Breakups

He may just miss you but still does not know what he wants. Unfortunately sometimes this is a case of he may not want you at this point but he also does not want anyone else to have you and that is not acceptable. Don't wait around for him, live your life, move on and see how things go. If he sees that you are not dwelling on him and he is not the object of your affection anymore he may realize what he let go and want you back or that could be exactly what he wants and is glad you moved on.

When somebody just ups and leaves another person, its not for lack of reason. There has to be something that caused them to act or react in the way they did. From the perspective of the one who was left, he/she really does believe the other left for no reason; everything was fine, we were doing so well, I can't understand why he/she did this. Let me assure you, there was a reason. You may not understand it at this time, but you may if you use some critical thinking skills. I am not saying this to be hard on you. This very thing happened to me when I was younger. She loved me until the day she left me. I said the same thing, "I just don't understand it... why?" Well there was a reason. She simply left me for another man. Gee, how novel! However, when I looked back, I saw that I had become a coach potato, did not watch how I dressed anymore, became somewhat moody, temperamental, etc. Instead of trying to work it out, she decided just to leave. Now this may have nothing to do with your circumstance, however there was something that fostered this behavior. You should try to introspect, and attempt to understand what may have caused this for your own well being and self improvement if any is indeed necessary. On the other hand it may have been nothing about you, but something about he/she. Maybe your the perfect mate! However, something in the other individual snapped. Still, there has to be a reason, whatever that reason is. If this is going to affect you in a negative way, then you need to search for the answer, but with using the most appropriate approach.

I'm not quite sure what "messing around" means but I just want to say that you should not have to change your whole lifestyle and allow one to control you just to be with them. Relationships are about give and take not just one sided and no one person is worth putting your life on hold or giving up your friends for. Remember you can always keep friends longer than you can a boy/girlfriend in the broad spectrum. Let this one go and move on to someone that will not be dictating to you or smothering you. People will only treat you the way you allow them to.

Well it depends on several things. If the relationship was sexual, it could mean, I want sex. It could also mean, although I don't want to date you, I'd like to be "just friends." Now that could mean friends with benefits or just platonic friends. If he made the call then the former is probably true "friends with benefits."

Don't jump to conclusions yet, he has only agreed to talk with you. He may have some things of his own that he would like to ask or say to you as well. Talk with him and take things from there but don't be overbearing, pushy, needy or agumentative - take things slowly and calmly and try not to cry.

I belive South Carolina

(South Carolina)

Well personally i think this is normal. Depends on what happend between you and the guy...either it was good or bad, etc. Ive liked this guy since my freshmen year till now that i am 20 years old. Its been 6 years we spoke before but some crap occured and now well idk we dont talk much...its a bit awkward...i mean if u talk to him then go for it and tell him how u feel...u never know! maybe liking him for all these years probably was worth it......now if hes taken then go out n meet new ppl, a new guy perhaps... some one who is way better and does not remind u of him at all! Trust me now i have a bf and even though i still sort of think of this other guy i love my bf and hes like the best thing that has happend to me....

Gas will not be cheap again for a long long time. In fact, it might never be cheap again, no one really knows.

Dont jump to conclusions there so fast now. You might remember that back in Sep up to Dec of 08 during the race between McCain and Obama, gas prices fell significantly. This was a result of the McCain party threatening to drill in the US and utilize our resources rather than import them (oil) from countries who don't like us very much. This scared the other countries, therfore driving the price down of a barrell of crude down significantly. Remember gas fell down to nearly $1.35 a gallon? Luckily, it hasn't risen back to $126 a barrell. Anyhow, in the forecomming months, Jan-Mar 09' many refineries had started their yearly maintence turn arounds and shut downs, resulting in less gasoline being produced therefore keeping the prices high and actually raising them. Shut downs and turn arounds are a good thing. They ensure our fuel is clean, and they pour money into the local economies. Unfortunately, some of these refineries cant find financing to contiue their projects and have been forced to lay off many contractors.

Motiva of Port Author TX has one of the Largest CEP (Crude Expansion Project) of the last 30 years going on right now. Unfortunately they've spent all their cash on all of the new fractionator towers and Exchangers and have yet to find financing to continue the project and have been forced to lay off 4500 contractors in the past few months, discontinue per diem and many other benefits. Bectal Jacobs and Motiva project that the Expansion will pick up the pace by 2010. When the project is complete, this will result in an extra 12 million gallons of gasoline produced each day.

The main focus is here, that if we push our congressmen to push for utilizing our own resources, while we continue our reseach for alternative fuels, we can drive the price of foreign crude down, and wait for the new technowlagies the refineries are implementing to make our fuel costs even cheaper.

My educated guess will be that by Feb of 2010' we will see a drop in fuel prices.

Because you find yourself wanting to be with him/her every moment of the day and its something you can't stop from feeling. Your heart rules your every thought and being.

= disaster

A person that has any respect for the one they love just doesn't dump you, but could ask for "head space." They may be confused about their feelings for you or, they may have a terrible time trying to figure out what they want themselves. HE IS NO LONGER YOUR BOYFRIEND. Feel free to date others. I would highly suggest going out with friends and if you meet another guy that treats you the way you should be treated and you care for him, never mind what your ex boyfriend thinks. When going through life you want someone that communicates their feelings well and if they are unhappy with you then they should spit it out, or, if they love you then they should tell you. It's apparent this guy doesn't know what he wants and is selfish enough to leave you all alone while he decides when and if he'll make his mind up. Get on with life hon! Marcy

No! He has a girlfriend, you had your chance and you missed the boat. The best you can expect is perhaps he'll break off with this girlfriend and then you can tell him. If you think because YOU broke up with him that you can sail right back into his life and steal him away from his new girlfriend, think again! Leave well enough alone. Marcy

There is nothing you can do so stop feeling guilty because that is what is pushing you into this corner. You were honest and many of us lose feelings for a person we have dated and had to move on and the best thing you can do for this person is to move on. They will survive, but not if you keep interfering. Break-ups when one is still in love with the other is like a grieving process of someone you love that has died. It will take time to heal, but they will survive.

I would suggest that you try to move on and find someone else. If you didn't end up with her, you just might not have meant to be together.

It could mean a number of things. He could genuinely want you back, but that tends to be the rarer case. Typically, it means he is lonely, and he wants you back so that he has someone in his life to fill that void.

Obviously, if you guys broke up once already it means that something was not going right in the relationship. Before you even THINK about getting back together with him, really examine what those issues were. If you think that you can work through them with him, then the decision is up to you. But if you feel like it's not worth the effort, don't bother. It's not worth the stress.

Breakups are hard. But just because they come crawling back, does not always mean that getting back together is the best answer to ease the pain.

For my opinion to make your ex jealous maybe you can act all happy and confident and also smile, laughing all the time... DO NOT show him your sadness. Even if it u dumped him or him dumped u DO NOT show any sign of sadness and loneliness because it will make him think that you still love him and that he might even try to make you jealous! And also when he is bored and ask u if you're free, try NOT to be available this will make him jealous tooo....

It might be different from person to person, but for me I knew I was in love when I would rather be talking to or spending time with the person I love than doing anything else. If offered the choice between any activity and spending time with the object of your affection, spending time with them always sounds like more fun.

It means they are sorry for what you think is wrong however they do not know what it is nor do they think they did wrong. So basically they are saying sorry because they think that is what you want to hear and will make things better but don't think they did anything wrong.

* If you want him back I would say as long as it takes you to get over him. * You shouldn't be moping around waiting for him. Give 'him' a run for his money. Start going out with friends and get back into the dating scene more. One of three things will happen: #1 He will hear about it and realize he really does love you; #2 he won't come back into your life or, #3 He wants to come back into your life, but you realize from dating he isn't for you and will move forward. There is that special someone out there for you.Also is that we love our husbands. Tee- Hee

You will cry

that's totally up to you and your bf/gf. if you feel really close to each other and you would do almost anything to be with each other.....you probably love him/her

== == * The only way you are going to know for sure is making it tough for him to win you back! Meanwhile, you start dating again. It's important, because you need to know if he was the right one for you. Beware that he may be dating off and on, then may have a dry spell and want to come back to you for comfort. Don't trust him! Give him a chance, but take it slow and easy and keep on dating so he knows he hasn't got your full attention. * He probably still wants to be good friends.

• Don't ever count on an abuser 'gone for good.' He may well get tired of whatever he is doing or whomever he is seeing and be back! The best thing you can do is go to your local Abused Women's Center and ask for help in your situation. The counselors are there to offer good advice as to how to handle your abuser; your legal rights and if need be a safe place to go too called a 'transition house' if it is necessary.