Breakups

he has been through alot of things with that person so it seems easier to express himself to that person.

Depends on the person. If you believe that he is okay then he is. Maybe he was foolish one day and decided to flirt. maybe he had an urge to do it. I think that he may love another but may love you to but if i were in a situation like that he is a cheater. He might always be one but that is my thinking. You need to decide wheather or not he will be like that forever.

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ALAINA------

If he can cheat with you, he will cheat on you..

This often happens with young people, when one goes to college and the other doesn't or they go to different colleges. I think she is being very honest with you, and although she probably will not be looking for another relationship any time soon (too busy studying) she knows it could happen and doesn't want to be unfaithful to you. She also knows she is embarking on new adventures in life and this doesn't always mean there will be another man in her life right away or that she is even thinking of dating much right now. Long distance relationships are very hard to maintain and it takes special people to make this work. I suggest you have a talk with her and ask her why she feels this way. Then go from there. You be a man about it and learn that sometimes you have to let go, painful as it is, you just have to and if it was meant to be, it will, but if not, it won't. Love isn't based on controlling another or manipulating them. That's not love at all. If you love her, you will want her to do what is best for her and what means something to her, that is what REAL love is about. It hurts but it's a part of life.

Your boyfriend might think him and his ex are going to be friends, but only a true love goes and come back. So be carefull, if you begin to notice that he hangs our with her more then you then you have a right to be jealous. Then again he may be just doing that to get more attention from you. If you see any signs of him treating her better or something then you, then confront him! Good Luck! ;) <3

One truth is that is if your girlfriend really loved you she shouldn't have left you in the first place. But if she loves you then she should have a soft spot for you by listening to you when you call her. Also you can know this if she has the longing to see you. But you have to respect her present relationship too.

Unfortunately it sounds as though he uses you - the best thing would be to distance yourself from him. He is obviously be moving on with his life and you seem to be dwelling on the past. Don't allow him to use you, keep busy, move on and I think you will find whatever you what to "make him see" will be better for both of you in the end. ----It's just amazing, because it took him so long to get over me and the problem was I kept letting him back into my life even though he had hurt me so much. The problem was he knows I will always be there for him to fall back on. We were each other's first loves and first everythings. But i gave him too much and did too much for him and so I guess when you're so young you don't realize it and take it for granted and that's what he did. For some reason, I am still doing too much for him and I know I am and that's why it is pushing him away. If I showed him I wasn't still in love with him, it would kill him, I think. I still talk to his family and everything too along with him. Just our break up was so hard for both of us that it's hard to just move on for me. I think it's easier for guys to move on cause they show that they aren't hurting and want to be tough. I guess in time, he will realize that I was always there for him and always loved him and he'll regret it. But for now, I know I need to move on. I just have been having the hardest time cause I know he's not 100% over me and it's hard to let go and give up on somebody you love so much. I don't know, I need help to like navigate all this and everything. Thank you though.

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Generally they treat them in either of the following two ways: They hate them with a passion or they try to ingratiate themselves to them. In the first case this is usually because the ex wife threw the guy out or demostrated in other ways that she was strong enough to be independent. In the second case, they want to either get back together to continue their abuse or they want the woman "in reserve" in case their latest victim kicks them out.

Honestly, and i know it sounds cliche, but time does heal all. I am just getting myself out of a relationship with a narcissist so i am not quite there yet either so it may be a weird question for me to answer but this i am certain....you are better off without this person. its such an easy thing to tell someone. but you really have to see it for yourself in order to move on. the only way to let them go is to cut them out of your life completely. they are manipulative, con artists. they dont even have to be very smart but they sure seem to be good at what they do. they get under your skin and seem to get you back no matter what they've done if they get a chance to sweet talk you. dont give them the chance. it is goin to be extremely hard trust me i am goin through it. you have to stay strong and stay honest with yourself...the bad outweighed the good by far you know it did so move on. I am pregnant with my first child and it is also my ex N's child. I thank god every day that he gave me the strength to leave him before my baby comes to this world. goodluck!stay strong

Some times this could be done as a punishment for something done or thought done.

Some people do this as an act of revenge. That would be Physical abuse.

It can be an aspect of intelligence where one try to retreive information.

Torture as it may be named is quite common all over the world if we extend the term to cover mental as well as physical pain.

This pain can be physical or it can be mental. It will quite often become both.

This is a very F'D upp situation. The girl obviously likes her boyfriend. But she is going to leave her husband to find out that her boyfriend is oohhh sooo different. just like if a kid wants some ice cream. She thinks she loves the ghetto ice cream but then sees the rich ice cream and leaves but then finds out that the rich ice cream is just as bad as the ghetto ice cream!! -Diamond Boss

My first question would be, why would you want to do that in the first place? Are you so miserable that you can't or don't want to see your dad happy? Why is it that in so many cases a child of a single parent finds it so bad that the parent has a boyfriend or girlfriend?

Now do not misunderstand me, there are situations that this can be understandable, perhaps not acceptable or right, but understandable. Does this "girlfriend" treat you badly? Is she cruel to you? Is she just horrible and if so why?

Try to view it not just from YOUR perspective, but your dad's, as well as the girlfriend's. If you are having problems with the girlfriend, then try talking to her, find a meeting place and discuss what problems there may be. Try to understand things from a perspective other than your own.

I'm a step-dad and it's not always easy being the "step" in the family. Remarks like, you are not my real dad, or I don't have to do what you tell me because you aren't my dad, can be painful, but there has to be a common meeting ground.

Try to understand what is going on in your dad's girlfriend's mind, but at the same time, help her to understand what is going on in your mind and life. If this doesn't work, then you need to talk to your dad about it. However, do it respectfully, let your dad know that you want him to be happy, then explain the situation, let him know you are trying your best to get along with this person. If it isn't working let him know but do it with respect to not only your dad, but to his girlfriend and yourself.

The next and only other situation I can see is, do you feel that this girlfriend is treating your dad poorly? In this situation, more than likely you won't be able to do anything, it can be understandable that you want to protect your dad, but he is an adult. You can try talking to him and discussing what you see or feel, but more than likely if this is the case it is something he is going to have to find out on his own. Hopefully before too much hurt.

In the long run, try to look at it from all views. Why does your dad like this girl? Why does this girl like your dad? Why don't you like her? Why do you want to break them up? Think about your dad in this not just yourself : you deserve happiness of course, but so does your dad. Who will be hurting more if you break them up? You, knowing that you caused this pain to your dad or your dad, because you came between a chance he had for happiness and love?

I bet that you didn't talk to him about the problem that caused your divorce in the first place? There isn't any possibility of a conceliation unless you discuss the problem that tore you apart in the first place. It is exactly these unresolved problem that cause marriages to break up. May I suggest that if you have another chance to meet him that you talk to him about the cause of your divorce. There is no getting around it. I can also recommend a book about relationships that will help you get at your problem. Read Meyer's "Marriages, Shack-ups and Other Disasters" Chapter 10, Going 'Through' the Problem.

This means she wasnt ready when u asked her a year ago, or she didnt like you at the time.

Then 3 months ago, she asks you out!

That means that she might like you, or she is bored and looking for a new partner.

But now she dumps you.. Why? you say.

Either because you need to improve your relationship skills and put more fun stuff into your relationship, so she wont get bored.

Or she is teasing you, or she might not like you anymore and has set eyes on another prey.

Choose carefully next time. dont pick a girl because shes good, but pick one because shes smart.

The word hate as used in the Bible is often understood. It is not used as an opposite of love. Rather, it means rejection.

because he's a hoe and desperate to have a relationship

giving her what she wants.

A person who loves you the most but hurts you the most doesn't actually love you.Because if the person loved you he would not be hurting you.Dump that person if you are going out with them.You'll find someone much better!It's said that there are many fish in the sea.

Kidding aside, if certain countries can't even conduct a population census; how would it be possible to even begin to determine the answer in a world with over 6 billion people? Based on US statistics alone, 40% of marriages end in divorce and there is no way to even deternine the number of non marital breakups. Even if we could establish this information, there's no way to tell if a failed marriage or relationship always results in one or both persons ending up with a broken heart. It's a beautiful question that you have asked; however, is one that cannot be answered.

* Not all men look for some other woman immediately, but those that do may have been seeing another woman while seeing you or, they are lonely and need a woman by their side at their own convenience. Some men can't commit to a serious relationship and move on from woman to woman.

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There is nothing wrong with being friends with your ex-boyfriend. In fact, that should make you really happy because he will love you even more ...

Finding out why she left you for your twin would be a good place to start. This might mean you'll have to listen to her, for a change.

Let him decide. You wouldn't want to be in the same situation his wife is in would you?

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Sounds like this girl really cares for you and possibly more than just a friend. You have to realize she is still hurting over splitting up with her boyfriend and is in a type of grieving mode because she truly has lost someone she once loved. It takes time. Meanwhile you have become friends and she's confused. She feels threatened that she may lose you. You don't really want to go with someone who may start a close relationship with you right off the bat because of a rebound (going from one boyfriend to another too quickly.) If you have feelings for this girl then ask her out on a date. Take is SLOW AND EASY and two people can have a lot of fun together without sex being involved right away. Hopefully soon she will be over that ex of hers and realize how she should be treated and there is hope of you both having a loving relationship together. Ask the girl out and go from there. Good luck