Cheating

Probably but he can't do anything about it.

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Would he, good question. Maybe he can because this married man love his ex mistress, but he doesn't have that right. He knew that he was married when he approach her before the affair, so what ever his ex mistress was doing, he doesn't have any say on that. He also ruin her life and no one put a gun in his head to have an affair with the other woman. It's all his, no one else.

Most of the time we really never knew, but wondering if he is or not. One thing you can do is pay attention to what he does when his with you, if he is acting uncomfortable, wanting to use his cell, or maybe just want to go to the store for something, that will be some sign. But it will be a lot better if you come to him and ask him so that way he will realize that your getting suspicious of his behavior..

This is one of those things that seems like a paradox because if you love someone, how can you break up with them, right? The reason is this: just because you love someone doesn't mean that they are healthy for you or right for you. Most likely he's come to love you and at the same time there's something about you that he's just not satisfied with- most times it's part of your character. For example, if you're really talkative and he's not, he's going to think you're a chatter box and you're going to think he's cold and distant. In this sense you two are not compatible. It is one of the hardest decisions to make, one like this. In fact I've done it twice and I cried my heart out both times.

Generally if he's the one doing the breaking up for this reason it's because he knows himself and knows what he wants in life in a partner and you're not it. He doesn't want you to think that he hates you. He wants you to know that love wasn't the thing that was missing from your relationship, that it was something else.

Could it be that you did something in the past that hurt her. Or maybe something happen to her in the past before you came along that made her not to trust people. But you can do the right thing by talking to her. Don't let your imagination play tricks on you, talking is a lot more better than just wondering.

* nothing happened * he's just a friend * he's just a coworker * he's just ____________ * we were just talking * I was with ( insert girlfriends name here) * I have a headache * Im too tired * you dont meet my needs * I want to separate * I need space * I need to find myself * I was (insert bogus activity here) * I want a divorce word to the wise....Women won't leave something for nothing.(this means they dont leave one relationship (guy) without have another in the wings.)

* Don't second guess your relationship. You could have been hurt before and are afraid your boyfriend will cheat on you and this stress causes you to dream about it. If you are concerned then communicate with your boyfriend and ask him right out if he is cheating. If he looks uncomfortable; shifts from foot to foot; gets red in the face; won't look you in the eyes; goes into another room or slams out the door then you have something to worry about.

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If he gave you reason before and you him doing it, then you have reason not to trust him. But he is only hanging our with friends, maybe just shooting a breeze with everyone. I have 3 young adult children and most of the times their boyfriend and girlfriend also hang out with their own friends, some innocent friendship that they are not worried and concern. Give your boyfriend some space so that way the two of you will have the feelings of missing each others..

Just come straight out and be like, baby, Are you with someone other than me? if he gets really defensive than maybe he is. Im not going to say He is Cheating if he gets deffensive because He may just feel offended by your question and isn't just trying to cover it up.

About all you can do is have a heart-to-heart with your girlfriend and tell her you don't like what she's up too. If she ignores you then you should tell her you don't want to see her right now until she gets her life turned around because she is putting you in a very awkward position. Cheating is cheap! It's cruel what she is doing. If she doesn't want to be with her husband and feels the need to be with someone else she should have the guts to at least be honest with her husband and separate for a period of time or file for divorce. What she is doing is having her cake and eating it too. If you stand by and watch this you are an enabler. Good friends stick together, but they are also honest with each other and sometimes we all need a good thump on the head. Have that talk (in private) with your girlfriend. Ask her why she feels the need to cheat on her husband. It doesn't really matter what excuse she gives it's just that ... an excuse, and she wants it all ... her husband and the new guy. I wouldn't tell her husband at this point in time because you'll end up the loser no matter which way you go. Good luck Marcy

Because they claim that if we really love them we would forgive them for their mistakes but there's only so much a girl can take, if they really loved us they wouldn't be cheating in the first place right or wrong ?

Yes, he'll meet his match one day. "The head of the snake always turns around and bites you in the butt", meaning when you mistreat people or do harm to them then "you live by the sword, you die by the sword."

People who don't enjoy swapping, of either sex, don't tend to do it for long if ever.

Those that do enjoy it will keep at it until they are physicaly unable, there's nothing wrong or strange about women enjoying themselves.

it is bad and if someone finds out, they get in trouble

you can't really make up cheating. Its all about earning your trust back. Many people cheat and try to make the relationship work but it never does because you need trust to have a real commited relationship. To gain trust back you may just want to start off as friends again..see where the relationship goes from there

I just wanted to add something to that, theres nun like make sex but that the ponit . THE 1 STEP IS TO TELL HIM SO HE WANT HAVE TO FOUND OUT ANYWAY LIKE FORM A FRIEND . STEP 2 SIT HIM DOWN AND TELLN WHAT HAPPEN AND WHY IT HAPPENED I KNO ITS GOING TO BE HARD TELL ING HIM BUT JUST SUCK IT UP AND TELL HIM.STEP 3 TELL HIM HOW YOU WHERE WRONG AND HOW YOU NOW IT IS SHOUCKING TO HIM THAT YOU WOULD DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT TO HIM JUST TALK IT OUT AND IF HE UNDERSTAND WHERE YOUR COMEING FORM OK BUT IF NOT JUST MOVE ON OR YOU CAN EARN HIS TRUST BACK!ya

Yes. It is very easy for a guy to get a crush on a married woman. As much a single woman is quite honest and forthcoming, a married woman has a mystery about her that can capture the imagination so much more than a single woman. (Of course a guy should know that there are obvious reasons to prevent such crushes and save the crush for a single woman.) Some of the things any guy could wonder is: What goes on in her "family"? How does she treat her husband? She's obviously made love - is she good at it? Of course it goes even further if the guy cares about the woman: Does he make her happy? Is she upset with him? Is she looking for a way out? Is he giving her everything she needs? Is she reaching her potential with him? So you see, it is very easy for a guy to develop a crush on a married woman. If you are a woman, one of the best ways to stop a guy from developing a crush on you is to speak positively about your husband. You may even mention recent things that you and your husband have done together where you had a good time (concert, vacation, dinners, etc).

While I do believe honesty is the best policy, this is not one of those times! You've already hurt this poor guy (YOUR FRIEND) and that was one lousy thing to do. He may not know about the affair, but he probably had his suspicions. By telling him you are going to really hurt him and if you think your friendship will survive after that, forget it! Also, not once did you mention his wife. You have no right to "tell all" without her permission and there is a lot of healing to be done by her and you. Everyone makes mistakes, so learn from this one! You are some piece of work! If people have friends like you who the heck needs enemies. You should be bloody ashamed of yourself for what you have done. You have let yourself down and more importantly taken the trust of a friend and stomped on it. Don't blame her ... you seem to have a voice and should have a conscience and you could have said no to her or do you know the meaning of "no?" Since you aren't the poster child for "honesty" I suggest you get on with life and leave well enough alone. Don't ruin a marriage on top of everything else. You don't know what goes on behind their closed doors and perhaps she has come to her senses and realizes what a good guy she has for a husband and that she risked losing everything. Leave your friend's wives alone and if one comes onto you ... hey, use your voice box, pucker up your lips and form "no thanks!" Marcy I agree with Marcy. What do you hope to happen once you "come clean?" There's nothing to gain here by telling him about the affair. You may think it will make you feel better to get it off of your chest but think of how you'll feel after you've hurt him. his wife was actually the one who broke all contact. yes, i was not a good friend at all but she was supposed to leave him for me - and the affair just continued for years. now she refuses to speak to me at all and i feel though i am left holding the bag. i do feel very bad for carrying it on the way that i did, but i was in love with this woman and believed she was going to leave him (she obviously is not). so, in one respect i feel really bad for pretending to be his friend so i could continue the affair and in another respect i want him to know the truth about who he is still with now. and to a small degree - i know that it may cause her problems if he learns about it. petty? maybe. but at least it is honest. i also realize that this will end all contact between the two of them forever, so it is not a tool in "winning" her back. Be forewarned. You're not gonna like my response. I'm gonna stick by my original answer. I would say nothing to the husband. This isn't about honesty. This is about revenge, right? This woman royally screwed you over and you want to do something to make her as miserable as she's made you. But like Marcy said here, you weren't exactly a victim. And you were really expecting this woman to hold up to the "agreement" of leaving her husband for you when, in fact, she couldn't even hold up to the "agreement" of her marriage vows? If he's in still love with this woman, you telling him she's a cheat will probably do nothing. Even if you were a true friend to him and not the one she was cheating with and you told him that she's a cheat, it will only make you look bad and hurt him, also. She'll come out of it smelling like a rose. It will take him to catching her cheating before he takes any action. Saying something to the husband is only going to hurt him. Secondly, how do you know he'll even believe you -- or will you come out of this looking like you made it up or like you have mental problems? Who knows, at this point, she may have lied and told him that you have a crush on her and that you're mentally unstable? Think long and hard about what the results might be here before you do anything. You're thinking with your emotions and not your head. You don't need things to get any worse than they already are. You played with fire and got burned. For now, you need to chalk it up as a loss (I know, easier said than done) and move on. thank you for the responses. as far as him believing me? that wouldn't be a problem as i have years of letters, cards and emails from her - stating her love for me and her willingness to be with me - even some putting him down that would be proof enough. but that is neither here nor there as i cannot actually see myself telling him or showing him these things. i am angry and hurt that she is no longer a part of my life and refuses to return my calls and i never got the proper closure that i feel i truly need. what confuses me is the fact that she called me right before she moved and wanted to speak to me (i did not receive the call)- and now will not call me back at all. since she is now 2,000 miles away there is no chance of going to see her. maybe the title should be - how can you get someone that you truly cared about to call you back when you are trying to reach them and they are refusing? i did even ask my "friend" (her husband) to have her call me. still nothing. he says he doesn't know why....... Well, she got what she wanted and moved on. Heartless. She and her hubby are not riding into the sunset. Trust me. She will probably have another affair. As for you, use this time to learn from your mistake(s). Me beating you up over having an affair will solve nothing, so I'll say this: You'll heal. It will take time, but you'll heal.

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There's no way to know for sure unless you confront him and he says he's been cheating. However we humans have gut feelings about these things, perhaps it's time to move on if you suspect this person of cheating, but if a man broke up with you and said you should see other people that means he was either cheating or interested in another girl.

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Sometimes, or so I've seen, a guy will be more distant and carefree, or he can be very jumpy and defensive.

A guy could careless about what you do, he could respond with "Yeah. ok. Whatever." He wouldn't be interested in your life anymore, with questions like "how was your day?" or "how are you feeling?" He could also just not want to hang out anymore or go visit you. He might say something like, he's busy or he can't. He might be on his phone more.

Some guys might get defensive when you ask simple questions. if you ask what he did today, he might be nervous and say "Nothing" and if you ask something like, "really? nothing at all?" He might get pissed off, with some response like, "Yeah I said nothing! Jeez, a man can't just do nothing?! God!" He might be on his phone too, but also have it with more locks, protection, etc. Move his phone so you cant see the screen.

You may miss your miss your boyfriend. U might still love him but just move on I miss my boy frien mitchell

The term commonly used to describe a man who murders his wife is "husband" in the context of the crime, and such cases are often referred to as "spousal homicide" or "femicide" when focusing on the victimization of women. Specific examples vary widely and often depend on individual cases, which may have gained notoriety in media or legal discussions.

You can scour the internet or go look at self-help books and they will give you stupid advice like immerse yourself in a hobby, spending time with friends, tell yourself self-affirming things like you're too good for them and they don't deserve you, etc.

It's true that time usually helps ease the pain but, damn, when it happens it hurts and feels like the hurt is never going to go away.

Sadly, if it was love - real love and not a crush - you may not get over it for a long time.  In fact, you may continue having strong feelings for them no matter how hard you try to forget them, even if you find someone else you may hold a secret place for that lost love in your heart.  Little things will remind you of them and a bit of the hurt will still be there.  Don't deny it.  Live with it.

You're not alone at having been hurt by an unrequited love.   

Even though people with the best of intentions may tell you to move on you may find that's it's a struggle.  Maybe that's about all you can do.  Maybe that's about all any of us can do.  Just accept that it wasn't meant to be and stagger forward but keep moving forward because there's more to life in the long run than a lost love.      

no cause now he has been kissing vicki Guerrero

Do they? definitely. Will they fall in love with their wife again? his the only one that knows. Will he fall in love again because he met another woman that has the qualities his been looking for? absolutely. Most married man can easily fall in love with another woman because she have somethings that his wife never gave to him. And when it comes to intimacy he only know the style him and his wife do but with the other woman its a bit different. The excitement is different than what he have with his wife. So it is easy for a married to fall in love again...

By being as nice as you can. Example: If your sister insults you, simply smile and say "I am sorry you feel that way". Or kindly ask "Why do you feel the need to be so rude". Then you are the bigger person, and a lot of the time people are only mean to get a reaction out of someone. Dont give her that.

That is a great answer, but just tell her how you feel in other words, instaed of sucking up t her. Don't let her take charge and just stay away from her if all else fails, because she might just end up being not as pitiless and will miss you. She loves you and always will. Just remember that.