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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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How can you help some one who is not true to her self?
she needs to be comfortable with her self and life. learn to love your body!
- Don't ever count on an abuser 'gone for good.' He may well get tired of whatever he is doing or whomever he is seeing and be back! The best thing you can do is go to your local Abused Women's Center and ask for help in your situation. The counselors are there to offer good advice as to how to handle your abuser; your legal rights and if need be a safe place to go too called a 'transition house' if it is necessary.
Its really up to your boyfriend but it would be very awkard. If ur up to it and you really want to be his friend then do it.
Whether you stay friends or not depends a lot on what went wrong with the relationship. If cheating, fighting, or dishonesty was involved, I wouldn't recommend it. I was once really good friends with a guy before we went out. When we broke up, I was really upset because I didn't want to lose the friendship. There wasn't any bad event that caused us to break up, it was just because we never saw each other. We both made an effort to stay friends, and it is working great. I think it depends on how important the friendship with the other person is to you. If you hated every person you broke up with, you would end up losing a lot of valuable friendships.
justsome1
AnswerThat depends on how your relationship ended. If there is bitterness on either side it may be a good idea to let things be accepted before you try friendship. If things were more mutual and there is no resentment you can try for a friendship but I have never personally found it rewarding to stay friends with some one i broke up with. I broke up with them for a good reason and that would taint them to me as a person.If they are confident enough to break it off, they are confident enough to tell you they want you back, so scrub that possibility pronto. Anecdotal experience suggests to me that they probably enjoy sleeping with you, and by admitting to having feelings for you are trying to manipulate you into obliging them. If you go along with it, expect to hear an 'I don't know, I'm so confused'. Making a 'fun buddy' out of an ex who dumped you is a VERY bad idea. To any dumpee I would recommend cutting off all contact ASAP. They dumped you, they can find a booty call elsewhere
Wait until the test is complete, otherwise you may be telling him something completely incorrect.
If the test is positive, you will have to tell your parents and decide what to do.
What does it mean when people say you let your guard down?
When people say you let you guard down it mean that your seeing what you want to see but it isn't real that your in a fantasy. like a guy or girl might break up with you and then next week or whatever you let your guard down after you recovering.
you forget everything cause you wanted to be ok.
Example of situation where you are taken for granted?
- Example of being taken for granted after a breakup: If your ex keeps in touch with you and wants to either keep seeing you, but does not commit to a relationship or complaining about their life they are void of your feelings (heart broken perhaps) and that is taking advantage of you. Most individuals have had some experiences where they have been taken advantage of in other areas of their life. Example: A good friend who someone else you know who either gets you to pay their way to places you go; borrows your clothes and does not return them to dropping you like a hot rock when someone else they feel is more exciting comes along is taking advantage of you. In cases of being taken advantage of and no matter if it is an ex or a friend learn to form the word 'no' or be honest and tell them to their face you do not like being taken advantage of. If you do not then you enable the behavior of anyone that takes advantage of you.
Why do I keep dreaming about making love to my ex abusive boyfriend?
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It is not an an attraction issue, but the fact that you were abused distorts your mind and can give you these dreams. You are probably dreaming of the better side of him, the one that never hurt you. Making love is very emotionally bonding, and the same for abuse. That is why you are having these dreams. It helps to talk, you can stop by my bio to chat. As for everyone else, I want to help you so I must say that you need to talk about this do get it out of your head. STAY STRONG LADIES!
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An excellent answer, to be sure. Dreams are our subconscious trying to sort out issues that we haven't resolved in our waking hours. Recurring dreams are a sign that it's time to deal with it. Answer number one may be right on target as to why you haven't completely been able to break the tie that binds; if that's your issue or if it's something else, then an appropriate person to talk to will really help. You may be able to work through it in your own mind or you may want to talk to a professional. But, if you make yourself a goal to get there, that's half the battle. The goal is to accept your experience as part of your life, as a part of who you are by what you've learned, and that it's time to step forward to your new and improved life.
Why would my recently married ex try to reconcile with you?
- Be very wary of your ex. Remember the relationship you had with him when things started to go wrong between the two of you. It sounds as if your ex is selfish; immature and a cheat. Do not feel this is a compliment by your ex in any way. He will stay married, but will be expecting to have a sexual relationship with you. Tell him you are not interested (no matter how much you may love him) and move on as you can do much better in a man than your ex.
What are signs when you cant trust someone?
usually, that person you tell should be a very close friend
You hear what they tell you, but your instincts say different. You want to believe them, because you like them in some way. That is the line you have to draw. Maybe trust them on something small at first, and see if it turns out to be false. People are so good at it, after a while that it's hard to tell the difference. They look you straight in the face and smile and say something really wrong, or lie to you. If the first one is a lie, trust only that the next one will also be. Even if they tell the truth once in a while, the next lie could hurt you. Pathological liars lie all the time. Even they don't know after a while what the truth is.
How do you act when your ex comes around?
Well if you don't really like as anything anymore, just ignore him. If he wants to talk, then talk. If you guys are still close, be normal.
He may still like you, only remember he is a EX for a reason
He has stopped communicating what to do?
You said, 'he has STOPPED communicating' which means he had been communicating before. YOU have to ask yourself if you are the problem! Do you just rattle on about what you think and feel or do you give him a chance to speak about his feelings. Do you respect him if he gives you respect. Are you one of these women that just prattles on, but doesn't listen to what he might have to say and if this is the case then he's decided not to get into altercations with you any longer. If none of these things have happened and he's closed mouthed, then you have to sit him down, turn off the TV and any other distractions and get to the root of the problem. If he's not cooperating then tell him it's over and walk away. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship.
Do women leave men who do not open up?
They can. It is hard to get information out of people who don't not want to share it with them. Women need to know what is going on in a man's head to kow how they work and if that man doesn't want to talk it can be hard. You should learn how to talk about things. It will help you too; it's unhealthy to keep everything inside.
the guy feels okward.....wouldnt you ?the point is some guys could be confused on where or who they can tend to choose who they want to be with
What does a person learn from feeling the agony of a broken relationship?
What you learn from feeling agony of a broken relationship:
- Learning that you can't make certain people love you
- That some men or women are out for sex only and nothing else
- That all people aren't nice
- Learning that there are 'movers' and 'shakers' out there that will verbally abuse you and try to take your self confidence away. They are the losers not you!
- When you respect someone they should respect you back
- That you should 'never' let anyone press you into a sexual relationship immediately.
- When your family or friends tell you that they don't like the person you are with have the guts to take a second look at this person and be honest.
- Not let one bad relationship make you think all men (or women) are none caring because there are a lot out there that are.
- 'Never' give up your self respect or reputation at any cost.
- Pay attention to whether your mate has good friends or bad. Does your mate drink too much (sloppy drunk) or does too many drugs.
- Learn that you are in control of 'your' life and you can stop anything at anytime if you so choose.
- Don't fear being picky about who you date and it's better to go without a date on a Saturday night then end up in a loveless relationship or with someone that strips you of your dignity.
- Be independent and not clingy with mates as this is a complete turn off. Learn to give of yourself to others such as volunteer work and seeing your friends every so often and don't make your mate the sole point of your attention as they will take advantage of it.
These are some of the highlights to learn and 'all' of us are still learning so don't feel bad. Without going through some rough times we would never know true love and you'll know it when the right person comes along.
Does someone who break up with you come back to you later?
they could,when my bf broke up with me i hated him but he still had feelings for me even tho he was in a new relationship..about a month later he broke up with his gf and asked me out again.i took him back and we've been together for about a year now.it just takes time apart to relize what you had you always wanted.
Why do men tend to avoid the topic about their new found girl when asked by their ex girlfriend?
* 'Ex' means the relationship is over and you have no right to ask him about his new girl, nor do you have to tell him about someone you may be serious over. It's a new relationship and he may not want to hurt you with details about her (he obviously feels awkward) and it's time for both of you to part company and move on with your lives.
Why is your 6 year old daughter angry?
Dealing with children this young you have to play cat and mouse when asking questions. I worked for a psychologist who would get the child interested in something they liked and every once in a while he would slip in a question (in your case ... why do you feel so angry and who are you angry at?) Keep playing and keep asking the question in a different way until she tells you something. Children will just suddenly blurt it out as if it's no big deal. They don't understand why they are angry or frustrated. If this doesn't work (it should) then please take her for counseling. Good luck
Should you get back with someone after they have cheated on you with there ex?
It's all up to you. If you feel that person still loves you and you love him, you should talk to each other and fine the answer. But if you think that you don't have those feelings anymore, than you shouldn't.
How you feel in love is completely personalised to each individual! Some feel floaty and happy all the time, whilst others feel a sick but exciting sensation. Many others can't eat, can't sleep and just want to be with their partner 24/7.
He ignores me but still tells me he loves me .what should i do?
Try Playing him at his own game, if he thinks he can't have you then he will want your more.
if he ignores you again then dump him!
