Abused Men

Threatening with suicide to get you to do what he wants is just another kind of bullying. Go ahead with the separation, there's no reason for you to put up with an abusive, bullying and manipulative alcoholic.

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I am into some pretty strange things, but this one always gets me. If you really insist on doing this, start out with just the two of you in the bedroom and ask her bring an imaginary strange into the room. Go from there and see how far she'll take it. Play it by ear as to the sex of this person. If she enjoys it, try it again sometime, but don't over do it. Maybe someday she'll allow it to happen for real. Then after that, it may be easier to bring up the subject. I would suggest you get some psychological counseling because cheating on one's mate is not cool! Marriage is marriage and if you have this fetish then you should never have gotten married. Don't put your wife in this position (and I don't mean that literally!) Grow up! Marcy ANSWER: I am not here to judge but give an unbiased answer. Best thing to do is come up with a fake scenario. 1. Butter her up first. Tell her she is really gorgeous and you must be the luckiet guy to get a great piece of ass like her. Tell her she looks like a million bucks and has a body most strippers' would be jealous of. 2. Pull on her heart strings. Start working overtime or get a second job. Be at work as much as possible. (she might just cheat on you automatically from you being abseent so much) When she ask why you work so much. Tell her you need the money real bad. Say you thought she should have everything she wanted and you tried to give her a lifestyle that suits her but all your debt is catching up to you. 3. Here is the hard tricky part. Somehow convince your wife that she should be a stripper. Don't straight out and say it. Be more subtle and be like "too bad you are married, because if you were a stripper we would be debt free and living large". A lot of women despise strippers, but at the same time secretly love the fact that some men might actually find them attractive enough to think they could be one and is willing to pay to see them in the buff. The goal here is to get her to become a stripper. Since all stripper girlfriends pretty much cheat. But it is okay since you get to bang all her stripper girlfriends eventually.

There are just too many possibilities, but I'll give you a few: * She has PMS * She's going through perimenopause (starting to have hormone changes) or is into menopause (no periods at all.) Hormones can do very strange things especially to women. * She could be bored and feel unloved in her married. Perhaps she feels that she is taken for granted around the home. * She may have given her all to her husband and children and craves something for herself. If the husband was wise he would encourage her to take night classes or go to college to further her education or even go back to work. * She could be depressed and should see her doctor. * She should get a good physical checkup from her doctor to be sure she doesn't have such things such as high/low blood pressure; thyroid or adrenal gland problems. * If she is on medications then look up the medication's side effects on the Internet or get a printout from the pharmacist on the drug to find out if irritability or depression is a side effect. It's time to communicate with her to find out what she is thinking and why she is acting this way. If she doesn't know why she feels so unhappy and feels suffocated or depressed then let her know you are there for her 100% and you can both go see the family doctor for that physical checkup.

* Because a woman is naturally weaker than a man, and if a man was to hit a woman it would be unfair. * Unless the woman is defending herself no woman has the right to hit a man in anger and it's considered physical abuse.

Of course! The Lord hears every prayer whether spouses are fighting or not.

No, they are generally more quiet and submissive and its more males (sons) in the family that will follow their father's traits towards their mother. However, if a daughter has been sexually abused by a father or male relative they can become abusive (man haters) and have a great deal of rage left inside. Few women that were abused when younger come forward and only a small percentage of those that come forward are believed. Often when the daughter goes to a mother they would deny to their daughter this ever happened, or, the daughter was flirtatious and caused it to happen.

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It depends on the person. Everyone is different. I know someone who grew up with an abusive father, and its very common for women to look for men similar to their fathers, because that's the "man" model they grew up with. So this person seems to be attracted to men who hit and try to control her.

Narcissistic women aren't much different than men who are. They are selfish; self centered; ego maniacal and only do things for themselves that make them feel go. Since you already know she is selfish and self centered and consider her a narcissist then it's better to break up the relationship and move on because these types of people will stop on you every chance they get to get what they want and don't care how you feel. Eventually the narcissist will dump you and move on.

You're obviously not that attracting. Because it takes the right guy to get the girl wet ;) Or at least on me.

She's gonna kick your bottom :(

Or maybe she's just into BDSM, I dunno.

No. It develops in children who's parents give them too much attention unnecessarily, and treat them like they are God's gift to the world. Commonly the parents are narcissistic too. It is not genetic and can be prevented if one of the child's parents are not narcissistic and give them a somewhat normal childhood.

Contrary to the above answer, scientists have conducted research that shows the narcissists brains are different. Shown images that would cause shock,horror and distaste to most humans, Narcissists have no reaction to these horrific images, in fact the frontal lobe is where we process emotional content and moral conscious decisions. This part of the brain is non operational in a narcissist,and can be genetic. Which can account for the narcissist coming from a well balanced,honest, and kind upbringing. Also a genetic narcissist can be born into a deviate family which creates the possibilities for a true monster.

• If your husband is never home because he is working long hours or may have to travel re his job then it is generally up to the wife to keep the house in order and do the finances. On a weekend during the month you can go over your finances with your husband. If your husband is lazy and is out with his friends then it is a type of emotional abuse, but he would not have a clue that he is doing this to you. It is up to you to find a time when he is home and communicate with him how you feel and that you are not putting up with his behavior as far as not being home enough and spending time with you. If he is unwilling to communicate with you or ignores the fact you are not happy with the way things are going then you are in control of your life and you will have to make the decision whether you stay and put up with your husband or separate for awhile and see if he gets the message then. He may miss you if you are not there and if he doesn't then you have the option of divorcing him and try to find happiness for yourself.

Its when your partner pounds your butt

you just say thank you and comment on how good it's

Because he is a weak scumbag loser who is abusing you to elevate his own self-esteem. Dump him.

When someone who has been in any type of abusive relationship and they do not seek psychological counselling they will never get over it. She is full of rage and anger at the previous person and had absolutely no control to stop it. What she doesn't know is she has stopped it to a degree, because you sound like a nice guy. Unfortunately, because she obviously has not had any psychological treatment she is still in a rage mode and you are the one taking the brunt of it. In her mind a man in NEVER going to control her again. I suggest that you sit with her and give her this option: "I love you, I want to be with you always, but you need some psychological counselling to deal with your past. I'll go with you as support if you like. If you refuse, then I am leaving!" She may have a hissy fit and tell you to leave and she may even leave, but unless she gets this help she will destroy her future and you as well. Good luck Marcy

I was in an abusive relationship for quite a while. I didn't date for a few years after I left him. Once I started dating I was so dysfunctional and could not handle the fact that the guy I was dating was not like the guy that hurt me. I didn't even realize what the problem was until my new (nice) bf left me. Finally I went to counseling. That helped some, I still have issues but I don't take it out on my significant other anymore. Counseling is crucial, the sooner the better.

It is not fair to be accused of something that you are not guilty of. Your wife has reason to feel the way she does. You need to find out what that reason is in order to get beyond it. Talk with her about why she is feeling the way that she does. It may or may not have anything to do with you but finding out, addressing it and being as supportive as possible to resolve the issue is necessary if you want it to stop. Although (from personal experience) there are times that all efforts may be unsuccessful. Then seeking help through a counsler (which would include you) may be necessary. If you love your wife then address it and do what ever it takes to repair and move forward. Sticks and stones may break your bones but don't let the untrue words hurt you. False accusations of wrongdoing and crime, and spreading malicious gossip about a spouse (or other member of one's family) are common forms of abuse. However, it's impossible to answer the question (as to whether or nor it is abuse) in the abstract. If you are being wrongly accused, why is your spouse making these accusations? Has she perhaps misunderstood something? Most important of all, is this part of a wider, long-standing, systematic attempt to make you feel bad? Is she trying to exericise power over you by making false accusations? If it's part of a pattern of behaviour involving wielding power over you and not a misunderstanding, then it's a form of abuse.

adults say they hit them because it's their way of showing love and compassion..counter arguments say that the parents drink to much and get angry easily and take druuugs

* You will firstly have to sit back and try to remember when stressed if you have ever threatened her and the children by saying 'you are leaving them because you've had enough.' Every marriage has problems and people can lose their temper. If you have not cheated, been verbal or physically abusive to your wife and try to get along then you have a clear conscience and she is paranoid for some reason. If the police have found your wife's accusations towards you false (and obviously they have) then the next step is to speak with her doctor and let him know what is going on. You wife could have a medical condition creating her paranoid thoughts or hormonal problems. Go through your family doctor (without telling your wife) and see what your doctor can do about this. If you get no help then you can temporarily separate taking the children with you until she is willing to seek professional help.

There are all sorts of things in society where a person can be a victim: * Home invasion * Rape * Sexual Abuse * Mental/Physical abuse * Abuse from a person on any brain altering drug such as alcohol or street drugs or even the misuse of certain medications. * Bullying * Threats from anyone in your life * Identity theft These are but a few. Here are some tips to stay as safe as possible: Things you can do to avoid becoming a victim: * Take up a self defense program. Learn the tricks and trade of protecting yourself. There are many ways a woman can over-come a man no matter how large he is. Although pepper spray is illegal I live in Canada and I take it with me when I go out alone. I hardly think the police are going to arrest you for having it and if it gives me time to get away from my attacker all the better. * Always be aware of your surroundings (keep off that cell phone) while walking or driving and be aware of what is going on around you. Drive with car doors locked! * Don't jog anywhere alone and keep those headphones out of your ears! More women have been raped because she had headphones on and didn't hear the perpetrator come up behind her. * Do not sit at bus stops that are surrounded by hedges or on a lonely stretch of road. If possible pay for a taxi or call a family member or friend to pick you up. Do not hitch hike! * Don't date strangers you have met at a party even if a friend of yours knows them. If you are attracted to each other then meet another time. Be careful of Date Rape Drugs in your drinks and don't leave your drink on the table while you are not there. If you make a mistake and leave your drink order a fresh one. Don't think it can't happen to you! Some young women are also using the Date Rape Drug on young men. * Sexual Abuse is to be reported and there are Abused Women's programs out there as well as programs for Abused Men. * Rape is the lowest form to demean a woman and although it's an extremely traumatic act women should try their best to report it (without shame) and should not cave into having a shower (which is a normal reaction) because it will wash all evidence away and the police need DNA. * Verbal Abuse is when someone is constantly putting you down and making you feel vulnerable as well as losing your confidence. Get rid of them! Rule of thumb ... when someone makes you feel bad 80% of the time it's time to get them out of your life. They are not your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife or friend when they do this and they take up too much of your energy. Walk away! * Bullying at school, college or at the workplace should be reported to a Superior and if they don't listen tell someone else or press charges against them. * If you receive threats by email, on a website, my phone, cell, or by any other means report this to the police. Some people do go through with their threats. * Identity theft is extremely high. Do not go onto websites without knowing that website is safe. It is better to pay when your package comes than to pay over the Internet if at all possible. Be wary of your ATM card when using it. Check your Visa statements and your bank statements on a regular basis. If you see something that doesn't look right report it to the banking institute immediately (you may have forgotten a purchase you made) but better safe than sorry. Internet: * Do not give out any personal information to sites you can't trust and that's difficult to prove. Never give your full name, address and if possible don't give out your Visa # unless you are certain the site you are on is safe. If you don't know the name of the person emailing you then delete it! * When carrying a purse cross the strap over your chest and don't let it dangle by your side of hang it on the arm of a chair in a restaurant where a thief can easily take your purse. If they succeed 'you no longer exist in society' until you get your ID's renewed. This means cancelling all banking accounts, ATM cards and Visa cards. To make it short 'if it sounds too good to be true it generally is!' Car Safety:* Always look in the back seat of your car before getting into it. Many perpetrators will lay low on the floor of the back seat and you may not see them even if the interior light goes on automatically. Drive with your doors locked! Never pick up strangers and if you feel they are in trouble or stranded use your cell phone to call for help for them. If you have car trouble, put the hood of your car up and then lock yourself in the car. Never get out of your car if a stranger stops. Carry a cell phone and call a tow truck or your spouse, family member or a friend. Never park beside a van in a parking lot. Often more than one man can lurk inside the van and when you are busy getting into your car they can grab you like grease lightening and off they go. Leave a mall with another group of people if you are shopping alone and whether it's daylight or dark it doesn't much matter these days. Criminals are getting more bold. If an individual is abducted and thrown into the trunk of a car then kick out the tail lights (police will notice and pull the driver over.) Also if you kick the tail lights out you can wave a piece of clothing to alert other drivers. If a man should lurk in your back seat hit the gas! This alerts other cars and police and hit the meridian or drive into a gas station. The perpetrator does not want to attract attention. This is a must before they get you onto a lonely stretch of road. Hopefully you are a person that is alert and will not become a victim. Jogging or Walking: * Never go alone! Stop using those headphones! Be aware who is around you. More women have been attacked and raped because she had headphones on and didn't hear her perpetrator come up behind her. Always go with a friend and if that is not possible do your jogging during daylight hours and in a busy area; do not jog in parks alone! If you have a dog take it with you! Home Invasion: * Locked screened doors and windows are not safe! Use your A/C if you have one. Be sure you have good locks on your doors. If necessary have decorative iron bars installed at the backside of your home. Use motion lights. * If you can have a dog then get one! The dog doesn't have to be large. On a program on TV a Home Invader said if he hears a small dog bark when he is going to enter into the home he would rather go to a home where there isn't a dog. He's tipping society off, so take heed. * Do not answer the door to any stranger even if they look alright to you. Home invaders have all sorts of tricks up their sleeve. Don't depend on that little hole you peer out of through your door because someone else could be hiding out of range. * If you need repairs done wait until your spouse is home and if you don't have one then have a male friend come over when the serviceman is coming. While most service people are fine, the Boston Strangler used gimmicks to get inside women's homes. Always be alert and aware of your surroundings and nix the headphones and cell calls while walking or jogging. Pay attention! Learn self defence and carry bear spray or pepper spray if you have too.

== == == == == == == == The answer is pretty simple: LEAVE !!! Do you think that it will get better? It won't! Do you think that she will stop after the baby is born? SHE WON'T! I promise you that you will end up in jail either falsely accused, or because you finally "lost it". Plenty of guys pay child support to a woman who deserves to be alone, but NO ONE ever deserves to be abused. Of course she will have mood swings as a pregnant woman, but your boundaries must have a base threshold: no physical abuse, no breaking things, and no police. If she doesn't like it, then she can do without you. You deserve humane treatment! I don't care if she is the princess, and you are the hunchback of Notre Dame, you need the emotional fortitude to say, "Good luck with that! See Ya!" When her behavior is acceptable, you must be very disciplined to reward it with affection, help, emotional reassurance, foot massages, midnight runs for odd food combinations, or whatever a pregnant woman needs, however, when you get the signal that she is losing control, protect your boundaries, freedom, body and sanity by removing yourself as quickly as possible, and recording the process of your escape. Return after she has calmed down. If you are not there, then you cannot be guilty or arrested. Think ahead. Have a plan. It would also be helpful to have a small tape recorder or digital camera in your pocket with a "movie" function in it, so that you can press record at the very instant that you sense an episode approaching. In ANY case, it is to your advantage to make sure that whenever the police arrive, that you are the most calm, collected, and logical person there, that you possess evidence and/or witnesses, and obviously that you are totally submissive to the police and are relying on them to protect you. If you continually repeat the behavioral pattern of leaving the house EVERY time her behavior begins to be abusive, then you will condition her to stop it. If you have to sleep somewhere else too often, just get a new place, and let her fend for herself.

You are physically stronger than her, so you are not being forced to stay. The only reason that you are being abused is because of your lack of self esteem, poor planning, and poor personal boundaries. It needs to be very clear to her that you will not tolerate this behavior, and that you have the emotional strength to walk away in this very moment. She's pregnant, so you win; she needs you more than you need her. You can use your strength to leave, but it will require the logical realization that you hold the power, and the healthy fortitude to make the decision to walk away from abuse. If you don't have firmly established boundaries with her now, then one of you will eventually grow in disrespect for the other to the point of withdrawal or cheating. When one partner withdraws, the other cheats. Poor boundaries will doom the relationship to codependency, failure, and heartbreak. You have to be willing to reject her, if necessary, in order to bring about the mutual respect required to enjoy the state of emotional health that will allow your relationship to last.

If the woman is your wife or girlfriend, never hit her.Stay calm..There are so many questions that can be asked for this particular situation. Is she always this abusive? What caused her to lose her temper to hit? If you absolutely did not provoke the situation, I would tell her in a calm voice that you are going to go into another room or outside while she composes herself and then you come back and try to talk rationally with her. Your best bet is to stay focused on being calm with her. You need to talk to someone who is going to help advise you on how to handle such a situation.Being that she is pregnant, she might be feeling depression knowing a new baby is on the way. On your part, maybe putting your arms around her gently and hugging her and tell her that she is very important and that you want to be a part of her and the baby. Try helping her with household chores, I know as a woman, that I never got hugged while I was pregnant. I was yelled at, I was verbally abused.Women love to be held and told that we are loved. I understand that men have a hard time showing that.If you have done everything that you know to do to help her in any way and she still gets physical, you may have to get legal advice on how to handle it, in order to keep both of you safe.You do not deserve to be hit. There are many abusive women and they have no more rights to be abusive than a man, but when it comes to a third party (the baby) the men have to be very careful in how they handle the situation. No one deserves to be abused, no one. No one has the right to hurt another human being. That situation is very delicate.If she is getting really angry and hitting while she is pregnant, will she abusive as a mother? There are a lot of things to think about in this situation. Note added from the Police: Very first line says, "If the woman is your wife or girlfriend, never hit her." - Honestly, even if she's not your wife or girlfriend, pregnant with your child or not... it's probably still not a good idea to hit her. Legally, it's NEVER a good idea to hit a woman. I'd say kick her in the stomach...but I'm a horrible person and nothing I say should be taken into consideration.

• There are many men out in society that are either verbally or physically abused than society knows because it has always been about abused women because they are classed as the weaker sex, but many men are abused. Most good men are brought up not to hit a woman so if the girlfriend or wife is verbally abusive the man is more likely to go into a shell of his own or keep out of her way. If he is physically abused he will not fight back, but may try to restrain the abuser. He does not tell his friends or coworkers because he fears he will be considered a coward or a 'wimp' and often his male friends would say, 'Well hit her back!' It is not a good piece of advice. There are programs that abused men can go too for help and it is kept strictly confidential. Unfortunately, like men feeling they are infallible and should always act manly they will generally not seek out psychological counseling or go to any program regarding abuse. What do men feel like when abused by their wife?: They feel they are no longer a man; they are in a submissive role they are not use too; he feels he is there to protect his wife and any children they have, but the abusive wife has taken this power from him; he fears his friends will find out; it can affect his job; he may become depressed. Women who are insistent on abusing their husbands either verbally or physically may well be faced with a husband that may snap one day and it could lead to some unpleasant outcomes. A man has the right to file for divorce againt a wife that abuses him.