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Cheating
This category contains all questions regarding cheating and everything it entails, whether it is emotional or having physical relations with someone other than your significant other.
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What to do when your friend says your boyfriend is cheating?
Tell her what you know, and help her to react in a calm and considered manner, avoiding hysteria and extreme emotional outbursts. Some people think that cheating is the end of the world. It may (or may not) be the end of the relationship, but it is not the end of the world.
How do you rebuild broken trust after the affair of your spouse?
This isn't an easy answer. Every person is different in their approach. Some can't. Others can. First, a good therapist is in order. Both parties need to want to do this and the lines of communication are key.
Answer2: "Two are better than one," states the Bible. Why? "Because they have a good reward for their hard work. For if one of them should fall, the other can raise his partner up." (Ecclesiastes 4:9, 10) That principle is especially true when you are working hard to rebuild trust.
Together, you and your mate can make a stand against the mistrust that has infected your relationship. However, you both need to be committed to saving the marriage. If you try to cope individually, you may be setting yourself up for more problems. You need to view each other as partners. Resolve to work as a team to restore trust in your marriage.
Ask each other what actions are likely to help rebuild trust. List them, and then put them into practice. Also, add to your routine some activities that you can enjoy together.
If you are the betrayed mate, allow yourself time to forgive fully. At first, you may feel that isolating yourself emotionally from your spouse is the safest course. However, doing so indefinitely will not help you to rebuild trust in your mate. To heal the breach, forgive your mate and express that forgiveness by sharing your intimate thoughts and feelings with your spouse. Also encourage your mate to share his or her joys and concerns. Do not nurture bitterness. Work to overcome it. (Ephesians 4:32 "Become kind to one another, tenderly compassionate, freely forgiving one another just as God also by Christ freely forgave you.")
Mutual trust is vital to marital happiness, if that is missing, there is hard work to do. Lies, half-truths, and even silence undermine trust. So you need to speak openly and honestly with each other.
You should (1) be honest with each other; (2) work as a team; (3) replace old habits with new ones; and (4) know when to let go of resentment, seeking to heal the breach. Eventually, when both of you are satisfied that the necessary changes in your relationship have been made, you will gain a sense of security. Then, instead of giving constant attention to merely saving your marriage, you can focus together on other goals. Even so, schedule regular periods of time to evaluate your progress. Do not become complacent. Deal with minor setbacks, and confirm your commitment to each other.-Galatians 6:9 "So let us not give up in doing what is fine, for in due time we will reap if we do not tire out."
TRY THIS: Instead of trying to get your marriage back to the way it was, think of yourselves as building a new and stronger relationship. Information on Jehovah's Witnesses official website 5/12 Watchtower magazine article entitled Rebuilding Trust.
How do you punish cheating spouse?
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You can't do this even though he hurt you so badly. But if doing this will give you closure, you need to decide how and when you can do it. And here is my advice to you, your spouse doesn't deserved anything, alter all it was your spouse who hurt you, not you to him
If both partners cheat what's the outcome?
The percentage of people marrying the person they are cheating with is extremely low. For men they generally want their freedom and will often have a mistress, but, in time generally move on. Women are more romantics and may want to stay in the relationship with the person she is cheating with, but, there are some women that play just as hard as men and become 'users and shakers' loving the excitement of 'the chase.' It's magic when one is chasing someone they are attracted too and the possibility of love making is titillating, but once they meet once to several times that relationship may soon get boring too. Cheating is cheap, hurtful and a sign of immaturity. If both parties in the marriage are not happy they should have the guts to communicate this to each other and file for divorce!
How do you know when your spouse doesn't care about you?
ask him and tell him to honest with u and ask him if he dose and if he says yes ask him what he dose most of the time after school and he might tell u the truth but if he doesn't if ur not telling me the truth this relationship will not last he might tell u the truth
i really hope this helps u
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agreed to what said above ^^
but yeah, try talk to him first, you don't want to do anything you regret, and if he really is not interested then just break up with him and tell him why. then see if he wants you back. but try and be strong
also can you answer my question i just asked please xxx
Is kissing a married ex cheating?
If your ex is married yes it most certainly is. Just because you had been together in the past does not make it ok to have extramarital affairs.
Why are some mistresess can't let their affair partner go after the discovery?
- Some mistresses cannot let go of the memories of the affair because she has lost the person she loved. Mistresses often believe they are above the wife and will win out and that the man they are cheating with truly loves them. In most cases the man is interested in physical attractiveness; sex and little else. There is only a very small percentage of men who fall in love with their mistresses and are willing to get a divorce for them. The mistress ends up feeling cheated; she lost the battle, but, a mistress should learn from this lesson in life and date single men only.
Is it possible to truly love someone but still cheat?
Cheating is an act of selfishness, love is a principle of oneness, which excludes selfishness
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I think not, because this man is insecure with self esteem problem. The only thing he was doing is used women for his advantage, and one day this will catch up on him. And you need to let him go, I know it sounds mean and rude but if you let him do what he wanted to do, he will just be using you..
i completely disagree with the answer above..if the love of your life broke your heart, then im sorry to say you wont be getting over him at all. im currently going through same thing right now. once you really found the love of your life and they let you go youll never be the same again and if that was your true love youll never be able to love the same way again true love changes who you are how you see thing and sometimes it just might make you go crazy. in my situation its very complicated i was young when i first fell in love and i made many mistakes its apart of being young i cheated on the love of my life because he wasnt physically around to give me the needs i needed because we had to be separate for a year because of school so i told him about what i did and he forgave me but one random day he called and said it was over and that was that and he said he found someone else now this happened the past July almost a year ago and i still wake up every morning hating myself for cheating and hating my self even more for telling him because that's what lead him into someone elses arm now i hear everyday how happy he is and he seems as if we were never together and he never loved me and i blame myself for it i should have never done what i did but arent people allowed to make mistakes we were eachothers first love and although we were young at first we were together for years things happen and even tho i cry myself to sleep every night i show him that i don't care even tho i still think he reads my mind and knows i still love him apart of deep inside hopes and believes he still loves me back but i believe that if were meant to be, one day it will happen i know in my heart i will always love him and i know the love ii had for him can never be replaced its hard getting over the love of your life and to me its impossible i been sitting here for a year one day i would wake up an don't love but its impossible you don't get over the love of your life if it was the true love of your life. i know that if i could have one chance to start over i would so think before you act and don't fall in love young cause that's when you make mistakes getting over the love of your life doesnt happen just try to love again if possible and if not then you werent meant to love agin just happy you got to love once and hold on to the good memories for forever and if you realllly beieleve that you could get back together one day then hold on to that like its life cause if its meant to happen it will somehwere in the future.love is tough its special its unqiue its one of a kind its painful its joyful its good in the begining but can end really harmful.love is a way a life and its one of those things you cant live without. i made the MISTAKE of cheating then again i was young but people are normal they make mistakes its part of life and i did and i still do love this person even tho i made the mistake i believe were meant to be and just cause i made that MISTAKE it didn change any feelings towards him from me.
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No. If you TRULY love someone, you will not cheat. Period.
How do you survive an emotional affair?
You don't, no one can. Emotional affair is the hardest and very painful that any of us can experience. The feel of betrayal, trust will be the main key of this annoying words, "emotional." You never thought that your spouse can be so intimate with the other man or woman. You will feel lost, uncertain of why your spouse can be so honest, emotionally connected with her or him.
The only way that I know that help me survive my husband's emotional affair with his woman, is to let him go, and maybe times will help me to ease the pain he gave me.
A different Answer:
You can survive an emotional affair as others of us have survived: one day at a time. Sometimes you might get through one hour at a time, or one cup of coffee at a time. Although it may not seem possible, it is absolutely true that the pain will grow less over time, although it may not entirely go away. But healing is possible. In the meantime, two important tips: 1. let yourself weep and grieve. You can even set aside a specific time to cry, and a specific time to stop crying. 2. Stay away from alcohol and drugs. They do not help, but will make things worse.
And please remember: others have been down this road before you. It does get better from here.
How many girls have cheated on there boyfriend in the past year?
75 % of girls cheat on their boyfriends.
Boys also do.....but they get exposed.
Why do women blame the mistress instead of the husband who cheated?
This is an excellent question. After many years I've discovered it's more territorial than anything else. One women doesn't want another winning over her man! However, it should be the person cheating that gets the kick in the butt. Many people that are already in a relationship have chances to cheat if they wish and many will refuse saying 'I have a girlfriend' or, 'I'm married.' That should be the end of it!
My first husband cheated and his mistress had the audacity to phone me with 'let's talk!' I told her that there would be no talking and I was tying a big red bow on his butt and she could have him along with his abusive ways. He was sitting right there when the call came in with a smirk on his face thinking that two women would be fighting over him. When he heard what I said his jaw hit the floor and then I kicked his butt out the door, got the locks changed the next day and filed for divorce. I wasn't mad at the mistress, but at him!
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For some they will blame the mistress because the husband will compare the wife to his mistress. Some wife will say that if she didn't agree with the husband, he will not cheat. But reality here, from the man I married when I discovered his affair with her, I didn't blame her nor get angry to her. I know it was him who saw her on a dating site, and from there their relationship started, from platonic friendship to emotional relationship that turn to love and physical affair. The only fault of this woman was she didn't say no to the man I married.
How do you tell when your boyfriend isn't telling the truth?
Well ask your boyfriend a question like would you cheat on me then he will say no and then ask him something you no he is going 2 lie about like for me my boyfriend shakes his hands and stuff he also gets like a head ache
How do you stop loving someone that keeps hurting you?
Keep telling yourself, that love is simply an evolutionary tool designed to preserve and perpetuate the human species and it works through hormones. I bet you've forgotten about her already.
If that didn't work, try blocking out things that constantly remind you of her, hang around with your friends more often, play a few games, go out more, socialize a little more with more people, etc. Maybe Sooner rather than later, you shall find another person your hormones might take a liking to. lol.
How do you stop a cheater from cheating on you?
Ask him a lot of questions and bother him alot.and try to ignore him then he will try to spend time with you. I'm a woman. And if I were you than I would definitly kick him to the curve! Don't you see? If he truly is in love with you than he would want to spend more time with you. But, you see, it's people like him that are just really aren't worth your time! Their are plenty of other guys! And I'm sure that you can find the right one some day! But, this guy that your dating? He needs to go...now.
Tell him that drugs will make your life much worse than today
That there is no pont in taking drugs
It will just ruin your brain cells and kill you later on
Then say to him that you're saying this because you care for him
Should a wife be informed if her husband has cheated on her?
Technically, the woman's relationship with her own husband is none of your business. If something violent or tragic were to ensue between her and her husband, you wouldn't want to have been the one to bear the bad news.
What are signs of a long-distant relationship?
I don't think there is signs in a long distant relationship
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A very long drive relationship.....just kidding here!
What do you do if you are the girl a boy is cheating on his girlfriend with?
Ask your boyfriend first why he cheated on you, there might be multiple reasons. If you love your boyfriend, give him another chance, consider talking to him about the future(kids, marriage, friends, live, holidays etc.) and the most important one of all trust, tell your boyfriend to promise you not to break your heart and cheat because you and I both know it hurts.
If your boyfriend cheated you more than once I'm afraid to say you and your boyfriend should be over, you deserve better than dating a player(move on), but if he stops cheating and you guys build up trust(which is the most important thing of a relationship) then give him another chance, hopefully you make the right decision but of course it's your decision not mine, hope it helps.
first of all dump his sorry butt he doesn't deserve you, it's low and don't listen to anyone if they say for him to apologize he'll do it again, and over. and girl out there chat to mme my email:shakiraone@yahoo.com
How do you access your husbands texts?
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By getting it when his not looking, or while his asleep. But married men are smart when it comes to having an affair. They will make sure that nothing he does will not give the wife some question.
From my own experience, The man I married hide his cell phone, if I don't know better, he do take a shower with it, even sleep on it. I had never seen his cell phone for over 2 months, not even charging it.
What are signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you if you are in a long distance relationship?
If you're having trust issues perhaps a long distance relationship is not for you and your girlfriend. Talk to her candidly about your feelings and what is going on. If she is not mature enough to commit or you are not confident enough in who you are to accept what she says, perhaps you should move on.
A::She wont call when she tells you she will or wont come online. Even if she does call she will seem distant and busy or preoccupied. Her music taste will change and she will ask you what you think of certain artists you never knew she liked. One of the best way to check is if she has a profile on some thing like facebook or my space. Read her walls to find out what her firends talk about and you might get a clue. One other way is for you to disappear for a few days. Like don't call as much and pretend to be busy. This will show if she actually cares about you and misses you. If you get a negative vibe from her it doesn't mean she is cheating with you it could also mean she might not want to be with you. So cut your losses and just let it go.How do you ask your boyfriend if he still loves you?
Just ask him, If you are having doubts about him still loving you, Just speak to him about it. I hope it works out. (:
Some how growing apart is not a part of love. Every thing changes.,But, apart is another word for,"this might happen again." This has nothing to do with what he says or does or thinks right now. Forget that right now. This is about what you say. Do you still love him? Can you live with this until he comes around to loving you again? If you love him now is the time to be the best wife you can. At lease your half of the convenant will be strong. Then if you find yourself where he leaves you, because some day if he doesn't change that will happen. You can know that you did all you could to make it work. And leave with your head high and your heart safe. But, if you can not. Love is putting the needs and wants of someone else before your sex needs and other wants. But, if you can't live without him. Then do the very best and love him with ALL your heart and put this behind YOU. Don't throw it up to him or it is over for the both of you. Sorry should come with IT WILL NEVER HAPPRN AGAIN. Any thing less, you have to guard your heart. But, saying all of that. Ask yourself do you need him or want him? When the need is gone so is the so-call love. Love rises higher than need. Time to love him. Or time to get out. But, first I would pray and seek someone higher than the two of us and the two of you. Get help. Standing alone is very hard and you can't trust your feelings right now because your thinking out of pain. Not a place of power or strength. You need both, and the Bible has them both. Try it!
AnswerIf your husband wants to work things out, he needs to end the affair, having absolutely no contact with this person, and if possible going to marital counseling with you. If he refuses to stop contacting this woman or renew being a full time, responsible partner in your relationship, the marriage is doomed. It doesn't matter how much you love him--if he is unwilling to take responsibility for his actions and become an honest, contributing partner to your marriage, you will eventually desire to find happiness and trust somewhere else.More importantly, do you still want to still be married to your husband or not? Feelings don't switch off the minute that trust has been broken, especially if there is a shared history and children. But while the affair may end, the issues that led to and resulted from it may last a long time. It's very possible for you and your husband to still care about the other but to have an emotional divorce from each other long before either of you decides to get a legal one.
Can a soldier who had an affair still get in trouble for it after being divorced?
No, it's a personal issue. Many soldiers get divorced because of the length of time they are away from their girlfriend or boyfriend. As long as you follow orders then the Army, Navy or any other Armed Force doesn't care if you are single, married, separated or divorced. You may be expected to pay child support if you have children.
the way i understand it is, if it doesnt directly involve the unit, they wont do anything about an affair. even if you have solid proof. at least that's what they told me in the divorce class i had to take before i could get "advice", good luck.
How do you tell if they are lying?
there are a few good ways ome is to see if they are sweating another is to see if there heart rate went up, look down or away from your eyes, pause to much or just pause, another that i know of is that they seem to be afraid mainly of getting caught, keep in mind that some people are good at it.
1. If they are smiling then they are lying, only if it seems to you its fake 2.Look in there eye deeply and if it twiches then there lying and if it doesn't twitch there telling the truth but if it twtches in the right you wont know.
Don't have sex with him until he proves he is clean. Use a condom. Or simply refuse to have sex with him at all. And divorce should be discussed.
