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Children and Divorce
This category covers questions concerning the emotional effects of divorce on children, as well as the best way for parents to make the divorce easier on the kids. It also covers different family problems children and parents face when dealing with the divorce of parents, and how to deal with them.
379 Questions
How should ex spouses communicate when they have new spouses?
Many have a a good relationship with their ex and can speak on the phone like normal people regarding their child. Others don't have such a great relationship and can only speak through their lawyers. Clearly the first example is the best one, especially for the child. The new spouse will clearly be in the child's life, that is what happens when you split up and move on. That does not mean the new spouse in any way can take the biological parents place. Children have room for all of them. But the most important part is that it's the biological parents only that makes the important decisions regarding the child. A step parent do not have any legal rights to the child.
How old do you have to be to have kids?
i say you to be 25 but itz your chose
Pleasee , you wouldn't wanna have kids at an early age unless you really want to . when you have kids , you cant go out you cant hang with your friends and you cant get anyhting done really or get started on your career because you have kids but its your chice just saying (:
No, you are not a bad person (you didn't break up a marriage) and he's divorced and free to date anyone he chooses. It depends on how long the divorce happened regarding his feelings about getting into a relationship again. He is a good father if you are looking at the full picture carefully and he has the responsibility of doing the right thing for his child. A mother of a child can divorce and carry on as far as what it takes to raise a child, but a father of a child fresh out of divorce has to not only earn a living, but also learn mothering skills and that's a full plate in itself. He has to worry about getting a nanny in or taking his child to pre school and being sure his child is safe. It's mind boggling and because you have no children you should get the stars out of your eyes for a few minutes and start seeing it from his side of the looking glass. A good suggestion is for you to sit in a quiet place and really thing of what this man is going through. He may have bad memories of his marriage and one ugly divorce behind him not to mention a possible messy sole custody battle of his child. That takes a lot out of a person and it appears the first person in his life is his child. He wants to settle in, get use to working and raising that child and you don't know for sure if his wife has custody of the child and he may worry when that child is with her. You've got a really good guy here and one you should be proud of! Don't push this man for now and go out for an occasional dinner or ask him over for dinner and the odd time ask him to bring his child over with him or perhaps suggest going out with him and his child so you get to know each other. That child has been through a lot as well. It's not all about you darlin'. If you really love him then you need to ground yourself better and take this relationship VERY slow. Don't hesitate to tell him you didn't stop and think about what he's been through and would like to go out together for the odd dinner. Take this opportunity to ask him and his child over for a good home cooked meal. Don't be angry at yourself because you made a bit of a mistake ... learn from it! We all make them.
Parents rights over an adult child?
In the US, parents have no rights over an adult child unless that adult child has been declared mentally incompetent by the court and the parents were appointed guardians as a result of that.
What age can children choose to live with the other parent from a divorce in Arizona?
It might depend on your parents decision. I'm not sure.
Do children of narcissistic parents have similar tendencies as their parents?
Many ACONs (Adult Children of Narcissists) have FLEAS... behaviors picked up from the NParent. With therapy and work they can be overcome.
How do you mediate child matters with your ex wife?
If there are no orders in place by the court, I would suggest you start there - if the parents are not able to come to a decision - mediation will be ordered by the courts. Hopefully in the near future you will both be able to work together in regards to caring for your children.
What are some of the theories of effect of divorce on children?
The effects divorce can have on children will depend a lot on the ages of children.
Younger children ,including toddlers, will feel a sense of abandonment when one parent appears to be missing. Older children (late teens) may resent the parent who chose divorce and consider that parent selfish for making their own life a priority instead of the whole family. Children in between are too old to feel abandoned but too young to assign blame to either parent. Therefore, they tend to blame themselves.
If you are a minor you pretty much have to go with your parent if they move. You don't need permission from your child's father, although he might get angry and try to take you to court over it.
Should father of children send flowers to funeral if parents are divorced?
If the funeral is that of the children's other parent or a grandparent, it would be the right thing to do.
They can if they want. Parents do a lot of things they shouldn't do and this is one of them. Most likely will this person not listen to you but it is important you try or someone close to them because they are actually not hurting you, they are hurting their own children. Just remember that it doesn't matter in the long run what they say because kids grow up and see the real you and will realize that the parents is lying. That will make them think less of them and most likely will they not do the same if they end up in the same situation. So tell him/her that. Your kids knows you and make sure they know they can ask you anything so you can set things straight. Just say that "daddy is angry with mommy but mommy does not want to fight". Point out that people say many hurtful things, kids too, when angry/disappointed/hurt etc. Kids knows this. They themselves will say "I hate you" but doesn't actually mean it. So take the higher road and let the other parent dwell in their misery and focus on having a open relationship with your kids and explain their parents behavior and that you don't want to fight, just move on. They will probably say the same to their other parent soon. You will get the payoff in the future when they see him/her for what they are.
AnswerParental alienation is an unfortunate result of adults who cannot get over their high conflict divorce and move on. They use their children to hurt the other parent. It is committed by impoverished adults with immature, narcissistic personalities. These parents are toxic and can ruin a child's relationship with both parents. They try to manipulate the child by interfering with the child's loving relationship with the other parent. Sometimes they succeed. Sometimes they fail and ruin their own relationship with the child. It is done by both custodial and non-custodial parents.
This is a syndrome that is recognized by the family courts. A parent who sees signs their child is being manipulated towards alienation to any significant degree should discuss the matter with the attorney who represented them in the divorce or with an attorney who specializes in custody issues. If that's not possible then they should visit the family court of jurisdiction and ask to speak with an advocate. Parental alienation is extremely detrimental to the children and can have extremely negative long term results. Children should never be used as pawns.
If the problem is serious the court can and will sanction the offender by modifying the visitation agreement. See the related link for more information
Most likely if he is not making any effort to see them,, then I don't see why not! Check into that tho! You can, but you'll need a court order to do so and be able to prove a reason why he shouldn't see his children, such as he poses a threat to them. You may also want to consider if blocking him from seeing your children truly benefits them. Animosity is hard to avoid sometimes between divorced couples, but children should never be party to that.
Whose quote says parents should only worry about their children's health?
In the Analects of Confucius, you can find the quote:
A disciple asked the Master, 'What is the filial piety?'
The Master said 'Parents only worry about their children's health.'
Can a 10 year old boy sleep in the same bed with his father and his father's girlfriend?
No, that arrangement would be inappropriate on many levels. Child Protective Services would not find this acceptable at all if someone reported the situation.
Yes. However be prepared for some legal expenses and two or three years in court. Better for everybody to get together and come to an agreement to buy/sell each other out. * It depends upon the state probate succession laws and how the title to the real property in question is worded.
In a divorce, the other spouse has to be notified of the motion for divorce, and they also have to be notified of your intention to sue for custody fo the children. So, no, it's not possible to be granted a divorce or custody of the children without the other spouse being notifiied of the intent.
It's likely, but I don't think that you could legally demand custody. You could work out some arrangements with the custodial step father and the biological father concerning visits and vacations, but you will still need a court order that gives you custody.
Is a father responsible for the ex's daycare bill?
If the daycare is for the father's child, yes, at least half of the daycare depending on father's income versus ex's income. If the daycare is for the ex's child by another father, no.
What to do when your 17 year old refuses to come home because of the father?
I think that whatever the reason is you need to help fix. If he does not want to go home don't make him. That is all you can do until you know the problem.
Can one remarry the same person after a divorce where a conservator has been put over x spouse?
Yes you can, consult your lawyer. Laws differ from countries to countries.
Should divorced mom sleep with men at home?
What kind of example are you wanting to set? This is confusing and somewhat alarming for children when a strange man enters/sleeps at their private dwelling - children are subjected to so many things that damage their psyche and they virtually are given no choice when women let men sleep over. No way I would do it...my children mean too much to me.
