pregnancy.

If you have children with your spouse, make arrangements for them to visit their grandparents or another family member for a weekend. Then you need to be honest about the whole affair--who the other woman is, your motivations for having the affair, when it started, its duration and her pregnancy. Also be honest about why you are confessing--it seems that you are confessing now because you know that your spouse would have found out.

If you love your spouse and still want to be married to her, you do need to let her know this. Answer her questions, but do not get into specific details about the actual sexual aspects of the affair (positions, etc.). Don't get defensive, angry or judgmental towards her, even when she gets angry and hurt. Expect shock and an emotional reaction. Let her talk and listen to what she says. Give her time and space afterwards.

Take into consideration your wife's health and self esteem at this time--if you feel this would be a crippling emotional blow for her and she has a history of emotional or healthy issues (it would be damaging enough for a healthy person) it is better to seek out a professional marriage counselor, set up an appointment and discuss the situation there. You're in for a rough situation, one that you engineered and willingly took part in.

An emotional affair with a video game? True, an affair involves at least a temporary replacement of your partner with someone (something?) else, but the difference is in whether you've been betrayed. If your partner is spending far more time with his video game than with you, you may feel abandoned and less important. But is his love for video games a genuine replacement for his love for you? Has he stopped loving you and started loving video games? Has he betrayed the relationship by ignoring or abandoning his sense of values and morals to play the games? Try and determine whether he's merely lost his sense of priorities or whether he wouldn't mind spending his life with the games instead of you.

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* This is indeed a difficult situation and there are few options for you. The first thing you should do is sit down and communicate how you feel to your husband even though (hopefully) the affair is over. Unfortunately, with the unemployment rate peaking it's not as easy to find another job unless one has a degree and even then it's questionable. Sit down with your mate and see if there is a way he can change to either another branch of the company or possibly look for other work. It would have to be him changing jobs and not you because if you left the company then you would never trust him working near this other woman. When on mate has broken the ultimate trust of loyalty by cheating it is difficult to earn that trust back from the mate that was hurt. If he can't change jobs and you can't trust him you may have to consider ending the relationship.

I really don't understand why this young woman would marry a man she didn't love. Are you sure it's not you that has chosen her mate? Be honest with yourself.

Unfortunately, daughters/sons will often zig, when the parent(s) asks them to zag. There isn't really much you can do. The more you hound her the more you will push her right into the arms of this man you don't feel she loves.

Back off of your daughter for a bit. I know I'm asking a lot of you, but if you don't you will lose a big piece of your daughter by fighting over this with her. Once we are of age and leave home we have to make our own decisions.

I was once where your daughter was and married a young man I thought I loved, but it ended up an abusive relationship and I left after 3 1/2 years. My parents and my friends had warned me and I ceased to listen. I learned a great deal through that experience and a few years later I met and married my wonderful husband I have been married to for 33 years.

Sorry, but you are going to have to "bite the bullet" on this one and just let the cards fall where they will.

I answered your other question too but "pretty sure" doesn't spell out TRUTH..Question:Why are you asking this question if you already know what to do(which is not to break-up with him)? The right thing to do in my opinion, assuming this is the truth, would be to break up with him. I personally wouldn't want be with someone who I can't trust. Because the relationship will not go far, it will end now or later and later will be worse then now..But if you don't want to break up with him than blantly put quit whining and learn to trust him. If he is speaking the truth you will be sorry.

Absolutely refuse to do so and/or to be alone with him under any circumstances. He is married. As for letting her know, that is something to consider, depending on your friendship.