Breakups

you can't really make up cheating. Its all about earning your trust back. Many people cheat and try to make the relationship work but it never does because you need trust to have a real commited relationship. To gain trust back you may just want to start off as friends again..see where the relationship goes from there

I just wanted to add something to that, theres nun like make sex but that the ponit . THE 1 STEP IS TO TELL HIM SO HE WANT HAVE TO FOUND OUT ANYWAY LIKE FORM A FRIEND . STEP 2 SIT HIM DOWN AND TELLN WHAT HAPPEN AND WHY IT HAPPENED I KNO ITS GOING TO BE HARD TELL ING HIM BUT JUST SUCK IT UP AND TELL HIM.STEP 3 TELL HIM HOW YOU WHERE WRONG AND HOW YOU NOW IT IS SHOUCKING TO HIM THAT YOU WOULD DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT TO HIM JUST TALK IT OUT AND IF HE UNDERSTAND WHERE YOUR COMEING FORM OK BUT IF NOT JUST MOVE ON OR YOU CAN EARN HIS TRUST BACK!ya

You have to think to yourself, was he/she actually right for me. Avoid seeing this person as much as possible until your over the break up. Go out to town with friends for a fresh start maybe you'll find mr right there. make sure that person who dumped you can see you having a good time with other girls/boys so they'll get jelous. hope this has helped! xx

friendship usually gets broken when u dont have the right friend or maybe sometimes u have misunderstandings and u ignore it or just get mad about things that u dont really need to get angry at but all this can be solved if u just say a sorry or try to see things the way they tend to see :)

• Your ex girlfriend wants you back so she is flirting with other young men to try and make you jealous and realize that you do love her. It sounds as if you do love her or you would not have asked the question. If you do love her and had problems in your relationship then try dating again and working out your differences. If you don't love her then ignore her when she tries to make you jealous and move on in your life.

It probably means subconsciencly, that you two might be having problems or your afraid to lose him for any reason. Just relax and talk to him about how he really feels about you. But dont bug him about it just talk. Im sure that will ease your mind a little.

Prank him good. Egg him, frame him, anything that makes him cry. lol Depends how bad the lie is. From not-bad to very bad: -be angry -dump him -slap him -do [whatever he did to you] back -all of the above

Absolutely not. If you are still in love with him and still want to be with him then you two should be together....if he feels the same way too. [:

ILL try it this other person will prop.say and prop.do anything too keep you out of his site and mind so whatch your self alot depends on how you two broke up tallin him the truth and letting know how you fell is the best way honesty can be your best policy would need more info on this good luck whatch your back around thee other girlthey can be diseatfull.

Been there... on both sides. A lot of people want to feel the gratification that what they have done (breaking up with you) is OK with you. They may not want to have that guilty feeling hanging over them. Best bet is to move on.

Here are opinions and advice: * Do you remember the things that made you fall for him in the first place? Can you remember how you felt about him the day you married him? Maybe all you need to do is start over. Let all the things that are hurting you go. Try to find one another again. Find what it is you like and love about him. Go on a date. Try to respark the feelings. It's never too late. Don't give up hope. * There is no easy answer to this. If you do nothing else, buy and read this book: "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" by Mira Kirshenbaum. This book truly helped me answer the questions you are trying to answer. It takes you step by step through a decision process, including specific ways to measure how much, if any, love is left between you, and if that love is still viable. * I've heard it said many times that if you even have to ask yourself if you are still in love, you're not. * Love is a choice, not a feeling. The feeling that is referred to as love is more or less a reaction to certain stimulation. Love is giving, love is kindness, love is selflessness. Love is not something you take, but rather the reaction you feel once you give. * It would be argued by many, including myself, that if you have posed such a question you invariably already know its answer. What I mean is that being in love means not wondering if you are or if you aren't. Love is unconditional, thus if you doubt your own enough to ask, I am afraid it is already too late. I came across this website today and read some interesting answers about love. I read one that I am inclined to agree with. Perhaps because at heart I am a hopeless idealist. The philosophical side of me needs to believe that, like the one person stated, "if you have to ask the question..." I understand as a married man for over 10 years, I think it is hard to maintain that initial "spark" we once had in the beginning of our marriage. Between two professionals working 40 hours a week, the commuting, children, trying to juggle the other tasks of the week, you are lucky if you have three hours to spend together. But it seems to me that though, the "spark" may not be there like it was in the beginning, it is replaced with a deeper love based upon mutual respect and trust that has been earned over the course of the marriage. * There is always hope. I ask myself the question everytime I am hurt or angry, confused or frustrated with my partner. I think it is when you stop wondering and asking yourself that question is the day that you stop caring anymore and your answer becomes clear to you. That is when it is too late. * When you walk by this person do you want them to notice you? Do you always want to talk to this person? Do you always look at them and hope that they look at you? If so, I believe you are still in love. If you don't want to talk to this person a lot anymore then your not in-love so forget about it. * You could perhaps talk to a guidance counsellor who could help you assess the situation. It is good to have objective opinions. * I think that the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. If you care whether leaving the person would hurt them or not, then you still love them. If you don't want them to be with somebody else, then you still love them. And if you don't care then you don't love them. * I don't think that questioning if you love a person means you are already out of love with him or her. You have every right to question your beliefs (about anything), but that doesn't mean you don't believe them just by questioning. It's a good thing to question - it just means that you are trying to get to know yourself better. Over time, I think love for a person you are in a relationship with changes, and this can be mistakened for falling out of love. You may no longer feel as attracted to the person as you did on your first date, but that turns into a more compassionate love - which is also love. Be careful not to mistaken changes in feelings for falling out of love. Also, try to pinpoint if there are specific things that are bothering you lately, which again might be mistakened as no longer loving the person. Perhaps just addressing those specific problems will rekindle your feelings of love. * Love is not something you can touch but that emotion that you feel within yourself. As a husband for 17 years I can state that love is nothing but a mere emotion that we feel. My wife has good times as well as bad. She can be happy some days and sad some others. I believe true love can only be measured by your actions to your partners problems and feelings. As an example my wife last year told me that she was not sure if she loved me anymore. After careful reflection of what she was telling me I figured out that she was not happy with me since she felt that I did not appreciate her enough nor showed her enough of my love fowards her. Understand that the only reason why we are still together today is "only" because I took the time to listen to her before the problem got worse. Sometimes we can be egotistic, selfish, conceded and many more things that are wives state to us. Husbands need to make efforts to listen to there wives because they are different than we are. They truly might not be happy and doubt there love because they have no companion to communicate with. In my experience it is always good to talk things out before its to late. Don't ever think that because you doubt yourself about your love for your spouse this means that you dont love him or her. It might just mean that your dialogue needs to improve. * I thought I fell out of love with my wife and left her for another woman. I got bored with the same old routine and fell "in love" with another women of the complete opposite personality. After time away, and having the chance to experience someone different, I reflected on what it was about my wife that made me fall in love with her in the first place. Once I started focusing on the positives, versus negatives I found that I fell in love with my wife again, only for her to fall out of love with me. Love is more than feelings of infatuation and the giddiness that comes with it. True love is much deeper and accepts all of the other person, good and bad. Everyone is always looking for waht they don't have, instead of accepting and being happy with what they do have. * This depends on what you are asking. Are you asking if YOU are in love or if BOTH OF YOU are in love? People get a little silly when it comes to love, expecting that if it's real they will feel it all the time, but as human creatures we don't work that way. What about the rest of the full set of human emotions we must experience? The truth is that we can only really FEEL one emotion at a time. When you are angry you feel anger, not love. When you are sad you feel sadness, not love. When you are joyful you feel joy ... well, to some people that's love, but my point is you have to leave some room for real life and the other emotions you are going to experience too. If you want to spend time with someone and share loving feelings, then you are in love. If they want the same thing, then it's likely BOTH of your are in love. It's incredibly simple. Are you going to stay in love? Now that's more complicated. That's a personal choice and takes effort and it's up to each of you. * If you are having doubts about being in love than you are probably falling out of love. You just need to listen carefully to your heart. If you are in true love trust me you'll know. * Love is a decision. Perhaps you are simply working out struggles in your marriage relationship. I say, give it a chance and try to work it out. I've been married 34 years. We had our trying times, that's for sure, but it has turned out to have been worth hanging in there. Now I know what true love is, and I'm more satisfied now than I've ever been in my whole life. For me, it was worth the commitment to one another that it took to work things through together in order to find what we have now.

Start by going out with friends and be social! The more people you are around the more people you meet and the more likely it will be you'll meet that special someone.

You can scour the internet or go look at self-help books and they will give you stupid advice like immerse yourself in a hobby, spending time with friends, tell yourself self-affirming things like you're too good for them and they don't deserve you, etc.

It's true that time usually helps ease the pain but, damn, when it happens it hurts and feels like the hurt is never going to go away.

Sadly, if it was love - real love and not a crush - you may not get over it for a long time.  In fact, you may continue having strong feelings for them no matter how hard you try to forget them, even if you find someone else you may hold a secret place for that lost love in your heart.  Little things will remind you of them and a bit of the hurt will still be there.  Don't deny it.  Live with it.

You're not alone at having been hurt by an unrequited love.   

Even though people with the best of intentions may tell you to move on you may find that's it's a struggle.  Maybe that's about all you can do.  Maybe that's about all any of us can do.  Just accept that it wasn't meant to be and stagger forward but keep moving forward because there's more to life in the long run than a lost love.      

It depends on what the breakup was about. If it was a calm, we dont belong together, I dont love you anymore, kinda break up- you need to just let things go. Trust me =(. If it was a big dramatic scene, then go to her and apologize, talk it out.

you don't need to know how to love to love!! :< if he is the one, then u will just love him automatically! if he is not... then even if u try to love him, u can't because he isn't the one for u!! :>

if youre in middle school or high school find out their locker combination then take some wet toilet paper and put it in their locker.

Just because you like someone that matches your zodiac sign does not mean that they are your soulmate it just means that you are compatible with their sign. Some people just don't understand this and believe in the whole zodiac stuff when it doesn't always mean anything. Just be careful what you do.

-you don't trust each other

-you don't like `em any more

-he/she is really annoying and u can`t handle it or stand it

-you rather be with someone else

-you don't wanna be in a relationship anymore (u really shouldn't be in one u do want, it doesnt work to wonderfully)

my opinion

It's rather obvious ... you pick up your life and move on. You see, you broke up with him which probably hurt him real bad ... then he found happiness in a new relationship and then you changed your mind about what you did. It's time to find a new boyfriend.

I guess every comment here is giving you the same advice of walking away and letting time heal all wounds. I am in a similar position. I fell in love with this divorcee with a child. Treated the kid like my own daughter and even had concrete plans to get married. Then she started to treat me cold and neglected me, i persisted on by being understanding to her work yet i always get last minute play outs like i am going to work or i am meeting someone else. Time became scarce for us and we just see each other for coffee once a week. There wasn't any sharing of intimacy and we even stopped holding hands. We were supposed to celebrate our 8th month anniversary together and that day came she stood me up with even notifying me at the end of the day that we are not meeting. After that i spoke to her about my dislikes of getting dates cancelled at the very last minute, she accused me of picking up a quarrel. I told her that the relationship was pretty strained and we have do spend some time together to do emotional repairs, we decided that heading for a holiday in Bangkok over the weekend was the perfect opportunity to heal it. That week she came up with so many excuses of not putting up in the same room with me. I felt weird on how could somebody give so many excuses. That Saturday that she reached Bangkok, we were supposed to have a nice and romantic lunch do some shopping and prayers followed by dinner and wine. Expecting to wake up in the morning with her and have a nice breakfast but i waited in the room till 3pm and there was never any calls to tell me lunch was cancelled. It was the final straw that broke the camel's back and i told her that i am out of this relationship. It's been more than a week and every single day i am fighting the urge to call her or text her. I knew that i made the logical decision to call it quits and knew that i couldn't tolerate the feeling of seeing her just once a week and sometimes not even having a conversation with her on weekdays. It still hurts alot and being a man i cried. Cried because if i never love her so much i wouldn't even tear. I have a tattoo of her name beside mine and i will cover it up with another tattoo. Among all these grief and hurt, i know i still love her but it wouldn't work out if we continued with this type of lifestyle. I am feeling stronger day by day and i remembered the day that when i made the decision i was in tears crying cause it was the most painful decision to leave someone that i truly love and believed that she is the "one". Fate and destiny i have challenged it before and i never emerge as a winner. I still think of her everyday but it was just happy past memories that i was hanging onto. I pray for her everyday and hope that she is happy. There were many unanswered questions in my mind; all the "Why's" but so what if i know the answers, will it change everything. I want to taste love again, someone that truly appreciates what i am and what i will do for her. My ex-girlfriend; i gave her the world and she didn't knew how to appreciate it. In every heartbreak or every hurdle we come across, just remember it's a lesson that we are learning and it's a blessing in disguise. In the depts of winter, i found the summer in me. There will always be someone out there that will love you the way you love them but until you are ready to accept love again, they will never appear. For me, even if there isn't anyone out there for me, so what? I am being myself.

Speaking from experience. I fell in love with a girl who really took my heart. i couldn't go a single day without talking to her, or testing her. she was my world. she was all i thought about, day in, day out. I called her my angel, she was like a princess. I had never been in this emotional state.

The same as above things went bad. we hardly talked.

the phone calls and texts died out.

I confronted her, she said i was making excuses, and causing pointless arguements. I told her my feelings, she didnt care.

so i plucked up the currage

and i walked away, man i cried tha night, i felt hurt and lost,

but after time i healed.

I went back out, and enjoyed my life.

i still think about her,

and i still love her. but walking away gave me a new path in life.

if your heart is broken.. the only thing that can mend it is time. try not to think about her.. it may seem like the hardest thing in the world to do but you can do it.. do things that yall didnt do together. you dont want her to see you all down and stuff cuz than she might feel like she can hold on to you and keep your feelings in a fog.. its her loss not yours..

There is no secret to finding true love. Some people are very fortunate to find 'true love' but many more do not. Some people who don't 'find' their true love, grow to love their mate more over time, but many relationships also grow apart. There are even people who never find love but manage to lead very satisfying lives all the same. Certainly, this is preferable to the many relationships that turn harmful or destructive.

There are so many qualities and personal traits that come into play, and people are all so different, that no formula exists.

You say,

"Hey! how are you? i heard about you and (her boyfriend's name) breaking up! I'm really sorry, it didn't work out, but i would like you to know that I'm here"

than ask her to a really romantic movie or something!

but please note that you shouldn't just ask out a girl who you never talk to! talk to her for a good week before you ask her out!

By being as nice as you can. Example: If your sister insults you, simply smile and say "I am sorry you feel that way". Or kindly ask "Why do you feel the need to be so rude". Then you are the bigger person, and a lot of the time people are only mean to get a reaction out of someone. Dont give her that.

That is a great answer, but just tell her how you feel in other words, instaed of sucking up t her. Don't let her take charge and just stay away from her if all else fails, because she might just end up being not as pitiless and will miss you. She loves you and always will. Just remember that.