Cheating

People who don't enjoy swapping, of either sex, don't tend to do it for long if ever.

Those that do enjoy it will keep at it until they are physicaly unable, there's nothing wrong or strange about women enjoying themselves.

it is bad and if someone finds out, they get in trouble

you can't really make up cheating. Its all about earning your trust back. Many people cheat and try to make the relationship work but it never does because you need trust to have a real commited relationship. To gain trust back you may just want to start off as friends again..see where the relationship goes from there

I just wanted to add something to that, theres nun like make sex but that the ponit . THE 1 STEP IS TO TELL HIM SO HE WANT HAVE TO FOUND OUT ANYWAY LIKE FORM A FRIEND . STEP 2 SIT HIM DOWN AND TELLN WHAT HAPPEN AND WHY IT HAPPENED I KNO ITS GOING TO BE HARD TELL ING HIM BUT JUST SUCK IT UP AND TELL HIM.STEP 3 TELL HIM HOW YOU WHERE WRONG AND HOW YOU NOW IT IS SHOUCKING TO HIM THAT YOU WOULD DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT TO HIM JUST TALK IT OUT AND IF HE UNDERSTAND WHERE YOUR COMEING FORM OK BUT IF NOT JUST MOVE ON OR YOU CAN EARN HIS TRUST BACK!ya

Yes. It is very easy for a guy to get a crush on a married woman. As much a single woman is quite honest and forthcoming, a married woman has a mystery about her that can capture the imagination so much more than a single woman. (Of course a guy should know that there are obvious reasons to prevent such crushes and save the crush for a single woman.) Some of the things any guy could wonder is: What goes on in her "family"? How does she treat her husband? She's obviously made love - is she good at it? Of course it goes even further if the guy cares about the woman: Does he make her happy? Is she upset with him? Is she looking for a way out? Is he giving her everything she needs? Is she reaching her potential with him? So you see, it is very easy for a guy to develop a crush on a married woman. If you are a woman, one of the best ways to stop a guy from developing a crush on you is to speak positively about your husband. You may even mention recent things that you and your husband have done together where you had a good time (concert, vacation, dinners, etc).

While I do believe honesty is the best policy, this is not one of those times! You've already hurt this poor guy (YOUR FRIEND) and that was one lousy thing to do. He may not know about the affair, but he probably had his suspicions. By telling him you are going to really hurt him and if you think your friendship will survive after that, forget it! Also, not once did you mention his wife. You have no right to "tell all" without her permission and there is a lot of healing to be done by her and you. Everyone makes mistakes, so learn from this one! You are some piece of work! If people have friends like you who the heck needs enemies. You should be bloody ashamed of yourself for what you have done. You have let yourself down and more importantly taken the trust of a friend and stomped on it. Don't blame her ... you seem to have a voice and should have a conscience and you could have said no to her or do you know the meaning of "no?" Since you aren't the poster child for "honesty" I suggest you get on with life and leave well enough alone. Don't ruin a marriage on top of everything else. You don't know what goes on behind their closed doors and perhaps she has come to her senses and realizes what a good guy she has for a husband and that she risked losing everything. Leave your friend's wives alone and if one comes onto you ... hey, use your voice box, pucker up your lips and form "no thanks!" Marcy I agree with Marcy. What do you hope to happen once you "come clean?" There's nothing to gain here by telling him about the affair. You may think it will make you feel better to get it off of your chest but think of how you'll feel after you've hurt him. his wife was actually the one who broke all contact. yes, i was not a good friend at all but she was supposed to leave him for me - and the affair just continued for years. now she refuses to speak to me at all and i feel though i am left holding the bag. i do feel very bad for carrying it on the way that i did, but i was in love with this woman and believed she was going to leave him (she obviously is not). so, in one respect i feel really bad for pretending to be his friend so i could continue the affair and in another respect i want him to know the truth about who he is still with now. and to a small degree - i know that it may cause her problems if he learns about it. petty? maybe. but at least it is honest. i also realize that this will end all contact between the two of them forever, so it is not a tool in "winning" her back. Be forewarned. You're not gonna like my response. I'm gonna stick by my original answer. I would say nothing to the husband. This isn't about honesty. This is about revenge, right? This woman royally screwed you over and you want to do something to make her as miserable as she's made you. But like Marcy said here, you weren't exactly a victim. And you were really expecting this woman to hold up to the "agreement" of leaving her husband for you when, in fact, she couldn't even hold up to the "agreement" of her marriage vows? If he's in still love with this woman, you telling him she's a cheat will probably do nothing. Even if you were a true friend to him and not the one she was cheating with and you told him that she's a cheat, it will only make you look bad and hurt him, also. She'll come out of it smelling like a rose. It will take him to catching her cheating before he takes any action. Saying something to the husband is only going to hurt him. Secondly, how do you know he'll even believe you -- or will you come out of this looking like you made it up or like you have mental problems? Who knows, at this point, she may have lied and told him that you have a crush on her and that you're mentally unstable? Think long and hard about what the results might be here before you do anything. You're thinking with your emotions and not your head. You don't need things to get any worse than they already are. You played with fire and got burned. For now, you need to chalk it up as a loss (I know, easier said than done) and move on. thank you for the responses. as far as him believing me? that wouldn't be a problem as i have years of letters, cards and emails from her - stating her love for me and her willingness to be with me - even some putting him down that would be proof enough. but that is neither here nor there as i cannot actually see myself telling him or showing him these things. i am angry and hurt that she is no longer a part of my life and refuses to return my calls and i never got the proper closure that i feel i truly need. what confuses me is the fact that she called me right before she moved and wanted to speak to me (i did not receive the call)- and now will not call me back at all. since she is now 2,000 miles away there is no chance of going to see her. maybe the title should be - how can you get someone that you truly cared about to call you back when you are trying to reach them and they are refusing? i did even ask my "friend" (her husband) to have her call me. still nothing. he says he doesn't know why....... Well, she got what she wanted and moved on. Heartless. She and her hubby are not riding into the sunset. Trust me. She will probably have another affair. As for you, use this time to learn from your mistake(s). Me beating you up over having an affair will solve nothing, so I'll say this: You'll heal. It will take time, but you'll heal.

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There's no way to know for sure unless you confront him and he says he's been cheating. However we humans have gut feelings about these things, perhaps it's time to move on if you suspect this person of cheating, but if a man broke up with you and said you should see other people that means he was either cheating or interested in another girl.

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Sometimes, or so I've seen, a guy will be more distant and carefree, or he can be very jumpy and defensive.

A guy could careless about what you do, he could respond with "Yeah. ok. Whatever." He wouldn't be interested in your life anymore, with questions like "how was your day?" or "how are you feeling?" He could also just not want to hang out anymore or go visit you. He might say something like, he's busy or he can't. He might be on his phone more.

Some guys might get defensive when you ask simple questions. if you ask what he did today, he might be nervous and say "Nothing" and if you ask something like, "really? nothing at all?" He might get pissed off, with some response like, "Yeah I said nothing! Jeez, a man can't just do nothing?! God!" He might be on his phone too, but also have it with more locks, protection, etc. Move his phone so you cant see the screen.

You may miss your miss your boyfriend. U might still love him but just move on I miss my boy frien mitchell

The term commonly used to describe a man who murders his wife is "husband" in the context of the crime, and such cases are often referred to as "spousal homicide" or "femicide" when focusing on the victimization of women. Specific examples vary widely and often depend on individual cases, which may have gained notoriety in media or legal discussions.

You can scour the internet or go look at self-help books and they will give you stupid advice like immerse yourself in a hobby, spending time with friends, tell yourself self-affirming things like you're too good for them and they don't deserve you, etc.

It's true that time usually helps ease the pain but, damn, when it happens it hurts and feels like the hurt is never going to go away.

Sadly, if it was love - real love and not a crush - you may not get over it for a long time.  In fact, you may continue having strong feelings for them no matter how hard you try to forget them, even if you find someone else you may hold a secret place for that lost love in your heart.  Little things will remind you of them and a bit of the hurt will still be there.  Don't deny it.  Live with it.

You're not alone at having been hurt by an unrequited love.   

Even though people with the best of intentions may tell you to move on you may find that's it's a struggle.  Maybe that's about all you can do.  Maybe that's about all any of us can do.  Just accept that it wasn't meant to be and stagger forward but keep moving forward because there's more to life in the long run than a lost love.      

no cause now he has been kissing vicki Guerrero

Do they? definitely. Will they fall in love with their wife again? his the only one that knows. Will he fall in love again because he met another woman that has the qualities his been looking for? absolutely. Most married man can easily fall in love with another woman because she have somethings that his wife never gave to him. And when it comes to intimacy he only know the style him and his wife do but with the other woman its a bit different. The excitement is different than what he have with his wife. So it is easy for a married to fall in love again...

By being as nice as you can. Example: If your sister insults you, simply smile and say "I am sorry you feel that way". Or kindly ask "Why do you feel the need to be so rude". Then you are the bigger person, and a lot of the time people are only mean to get a reaction out of someone. Dont give her that.

That is a great answer, but just tell her how you feel in other words, instaed of sucking up t her. Don't let her take charge and just stay away from her if all else fails, because she might just end up being not as pitiless and will miss you. She loves you and always will. Just remember that.

Tell her what you know, and help her to react in a calm and considered manner, avoiding hysteria and extreme emotional outbursts. Some people think that cheating is the end of the world. It may (or may not) be the end of the relationship, but it is not the end of the world.

This isn't an easy answer. Every person is different in their approach. Some can't. Others can. First, a good therapist is in order. Both parties need to want to do this and the lines of communication are key.

Answer2: "Two are better than one," states the Bible. Why? "Because they have a good reward for their hard work. For if one of them should fall, the other can raise his partner up." (Ecclesiastes 4:9, 10) That principle is especially true when you are working hard to rebuild trust.

Together, you and your mate can make a stand against the mistrust that has infected your relationship. However, you both need to be committed to saving the marriage. If you try to cope individually, you may be setting yourself up for more problems. You need to view each other as partners. Resolve to work as a team to restore trust in your marriage.

Ask each other what actions are likely to help rebuild trust. List them, and then put them into practice. Also, add to your routine some activities that you can enjoy together.

If you are the betrayed mate, allow yourself time to forgive fully. At first, you may feel that isolating yourself emotionally from your spouse is the safest course. However, doing so indefinitely will not help you to rebuild trust in your mate. To heal the breach, forgive your mate and express that forgiveness by sharing your intimate thoughts and feelings with your spouse. Also encourage your mate to share his or her joys and concerns. Do not nurture bitterness. Work to overcome it. (Ephesians 4:32 "Become kind to one another, tenderly compassionate, freely forgiving one another just as God also by Christ freely forgave you.")

Mutual trust is vital to marital happiness, if that is missing, there is hard work to do. Lies, half-truths, and even silence undermine trust. So you need to speak openly and honestly with each other.

You should (1) be honest with each other; (2) work as a team; (3) replace old habits with new ones; and (4) know when to let go of resentment, seeking to heal the breach. Eventually, when both of you are satisfied that the necessary changes in your relationship have been made, you will gain a sense of security. Then, instead of giving constant attention to merely saving your marriage, you can focus together on other goals. Even so, schedule regular periods of time to evaluate your progress. Do not become complacent. Deal with minor setbacks, and confirm your commitment to each other.-Galatians 6:9 "So let us not give up in doing what is fine, for in due time we will reap if we do not tire out."

TRY THIS: Instead of trying to get your marriage back to the way it was, think of yourselves as building a new and stronger relationship. Information on Jehovah's Witnesses official website 5/12 Watchtower magazine article entitled Rebuilding Trust.

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You can't do this even though he hurt you so badly. But if doing this will give you closure, you need to decide how and when you can do it. And here is my advice to you, your spouse doesn't deserved anything, alter all it was your spouse who hurt you, not you to him

The percentage of people marrying the person they are cheating with is extremely low. For men they generally want their freedom and will often have a mistress, but, in time generally move on. Women are more romantics and may want to stay in the relationship with the person she is cheating with, but, there are some women that play just as hard as men and become 'users and shakers' loving the excitement of 'the chase.' It's magic when one is chasing someone they are attracted too and the possibility of love making is titillating, but once they meet once to several times that relationship may soon get boring too. Cheating is cheap, hurtful and a sign of immaturity. If both parties in the marriage are not happy they should have the guts to communicate this to each other and file for divorce!

ask him and tell him to honest with u and ask him if he dose and if he says yes ask him what he dose most of the time after school and he might tell u the truth but if he doesn't if ur not telling me the truth this relationship will not last he might tell u the truth

i really hope this helps u

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agreed to what said above ^^

but yeah, try talk to him first, you don't want to do anything you regret, and if he really is not interested then just break up with him and tell him why. then see if he wants you back. but try and be strong

also can you answer my question i just asked please xxx

If your ex is married yes it most certainly is. Just because you had been together in the past does not make it ok to have extramarital affairs.

• Some mistresses cannot let go of the memories of the affair because she has lost the person she loved. Mistresses often believe they are above the wife and will win out and that the man they are cheating with truly loves them. In most cases the man is interested in physical attractiveness; sex and little else. There is only a very small percentage of men who fall in love with their mistresses and are willing to get a divorce for them. The mistress ends up feeling cheated; she lost the battle, but, a mistress should learn from this lesson in life and date single men only.

75 % of girls cheat on their boyfriends.

Boys also do.....but they get exposed.

This is an excellent question. After many years I've discovered it's more territorial than anything else. One women doesn't want another winning over her man! However, it should be the person cheating that gets the kick in the butt. Many people that are already in a relationship have chances to cheat if they wish and many will refuse saying 'I have a girlfriend' or, 'I'm married.' That should be the end of it!

My first husband cheated and his mistress had the audacity to phone me with 'let's talk!' I told her that there would be no talking and I was tying a big red bow on his butt and she could have him along with his abusive ways. He was sitting right there when the call came in with a smirk on his face thinking that two women would be fighting over him. When he heard what I said his jaw hit the floor and then I kicked his butt out the door, got the locks changed the next day and filed for divorce. I wasn't mad at the mistress, but at him!

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For some they will blame the mistress because the husband will compare the wife to his mistress. Some wife will say that if she didn't agree with the husband, he will not cheat. But reality here, from the man I married when I discovered his affair with her, I didn't blame her nor get angry to her. I know it was him who saw her on a dating site, and from there their relationship started, from platonic friendship to emotional relationship that turn to love and physical affair. The only fault of this woman was she didn't say no to the man I married.

Well ask your boyfriend a question like would you cheat on me then he will say no and then ask him something you no he is going 2 lie about like for me my boyfriend shakes his hands and stuff he also gets like a head ache