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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
How do you know when your ex hasn't really moved on?
I think that in many respects ex's do not fully move on from each other in the sense that you were both part of each others lives, albeit go or bad, and that has been an influence on who you are today.
If an ex still wants to be with you or hasn't gotten over the hurt necessarily and ready to move on, they will no doubt be trying to grab your attention, that may be by phoning or texting, emotional blackmail, getting mates to "check up on you", flirting with people that would have at one point angered you in jealousy, telling you in depth details about a date and perhaps sending gifts or being at the same place as you at the same time.
All of these issues do not necessarily matter if you are over that person, as there wont be that deep emotional attachment, as long as you are happy and content with yourself, give them a wide birth.
How can you act indifferent with your ex to make him want you back?
Usually a man doesn't respond to a woman who nags, begs, or is consistent.
If you REALLY want to see improvement as hard as this may be.... treat them
as if what they say or do doesn't matter to you. Acting mysterious will catch his attention. If you're predictable.......he won't find interest in you!
Ex-boyfriend married 9 months after breakup was this made as rebound?
It could possibly be a rebound relationship if your break-up with him really upset him. However, if he was not that upset about your break-up with him, then this is just a natural attraction. Who knows, maybe he was seeing this person before you two broke-up.
Find something to keep you occupied with your spare time.
it means she didn't want to be friends.. or she wanted to be friends to make you feel better and now that she sees your alright with it she's alright with not being your friend anymore. sometimes girls will feel like they're being held down still even if you're already broken up.
By far the easiest to answer question on here because it's written so well. Yes they will repierce it, but it will also hurt 100% more than the first time because scar tissue is very thick and resilliant. You may also need to wait a few more weeks for the hole to completely heal. Also, for future reference, don't take a piercing out if you want it.
Why do you want your emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend back?
Many women feel they can "fix" their boyfriend -they may even have a psychological need to fix them, usually coupled with codependency. They may also exhibit enabling behavior. When the abused person takes the abuse of the abuser, they may feel like they are "special" because they're "the only person in the world who could handle the abuse." They also may feel comfortable in the abuse, may feel that if they leave the person, they will be shamed by their family, friends, or community. For more information, see this site: http://www.uoregon.edu/~counsel/abuse.htm
What does it mean when a guy says he needs some me time but he still wans to see you?
it means that he wants to be in the relation ship but doesn't want to go any forther at present.
What are the risk of opening a joint account?
Smart men/women should always have a little money (within reason) stashed away in an account of their own. You can choose this to save money for a vacation together, furniture, etc., that you can both use or use it for emergencies. I've learned to keep an account for myself after I learned the hard way with my first husband. We both worked up north on a dam and we worked back-to-back shifts for good money and I was too young to realize putting all my eggs into a joint account was asking for trouble. Before I filed for divorce he closed out our account and in order to get the money owing me I had to go through divorce proceedings first, then go back to court to fight for my money. It wasn't worth it, because the divorce was an ugly one and my health suffered from it. Sometimes money just isn't worth fighting for. If you are married by all means have a joint account if you trust your partner (and you should be able to do so) but if you have a high maintenance spouse I suggest you work on the account together and both look at your monthly statements to see how much is in there and how much has been spent.
How do you know exactly when to stop annoying someone?
When they bitchslap you it is generally a good sign that they are annoyed;however, if this person is a good friend you can never annoy them enough.
BEST ANSWERIf ur talking like crazy or acting annoying you should know dat its time to calm down. There might be times were a person just wants to be alone n u keep on talkin to them just watch their reaction n if they r trying really hard to not pay attention to u that means ur being annoying.... Tsrust me I been in diz problem many times but this really helped me.... =P luv 4lw4yz Mimiwell it's ok for a guy to break up with his girlfriend for a another girl but it's not ok for the girl to go out with a another guy while dating her boyfriend
You are the same poster that asked the question above this one. There should be no problem for a guy to communicate (to a degree) with his girlfriend or wife. It is true that many men aren't use to relating in this way and can be a little reluctant, but usually in time they do communicate. Women of all ages (most of them) are more into communication. It's up to the women to teach the men. As I said in the other post this guy is immature and not for you.
Once you hurt someone deeply it's hard for them to get over the hurt and perhaps he's afraid that you'll do it again. Communication is the key here. Meet with him somewhere and apologize. Tell him people aren't 100% perfect and you realize what you did really hurt him and tell him why you hurt him. Mean it! He'll have to be the judge of whether you are worth taking back. If he does, then I suggest you learn your lesson well .... think before you open your mouth!
Why would a guy break up with you after only two weeks?
Maybe he decided that the relationship is not exactly what he wants. If he's shallow, he may just want to move on to the next "conquest", figuring that he got all that he wants out of the relationship and is ready for a new challange. Maybe he found out that you aren't exactly what he feels comfortable with. In reality, there is no way to know what he is thinking. You can ask, but that may not even be reality. It can be anywhere from one extreme to the other, from him being a jerk to the entire problem being you and he thinks you're shallow. It's impossible to generalize.
Answerawww, sorry about your loss. NOT!! It was his loss hon. Some guys don't see the inner beauty of some girls. he could have just not seen you as his type, he could have wanted true love and maybe he didn't see you quite fit to that, maybe he just wanted sex, or maybe he is just a player and likes quick and shady relationships. Unless you are really mean, or don't have much of a personality BUT sometimes guys only look @ appearance and maybe you didnt fit his standards. But if you really like him, maybe even love (I do believe in true love and love @ 1st sight...for me it was love the first time we kissed each other *sigh*) so yeah if he means alot to you, then do whatever you can to get him back...if you don't you will most likely regret it. answerSimply put...two weeks is hardly enough time to be going together, let alone to be breaking up! It doesn't mean he didn't like you as a person - he simply didn't feel the same chemistry you felt, or thought you felt. It must work both ways, so don't make the mistake of creating a fantasy in your mind about what you WANT this man to feel for you. Spend less time appreciating his good looks and how much you want his physical closeness, and more time observing his behavior with you. If you have already been sexually intimate with this person, you take the risk and the responsibility that goes with not waiting to see if a relationship will develop the way you want it to. But if you were only seeing each other socially with the hopes of something more and he simply lost interest, then your heart was never broken, and your ego will survive. Unless there is a lot more to your question than meets the eye, romance is like any other social encounter. Some last and some don't. Don't spend too much time trying to figure out why...just move on until you meet a nice guy! :-)Why do you keep going back to your ex-boyfriend when you are the one who broke up with him?
Because you are lonely, you miss the good times, you are used to him. You can't find anyone you like right now. Maybe you heard he was seeing someone else, and can't stand to think of him with somebody else, you wanted the challenge of stealing him from another woman just to prove you are better. Us women do strange things. OR maybe you didn't know what you had till it was gone. Maybe you actually love this guy.
Don't call! It's a hard thing to swallow, but maybe he just isn't that in to you. If he hasn't called after a week or two, I would assume he's over it. Just stay busy. Have a girls' night or something, you'll realize how much you miss your girlfriends. Whenever I get bummed out about a guy I just call my friends and then I realize I never needed him in the first place! :) You didn't mention if you just have gone out a couple of times or have been dating on a steady basis. He could be busy with school or work. He may still call yet with the weekend coming up. A young woman should wait for no one if the person in question doesn't even bother to call to clarify what they are up too and at least tell his girlfriend he misses her. If he hasn't called by sometime today then make other plans and go out and have fun. If he knows you'll just hang around waiting for him, he'll lose interest in you quickly. Keep him guessing and make him work at landing you as his girlfriend or a possible girlfriend relationship.
What do you do if you just broke up with someone but your roommate is in a relationship?
What exactly is the question? Are you jealous your roommate is involved with someone and you're not? Do you feel like a third wheel with your roommate and their partner? Are you interested in dating your roommate? If you're jealous or feel like a third wheel, put in perspective that your breakup has nothing to do with your roommate's life. Try to get out with other friends more, do activities you let slide while your were dating. Don't sit depressed in your home every day. If you are attracted to your roommate, really think about the consequences if you were to tell them. First off, they're in a relationship with someone else. They also may not share your feelings and the living situation could become uncomfortable if you were confess all. Again, get out the home more, hang out with friends and meet new people.
pretty much means that she doesnt like the MORON that mistreated her and doesnt want anything to do with him again
Stop being unfaithful. Call AA. Look for a new boyfriend. Many people can have a little too much to drink at a party and it doesn't make them an alcoholic. However, it appears when you drink you can't control your behavior and I don't blame your boyfriend. When in doubt think of this one ... how would you have liked your boyfriend kissing another girl and using the good old excuse he was drinking? Doesn't compute. Sounds like this guy knows what he wants and has made up his mind. It's best to move on.
If you've firmly asked him to leave you alone and he refuses, you can visit your local police department to have a restraining order issued. Depending on the scenario, this will prevent him from calling you or coming within "X-many" feet of you. That generally does the trick. His failure to comply with this order could result in his immediate arrest.
You are experiencing normal feelings (without the obsession) because you are unhappy being in a relationship with your depressed girlfriend. Depression is a very difficult problem with many people. If you loved her enough you'd stand by her and get help. Obviously, you aren't in love with her that much, but, be warned, even a good friend would stand by another friend that is depressed! She needs to at least see her doctor and get a proper diagnosis and there is help for depression. If you give up on this relationship so easily then it proves you aren't mature enough to handle a serious relationship in the future. There is no 100% guarantee that the person you choose to date, possibly marry won't become depressed or have an illness and this could also involve yourself! When you love someone you stick by them through thick and thin and try to find the help they need. It's your choice!
If you decide to end this relationship at least say nothing for now and talk to your girlfriend and tell her she needs help. If she refuses tell her you can't go on in the relationship with the way things are. Get on the Internet and read about depression so you can assure her that there is a high rate of depression in the U.S. and Canada(Obviously. Those darn Canadians!)and she isn't the only one and that there is help for her if she wants to reach out and take it. If she still refuses you are going to have to just leave.
AnswerThere is absolutely nothing wrong with dreaming of others, its natural, but obsession is different. Maybe you shouldn't be in a serious relationship if you have such strong feelings for others and not your girlfriend. If the girl is already upset don't tell her of your dreams that will only make it worse. You do have the right like any other to be in a happy, healthy relationship and the best thing you can do is be as honest, not hurtful, to this girl and let her know things are not working out and you need to part ways. Do not let her convince you that her life is over with out you because its not but if you honestly feel she is a danger to herself after this go to her parents or guardians and let them know where you stand so they can keep an eye out for anything unusual. This needs to be done face to face, you should be able to show some maturity and respect enough to do this like a man. Good luck and be smart.
He likes a lot of your qualities (as he likes his friends) but has no further romantic interest in you. If still in doubt, why not ask exactly what he means by his comment? this means he is only around you as he has nowhere else to be at the moment,but when it becomes available you'll be out of the pic It means he cares about you a lot, but doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with you. He still finds you attractive, so if he thought of you as a sister, that would be gross. Just let him go and find someone who he loves romantically, and move on! :-)
Just to make sure he can come back if and when he wants. He most likely is lying about how he feels or else he would of tried harder to win you back rather than a phone call here and there. OR he does love you and is confused.
Thank YouIt's good for me to remember who he is... and not to get caught up again. I 'do' need to remember it is 'all' about him, it always has been. I didn't realize this at all until I left and had some perspective. It's VERY tough to resist sometimes especially when he uses certain words (all very loving) that really get to me. Reply To AnswerThanks for the response. He made enormous efforts to win me back both times I left - over a 6 month period. He scaled back his efforts considerably once he realized I was VERY reluctant and could not be convinced (or controlled). Since he had this realization, he has made intermittent contact via text or email (no phone calls) always expressing his love, while at the same time cleverly slipping in blame or criticism about my choice to leave. His consistency however has made me question my assessment of his Narcissism (this was presented to me as a very real possiblity by a PhD in Psychology who counseled us). Also, his family has also been consistent about his feelings for me (also being unlike any other woman). Any additional thoughts? Thanks again! New AnswerRemember the N's basic motivation--keeping good source(s) of supply. Has he perhaps currently run out of suppliers? He may very well remember how great you are and now regret not "keeping you in the loop" as a possible source should he need/want you. If he is actually an N, remember that it is ALWAYS about HIM. Keep your eyes open. If he could coldly turn away from you once, he probably is capable of doing it again, unless he's experienced a totally life-changing shift. Just be aware of who/what you're dealing with and don't lose yourself.Good luck, Georgette new answerAlot of Non-N's will do this. Just to keep you hanging on in case they need you for something someday. Money sex, attention. With N's they make a career out of it collecting women (or men) to have on hand at their disposable.I'm sorry to say hon, but this guy is just a plain waste of skin! Thank your lucky stars you are rid of him! People split-up for many reason, but if you care about people even in general you wouldn't rub salt into their wounds. I have a sneaking suspicion he has given you some hints to the fact he wants to split-up and you're not willing to let go. Still, it's cruel for him to tell you that he slept with his ex. As hard as it is your comfort zone is the fact millions of people go through heartache and survive, move on and eventually meet someone they truly love and you are no different. Let this jerk go and good ridence to him! Tell him to take a long walk off a VERY short pier!
== == It sounds as if your partner hasn't grown up. A separation agreement is usually so the two individuals in the relationship can have "head space" to do some thinking and if they really love each other then they should both try to see where things went wrong. Either you did something terrible (such as cheating and I'm not accusing you) which is hard to forgive or your partner hasn't grown from the separation and it's time you let the person know there are no more choices left. Communicate! I am currently in this same situation with my fiance of over a year and a half who decided that we need to go on a break. We both are still madly in love with each other but we know that we messed up the relationship. Honestly if the person that you are on break with still has not matured about the situation then maybe you need to go and find someone that won't string you along like a little doll you know.
