Breakups

This is a link to a discussion of self injury and why people do it:

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/why.html It has to do with the way a person has programmed their brain to deal with stress. In a sense, it is a coping mechanism. They are called self-injurers, and self-injuring is not limited to just cutting (although that is the most common practice). People may bruise themselves, burn themselves, obsess with tattooing, or simply starve themselves. When the body is put under that kind of stress, as in the case with cutting, the brain produces endorphins creating a temporary euphoria. It makes the person feel soothed. This is a quick high that creates a false sense of release, making the person feel like the problem has been dealt with. Self-injurers may do it because they feel like they can't communicate with people, can't connect with people, have had past traumatic experiences, poor family relations, or for vanity purposes such as the attention. It is regarded by many psychologists as an addiction just like gambling because the brain reacts in a similar way.

ask him why ha broke up with you and tell him how you feel.

When we're young our minds race all over the place and there are so many choices to make. Most of these choices aren't just about another mate, but can be serious decisions re going away to college, moving to another country for a job or just wanting "head space" to find out who you are, what you want out of life and perhaps this is your ex's reasoning. At the time you split-up you had every right to ask why she wanted to move on. No one can predict a time when your ex will or won't be back. Stranger things have happened. A couple may have fallen in love with someone in high school and then they part. Many years later they may meet and end up having a relationship and even marrying. I have two friends that did that. Miracles never cease and they come in strange ways. I was married to a verbally/physically abusive husband. I lived up North in Canada away from my family so it was difficult for me to get out of the relationship because I had no money to fly out and come home. I also was very young and impetuous. While up North one of our male friends would talk about going home and visiting his best male friend just outside of Vancouver, B.C. I had heard this name various times, but never gave it much thought. When my husband and I returned to Vancouver, B.C., we tried again in our marriage, but it didn't work, he didn't change his ways and I left and filed for divorce after 3 1/2 years. It hurt me deeply that I had trusted this person and they'd turned on me, but even as young as I was I knew it was time to stand on my own two feet and look forward into the future. Our male friend would visit me when he was in town and he was concerned about me. We were just like brother/sister and there was nothing romantic about it. Even though I was back in the dating circuit I would take the occasional sabbatical because I was tired of some of the game-playing while dating. My male friend was concerned and ask me what I was looking for in a man. I jokingly did tell him and before I knew it I was introduced to this friend he had mentioned to me many times up North. Guess what? We became friends, we fell in love and we have now been married 34 years! You see what I am saying? Life can throw you some wonderful curves. Either this young woman is coming back into your life or you are going to meet someone very special out there.

Ego, I guess it's kind of like pride. And too much pride can be a very bad thing. It depends on the situation, I mean if you have too much of an ego to tell someone how you really feel about them.Or you have too much of an ego to stop cheating or stop flirting with other people ten you can't move foward. Too much ego confusesthings, and the relationship has no closure.But like I said I don't really know the situation so I can't really tell you exactly how it's a barrier. Give a few more details. But anyway remember Love is Stronger than Pride.

Oh, please don't let my ex know that because it isn't true. Now if you are talking about your ex, you should just let them know how you feel.

You don't. If you're meant to get back together it will just happen, he'll fall for you again. If you press the matter, you are less likely to get back together. If he's avoiding you, he might be trying to avoid falling for you again. So, talk to him. But as a friend, don't bring up the break up.

It means he hopes that you will get back together, and that he is willing to get back together.

Each person is different and communication is everything. If you haven't talked for two months then it's tough to judge what is going through your ex's mind. Men usually are shy about coming around and of course we all know they don't look on romantic issues the same as women do. What seems easy to us is hard for them. Until you start communicating there are no signs to go by. Marcy

To play games. He will NEVER give himself to you. Just look at him and tell yourself there is nothing in this for me. Dont delude yourself to think he cares.

You can't do anything. It's his choice and his alone to determine who he wants to be with and how he wants to live his life. That's why it's generally a good idea to plan ahead, know who you want to spend you life with and commemorate with with marriage before bringing a child into the world. Really sorry to hear about this hon, but it happens. Be sure you get the father of your child to pay Child Support. He should be taking on the responsibilities of a father no matter who he is dating or living with. Good luck

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First thing first, how long did your wife had an affair? Did you know why she did it? If you have the answer for both question, then you will realize that no woman or a wife that will cross the path of cheating if no one push her to do it. How often do you tell her that you love her? When was the last time the two of you went out. Now can you tell me why your wife end up having an affair?

i think the easiest way to forget about a guy you really like is to let him go completely and know that you cant be with him. My friend and I used this excersize to get over our ex boyfriends. You write down 10 things you dislike about the person and whenever we wwould think of that person, we would go back to that list and realize the person wasn't worth being upset over.

when someone tells you that you are

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Its because he is unsure of himself and he may not trust you enough to open up to you entirely. i bet he is a shy person. if you ask him like "should we get a dog" and he says "i don't know" say "ok, i will give you a couple days to think, then i need an answer" and he should responde after that

Here are a couple of excuses??? I have come across: "It's not you, it's me." "I love you but I am not IN love with you."

you really really really need to think about this reasons thoroughly because you just don't want to break up with someone when later on you realize this reasons weren't worthwhile after all. I mean you love her/him after all. I'm not trying to stop you, i just want you to think it through because you really don't want to throw away your love if the reasons aren't that good. But if you still want to leave but still love her/him then i suggest you have to break up with them and take things slowly, i mean it isn't very easy to just one day for your love to fade away. You have to at least take advantage of this reasons and keep reminding yourself why you broke up with her/him. Make sure its not something you regret. Smile when you think of her/him, don't struggle too much. Just keep on living and do your usual routines. Think of something else when you think you just can't stop thinking about her/him or think of someone else. Keep yourself busy when you start to feel lonely or if you start regretting. its not easy to forget abotu how you feel, but this is what you want and you should be happy.

yes because the truth is josh really dose love Tiffany even if he dosent show it all the time and he knows Tiffany loves him wit all her heart!

yes because the truth is josh really dose love Tiffany even if he dosent show it all the time and he knows Tiffany loves him wit all her heart!

i know how you feel same

thing here still waiting for the break up i told her tho and she would try if she ever was single just promise your friend your friendship won't suffer if she is a real friend she will give u a chance

If they are simply using you without returning any of that love or support, then you need to think about getting rid of them, or at least talking about it with them (be warned: don't let them guilt-trip you into staying). If they are only fulfilling their own needs and not yours, then reconsider why you care about them so much - it may be that you need to let go and distance yourself from them more.

Only you know what went on between the two of you. It doesn't sound like he's a man of many commitments. He's caught in his own web of feeling guilty for asking for the divorce and worrying about your welfare. He may be trying to figure out who he is at this point and what he wants out of life. Because you invested time in your marriage (even if you are divorced) and IF you still love him, why not meet him at a quiet bar or somewhere else to discuss both your feelings. If he's not willing to commit it's time to move on. It could be that he doesn't want to be married, but detests the thought of you dating other men. Some men that split-up want it all. They want their own freedom to date whom they want, yet expect you to sit at home and never date in your lifetime. You need to decide what you want in your life. If you are over him then tell him not to call you again and move on. If you want him back in your life again then meet with him and go from there. Don't EVER sell yourself short and if you feel he will never commit to you then it's time to move on and you make that clear to him. No more phone calls from him if he's not willing to commit! Good luck Marcy

It is possible. It is however more likely that he is trying to lighten up th emood so as not to feel too bad himself. It is also possible that he doesn't want to see you unhappy.

If you do want to still be with him explain how you feel towards him to make him feel wanted and then explain to him that a relationship is give and take with no games and he wants to call you or you want to call him you just do it as well as converse if you have feelings that you need to talk about without the games!

If you do not want to be with him anymore don't call him as he already believes that which tells me he is having problems accepting feelings and commitment at this time and maybe it is best for both of you to not be in a relationship.

• It is difficult to tell if he regrets leaving you or not and it depends on why he left. If you both had a healthy relationship and got along well, but he decided to move on (unable to commit to one person perhaps) then yes, it's possible he at least misses you, but he never may be back. You should get on with your life by getting back into society and dating again. There is always that special person in most people's lives.