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Children and Divorce
This category covers questions concerning the emotional effects of divorce on children, as well as the best way for parents to make the divorce easier on the kids. It also covers different family problems children and parents face when dealing with the divorce of parents, and how to deal with them.
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No! And don't tell them if they are young. They do not need to know at this age. You should never talk bad about their mother even if it is true. They need to know one thing at this age, that both of their parents love them. Appropriate age would be 14+ if they ask.
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All you need to tell very young children is that you and mommy won't be living together anymore, but that you both still love them very much. Then as they get older, they will naturally have questions. When that time comes, and it may be before they are teens, it is ok for you to tell them that you and their mother didn't agree on the same lifestyle. It won't be a lie, yet it won't be telling them things they may not be able to handle just yet.
In the meantime, if your ex has visitation with the kids, they may ask her why you and she divorced. So you need to decide what you think is the best answer for her to give them, and then talk to her about it. Let her know the only thing that matters in all of this is what is best for the kids. Assure her you have no intention of telling the kids all of the sordid details of what she did, but that you expect her to tell them an age appropriate truth if and when they do ask her. Even something like "I made some mistakes and I've paid dearly for them by not getting to be with you" should be enough to satisfy a young child's question about it.
But when they are old enough for the truth, they have a right to know why their mom is not the mom to them they deserve. It's hard for kids to grow up without a mother, and even harder when they don't understand why. So they do need to be told something, but worded in a way that won't tarnish their love for their mother, or make them doubt her love for them.
It's completely understandable if you feel a lot of anger and resentment towards your ex for her illegal activities, but don't let the kids know how you feel right now. As they get older, they will possibly have anger and restentment towards her, too. But it will help them the most if you can just be there for them then, and help them to understand everyone makes mistakes. And if she has changed for the better, you can even help them to have a relationship with her, for their sakes. But if she has not changed, and is still involved in that type of activity, then the kids need to be protected from her lifestyle and the influence it can have on them.
I think when the time comes, you will know what to tell them, and hopefully, she will too. But while they are still really young all they need to know is that both of their parents love them very much.
Will you get full custody if your spouse commits adultry in the state of Pennsylvania?
Adultery is not usually considered in determining who gets custody of the children because being faithful or unfaithful doesn't typically affect the quality or ability of one's parenting.
Guess should not have divorced. Married again anyways. Your common law
What questions do you ask your new step mother?
Are you deeply in love with my dad? If she says yes, say you made a good choice if you like her. If you don't like her then try to find something in common with her.
How many children are affected by divorce each year?
My Guess, about 34 Million American families ( and you know there are 250 Million adults in this country, estimated0 so you figure it out. Half of all families end up in divorce. so that"s batting .500.
Divorce does not end the relationship between parents it just the rules of the relationship?
Divorce redefines the dynamics of a relationship between parents, shifting from a marital partnership to co-parenting. While the romantic bond may dissolve, the responsibilities and connections related to raising children persist. Effective communication and mutual respect become essential to navigate this new structure, ensuring the well-being of the children remains the primary focus. Ultimately, divorce changes the nature of the relationship, but it does not eliminate the need for collaboration and cooperation.
Your children come first and one of their parents has to be responsible. If you have parents, relatives or friends you can stay with please do. It is obvious your spouse has chosen the drugs over you and the children. By staying you will be nothing more than an enabler of his addiction. Leave, then see what he does. If he is serious do not go back until you are sure he is on a good program for drug abuse and even at that just be there for support and leave the children out of it. I think you already knew the answer to this one.
Regardless of what causes the breakdown of a marriage, both parents have equal rights to their children.
One parent having an affair doesn't necessarily put their children in danger, nor does it make them a bad parent. Making a bad choice that negatively affects the marriage doesn't change the fact that you are both responsible for your children and have rights to them.
It appears by the divorce rate in the U.S. and Canada that divorce seems to be the fad. As they say 'marriage is not for sissies' but being more seriously minded in this 21st century it appears some individuals would rather run than try to save the marriage because it seems to be an easier solution to the problem. When individuals do this they also run away from other things in their lives that they are too immature to face.
Marriage takes work and some individuals simply don't have the staying power and find it easier to divorce than try to resolve problems in the marriage. It should be made more difficult to get a marriage certificate and couple should have to go through a program to learn what marriage really is about which would include budgeting to save for a home; when they want children and most importantly learn to communicate with each other.
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There are many reasons couples divorce. Often, a couple doesn't realize just what marriage is all about before they get married. Many think they will always feel they same as they do while still in the newness of the relationship, so they are bitterly disappointed when they see 'warts and all' with their spouse. They think the other person changed when, in actuality, no one changed - they just became comfortable enough to be themselves, warts and all.
Sometimes it doesn't hit a person until they've been married a while that their days of variety are over, and they are now married and are expected to be faithful.
As for the couples who don't really love each other and get married only because the woman got pregnant, those are often doomed from the start, unless they are willing to make a concerted effort in making the marriage work.
Money is often the problem with many couples. They don't discuss it and plan a budget before marrying, so the one who prefers to save money will get angry at the one who likes to spend, and vice versa.
So in short, no, divorce isn't the new chic, it's just that there are so many couples who don't take the time to really get to know each other. They don't discuss and plan the important things, such as money; whether or not to have children, and how many; they forget the part of the marriage vows where they promise to be faithful; they lack good communication, and a long list of other reasons.
What are potential advantages and disadvantages for children whose parents divorce?
Well I am a child of divorce and i find that it has helped me become adaptable as well as giving me a true take on the world. Instead of believing that everything is supposed to be perfect I relise life is not that simple. Divorce has also given me a chance to expirience many things. I also find that it has better helped me bond with mother and father. Having two homes also let's me take a break from the other. It's not all that good though. I have travel slot and have to deal with problems in both house holds. I also feel like I am torn between both parents. The worst thing though is that since I am a boy and live my mom most of the time i never really gained any intrest in team sports. Then again though that has helped me become more independent since instead I have learned not to rely on others. Overal I think it was a good thing since I am happy and don't wish things were any different. Hope this helped.
As much as this will not be popular, both parents have equal rights to their children unless deemed otherwise by a court regardless of the type of person they are, or the lifestyle they keep. Unless a Judge agrees to this, and you present a valid argument showing there is cause to cut off access to the child, the father will still get visitation rights.
Do step children have rights to probate step fathers will?
Does stepchildren have right to there stepfather will
No. You have a choice to accept the bribe or not. Bullying is something against your will.
Is Mother unfit if she smokes around child?
While there are health reasons to not smoke around children, this doesn't necessarily make an unfit parent.
Unfortunately many couples look for things to use against each other in custody battles that they would not have nitpicked about prior to the breakdown of the relationship. While you can amicably discuss your concerns, it's not an item that you can use in hopes to increase your chances are custody.
What do children use as a last-ditch attempt to keep their parents from divorcing?
Sympathy.
But they shouldn't.
First get a lawyer who specializes in your type of situation. Get in touch with the state department, they oversee diplomatic relations with other countries. See what they have to say about international custody disputes. Also find out what kind of divorce laws India are like.
Make sure you have informed the court of your husbands threat. Also inform the state department about your husbands threats. Some international custody cases like yours can turn into nightmares and last for years. Under no circumstances send the children to India ever or ever leave them with him unsupervised, if he comes to visit here.
If all else fails and you are at your wits end, go underground and stay there. Find a new place to live, take a different first and last name. Get fake ID's if you must. their are people out their who might help you go underground. I have no idea about to contact these people. I know this is short I could write alot more but I think this says it very well. I will close by saying best of luck for you and your kids.
What is good and bad about having divorced parents?
The good thing about having divorced parents is that your parents aren't unhappy because they were fighting or the relationship didn't work.
The bad thing is that your parents aren't the happy family that you probably want.
What can parents do for their Christian children which are going wayward?
Without knowing specific circumstances, only general suggestions can be given. The parents need to discern where the source of the trouble may be if possible and either remove it or remove the child from it. This often will include peer group pressure, which sometimes can even come from church friends. It may include anti-biblical evolutionary teaching at school, which is why many Christian parents choose a Christian school (obviously one which teaches the literal truth of Genesis) or particularly Homeschool, as Christian schools are never perfect.
Many times the source of the trouble may be the parents themselves. This involves soul-searching and humble repentance if necessary. Always encourage openness and respectful questions. God has promised that if we sincerely seek we shall surely find. Matthew 7 v7.
Lifestyle choices can also lead many parents to be way out of touch with their children at a critical time in their lives and so they turn elsewhere. If it is a sudden change consider drugs as apossible cause, but again this will go back to peers somewhere.
Some, where the peer issue has been found to be the cause, have even moved interstate, if the influence was not able to be curtailed any other way. Then there is the internet to consider as well.
Above all else pray, both for the child and for wisdom. ; Children who refuse to obey their parents must be executed.
: If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear, and fear. -- Deuteronomy 21:18-21 :
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