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Abused Men
Instances of men being abused by their partner – physically, emotionally or even sexually – are as prevalent as women abuse. Unfortunately, many of these cases go unreported because male victims have to contend with social standards of men being the abuser.
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If you are not being vindictive, and/or running the risk of filing a false report, and if you HONESTLY suspect that there is domestic violence and child abuse taking place in that relationship, you MUST report it to prevent possible tragic consequences for ALL concerned.
if there are true friends then they won't make fun of you but help you out of it asap. If you tell them tho you have to be willing to breakup with her because I'm pretty sure they won't approve of you being in a relationship like that and that can put a strain in your friendships.
Yes Ronald Defeo Jr Aka Butch Defeo is alive and well. He is still in prison for the 1974 murders. He resides at Greenhaven State Prison.
Does your nagging about your husbands smoking effect him?
It will most likely annoy him. The more you nag the more annoyed he might become. He might even become angry. But, it is doubtful that he will quit smoking.
Because they want to have sex and then they leave them pregnant and then go to their next victim. Men do this because they want sex to leave women pregnant and leave them all happy. This happens to 95% to these women and 5% get hit by their husband.
False reports are the norm with abusive wives. They falsely report you to authorities and belittle you in front of children. Document her behavior, get witnesses, and go see an attorney. What you may think is unprove-able is proveable with an attorney and help.
== == * First off not all men are abusive. Those that are have had the problem for a very long while. They are chameleons and when you meet them you would never guess that they have an abusive nature until you fall in love and start seeing more of them and then the signs gradually creep up in a sneaky way. Even chameleons have to change their colors every so often and can't constantly fake it. Women are considered the weaker sex, but really aren't. Yes, men are stronger, but women can stand up to most men if she is independent in herself and not afraid to walk out that door or refuse to take any sort of abuse. There are more self defence classes for women out there than gyms. However, this does not make the abused women in our society weak or frail. In fact, they are heroes in their own right simply because they survive the best they can. Women are romantics, while some men can take full advantage of this and use the woman, or abusive men can catch these types of women in their web of insecurities and violence. None of us know when we first meet someone and if they are abusive until we are totally involved. Many women will leave their abusive mate, but some stay out of fear, sometimes because of the brain-washing the abuser has accomplished with her, or the fear of losing any children she may have with her abuser (they will often use the children against the woman to gain more control.) The bottom line is, men and women have total control of their own lives and we can all form the words "no" and move on.
=== === * The cycle of violence. An abuser in the beginning of the courtship appears nice, fun and like he really "gets you". You feel good around him. He makes you feel "chosen" and "special". Little does the victim know is that the abuser has to work pretty hard at this stage to hide his true colors. If he was too show the woman his true colors this early on, most women would dump him as there is little emotional connection. Then the abuser feels comfortable. He feels you are hooked in enough to begin his destruction. It will start off small. Such as comments meant to confuse, destabilize or insult. He may do this in a way that keeps her guessing such as "did he really mean what he said to be rude?". As time goes on, you will notice one day he gets very mad and/or very withdrawn. When you ask him about it, you are blamed. He may take some blame but he may also slip into the conversation that you are also at fault. He may become jealous and paranoid you are going to leave. He may follow you without you knowing it. He may argue with you on the phone and begin the silent treatment. He may start to make you feel like yo are nothing. Insulting your friends, clothes, religion, employment, recreational activities. He then will go from lashing out to being very nice. He is afraid you may finally say to hell with this and leave. Therefore hes gotta provide that hook. He turns nice again. Often like the man you first met. You get hope back. You think maybe he realises what he has and will change. He doesn't. Before long he returns to his former behaviour. He cannot change as his thought processes are still the same THROUGHOUT the entire cycle. Eventually the victim may start to pull away. She may consider leaving him. he can sense this. The abuser can detect a victim in this stage. He may become needy like a lost puppy. He knows deep down she has the strength to leave him and it terrifies him. He will be very nice then mean. He doesn't know how to handle her threatening departure and independence. He feels he better act quickly to put her in her place. He may cheat and rub her face in it to let her know other women want him. He may aim to tear her down emotionally. He may beat her. The victim often goes through rage, sorrow, and fear until she finally reaches the lost hope stage. Once she has reached lost hope, she realises that no matter what she does she cannot change him. Often this is a light bulb moment. The pain of staying is worse than leaving although the longing and sorrow may still be there. Finally comes the day when the victim leaves. They may better themselves and work on their inner and outer self after being systematically worn down. Often they have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Victims are strong and can heal quicker than they see possible. It is when they are no longer in grief and their self esteem begins to rise that the abuser loses his control. In fact the abuser rapidly loses control once the victim leaves.
Answer Everyone in life keeps secrets, don't let anyone ever tell you that they don't keep secrets sick people included. Narcissists are sick people, they need help and they are known to be liars as well so watch your step around this person and always remember, what they tell you may not be the exact truth.
You're kidding, right? Girlfriend, you need to get a life and be quick about it. If you're supporting this riff raff and he's emotionally abusing you for it, he needs help that you can't give him.
Kick him to the side and get a little counseling for yourself to help your self esteem.
Good luck!
well simple just say i dont wanna be married with u...
Don't leave.
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How can avoid possible disappointments in the future?
- Not one human can avoid disappointments in the future. Sometimes disappointments of not getting what you feel you should at something in your life is a good thing because quite possibly a better opportunity may arise. If not, then by experiencing disappointments the good experiences you have are much more rewarding. It comes under: if you never know sadness you can't truly experience happiness; if you love someone and they don't love you back (it is better to have loved than never have experienced love) then you will not appreciate true love and on and on it goes.
that would be filing a false police report, which is a crime. You have to be able to prove it though
My best friend is a guy How can I prove to my boyfriend that there's nothing going on?
* You can't really. He is going to believe whatever he wants to no matter what you say. No matter what you did to try and prove to him nothing was going on he might think you are trying to hard to prove it. And then think that you are just trying to hide more. If he doesn't trust you now, he most likely never will. Might be time to find a new boyfriend. * When in doubt about a situation reverse the roles and see how you would feel if it were you; example: He has a best girl friend and he saw her off and on and you weren't involved. How would you feel? There could be a way around this if you were to invite him over for dinner and let your boyfriend talk with him and you stay low while these two guys get to know each other. If you are going out with your best male friend then stop for awhile and try to involve your boyfriend into the friendship more. Perhaps in time they will become friends too.
Why does your husband chase you out of the bedroom at night?
Please resubmit your question as it is not quite clear what you are asking. Thank you.
What can you do about a bitchy woman who sucks all of the air out of a room?
True, some bitchy and malcontent women can suck the very air right out of a room when they enter. However, that being said the man has the freedom to leave at anytime and not look back. If he chooses to stay in such an environment then he can't complain about it.
Is emotional mental or verbal abuse rare for men to receive and are the signs or symptoms the same?
No - it's not rare at all. They get depressed, withdrawn, and consider leaving just like a woman.
Why did owners of sweatshops pay their workers piecework wages?
First lets define sweatshop:
The U.S. Government Accountability Office defines a sweatshop as an employer that violates more than one federal or state labor law governing minimum wage and overtime, child labor, industrial homework, occupational safety and health, worker's compensation or industry regulation.
So this the established rule for this country, in other countries it may vary depending on the nature of that countries government.
To answer the question.
Why did owners of sweatshops pay their workers piecework wages?
Answer:
To increase the individual productivity of each line worker, the more pieces assembled or completion of task the more money made, theoretically, but what if the company is dishonest and the accounting is different? Generally this type of exploitative environment would have accommodations, housing and store for instance, where the money made would go back to the company. The company would have it figured out by tracking productivity and it led to setting of threshold analysis (how much can a person in an age, or physical ability bracket can produce) so there would nearly always be, little or nothing left, leaving the employee in a slave like situation and in debt to the company.
As you know, you cannot fix her problem and live your life safely. Six months to your move date seems like eternity. You can start working toward your new life, by slowly separating your affairs. Put all of your personal papers in a safe place outside of your home (safety deposit box?). Set up a P.O. box in your name only and change your address to that for all of your bills--and insurance. If you share credit cards, remove your name from them and get your own, just in your name. Or, pay them off and close the accounts. Rent a storage unit and try to ferry your most precious belongings there as you can, so they won't be held hostage. Find a new dentist and leave your records where they are, unless there is a large issue that needs to be resolved. When you move, be sure to put codes on your utilities so that they cannot be adjusted by anyone else. She is not going to change even if you stay and since your feelings are gone, it is a toxic relationship. Sooner or later though, when you don't renew the lease, she is going to know that you are leaving. Not sure how to advise on that issue. When I left my abusive spouse, I met him for dinner to let him know the kids and I had moved and then took a ciruitous route home.
AnswerBackground:My girlfriend and I live together. We signed a lease together in a two bedroom apartment. I still have five and a half months left until the lease expires. My girlfriend's father was verbally abusive to her when growing up. She has no self-esteem, always seems like she is competing for my attention, etc. She always asks me to drop what I'm doing to come cater to her needs. I don't mind helping out, but I can't get anything done. When upset she becomes a cursing fireball who slams doors, breaks small items and immediately finds something I gave to her as a gift and gives it back to me. A former boyfriend cheated on her from day one in a previous relationship, so she obviously has trust issues. She told me once that if she knows where I am, she feels like she can control the situation as far as me not cheating. I never have and won't ever as I have been a victim once myself. She complains that I never spend enough time with her even though we live together. From my observation, she seems to view quality time spent together from a like/dislike standpoint. Meaning, if I enjoy a tv show she also enjoys then it's ok. If I do not like a show she is watching, I will still spend time with her and suffer through it. However, if I lik the show, she thinks I would already be watching, therefore, no quality time. She hasn't told me this, but it seems to be her perception of quality time. We broke up two months ago. I wanted to mutually agree to break up as it was/is not healthy for either one of us. I urged her to seek professional help which she had done in the past ten years ago in her early teens. She refuses. Upon breaking up, she threatened to cut her wrists and drive off into a ditch to kill herself. I should have contacted her family, but I did not. Fast forward to present day. We are together, but I have been withdrawn ever since we broke up and got back together. I feel emotionally drained. I can't leave my apartment yet as I am in between jobs currently. The reason I have not ended the relationship for good is due to her behavior. She loves my dog, however, I fear for his safety and my belongings. So, when I do obtain a new job, I plan to move out unannounced, change my phone number, and either e-mail or send her a letter regarding our relationship. I have a great relationship with her family. I plan to call or send them a letter and explain my situation. Another note, she works in a dental office. I have had work done in that office. I won't go back after I break up as I will be in another city. She has access to those records and I fear she will somehow attempt to call my insurance company and request my updated info. I believe she will tell the insurance company she is sending me some pertenant info. in the mail and must have my address. I would think some kind of privacy law would be in effect, but I do not know. Any advice would be much appreciated?
ANSWER:
U R preparing properly. Once U have a job - move the hell out - and if she continues to harass U, get a restraining order. If money is short, simply talk to a policeman and they will talk to her, but make sure that he fills out a police report on her stalking U. then if she keeps it up U have a case for a court-appointed lawyer and cheap restraining order. Females are more emotional and are hard to get rid of once they go crazy. prepare, have a plan, DO NOT get her pregnant. Do not be so dependant on having someone around, u have a hand to keep u company...so use it and live on your own for a while.
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Mines is short and simple: just leave her. Her life is DEFINATELY not worth the abuse. God Bless.
How do abusive women treat submissive husbands?
In my experience an abusive woman will increase the level of abuse in the relationship as long as the submissive husband tolerates it or allows it to go on. In my own case, I was conditioned to fear my wife and to accept all punishments. An abuser requires a spouse who is weak and submissive and takes the abuse.
if you were that depressed enough to lie to the cops and have your boyfriend taken away you need serious help and he needs to find a new girl friend that's total bs maybe you should of called an ambulance for your unstability.
What does pseudo sacrosanct perversion mean?
pseudo means.. 'fake' or false... sacrosanct basically means something 'sacred' and perversion...... has more than one meaning, look it up in the dictionary,,.. and work it out from there. Someone has been listening to "Psychosocial" from Slipknot
definition used in song: perversion
1388, "action of turning aside from truth, corruption, distortion" (originally of religious beliefs), from pervert (v.) (q.v.). Psychological sense of "disorder of sexual behavior in which satisfaction is sought through channels other than those of normal heterosexual intercourse" is from 1892, originally including homosexuality.
