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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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- It's cheap to cheat on your boyfriend whether you love him or not. You need to communicate with him that you don't love him and want your freedom to do as you wish and to see who you want and you want to be honest with him and let him get on with his own life. Warning: 'Still waters run deep' which means if your boyfriend is a nice guy he could easily panic and do something rash to you or himself if you persist on leaving him. It is obvious he isn't going to let go easily. If he has a temper then beware and don't discuss leaving him unless you are around your parents; other family members or male and female friends. If you are living together then move out. If he texts you refuse to answer him and if phones you then don't answer the phone. If he threatens you in any way then keep any emails or taped phone conversations and go to the police.
Why is it so hard to walk away from someone who hurt you so bad?
It is called love. When you care about someone, it is never easy to watch them walk out of your life when they mean so much. Love doesn't always mean the romantic relationships. It applies to everyone important to you - family, friends - and also of course, a significant someone.
What does it mean when someone wants to break up with you?
It Really Depends. You said "he says That he wants to break up with you all the time." is he really breaking up with you all the time? If he is then either he is a player who goes from one woman to another. If hes not then either he doesn't care about you (If That Offends You that he says that). He could also be playing or teasing you all the time. Men don't always realise what their doing and if it hurts us.
Is your boyfriend a narcissist?
(Note: Narcissistic Personality Disorder is something that can only be identified by a mental health professional who has examined the person in question. Other than that, "narcissist" is a word meaning "loves oneself excessively" and is susceptible to varying interpretations.)
The following are testimonials that may give a person insight into making a layman's determination as to whether their boyfriend/girlfriend may be a narcissist.
Opinion 1:
I met my bf when he was married to another woman and I was also in a relationship. We fell in love and he told me, pretty much on the first date, that he wanted us to have children. The following months consisted of spending weekends together, going out drinking and partying. I fell pregnant after a few months and I decided to have an abortion, to which he said that he would leave his wife and take care of me and the baby. I ended up having the abortion.
We continued seeing each other and we moved in together. His wife found out a few months later (that he was living with me) and all hell broke loose. He called me and said that we could have no more contact, her screaming in the background. I was devestated. He moved back in with his wife and daugther. After 10 days we talked and he said that he was miserable, I was too. I forgave him for what he had done and we decided to give it another try and move back in together.
He started his divorce and we were quite happy, living together. We went on holidays, out and pretty much continued the way we had.
When i fell pregnant a year later I was very excited and happy. He then changed quite a lot. He would let me cry without providing any empathy or comfort (he would say that he would take into a hotel if I didnt stop crying), he would never ask how i was doing during my pregnancy, he would shout at me in the car if we were arguing, if I was ill he would compalin about the noise I made sneezing during the night.
When it came to the birth he told me (a week before) that he wouldn't be able to be there for the birth, he let me believe this for a couple of days before he switched and said that he would be there. When I went into labour he drank my applejuice that I had brought with me, and looked at me like I was asking him to climb Himalaya and was about to protest when I asked him to get me a chocolate bar from the vending machine in the hospital.
When I came home with the baby, he was disinterested, told the baby to shut the f... up when he made his baby sounds. He also said that I should take my baby and leave 5 days after the baby was born.
Since then it has been name calling and loads of stories of disrespect. Is this narcissism?
Opinion 2:
Yes it is !As long you are the other woman and he is in the honeymoon fase with you,really trying to get you and he is in the delusion that you are great ,perfect and The One,his wife or steady girlfriend will be the one that is a bad person,don't treat him rightcan't cook does not want sex etc....When you become HIS woman you are takin her place,he has secured you then YOU wil be the bad one...It did happenned to me too...2 years i was with him ,in a long distance relationship,very close together i was THE BOMB.THE ONE ....when he left the mother of his children and i went to be with him from Europe to the USA he changed...in 10 hours time.....nothing i did was good,withdraw affection,push and pull games,treating me bad and 10 minutes later nicely,he wanted me to leave and when i would he asked me please ,stay...and so on....come home with lipstick on his sleeve...devastating....i left and he is no contact ,no friendship no nothing,not even a phone call asking me how i am doing....he knows i have health issues,they don't care about anybody,not even themselves....just go and don't look back....they don't change ;only for worst....
How do you return your boyfriends belongings after he asks for a break?
If he ask for a break in calm way, you need to be respectful of his decision. You must go up to him and return all of his things in a calm manor. But, if it is just a break, why does he need his stuff back? If he is rude and says hurtful things, do it in a way that you won't have to see his face. Leave a box of his things on his front door step, avoid confrentation.
When a boyfriend breaks up with you will he come back?
i broke up with my girlfriend of two years about 6 months ago because i wasnt ready for a commitment, i still wanted to run the clubs and play the field becuas ei love to flirt. well since i broke up with her i havent even spoke to another woman because one she wasnt around i realized how much i loved it when she was, but i have not told her how i feel since i was the one that broke it off. Wait 2 weeks from the day he broke it off then call him and ask if he misses you, because even if he does he may not have the balls to call and tell you.... hope that helps
Can you still be friends with ex boyfriend and still be in a relationship?
It depends of the relationship you had before you broke up. If the relationship was more of a friendly relationship rather than a romantic one, dating other people while being friends is an option. It mostly depends on if both partners from the previous relationship have moved on from the relationship and hold no romantic or hurt feelings.
How do you tell if a man is still interested in you after a break up?
Generally you can tell by the way he treats you, talks to you, contacts you or makes you feel. If you feel awkward and it seems something is different besides just the breakup chances are he is ready to move on. Talking to him is the best way to find out how he may feel or looks at anything between the two of you.
Why will your ex try to avoid you?
- 'Ex' means the relationship is over and both should move on in their lives and not expect the ex to be there. When two people split up there can be many reasons for that split up and often the relationship ends on a bitter note so one of the exes may not want to keep in touch with the other ex. Just move onto to better things in your life and don't expect your ex to be your friend.
How to get your pregnant ex girlfriend back?
If you really love her and always will then you should make your feelings known to her. Don't assume she knows. At least then you will have made a shot at it. If she isn't ready or doesn't want to get back together then that's how it is and you move on. But if she feels the same way, it can be a wonderful thing raising the baby together and you both can fall more in love watching the infant grow. Its hard work but doing it together will bring you closer and make you stronger as a couple. Just make sure she is not going back to you because she is lonely or scared. As long as shes happy doing it alone with the pregnancy you know she isn't using you. I think its very romantic that you will be with her even though she is pregnant. Good luck!
WElL boys hurt girls because the don't know how girls feel when the are in love. its not that they don't have feelings the do but they don't understand us.(girls) u know we are different from them....
well guys hurt girls bc they just don't care about nothing but themselves. guys are crazy and don't feel any thing at all. they work their ways around people they don't care about they cancel their plans with you bc they have plans with someone else. i promise i have dated this guy named dusty Benjamin thomas glaze for like 2 n 1/2 yrs. bc we broke the day b4 our three yrs together... but im okay.. but its okay if a guy hurts you.. you can move on and show him you don't care...
How do you say goodbye to a long term relationship?
You have to thnk about why you are wanting to break up with her/him. If u have at least 4 good reasons that u 2 should break up then tell her nicely those reasons and if she wants a chance to renew it u should give atleast that to her. but bascially let her down slowly and tell her that she is beautiful and will find someone else
Kind of, unfortunately. But girls like that really irritate me. It usually means they got bored with the guy they were with so they moved on, but now they're trying to hold on to both of them. Its totally unfair to both guys. If the ex-boyfriend is the one doing the pursuing, then he's kind of a jerk too and needs to let her move on.
What to do when you feel so lonely and confuse?
You're in a sad state, my friend. I can sympathize. I've been dumped many a time. After each one, a Darleen shaped hole lingered in my soul. To this day, I wonder why I let it go on so long.
But that's neither here nor there. What you need to do is get up and moving. No one ever gets better sitting on their couch, typing sad questions into WikiAnswers. They get better in wild, hip-grinding clubs where the booze is as loose as the women. Here are some suggestions for post-breakup activities that will cheer you in no time:
* Join a Book Club * Organize a disc golf tournament. * Complain incessantly about how much you hate cute couples. * Take a class at a local college. Try something out of your comfort zone, like grammar or philosophy. * Buy a Cat. (Great for meeting women!) * Go to the gym three hours a day, every day, for a week. While not eating. (Great for meeting men!) * Start a Blog.
How do you get back at a guy who says he loves you but likes another girl?
It is Possible for a man to love some one and Like/love Someone else as well. He has no control over that. His mistake was in being honest about it to you. it seems what you wanted was that he be dishonest to you. The truth is the problem is yours not his.
How could you get your ex-boyfriend's mom to like you again so you can go back out with her son?
It's time to take inventory of your character and write down on a piece of paper what type of person you are, how you treated her son, and have you tried to improve on your mistakes. If you haven't leave the poor guy alone. If you have, then go to see this lady when you know her son isn't home and see if she will communicate with you. Apologize, tell her you've made mistakes and you are maturing and perhaps, if lucky, she may well give you a chance. Fighting with a mother and her siblings is like fighting a wounded grizzly. So talking to her is about the best chance you have. Whatever you say to her ... mean it! By the way, if you think you can fool this mother ... guess again! Mother's have ESP and you'd better believe that one!
How do you not make it awkward between your ex?
There Are Many Types Of Awkward Moments In Dating, So I Will List Some.
If You Fart: Ignore It, Just Start Talking And Act Like It Never Happened.
If It's Silent: If You Are A Guy: Start Talking About Your Relationship. Ask Her How Close She Feels You Two Are And What Stage Your Relationship Is. If You Are A Girl: Ask Him What He Wants To Talk About. If He's Sensitive, He Might Want To Talk About Your Relationship. If He's Romantic: He Might Want To Compliment You. Or If He's Just A Regular Guy, He Might Want To Talk About Sports. If You Know About Sports, That's Great, But If You Don't, Act Like You Know About Sports, And Just Nod And Agree With Him.
If Your Tongue Slipped And You Insulted Your Girlfriend Or Boyfriend: Apolagize, And Hopefully They Will Forgive You. If They Don't Just Put Your Arm Around Them, But If This Doesn't Work You Might Have To Buy Them A Gift.
10 reason why you love someone?
Now, this, for me, is all based on my experiences with /guys/, in particular, one.
1. Honesty
2. Same interests-for me, it was music
3. Personality
4. Intelligence-knowing things that you can share
5. Kindness
6. Confidence
7. Sweetness
8. Being put-together
9. Having a fun side
10. Being comfortable around them A2 honestly i dont think there should be reasons why you love someone. as long as you no you care about them and they care about you. love is unmeasurable.
Why do you keep dreaming of your ex boyfriend?
Well, you might still have feelings for him. It could also be because you think he is hot.But I think your feelings for your ex are stronger than your new boyfriend. Could this new guy possible be rebound?
AnswerBecause you are trying to convince yourself your ready for a new man and that u like this new guy more. Truth is, your still into your ex. You probably need more time alone. I bet you talk alot about your ex to the new guy right? I went through this. I talked on an on about him...its not fair..and we don't do it to hurt anyone..its just whats in our hearts.Be true to you and maybe slow it down with the new man. I wouldn't say end it. But tell him how you feel. If hes a good man and you are meant to be, he will understand and will be able to handle it.Also sometimes we glorify the past and look back at it with emmories that were better than reality (NOSTALGIA). Dont fall into this. One more thing, you could be doing this to protect yourself from being hurt. For example if the new man breaks up with you you can say to yourself "Oh i didnt like him that much anyway as I still thought of my ex". Who is SAFE to think of as its not going anywhere.What to do with someone that keeps breaking up with you?
Simple. Don't let him. Find someone else. You are sitting there waiting. He is doing who knows what, and probably always will.
answerPut him an ultimatum, or you stay or definatly leave. He doesn't respect you or the relationship, if he did he would not treat you like that. If there is no respect in a relationship then it can't exist or survive. Start getting respect by letting him know that you won't tolerate it anymore. If he realizes that he will lose you he will stay, if he leaves and doesn't come back then he gave you the answer you need. Good luck!!!How can you make a girl stop loving you?
You cannot "make" someone stop feeling the way they do they will eventually have to move on on their own. The best thing you can do is to avoid any contact and not lead her on in any way to give her false hopes - with time she will let you be and move on. If you find confronted at any time by her be honest, straight forward, polite yet firm and tell her there is nothing nor will there be between you and you would appreciate it if she left you alone.
Love is a feeling, not an action. Love is when you get butterflies in your stomach when you see the person you love. Love is when you want to spend the rest of your life with the person you have feelings for.
Dreaming of leaving your partner?
You may not be happy in your relationship and have entertained the thoughts of breaking up the relationship or that your partner is thinking along these lines, but feel you still love your partner or, it could simply be a dream and it could be as simple as someone telling you that they broke up with their partner.
Why is it that you never get over your first love?
The same reason why us women cant get over our first love. Because first love is something that for the first time shows us what its like to love someone. It opens our eyes into something new, something that feels good and something we always want to have. That's why we never want to let go of it.
Answer"FIRST LOVES" instill the EGO in OUR men, that takes US, as WIVES, years to get rid of!!!How do you deal when your boyfriend keeps contact his ex?
I would tell my partner that this person is the past. I am with you now and not comfortable at all with any ongoing communication. If your partner has any respect for you they will sever all communication.
