Breakups

i want to protect my friends and family and I'm going to have to listen to katharine if i want to do that I'm sorry stefan but i want to protect my friends and family

• It is difficult to tell if he regrets leaving you or not and it depends on why he left. If you both had a healthy relationship and got along well, but he decided to move on (unable to commit to one person perhaps) then yes, it's possible he at least misses you, but he never may be back. You should get on with your life by getting back into society and dating again. There is always that special person in most people's lives.

You shouldnt let her go. It sounds to me like your not sure yourself. If you still have doubt about letting go, why should you.\

Have you given it several go rounds?

DO you still love her?

You should give her another try if so. I bet she loves you

, and things might be different this time.

Are you ready to give her up?

A friend ex boyfriend should always be off limits, but when you really think about it. If you were a true friend all you would want is for your friend to be happy and if the girl or boy, who is your ex, makes your friend happy then you should wish her all the luck!

Shift the kind of love you have for your ex to that you might have, say...to that you might have for a brother, and compartmentalize it to that type of relationship. And then act that way. Only when your heart is open to someone else can you fairly engage in moving on or in another relationship. You are not the first nor will you be the last to ever have to go through the feelings of "what did I do wrong, I sure messed things up" (which you probably didn't as narcissists suck the very life out of their mate) or "I will only love this one person and hope they come back if I wait around long enough." Well, I am sorry to say after 6 years this person is NOT coming back into your life and even if they did they would have someone else and simply use you. It's time you started to mature and realize you are worth more than this. You have lost 6 years of your life over this person and PLEASE don't tell me you see him/her off and on and that you accept that as love! This is not love. So, sit up and fly right. Get out with friends, go on a holiday if you must, get your head straight and start living again without this person. There are some wonderful guy/gals out there for you to meet, but you simply haven't given it a chance and it's easier to sit there day after day, year after year mourning over what could have been! What "could have been" is simply more hell from the narcissist. Stay strong and NEVER relinquish power of your inner self (selling off your soul and self respect) over a waste of skin such as this ex of yours. Get moving! I love this question! This may be the most important question of them all! First, let me say that my heart is right there with you...Next,,,part of the process has already begun in the form of the guts it took to ask this question. I hope you can find solice in this thought----It is your natural right to continue to be in love with this person; this will not harm anything; I truly hope that you can find the right tool that would help you to learn to love again- anew......BB

taking a break, usually a euphemism for I am seeing someone else. A Break from what? WHY? I would say sail on to greener pastures and get someone that will love you instead of use you. You teach people how to treat you, if he can come and go with your blessing (by taking him back it is your blessing) then he will as there is no down side.

You were probably still too close after the breakup to feel any pain from it. Now, you're away from him and away from everything that was familiar to you in your life. Honestly, don't do anything. This is natural. Just try to make a few new friends, get used to the place, and maybe even meet someone new. Good luck.

you can make you get high but not kill you and make you Very ill

make the first move and if it doesn't work, try not to go too fast just barely steady enough that he is comfortable and so are you.

Good luck!

I haven't completely answered this question myself, but so far this is what I've found. He is willing to make me laugh, and be around me, but he is all over me too. If i can make sure he sees me hanging out with my current boyfriend, he is more willing to behave himself.

To be friends with him, all I have to do, is treat him like I would my brother. I'll hug him every once and a while, but I keep separate at all times. Think of things you have in common, and talk about them, and try to keep yourself distant and keep him talking. Hang out with him, but never alone.

Because you don't get closure from your Ex. You get closure from yourself so you can move on. Trust me when I say if they won't meet/talk/ etc they still love you and want you to pursue them. Don't give up but don't be a stalker, the odd text once a week just to let them know you are there for them helps. They will call.

• Sometimes words are not enough to cheer someone up depending on the circumstances that person is going through. Although it is difficult to see someone you care about feeling sad or depressed the only thing you can do to help is let them know you are there for them and a shoulder to cry on.

He may just miss you but still does not know what he wants. Unfortunately sometimes this is a case of he may not want you at this point but he also does not want anyone else to have you and that is not acceptable. Don't wait around for him, live your life, move on and see how things go. If he sees that you are not dwelling on him and he is not the object of your affection anymore he may realize what he let go and want you back or that could be exactly what he wants and is glad you moved on.

When somebody just ups and leaves another person, its not for lack of reason. There has to be something that caused them to act or react in the way they did. From the perspective of the one who was left, he/she really does believe the other left for no reason; everything was fine, we were doing so well, I can't understand why he/she did this. Let me assure you, there was a reason. You may not understand it at this time, but you may if you use some critical thinking skills. I am not saying this to be hard on you. This very thing happened to me when I was younger. She loved me until the day she left me. I said the same thing, "I just don't understand it... why?" Well there was a reason. She simply left me for another man. Gee, how novel! However, when I looked back, I saw that I had become a coach potato, did not watch how I dressed anymore, became somewhat moody, temperamental, etc. Instead of trying to work it out, she decided just to leave. Now this may have nothing to do with your circumstance, however there was something that fostered this behavior. You should try to introspect, and attempt to understand what may have caused this for your own well being and self improvement if any is indeed necessary. On the other hand it may have been nothing about you, but something about he/she. Maybe your the perfect mate! However, something in the other individual snapped. Still, there has to be a reason, whatever that reason is. If this is going to affect you in a negative way, then you need to search for the answer, but with using the most appropriate approach.

I'm not quite sure what "messing around" means but I just want to say that you should not have to change your whole lifestyle and allow one to control you just to be with them. Relationships are about give and take not just one sided and no one person is worth putting your life on hold or giving up your friends for. Remember you can always keep friends longer than you can a boy/girlfriend in the broad spectrum. Let this one go and move on to someone that will not be dictating to you or smothering you. People will only treat you the way you allow them to.

Well it depends on several things. If the relationship was sexual, it could mean, I want sex. It could also mean, although I don't want to date you, I'd like to be "just friends." Now that could mean friends with benefits or just platonic friends. If he made the call then the former is probably true "friends with benefits."

Don't jump to conclusions yet, he has only agreed to talk with you. He may have some things of his own that he would like to ask or say to you as well. Talk with him and take things from there but don't be overbearing, pushy, needy or agumentative - take things slowly and calmly and try not to cry.

I belive South Carolina

(South Carolina)

Well personally i think this is normal. Depends on what happend between you and the guy...either it was good or bad, etc. Ive liked this guy since my freshmen year till now that i am 20 years old. Its been 6 years we spoke before but some crap occured and now well idk we dont talk much...its a bit awkward...i mean if u talk to him then go for it and tell him how u feel...u never know! maybe liking him for all these years probably was worth it......now if hes taken then go out n meet new ppl, a new guy perhaps... some one who is way better and does not remind u of him at all! Trust me now i have a bf and even though i still sort of think of this other guy i love my bf and hes like the best thing that has happend to me....

Gas will not be cheap again for a long long time. In fact, it might never be cheap again, no one really knows.

Dont jump to conclusions there so fast now. You might remember that back in Sep up to Dec of 08 during the race between McCain and Obama, gas prices fell significantly. This was a result of the McCain party threatening to drill in the US and utilize our resources rather than import them (oil) from countries who don't like us very much. This scared the other countries, therfore driving the price down of a barrell of crude down significantly. Remember gas fell down to nearly $1.35 a gallon? Luckily, it hasn't risen back to $126 a barrell. Anyhow, in the forecomming months, Jan-Mar 09' many refineries had started their yearly maintence turn arounds and shut downs, resulting in less gasoline being produced therefore keeping the prices high and actually raising them. Shut downs and turn arounds are a good thing. They ensure our fuel is clean, and they pour money into the local economies. Unfortunately, some of these refineries cant find financing to contiue their projects and have been forced to lay off many contractors.

Motiva of Port Author TX has one of the Largest CEP (Crude Expansion Project) of the last 30 years going on right now. Unfortunately they've spent all their cash on all of the new fractionator towers and Exchangers and have yet to find financing to continue the project and have been forced to lay off 4500 contractors in the past few months, discontinue per diem and many other benefits. Bectal Jacobs and Motiva project that the Expansion will pick up the pace by 2010. When the project is complete, this will result in an extra 12 million gallons of gasoline produced each day.

The main focus is here, that if we push our congressmen to push for utilizing our own resources, while we continue our reseach for alternative fuels, we can drive the price of foreign crude down, and wait for the new technowlagies the refineries are implementing to make our fuel costs even cheaper.

My educated guess will be that by Feb of 2010' we will see a drop in fuel prices.

Because you find yourself wanting to be with him/her every moment of the day and its something you can't stop from feeling. Your heart rules your every thought and being.

= disaster

A person that has any respect for the one they love just doesn't dump you, but could ask for "head space." They may be confused about their feelings for you or, they may have a terrible time trying to figure out what they want themselves. HE IS NO LONGER YOUR BOYFRIEND. Feel free to date others. I would highly suggest going out with friends and if you meet another guy that treats you the way you should be treated and you care for him, never mind what your ex boyfriend thinks. When going through life you want someone that communicates their feelings well and if they are unhappy with you then they should spit it out, or, if they love you then they should tell you. It's apparent this guy doesn't know what he wants and is selfish enough to leave you all alone while he decides when and if he'll make his mind up. Get on with life hon! Marcy