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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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Hon, I don't think you are the type of girl that just fell off the last turnip truck, but, I have to say, wake up and smell the coffee! The magic word is "ex." No matter if there is a distance between you or not if two people truly love each other then they can over-come anything and that includes distance. What about men that went off to war? After years most of the men came back to their wives, so a distance such as yours and for such a short time doesn't ever fit into the comparison of true love such as these couples have endured. This guy is a piece of work. He has not only dumped you because of distance (probably didn't try very hard at all and just wanted his freedom) but now he's blaming a female friend for coming into his home and he wants her out? Give me a break! He's telling you this so that if you call and hear a female voice at the end he'll have no explaining to do. I can bet you that every conversation you have with him from now on he'll go on and on about negative things about his female friend and how she's driving him crazy and he can't stand it. Listen up ... this guy is playing both ends and winning by the looks of it. Not only is he hurting you, but he's hurting that female friend. If he really wanted her out of his home, then he either helps her find a place of her own, or he forms the words, "I'm giving you a month to find your own place." The best advice I can give you is to tell you to move on and get rid of this loafer. Don't be a statistic. You are stronger than you think, and he doesn't deserve you loving him or trusting him. Get out and have some fun with friends and one day you'll meet someone very special and later wonder what you ever saw in this guy. Good luck Marcy
Just broke up with my bf but we have a child what should you do?
im only 13 but next month i will b 14 and growing up without a dad was sorta hard well i should say IS sorta hard so if u love ur kid try to keep the dad in the kids life☺☺☺☺
My ex boyfriend called me today after I broke up with him what is he thinking?
he is probably wanting to get back together.
No. If he thought you cheated on him then he's a suspicious type (one's to avoid!), and even if you got back together - it'll happen again. Guaranteed. Anyway you can do better!
- Your boyfriend sounds mature and obviously wants to get good grades so he is studying and doesn't want any distractions. He should have communicated better with you and either asked you to help him by asking him questions he may have on an exam or, that he have some 'head space' to study and that would mean he still loved you, but he needed time to think. Yes, studying for exams can be very stressful. Time for you to back off; wake up and realize that he is serious about keeping his grades up and is not up to partying or going out much because studying takes up most of his time. Sit down with your boyfriend and ask him what he wants from you ... helping him by asking questions or what time space does he need before you start seeing each other the way you use too. He is not trying to get rid of you, he just wants to work hard and get good grades. If you are in school then you would be wise to do the same.
How come no one considers that the breakuper might be hurting too?
because they are so full of rage and the person who broke up with them is feeling bad but they broke it off bbecause something wasn't right with the other person. Cody age 12
What does it mean When a guys says he needs to think about everything?
That type of response from a male is a nice way of saying I have had fun but its time to move on. Usually that type of response is from male that is in a long-term relationship. Men need some free space; if you are not giving him time with the guys then you are cutting him from his freedom. If a man feels he can’t do anything with out asking you then usually that is the type of response that you would get and deserve.
What is the best revenge when someone treats you badly and breaks up with you?
Being happy without them.
How do you get over a guy who is verbally abusive and wont leave you alone?
Hey there :) Im sorry to hear that you are going through this rough situation. I know everyone has their opinions as to what they would do. I believe that since ive been in the situation in the past I would definetely be dropping all resources of contact with this guy. Im talking about avoiding him in every possible manner such as changing your number. I know that it is a hard process with people like this. However, the sooner the better my dear and if he continues to bother you then I think I would turn to authorities for advice.
How do you prove i live at residence with no lease or utilites?
take a picture of yourself outside of the home
What happens if you try to feed your dog but instead of eating real dog food it eats dirt instead?
then it eats dirt.dirt has nutrients,it doesn't taste good,but it is harmless.
Dogs, just like people, can have pica. They eat strange things because they're lacking something in their diet that they're getting from whatever strange thing they're eating. Best to discuss it with a veterinarian to find out how to provide whatever nutrients the dog isn't getting. A diet consisting only of dirt would not be a healthy one.
your a smart gurl yeah you love him becasue you have been with him for a very long time and you spended alot of gud times with him and it might hurt to just forget and move on and its not as easy as it sounds...but come on honey like he is using u and the other gurl like hes playing both of you guys and ur not gunna listen to anyone casue u are soooo in love with him dat love blinds ppl and don't care wat ppl say but im telling you don't do wat he wants you to do casue he knows that your gunna do wat he says and if u don't give it well the other gurl will just do it so he dosent care bout u he just wants wat he wants
If you really love your first love more than your boyfriend than if i were you i would dump your boyfriend for him... and if your boyfriend really cares about you and only wants you to have the best than he will understand. If he flips out when you dump him than maybe he isn't a good guy for you anyways. But go with the guy that you really love because you will never be happy if you don't go with him. Go with your heart and not your head.
Rhiennon:
1st you need to think about this very clearly before you make a move or something that you might regret forever. You should consider a lot of important things 1st before you make your step. You should ask yourself about the past, present and future of both sides of your relationships with them. You must think 1st what are the positive and negative sides of boys guys and why are you actracted to them. You should analyze every situation of both sides 1st and decide who is the guy for you. If you think you love your boyfriend and you asked yourself why you broke up and remember that it was all the wrong reasons you might regret being with him... So girl, it's much better to think before you act... It's ok to follow your heart but you should both use your mind and heart in a balance way... :)
it is good to be loyal to people but it is also good to be happy and when you live life you wanna be as happy as possible but ur gonna have to figure this one out urself u don't wanna live life with regrets cuz when you die u don't wanna say wow i wish i would've married this guy you wouldn't be doing this boyfriend a favor if you didnt let him go he needs to know
When ex says he thinks about you often Is that a strong feeling and what does it mean by it?
It may just mean he thinks about you because you had a past, you just broke up and he may even miss you.
Why did humadapnon take revenge to labaw dunggon?
cause he wanted 2 cause he wanted 2 cause he wanted 2 cause he wanted 2 cause he wanted 2 cause he wanted 2
What do you do when you love someone who is hard to get along with?
situation- I'm currently 17 years old, graduating '07. I met her 3 years ago actually at a certain organization and we both still participate in the organization up to this point. I might have worded the question a little badly... We actually get along really well. I really like her obviously, and I'm not quite sure how she feels about me. The problem is that we're both somewhat... polite and prudent in nature, which only really shows between us. I mean, I have a bestfriend(girl) who I hug and talk secrets and sleep on the same bed without feeling awkward, but when I'm with this girl, we barely say a word to each other. We only acknowledge each other with friendly smiles, hi's, and bye's but never hold any kind of conversation. We see each other only once a week so I don't have much chance to talk to her. We have no problem talking online, and its not as hard to talk on the phone, but face to face neither of us really have anything to say to each other. The last thing I want to do is give her up.
Who has the rights to a vehicle that was purchased boyfriend and girlfriend that just broke up?
It depends on who's name was placed on the title. If both names were were placed on the title with an "and" between them, then the car is owned jointly. If on "or" was used then the whoever has the title could sell it. If just one name was placed on the title then that person owns the vehicle.
It depends on who's name was placed on the title. If both names were were placed on the title with an "and" between them, then the car is owned jointly. If on "or" was used then the whoever has the title could sell it. If just one name was placed on the title then that person owns the vehicle.
Why wont he leave you alone if hes married?
His own selfish needs and ego. Make it very clear that you do not want any contact with him and if he does not like this let him know if he doesn't stop you will go to his wife - if he still doesn't stop this is harrassment and you should go directly to the police.
He is playing games with you and toying with your emotions. Remember people only treat you the way you allow them to and because you keep allowing him to do this he continues to do so. It is also a control issue. You don't deserve this and it would be in your best interest to not take him back. Show him that your tired of playing these games and don't allow him to control you any longer.
How do you break up with someone that has a drinking problem?
If breaking up with someone with a drinking probelm is what you want to do, just do it. Staying with someone with a drinking problem (who won't admit it) is being what is called an 'enabler'. As long as the person drinking has the approval and support of family and friends around him/her, he/she will continue down the dark path. Only when people turn their backs and remove their support will the drinker hit the bottom and begin the long process of recovery. It is then that they will need you support.
If hes willing to get all the sex he wants and leave your heart on the edge than he's a bum. Cant commit? Do you really think someone like this will be with you for better or worse? Rich or poor, Sounds like all he wants is sex, Ive seen people like this, every girl deserves to have a prince charming someday, not a slob, don't waist your time, there is someone out there who will love you unconditionally, but you will never find him if you stay with this idiot
How can I end my 3month relationship in a nice way as he's really sensetive?
I know this sounds mean and stupid but I thought he was everything I wanted when we got together, but now we've been together a while I don't see my friends half as much as I used to, I went out the other night with them and realised how much I wanted to go back to that kind of life. I can't say it to him like that, he's really sensitive and i don't want to hurt him :(
Just be honest and straight about how you feel. Being a sensitive type he is going to take it hard no matter how you do it; there is no avoiding that. However in the long run he will respect you more if you do it quickly; rather than drag it out.
The only one who knows is your ex. Still, why would you care? Is it because of jealousy, resentment, bitterness, or do you want that individual back in your life? The question is not so much whether your ex notices you, as much as it is, are you noticing yourself and asking yourself why you should care.
I've been divorced from my "n" for over a year. I have a four year old girl and a two year old boy. The only thing you can do is to control the damage. don't give him any more time than what your custody agreement allows. Don't talk to him .That's the most important thing. keep your mouth shut!! I can't empasize that enough. Anything you volunteer is ammunition. no matter how innocent it may seem at the time. Have him pick up the kids at a neutral place such as a fast food restaurant. being in a public place should keep the abuse to a minimum. tell your kids goodbye, tell him what time to bring them back and get in your car and leave. shut the door in his face if you have to. I've done that many times. Document everything! When he's seen the kids, times that he's picked them up and dropped them off. Any time he calls tell him he can talk to the kids but you can't talk. you're busy. if he insists, hang up the phone! He'll probably call back several times, but ignore it. If he threatens to take you to court(and he will) tell him your documenting everything. you will also get a copy of the phone records to show a judge he is harrassing you. Always give the minimum time. if he pushes for more give a little. but only when it's convient for you. I give my "n" an extra hour on wednsday occasionally. Don't do it with regularity because he will expect it. Tell him you have plans with the kids. If asks what they are tell him it's none of his business and hang up. I'm guessing he doesn't tell you what he does with them. Most of all don't feel guilty. if he is brainwashing your kids(mine is) document every time they come back and how they acted, what was said etc. My daughter started saying her step-father kills little girls a year ago. Guess where that came from! If you see any signs of parental alienation(look it up on the internet) take them to a therapst who specializes in treating it. Tell him only after they have been seen enough times to build a case if he takes you to court. That should stop it. The only thing you can do really is see him for what he is and try to remember he isn't normal. good luck!
AnswerI agree with the above answer. I would add to remain confident and let him know you are not afraid of him. Stay focused on the children, their needs, what's best for them. Stay even in your voice, and never share any personal information - even about the children. When necessary, rage back and let him know he isn't going to talk to you like that and then hang up - dismissing them. Sometimes it's better to use their own words against them, causing them to get frustrated and to hang up.Never trust him. NEVER, EVER. He will do anything, say anything to get what he wants. He doesn't care about you, the children, how his behavior harms, etc. One thing and one thing along motiviates him - that would be him.
He'll try to use guilt trips, let him know that won't work with facts as to why. You refused the visit, you had better things to do, your the perfect father, please tell me what we should do about this situation. Make them think and they'll back away. It requires too much of them and they aren't willing to commit that kind of time to anyone but themselves.
Document, document, document. Even better, if neglect and abuse are suspected, take the children to the doctor with unexplained injuries and state they were with their father over the weekend and he has no idea how the baby got that huge bump and bruise on their forehead. Getting outside sources to confirm your suspensions is most helpful, even a doctor to agree that the child needs to be evaulated for being under stress. Then go get your court order to have an evaluation done. Make sure you repeatedly state it's in the best interest of the children and that you'll even pay for it, because their welfare is so important to you. The N will likely drop the ball in the process for a number of reasons.
N's will try to aleignate the children. In our case they came home saying "I hate you". They don't know what that means, nor had they ever heard those words before. Their mother responded calmly with "I love you." They have been returned cussing, asking for beer, exhibiting horrible behavior, etc. She calmly responded "we don't say those words, we don't do those things in our home, etc." Never direct the fault to the N, that would be doing what he wants. Just counter him in a positive way as possible and document.
Good luck.
