0
Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
get your best friend to talk to him and see she has to say she wont tell u to him an tell u after
yes you should contact him and find out with him he might be having an affair with you now or dont now
How can I win my girlfriend's heart I don't want her to break up with me?
The best way to win a girl's heart is to be kind. However, if she wants to break up with you, you cannot force her to stay. It is best to let her go.
Is payton manning getting a divorce?
if he is i would reallly like to know my mom is in love with him she would be so excited!
stop being her friend gandi chori
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and she has some "hot steppin'" to do to gain your trust back. She lied to you before, and therefore, why would you trust her. If she has just split up from her ex then there are sometimes periods of adjustment, but, she should ALWAYS be honest with you and explain her feelings. There is no respect here! The only solution to this problem is to sit down and discuss this whole mess with her and you judge from there. Watch her eyes and if she can't look you in the eyes then she's not telling you the truth. Body language is another dead give away ... squirming, shifting from foot to foot; rocking from foot to foot; moving around the room or going into another room when answering your question; fidgeting with her hands. If someone is telling the truth when asked a question they should be able to stand solid and look that person in the eye. Although this method isn't always fool-proof it's 98% for sure. Then you will have to realize that everyone of us makes mistakes and hopefully most of us learn from those mistakes. You have to ask yourself how much you love her and is she worth all your worry and concern. List the good things about her, and then things that make you feel like she could be cheating on you. If your girl is: Wandering like a gypsy and can't sit still, and never let's you know where she is from time-to-time, then you have reason to worry. If she can't just stay with you for an evening or go out with you on the weekend then you two aren't dating on a steady basis. If you are getting strange phone calls such as someone phoning and she goes into another room or looks sneaky and tells the person at the other end she'll get back to them, then be suspicious. If she shares nothing with you such as your hopes and dreams then this isn't a relationship either. Loyalty, honesty and respect for one another is what a good relationship is made out of. When I went with my husband we couldn't wait to see each other on the weekend and I was separated from my ex husband at the time. We went out with friends or there was just the two of us and had fun! We laughed, we got serious and talked about serious things, but we did enjoy life and loyalty and honesty were never a question between us. We respected each other and had high morals. NEVER let anyone control you! You are in control of your own destiny! You take control of this situation and when you sit down and have that talk with her you let 'er rip and tell her that if she's not telling the truth and she sees her ex again you are out the door (or, if it's your place, kick her butt out the door.) Good luck Marcy
Because you're pushing him. The more you do this to a man the less likely he is to answer. Eventually it will become a stand off and you will be screaming at him and he will point blank refuse to talk to you EVER. Buy yourself a copy of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" to learn how to prevent this stalemate and ways to counteract this from now on but also let him read about you and what his behaviour does to you. Understanding each other and communication are vital to a good relationship, if you don't have those two ingredients you may as well pack up the relationship now.
Where can you look for crimal records on your so to be ex husband?
try www.publicrecords.com Many states show court records online for free. For Maryland, go to: http://casesearch.courts.state.md.us/inquiry/processDisclaimer.jis For Virginia go to: http://epwsgdp1.courts.state.va.us/gdcourts/caseSearch.do?index=index In Pennsylvania go to( Criminal Court of Common Pleas) : http://ujsportal.pacourts.us/DocketSheets/CP.aspx and for Magisterial District Courts of PA go to: http://ujsportal.pacourts.us/DocketSheets/MDJ.aspx For North Carolina: http://www1.aoc.state.nc.us/www/calendars/CitationQueryByName.html try www.publicrecords.com
Tell her that your happy that your just friends, and that it's great that you still talk. When you tell her this make sure you have a smile on your face and your eyes are bright. Make eyecontact. Then get over her, she'll come back soon anough.
- When a girlfriend says 'a break' she means head space (time away from each other) and not necessarily to split up for good. It is up to you to ask her how long she expects you to wait for her and if you should both date other people.
# Maybe because your not being nice to them so they dont really want you to be there friends # Maybe there mean and dont like to add people into theregroup
If my ex named his baby after me does it mean he still loves me?
no, it just means he still thinks about you but doesn't really love you that much and he can't he can't love you coz he's got someone else i his life!....
Often when a man says that you are his best friend, all he really wants is to get back with you and will be very hurt when you either say no, or find someone else. Just let him know that if he just wants to get back with you then he is wasting his time and if he still wants to be friends with you then just try hanging out with him as just friends and see where that leads.
it's not right that he does that but he's trying to 'save face' which is protecting his reputation and most guys won't show emotions in public.
He thinks he OWNS YOU! It's all about control and you are chattel to him. He feels you are his property and he can do what he wants with you. He doesn't see his victims with feelings or cares what their hopes and dreams are. Abusers share little of their inner selves with anyone.
He's not trying to make you jealous, he's letting you know he can replace you! Women of abuse can get jealous. These feelings are odd to the victim because they basically detest their abuser, but, it's learned habits and the abuser has done a fine job creating his "perfect woman" so he can control her, tell her she'll never make it out in the real world, and no man would want her. After being abused for years the victim can believe just about anything told to her.
Abusers are in total control of what they do best "control women" and he's using this other woman to pour salt into your wounds. In his sick mind he thinks he's the best looking guy on two legs. I hope you have gotten away from this jerk and moved on. Stay away from friends you use to hang around with when you were with your abuser. You don't need to hear what he is doing and for that matter, why should you care?
Before you get confused and perhaps feel you are missing out with a life with your abuser (and you sure can feel that way) please seek counseling from the Women's Abuse Center in your area. You have been brain-washed and made to feel that you love your abuser and can't live life without him. You may now live on your own, but way back in the recesses of your mind, you ponder the thought of wanting him back. Life can be tough out in the world and lots of us would rather go through life with someone than alone. Don't sell yourself short and get that help, and move on. There are better things waiting for you.
Good luck honMarcy
AnswerHi Marcy: Thanks so much. I appreciate your advice. He has resorted to all sorts of tactics now that he knows Im finished with him. He has tried the sympathy ploy which didnt work,the silent treatment, the too causal don't care im around rotuine, the very nice waiting for me routine, he tried this thing with that woman and he could see I was still myself and happy, then now he is trying the old," I didnt appreciate what I had" deal. I know and call me nuts for thinking this cause with him I have questioned my reasoning. He is telling everyone he is miserable with life. But I think he is trying all these things to get me back with him. I think he is very mad that I am doing whats right for me and not falling for him and his tactics anymore. He seems to be quickly moving from one tactic to the next in a desperate atempt to get me back. I even told him to get lost on the sympathy stuff and told him I see what hes doing.. Then he switches to something else. It doesnt stop. That is why I avoid having contact with him and will get another job! Im hurting yes, but I am realsing more and more every day that there is alot more to life than being worn down. I also am noticing the respect I get from others. I have alot to offer the right man and I do not want to waste it on someone like him. I am to the point though where I wonder at times, is he really that mean that he would be so manipulative to use this other woman to get back with me? Is he really so cold that he thinks he has to resort to playing up the sympathy routine to the extreme? I think he is. I got a feeling he wont give up anytime soon. But I also know I am stronger and getting stronger everyday. Its so hard to believe that someone could be so manipulative and why do they do this. Thanks again. AnswerHi Hon:I am so very proud of you. You are doing all the right things. Of course you are wondering if he was all that mean, but when someone makes you as unhappy as he made you so that you had to run from the situation, then kick this jerk to the curb!
I was married before to an abusive man and it probably started out very similar to yours. There were just suttle signs, but I wasn't use to abuse, so never heeded the signs even though family and friends didn't like him and thought I could do better. I thought I could heal him! Right! LOL We were married 3 1/2 years and I left him. He ran around with other women, cheated on his own mistress as well as me; became verbally abusive and then physically abusive and I kicked him to the curb. Like you, I moved out, got a place of my own (was very lonely and was asking myself the same questions as you are about my abuser) but stayed strong, made new friends, got a different job and I've never regretted those choices. I have been married to a wonderful man for almost 34 years. Thank God, I left that other jerk and found the man I am spending the rest of my life with.
Women who are abused are not weak and that's a pure misconception in society. It takes guts to leave an abuser, and there is no manual that comes with a mate you may choose. Abusers can be sneaky and ply you with gifts, tell you how much they love you and then they get you in that web of theirs and you're a goner. Before you know it, you've become a victim of abuse. Hold your head up high, and you NEVER need to prove to anyone else how strong you are, but yourself and you've done that with flying colors!
I wish you all the very best and I know you can make it. Keep looking forward, don't look back! Don't answer his phone calls, emails, etc., and ditch this guy.
== == * You deal with this by patting yourself on the back because you're one smart woman! As much as it crushes your heart you have come to the realization that this relationship will never work out. Love is just loving that person you are with and everyone else around is a mere shadow. Loving someone means you can hardly wait to see them and are thinking constantly about them. When you first start dating you should have the feeling of walking on clouds and all colors around you seem more brilliant. All is well with the world! Of course life isn't always a bowl of cherries, but, when young and we meet that one true love we are given the chance to fall into a fantasy of what could be and we should enjoy it for what it is. If worked on most relationships can work, but few people these days have little staying power. You should get out with friends and try having some fun. Not all women have boyfriends or husbands, and these are the women you can most relate too. While feeling free and independent you can have the time of your life, and it's usually at this time that you find that very special person in your life. The old motto "a watched kettle never boils" is so true. Meaning, if you sit around moping and missing this guy that didn't treat you well, you are wasting a lot of your life. Get angry! Get going! By doing this you will come to understand just what a strong young woman you are. No woman should bet all her future on a man. Women should first learn to be independent and when they meet that someone special then she is secure with her partner and wiser for it. People simply need head space so it's great when a woman can do other things without a man, and a man can do something without a woman. Most of us on this board have been hurt in the name of love, but got up, dusted ourselves off and got on with life. If you don't you are going to miss out on that great guy you certainly deserve.
Why do you never want to hang out with anyone?
some people are different to other for instance some people like their own company but on the other hand some prefer others company. it isn't anything to worry about.
If someones says we made amends what does that mean?
- The word 'amends' mean whatever problem or problems you have had with another person has been resolves or forgiven and it's behind you and they want to continue on with the relationship.
Is it normal to feel paranoid when a best friend hangs out with someone else you don't like?
Yes it is. Just shake it off, because if they are really your best friend then they will always put you first anyway and you'll have nothing to worry about.
What does it mean when your ex calls after he says that were not going to get back together?
he wants to still keep up with you, hes probably the controlling type. "he may just want to have his cake and eat it too".
What should i do if i still have feelings for my ex boyfriend but he has a new girlfriend?
Since he is in a new relationship, you should just leave it alone and try to move on yourself. If at any point he does break up with his current girlfriend, you could have a talk with him and see if he wants to try again. But currently, you should keep your feelings to yourself.
Why doesnt your boyfriend love you?
God above gave somebody to love them if your partner doesnt love you then he isnt the one God sent out for you. Keep your eye open and be patient, God is sneeky you never know who will love you, it could be the person that nobody likes or it could be your worst enemy. You never know but keep your eye open
How do I get my love back she means everything to me.?
you show her how speciel she is to you and not make the same mistake over and over again
