Abusive Families

Try to get to know her and what she likes stuff like that.Treat her nice, then you should expect niceness back. If she doesn't and is still treating you bad then talk to your dad and tell him to talk to her about being nicer. She shouldn't just show up and then be rude!

Talk to your dad. You might hate her on principle and find out that she isn't a total meany. But if you have a legitimate problem, then talk to your father. He might not know.

Get to know her. You could turn to her and tell her so she would understand that she is not your mom and that your mom is real but is no longer with us. No other woman, especially your step mom, would ever replace your mother!

I should think so, unless they are being held by bribes and threats from the abuser. Many kids in the US suffer from mistreatment, but are too afraid to seek help. Some are bottling it up, hiding in their rooms to seek the only peace that they are allowed. Look around. Do you see one particular kid who always has bruises and cuts, and they don't say how? It may be they are being abused. Tell them it's okay. Help them seek help.

Poverty is a big factor in many cases of domestic violence. The pressure of a job loss; no jobs available and perhaps losing a person's home or bills piling in is a great deal of pressure. People that are rich poor; different races can have domestic violence in their home. The person who is the abuser is generally a product of their environment.

Put ice on it and that will help. The way you wrote the question is that the kick was on purpose by your mother. If this is true, then, it is abuse and you need to call social services.

If the disrespect is not too severe and there is still some communication between you, you may be able to handle it on your own. Fortunately 'disrespectful' is a normal state for a 15 year old. At some points in the teen years, an individual starts to have their own ideas, beliefs, and feelings. It's part of the maturing process, getting ready for the future when they will need to do most of their own thinking and decision making. Bit by bit they have to wean themselves off relying on the parents to do it for them. For a parent to recognize this fact is half way home. To understand that their ideas or decisions may not be quite on target for their own well being is also to your benefit.

You 'deal' with a disrespectful teen (the earlier the better) by being respectful to their experimental decision making and new ideas that they didn't learn at home. Respecting it does not mean agreeing to it or allowing everything they come up with. You are still legally responsible for a 15 year old. It means that when they say or do something that is cause for controversy, instead of firing back about 'stupidity' or 'how dare you use that tone...', as calmly as possible, talk to them about what makes them say that or feel that way. Instead of telling the that they're 'wrong' (if they feel that way, it's how they feel), get them to express their thought process or what led to feeling that way (even while you're seething inside about who is trying to destroy your baby). Show that you are listening, you don't need to agree, just listen. Help them to think through what they're telling you without being preachy. If you can pull this off a few times, your teen should feel more confident about their own ideas and more likely to think them through more maturely as they discuss them with you.

I would say that, yes it is a form of abuse. No one should do anything to you to make you hurt or feel bad about yourself. I do not know what type of things she might say that would be threatening. If anything she says to you makes you feel scared then YES it is considered abuse. Talk to someone you trust at school or at church. Maybe you could talk to one of her brother or sisters. They may be able to talk to her and make her realize what she is doing to you is wrong. Please be safe and contact the police if you truly feel she could hurt you.

You need to tell a responsible adult outside of the family, such as a teacher or police officer. You have the right to be taken care of and loved.

Well.. figure out which aspects of that fact is actually affecting you.

Lack of attention?

Inequality in the relationship?

Cutting down or helping up?

Look at it like a homework assignment if you have to.

Then go talk to them.

There are many options:

-- seek counseling

-- call the domestic violence hotline 1-800-799-SAFE

-- if necessary, move out before it escalates

• A veiled threat is a sentence given to another that can have two meanings and be taken as information or a joke or a threat. Example: 'Now that I've told you my private secrets I may have to kill you' and the person laughs or on a more normal basis 'If I ever found someone going out with my girlfriend I'd kick the crap out of them so bad they would be in the hospital for a month.' This person may be suspicious of the person they are talking too, but put the sentence in such a way that they are simply talking about anyone, but know full well that the person they said it too gets the drift of what the threat is all about.

In most healthy situations when we are children, we are taught, good touch, bad touch. This definitely falls under that category. Even though you did not mention a thing about being touched, showering with your Father can lead to such behavior. I want you to stand up for yourself, and tell him no! And if you are afraid of the consequences you might face, then you need to seek the help of a professional as soon as possible my dear! Try calling your local hospital during the day and ask for the therapist on duty, don't be afraid, once you get some one on the line tell him, or her what is going on. If you are not comfortable talking to a man, you can ask for a woman. This person can better direct you in which direction to go. Therapist at hospitals are always having to report abuse, of all kinds, even sexual. If you don't want to do that may i suggest calling a incest hot line of some sort, if that does not work, please call a sexual assault hot line they can give you the right information also. Please do not let him, or any man push you in to something that is not normal, or healthy. Remember, it's your body, and no one has the right to touch you , and make you feel awkward in any. If you feel that you are in any danger please call 911 before any of the numbers mentioned above. I pray all will be ok, just be strong.

Let A be a crisp set defined over the universe X. Then for any element x in X,either x is a member of A or not.In a fuzzy set,it is not necessary that x is the full member of the set or not a member. It can be the partial member of the set.

John Wayne Bobbitt

• Domestic violence is one of the leading problems from today's hectic lifestyle; economic problems such as loss of jobs and financial issues along with scare tactic propaganda through media that effects many individuals. Also drugs such as alcohol or street drugs can often create domestic violence. Although women are more likely to be beaten by their mate there are more and more men who are also abused by their mate. Domestic violence should be supported because the victim (man or woman) can be harassed; threatened and in some cases even murdered and most importantly when domestic violence goes on in families it effects any children they may have and a high rate of those children will go on to become abusive in their lifetime (chain reaction.) By being supportive people can change the lax laws of domestic abuse to protect the victims involved.

• You need to take the risk of sitting down and communicating with this individual and perhaps the problem is the fact that both of you disagree on any punishment given to the children when they are unruly and both of you need to set rules for the children and stick to them. Simple rules for disobedient children is being 'grounded'; not watching TV; not seeing friends, etc. If this individual is putting you down by calling you names; telling you that you are not a good mother; not a good cook; ugly; fat or no other man would want you then this is verbal abuse and children should not be brought up in such an environment. If this individual takes no part in raising the children; yells and screams for you to control them if they make too much noise or the two year old cries; beats the older children with a belt or other object; slaps them across the face; pushes or punches then this is physical abuse and not acceptable behavior. If this is the case you need to take yourself and your children out of this environment by getting rid of this verbally abusive partner.

We humans have a perception about our lives.God has given us some good and some challenging situations in our lives.Apply our minds in such a way that we come out of every problem.History is full of instances when great man had taken their misfortunes for making there life purposeful for mankind. Perceiveing situations in our life as good or bad, is in our minds.Get up and face these situations with calm and never dying attitude.Best of luck for a bright future.

• No, in many cases pushing someone in the heat of anger or frustration does not mean that person will turn into an abuser. At some time in every person's life they have pushed or shoved someone in the heat of anger, but it is not a continuing act. While pushing is not acceptable to anyone people are only human and true physical or verbal abuse has become confusing to many. True physical abuse is a continuing pattern such as; pushing; shoving; kicking; scratching; throwing things at their mate; black eyes; cut lips; broken teeth and ribs; bruising or threatening the victim with a weapon such as a knife or other object. If someone pushes you for the first time make sure it is clear to them that they are never to do that to you again and mean it!

• No, many males when younger can be just as abused as females. Often there is a great pressure on boys in the family to either work hard; get top grades; be the best at a sport and excel beyond their expectations and also many young boys can be sexually abused by a parent, family member or a friend of the family. Male or female it's a trauma for both sexes.
  

Yes - I have done it.

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No, she is Filipino.

Spousal abuse is two people living together and it doesn't matter if they are married or not and they are verbally or physically attacked by their partner. It just isn't men that can be abusive, but woman as well.

MENTAL ABUSE: Calling the victim names. Criticizing their every move. Demeaning them in front of others. Not allowing them to go out alone to have fun with friends and keeping them away from family members. Controlling the money (not giving her any money) and perhaps not allowing her to use the car/truck when she needs it. Playing "mind games" where he will stay out late at night and making sure the victim knows he's cheating on her, but will deny it. Degrading the victim by tell her she's stupid or ugly and taking her confidence away by telling her she would never get along in the world without him.

PHYSICAL ABUSE: Punching, kicking, twisting limbs, slapping, pushing so violently the person will fall and injure themselves. Bodily injury such as black eyes, broken bones, split lip, hair pulling, bruises. Some physical abusers will actually choose spots on their victims such as the rib, chest, or hip areas to hit because no one will see the marks.

Marcy

I have suffered at the hands of my partner, he has been mentally abusing me for years. I couldn't breathe without him thinking I am cheating!

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• There are no true statistics as to how many people survive domestic violence because many domestic abuses go unreported.

that's not a question it's an observation