Marriage

It depends...

You could always just call them grandma and grandpa. Or call them by their first names. Ask them what they want you to call them

It remains the same

They can celebrate however many years they want to its there decision .usually you do it every 10 years

First, keep in mind - that changing your spouse is impossible, forget about that, right now. Changing their mind about being motivated to get a job, to stop cheating, to stop playing video games, to stop smoking (anything), to like your family.

They have to want to do that. The more you push them to try and change, the more you will push them away. Guaranteed!

The only suggestion that I would have for YOU to change, would be to give up being selfish and give up trying to control everything. This marriage is NOT about you. It is about a covenant. To serve the other, to honor the other and to respect the other. These are the actions.. Love is the choice. Chose to love them time and time again.

If you are a woman, it would be a traditional idea to change your name. It is very easy and there is a step-by-step instruction on the link below.

Spiritual power cannot be increased alone. The only way to grow in the Spirit is through prayer to God. Luckily, once asked, God will generously give His power to those who work for Him.

no he is not gay

he is bisexula

meaning he likes men and women

She died in the late 70's after suffering a stroke. He has remarried a wonderful lady named Linda. Linda is responsible for Len finding his prostrate cancer and being cured...wonderful women and great kids

Men are pretty much the same everywhere; German men have the same range of domineering-ness (as do German women) that American man and women do.

The ring is suposed to connect you to your heart, as the belief goes th at there is a vein from the ringfinger directly to the heart.That is why rings are worn on that finger only.

Both men and women are attracted to other people and will look if they notice a beautiful person. Being involved with another person romantically does not change how beautiful other people are; there are simply customs in place in society that limit the amount of interaction romantically involved people are allowed to have outside of that mutual relationship.

Looking at other people is not wrong; it is completely normal. Also normal is the jealous response many people get from seeing their significant other looking at someone else.

We must understand that we are not the only attractive people in our significant others' lives and that just because they are looking at someone else doesn't mean that they are planning to leave us. Finding someone attractive and wanting to be with them romantically are two completely different things.

If a person looks at someone and their significant other notices, the person doing the looking will weigh the response, self-image/self-esteem, and feelings on the subject of their significant other as well as the likelihood of being able to fool their partner into thinking they were looking at something else, and they will produce a response based on that analysis. Most often, it will be to deny that they were looking at the other person.

I doubt narcissism has anything to do with this. If a person drinks a lot or is an alcoholic they can be extremely abusive and even physically harmful towards their family and friends and often are arrogant and cruel. There is nothing you can do to stop him from drinking. He has to want to stop drinking. Many people go through traumas in life or just plain unhappy in life and even depressed and never know it. The next thing they know they may resort to alcohol or drugs thinking this will make them feel better. Not many men will go for psychiatric counseling because they either find it's a weakness or they truly believe it's always someone else's fault and never their own. The only chance you have is to make a plan and to stick with it. If you have children then you owe your children a safe and healthy environment. Even if you don't have children you owe yourself the same thing. Here is a plan (if you so choose to decide to use it) See a lawyer (or go to Legal Aid if you are low on funds) and ask for help and what your rights are. If your husband is extremely violent and you decide to put a Restraint Order or a Cease and Desist Order against him you can ask for police protection while he is being served. The police will actually escort him out of the house and if he makes a fuss he will be cuffed and taken into custody. As painful as this is for you, this is not giving up on your marriage, but a short-cut (hopefully) for your husband to realize you have had enough and he stands a big chance of losing you and any children you may have. It may be a big enough shock for him to seek out help at AAA or he could go downhill from there. The choice is entirely up to him. I also suggest you join Alinon(?) where partners of alcoholics can go and talk things out and learn more about why their husband/wife chooses alcohol over them and their children. It's a great place to go and you won't feel so lonely during this painful process. Good luck Marcy Like Marcy said, begin by dealing with the part that you have control over - yourself. Please go to an Alanon meeting today. Narcissim, by the way, is very hard to change, if that's what your husband really is. Good luck! They are likely separate issues. If he won't deal with his drinking, you'll have to make major changes if you want a life worth living. (probably also true to the N'ism). The agencies suggested in earlier answers are good, so is a therapist you go to alone. If children are involved, it is very important that you deal with this. If he's also an N, he will likely NEVER admit he's got a problem of any kind, and that includes drinking too much. Get straight with yourself, look the problem(s) in the eye, get the help you need, and take action. Don't wait for him. You are worth more than this. Take care of yourself--sooner the better. Good luck and peace to you. Georgette Answer-- The alcohol issue is just the tip of the iceberg, especially if it is with narcissistic behavior. Sometimes alcoholics or alcohol abusers find after getting away from alcohol, that deep down, something psychologically is not right and needs to be fixed. Whatever is bothering them has been covered up for so long or has been internally denied and the result is a pathological behavior. Narcissists lack internal controls and sometimes turn to alcohol, drugs and adrenalin rushes and any dramatic behavior they can create for stimulus. Although they like to be controllers, they exist in a cycle of behavior that ranges from depression to manic elation. And I agree with the above posters. Once again, you can't change people. They must want to change for themselves. As in narcissism and alcoholism, it will take an N or alcoholic hitting bottom after a major catastrophic event or situation to even consider changing or stopping alcohol and drugs. You must protect yourself and your children and attending Al-Anon is a good way to learn more about improving your life and managing your husbands' various sicknesses while not compromising your mental and physical health. I wish I had the time to attend Al-Anon...I do attend AA, and many women in my groups attend Al-Anon not only for themselves, but to learn about how to deal with others. Since attending AA, I have learned so much about what is bothering me, and learned to deal better with others. AA is a spiritual program, I am not sure about Al-Anon, but I would think it would be based on principles of the Twelve Steps. In the meantime, don't be afraid to be pro-active about protecting yourself. You never know, you may be able to save your marriage and do well for your husband by learning more about yourself. My best to you and God Bless! mbme

== == I understand all the comments about being nice to the MIL. Well mine is out to destroy my marriage. The ex is invited to all family functions and I am told that is the "Moral" thing to do. The final straw was my oldest daughters wedding. The MIL invited the ex wife without asking me. (This child was 22 when we married) I told my daughter if she wanted me there, the ex would not be. Not only does the ex upset my husband, but she has not allowed him contact with his own daughter and the MIL supports it. If we sit back, then everyone assumes we are OK with it. My husband has repeatedly told his mother to consider his feelings first. She dismisses him. I finally have just stopped going to family events, it is too stressful. My husband is welcome to go but they are too stressful to him too. Even at Church on Sunday, I avoid the MIL like the plague. She is one real piece of work. I personally think she is bent on making my marriage miserable in the hopes we will break up. That is not happening. The more she is obnoxious, the more my husband distances himself from her. At his brothers wedding, the MIL had the ex stand next to me in the family pictures and then had the gaul to ask if we wanted to buy one. I just bit my lip and smiled. == == == == Boy, you sure do have a problem. It really isn't up to you and your husband should be handling this. You shouldn't even have to ask him and he needs to know how you feel about this. There are two ways you can handle this: If your mother-in-law is good to you and you get along well and do the odd thing together even though she sees your husband's ex wife, then you can really live with this. Just because two people divorce doesn't always mean the other party was bad. Some people's chemistry just doesn't mesh together. They were probably friends and it you just don't break friendships up. You could be big about this and just try to understand as best you can. I have no idea if your mother lives in your City or town, but if she does concentrate on having a relationship with her. Considering you never said "mother-in-law" and said "my husband's mother" I take it you aren't that close to her. You probably wouldn't be even if there was no ex wife involved. As long as your husband's mother doesn't bring up the ex or try to start trouble, just let it be. I think you are much more worried about what she is saying to the ex about you, if anything. Our imaginations can work over-time. If your mother-in-law is seeing your husband's ex and talking to your husband about her, or bringing his ex up to you often, or comparing the two of you then I would put your foot down. As I said before it's up to your husband to have tuned into this and he's part of the problem. Of course, us ladies know, most men hate confrontation when it is a problem between two women (in this case, 3 women) and they are basically afraid of us! LOL So, my dear, it looks like it's up to you. I would sit down with your mother-in-law and weigh your words carefully (just in case she decides to express her feelings to your husband or his ex.) If you would like to explain your situation a little better as to how your husband's mom and you get along generally (other than his ex) please just answer on this post and we can figure out something before your put your whole foot in your mouth. LOL Marcy Hi I just logged on and created an account but you'll see that I wrote something down below(before I knew how to do this) . please give me some advice Hi this was my question and the thing is my husband was never married to his ex they just had a long-term relationship though. on and off for 8 years no children. We have a five month. old and I'm afraid that his ex is abusing her re;ationship with my mother-in-law as a way of waiting on the sidelines. and I don't know how to tell her this without damaging our relationship please help Hi there Welcome to the board (and a good board it is! LOL) You really need to sit down with your husband and discuss the closeness of his ex girlfriend with your mother. He is letting you down by not dealing with this. I don't blame you one bit for being a little worried that this ex girlfriend of your husbands may cause problems, but then, look at it this way ... he married you! I think you really need to talk to your husband because he sounds like quite a nice guy, and I highly doubt that this ex of his could possibly split the two of you up. I bet your husband hasn't given it one thought about his ex trying to win him over. If he doesn't have anything to do with the ex then you have nothing to worry about. These should be the rules around your house: This ex is not wanted! That was then and this is now! If his mother wants to continue to see the ex then let her as it's of her own free will and she has the right to do so. However, she should keep all comments to herself and if the ex is visiting it should be at your mother-in-law's home and at no time, should this ex be in your home. Exes shouldn't be invited to family functions (unless there are children involved) and in this case there isn't. It is very poor manners to bring up anyone's ex in front of the new wife/husband. I have been married before and my husband's 2 brothers were great guys and were the ones to tell me to leave their brother because he was mentally/physically abusive to me and also cheating. After I did leave my ex, his brothers and their wives wanted to continue being friends with me. I took them aside and told them that it wasn't a good idea because it would always keep me connected to my first husband. They were hurt, but understood. I went on my way and eventually found, dated and married a wonderful man I've been married 34 years to. A few years later my exes sister phoned (sweet girl) and really wanted to see me, but again, I stood fast and didn't get involved. It took me a lot of years to get over the hurt my first husband instilled in me and I didn't want them resurfacing and ruining my present marriage and I didn't think my husband should have to put up with this. I was kind to my exes sister and explained where I was coming from and I am sure I hurt her feelings, but I knew she'd deal with it. It was all very sad because I really did like my exes sister and brothers. I suggest today VALENTINE'S DAY that you have a romantic dinner (not breathing one word of what your feelings are regarding your husband's ex girlfriend) and just enjoy! Then on another day sit down with your husband one evening and be open and honest with him about your fears. Your husband is not only suppose to be a husband and lover, but your best friend. To tell you the truth hon, I don't think you have much to worry about, but can understand you want to nip it in the bud before anything goes wrong. Men just don't understand how crafty women can be, or how catty one women can be to another. If you have any other questions or need more support please post again. I would love to hear from you. ENJOY VALENTINE'S DAY! Marcy Hi Marcy, here is the thing I actually have a pretty good relationship with my mother in law we talk on the phone probably once a week and we visit every other Sunday. However my husband's ex is a hair dresser and my mother in law claims she can't have anybody else do her hair, OK but I don't think that means that his ex has to come to her house to do so. (She also does my 17 year old sister in law's hair.) Now I'm sure that to some I might sound like a jealous, and paranoid "freak" but But I know through past and recent experiences that she would do anything to have him back. The crux of the matter isn't the ex it is how to talk to my mother in law(p.s. I have spoken with my husband on the matter on previous occasions and he has just dismissed the issue) So I would prefer to go over his head so to speak. I am open to all forms of counsel -Thank You S. Hi Sheryl: I thought a lot about this and I feel you are lacking a little self confidence and when married one should have trust in their partner. If your husband was interested in his ex he would have married her, but obviously he didn't and he picked you. When your husband was going with his ex, his mom was using her as her hairdresser and I have to say I love my hairdresser and would hate to have to change. It's tough finding good hairdressers out there. I don't really see anything wrong with your mother-in-law having her hair done by your husband's ex. By telling her this bothers you, you are trying to control her life and that's not right. If you get along with your mother-in-law then there is no real problem, but the fact you feel insecure. I know it's an odd situation, but if you were ever going to trust your husband now is the time. The reason he sort of had a "ho hum" attitude is because it's no big deal to him and he can't understand why you are having a problem with this. Sounds like your guy is honest and there is absolutely nothing to worry about. This ex can do all she wants to try and win your husband over, but I doubt she could. Does she ever see your husband and if so, when and where? If she is in contact with your husband and you can see real reasons to be concerned about him weakening towards her this is a whole different set of circumstance, so let me know if they are in contact with each other. Hang in there girl Marcy

If the action was properly executed and witnessed it would in all likelihood be legally binding. Although some factors that might make it possible to contestation are the time frame between the date the marriage occurred, the time the Pre Nuptial document was voided, the mental state of the participants and the time the spouse died.

What are the signs to prove this. You can build up your husband to be the best.

Mary Todd was a Caucasian woman

A person has committed adultery when he or she had involved in consensual sexual intercourse with a person other than his or her spouse. This is also known as philander.

Nosy? Jealous? Hoping for bad news? Don't even reply.

Yes, as long as they are her female friends

amber Thompson

the diary is pretty full of crimes the husband has done probably.

Only you can tell. If you feel that you are ready to begin a committed relationship with one person and you are ready, willing and able to treat them the way you wish to be treated, then you are ready. Times differ for all people in all situations, but if you are worried that someone will judge you and say you've jumped in too soon, you shouldn't worry what other people say so long as you are confident with your choice. And if you are worried that you'll start the relationship and then figure out that you're not ready, you should talk to your partner about your feelings and tell them you want to take things slow.

• Wouldn't it be wonderful if humans were perfect, but reality shows none of us are perfect and our main goal is learning from our mistakes. If your husband has never cheated before and this is the first time and he regrets his indiscretion then it is worth another chance to resolve the problems he has in the marriage. Communication skills are a must in a marriage and it appears both of you need to hone up on these skills. Agreed, cheating is a weakness when the person cheating cannot be honest with themselves or with their partner and want their cake and eat it too ... the wife and the woman they are having an affair with. Why? That is what the two of you need to discuss and base a good marriage on. There are thousands of couples going through what you are going through and many of them communicate and seek marriage counseling and manage to save their marriage. In the 21st century it appears if a partner even goes off the road and into the ditch of life once then the spouse uses it as an excuse and is only too keen on ending a marriage (less work) and moving on. Successful marriages take a lot of work and 'marriage isn't for sissies.'

• If you have never cheated and just your husband has then it is not you that needs to forgive yourself, but your husband needs to smarten up and see what he has done to you. There are no excuses for cheating! If people are that unhappy in a relationship they should have the fortitude to face the person and tell them the relationship is over and then start dating other people. People who cheat are spineless; have no moral sense; do not respect the feelings of their spouse and are self centered and selfish. Your husband needs to earn your trust back if he wants to come back into the marriage and if so, then marriage counseling would be a good idea to give you both the tools to learn to communicate better and to deal with any problems you have in your marriage.