Parenting and Children
Parenting is the promoting and supporting of intellectual, social, emotional, and physical development of a child to adulthood.
Asked in Friendship, Parenting and Children, Bullying
Problems encountered by teenagers nowadays?
How do you get over your ex wife when you have to see each other because of the children?
You should keep your conversation restrict to about children only. You should try to accept the fact . Avoid contacting them unnecessarily (for no reason). You do need to see your ex from time to time for a couple of reasons. One reason is so your children will still see their parents as "their parents", not a "parent and another parent", especially if they aren't yet grown. It's important for the kids to still feel they have both parents as a 'unit'. Another reason is for you. Yes, you. Sometimes the best way to get over someone is to see them not as your wife or husband, but as your ex. If you don't see them, then your mind can still 'pretend' you and your ex are still together, or keep false hope that you will get back together. So by seeing your ex as just that - your ex- you will come to terms with it more quickly, because it can help you to see them in a whole new light, which can help you tremendously. I know it may sound odd at first, but give it a try for a while and you just may be pleasantly surprised at the things about her which you notice that annoy you, but you never gave them much thought while you were together. It's the little things like that which actually can make a difference in helping you to get over her. Also, allow yourself time to grieve, just as you do when someone dies. After all, this is the death of a marriage, so you need time to grieve. When you feel the need to cry, then let yourself cry as loud and as long as you need to. When I went through my divorce, I cried myself to sleep many, many nights. And I cried all day during the day when I wasn't at work. I felt I would die of a broken heart. This went on for a while, then I literally ran out of tears. But what I didn't do was to let my children see me breaking down; I didn't want them to think badly of their father for hurting me by being with another woman. After all, he was still their father, and I knew they still loved him as much as ever, as they should. Also, I knew, even though they were teens, they were hurting badly, too, and I didn't want to add to their pain. After you go through the intial grieving process you will go through an anger phase, which is normal, but is also good. Anger is easier to deal with than pain and hurt. When I became angry at my ex husband for cheating again, the anger hit me hard. And that was when my healing finally began. I also realized then that what I had been crying over and grieving for was the man I thought he was, not the man I learned he really was. And that helped me tremendously. If she does start to show interest in you again, and if you still love her, don't play games. Just tell her straight out that you won't allow yourself to be hurt again. If her interest is sincere and she regrets the divorce, she will say so. If she doesn't, then she is just playing games, and you need to just walk away. Don't let her use you as her personal bank, either. I've seen women leave their husbands, then treat them as a bank when they wanted money, knowing her husand still loved her. If she made the choice to break up the marriage, then she has to suffer the consequences. She can't expect you to pay for her play time or shopping. Paying child support is a given, but the rest is her responsibility. Don't let her use you for a free handyman or repair man, either. That would only be more painful for you, and unfair to you. Often, after a divorce when the one who wanted the divorce see their ex is dating someone else, they will feel a bit possessive, and even jealous, or see it as a game to see if they can get their ex back. Don't fall for that. If you still love her and feel she still loves you too, then give it another try. But if you feel she is not sincere, then do not let her hurt you again, or succeed in keeping you from finding happiness with someone else. But honest communication is crucial for both of you, so tell her upfront how you feel if she does try to reel you back in after you do begin dating.
Who are the mothers of jack nicholson's children?
Asked in Parenting and Children, Genetic Diseases
Are children born to cousins deformed?
The risk of birth defects and congenital diseases increases the more closely related the parents are. Deformities, such as polydactylism (many fingers or toes) would be even more common in pairings of siblings than of first cousins, but the risk, while elevated, is not huge and is definitely not a certainty. Many people have successfully had children with their first cousin. Charles Darwin married his first cousin, who bore him a number of children. The practice is discouraged in some communities, but not in others.
Definition of family restaurant?
It is an ill defined term which generally means that the establishment encourages children as diners and may even cater to their desires with special menues, booster chairs, highchairs, special desserts, game placemats and crayons. It also marks the facility as less then a fine diniing facility with a basic and moderately priced menu. For some locales it only indicates that they will tolerate the little beggars without overt malice. Management's toleration for nursing mothers, wailing infants, combative toddlers, food fights, electronic games, cell phones and the lack of basic good manners will vary.
Asked in Parenting and Children, Teen Dating
Why is it that girls act so immature?
Your question, if seriously directed at girls altogether, is a stereotype and a discrimination towards their gender. Men and women are both subjected to choice and personal decisions towards how to present themselves in life. None of which have to answer to or adhere to your own perception of maturity. This, coupled with the reality that these questions are derived majority of the time on personal bitterness or internal issues, demonstrate a problem that you must deal with. Perhaps you need to hang around better girls in order to clear your mind or find what makes you see more optimistic...
Who are dog the bounty hunters children?
Dogs Wives names then the children * La Fonda Sue Honeycutt: Chapman married La Fonda Sue Honeycutt on April 1, 1972, in Texas;  they divorced October 27 1977 while he was in prison. They have two children together, Duane Lee Chapman and Leland Chapman. Duane did not see Duane Lee and Leland for 8 years. After he got out of prison it took a very long time for Leland and Duane Lee to trust Dog and to bond with him. * Anne M. Tegnell: Chapman married Anne M. Tegnell on August 22, 1979, in Colorado. This marriage also ended in divorce. They have three children; Zebediah Duane Chapman, Wesley Chapman, and J.R. "James" Chapman. Zebediah died shortly after birth in 1980. * Lyssa Rae Brittain: Chapman married Lyssa Rae Brittain on June 22, 1982. They were divorced on November 20, 1991. They have three children; Barbara-Katie Chapman, Tucker Dee Chapman, and Lyssa Rae Chapman. After the divorce they had a son, Nicholas. Though he is not officially listed on the birth certificate as the father, he takes responsibility as being the biological father of Nicholas. Barbara Katie was killed in a traffic accident while riding in a stolen vehicle in 2006 at the age of 24. * Tawny Marie Gillespie: Chapman and Tawny Marie were married, but "officially separated in 1994." They had no children together. Tawny had a daughter from a previous marriage.  * Beth Smith-Chapman: Chapman married his fifth wife Beth Smith-Chapman on May 20, 2006, at the Hilton Waikoloa Village in Hawaii. They have two children together; Bonnie Jo Chapman and Garry Chapman. Beth has two children from previous relationships, Dominic and Cecily Barmore, who now live with them. Chapman has two other children from two other previous relationships. Out of all of this Chapman has fourteen biological children from previous and his current relationships and two step-children from Beth's previous relationships. * He also has a son born in July 1969 Christopher Hecht, with the late Debbie White whom he never married. Christopher was adopted by Keith and Gloria Hecht at 6 years of age after the death of his mother by suicide in 1978. His father was still in jail until 1979 and did not know about Christopher or the adoption until Christopher was 21 and in jail in 1990. Tricia Duane Avey also claims to Duane's daughter out of wedlock
Asked in Parenting and Children, Metal Detector
What is some recommended software for children?
Software for children Notable children's game companies include Brøderbund Software, Humongous Entertainment, Edmark, and Dorling Kindersley. The following list of software is sorted roughly by target ages, young to old: BabySmash - Scott Hanselman KeyWack X - Holy Mackeral (for Macs only) Alphabet, shapes and colors - Klango Danny's First Program - All-American Kidware Mickey's ABC - Disney The Playroom - Broderbund Bailey's Book House / Millie's Math House / Sammy's Science House - Edmark Living Books series - Broderbund. Many titles available, Just Grandma and Me is great. KidPix - Broderbund The Humongous Series - Putt-Putt, Fatty Bear, Spy Fox, and Freddi Fish - Humongous Freddi KidDesk - Edmark The Manhole - Cyan JumpStart Toddlers - JumpStart The Way Things Work - Dorling Kindersley Logical Journey of the Zoombinis - Broderbund The Amazing Writing Machine - Broderbund Magic School Bus - Scholastic Reader Rabbit - The Learning Company Math Blaster - Knowledge Adventure The Oregon Trail - MECC Carmen Sandiego - Broderbund Sim Town - Maxis Sim Tower - Maxis Dinopark Tycoon - MECC Typing tutor - ms Answer: You can even try the Kidwidget from astoundit, it's really nice and it is cheap too. http://www.astoundit.com http://www.ibosstechsolutions.com
Asked in Parenting and Children
Why should parents not pamper children excessively?
Parenting today is to be approached rationally by subduing the emotions with the objective of nurturing a child to become responsible and teach a child to live and learn with courage and self reliance .Pampering a child breeds weakness and discontentment or a perpetual demand that increases with age.The motivation should not be incentives to pamper excessively as the objective of parenting will be defeated. Children develop with a sharp sense of understanding the environment he lives and quickly learns the weaknesses of parents/family members who overtly display their weakness during their course of interaction in the family for the children to take undue advantage. Parents should willfully restrain themselves from any vices not with severity but a method that the child may inculcate or by not offering undue incentives that become an addiction/lure for children not to perform.Loving a child for his betterment differs from offering them incentives to display love but resoluteness with gentle affection molds morality and the child learns not to throw tantrums.
How do you choose a child care center?
Here is advice reprinted from a child care FAQ in the usenet newsgroup alt.childcare: Finding the right kind of child care takes time. If possible, begin looking a few months before your child will need care. Allow several weeks for visiting different child care centers and family day care homes. When looking for child care, it is important to visit a child care facility when children are involved in program activities. That will give you an opportunity to see if the children like the program and how they get along with program staff. This may also give you an idea of how well the program suits your child. If you find a facility you think is suitable, try to come back for a second visit and take your child. Does your child seem comfortable there? After the visit, try to find out from your child how he or she felt about the facility. Before you visit any child care setting, you should call and talk with the family day care provider or center director to get some basic information. Here are some questions you may want to ask: What time do you open and close? How much do you charge, and when are payments made? Weekly? Monthly? Does the price include meals and snacks, or do I need to bring food for my child? How many other children are in your program, and what are their ages? Are your services and fees written down in the form of a contract or service agreement? If you are uncomfortable with the answers to any of these questions, the facility is probably not the right one for you. When you visit the facility, there are three main things you should look for to make sure the program is the right one for you and your child. These three things are: the caregiver, the children, and the space within the facility which is used for child care. Look at the Caregiver Can you talk easily with the caregiver? Are you comfortable with the person? Do you feel you can trust the caregiver? Does the caregiver seem to enjoy being with the children? Is he/she really listening and responding to them? Is the caregiver able to keep up with the children, or does he/she seem overly tired? Are the children supervised at all times? How does the caregiver discipline the children? Does the caregiver use a calm voice? Does he/she speak to the children on their own level? Does the program have written policies and procedures? If so, do parents receive copies? Look at the Children Do the children seem to enjoy being with the caregiver? Are the children given a chance to make choices? Are they able to "explore" on their own? Do the children seem to understand and follow the program's rules and routines? Look at the Space Used for Child Care Is the provider's child care license or registration displayed? Is it current? Does the program area look clean and safe? Do the children wash their hands before eating and after using the toilet? Are cleaning supplies, sharp objects, medicines, and other dangerous items put away out of the children's reach? Is there enough space indoors and outdoors so all the children have room to play? Is the outdoor play area safe? Is there enough heat, light, and ventilation? Are there fire extinguishers and smoke detectors? Are all toys and materials in good condition? Are they suitable for the children's ages? Can the children reach them easily? If meals and snacks are provided by the program, are they nutritious? Are they the kinds of food you want your child to eat? In general, does the program have a safe, healthy, and happy "feel" to it? Is it a place where children can be children? If you can answer "yes" to all these questions after your visit, you probably found the right facility for you and your child. But you also have to listen to your instincts: if you feel uncomfortable with the facility for any reason, you should look for another one. : You also want to be at a center that will have no problem with a parent dropping in to see their child unannounced. If you have to schedule a time to come and visit your child, you have to wonder what they might be hiding if they only schedule a parent visit at a specific time.
How do you restrain a child?
How do you tell your dad he needs anger management?
How do you know if you are ready to become a parent?
== == * Preparation for parenthood is not just a matter of reading books and decorating the nursery. Here are 12 simple tests for expectant parents to take to prepare themselves for the real-life experience of being a mother or father. # Women: to prepare for maternity, put on a dressing gown and stick a beanbag down the front. Leave it there for 9 months. After 9 months, take out 10% of the beans. Men: to prepare for paternity, go the local drug store, tip the contents of your wallet on the counter, and tell the pharmacist to help himself. Then go to the supermarket. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office. Go home. Pick up the paper and read it for the last time. # Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who are already parents and berate them about their methods of discipline, lack of patience, appallingly low tolerance levels, and how they have allowed their children to run riot. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child's sleeping habits, toilet training, table manners and overall behavior. Enjoy it -- it'll be the last time in your life that you will have all of the answers. # To discover how the nights feel, walk around the living room from 5 pm to 10 pm carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 lbs. At 10 pm put the bag down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep. Get up at 12 and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1 am. Put the alarm on for 3 am. As you can't get back to sleep, get up a 2 am and make a drink. Go to bed at 2:45 am. Get up again at 3 am when the alarm goes off. Sing songs in the dark until 4 am. Put the alarm on for 5 am. Get up. Make breakfast. Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful. # Can you stand the mess children make? To find out, smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains. Hide a fish finger behind the stereo and leave it there all summer. Stick your fingers in the flowerbeds then rub them on the clean walls. Cover the stains with crayons. How does that look? # Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems: first buy an octopus and a string bag. Attempt to put the octopus into the string bag so that none of the arms hang out. Time allowed for this? -- all morning. # Take an egg carton. Using a pair of scissors and a can of paint, turn it into an alligator. Now take a toilet tube. Using only scotch tape and a piece of foil, turn it into a Christmas tree. Last, take a milk container, a ping pong ball, and an empty packet of Coco Puffs and make an exact replica of the Eiffel Tower. Congratulations, you have just qualified for a place on the playgroup committee. # Forget the Miata and buy a Mini Van. And don't think you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that. Buy a chocolate ice cream bar and put it in the glove compartment. Leave it there. Get a quarter. Stick it in the cassette player. Take a family-size packet of chocolate cookies. Mash them down the back seats. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car. There! Perfect! # Get ready to go out. Wait outside the toilet for half an hour. Go out the front door. Come in again. Go out. Come back in. Go out again. Walk down the front path. Walk back up it. Walk down it again. Walk very slowly down the road for 5 minutes. Stop to inspect minutely every cigarette butt, piece of used chewing gum, dirty tissue and dead insect along the way. Retrace your steps. Scream that you've had as much as you can stand, until the neighbors come out and stare at you. Give up and go back in the house. You are now just about ready to try taking a small child for a walk. # Always repeat everything you say at least five times. # Go to your local supermarket. Take with you the nearest thing you can find to a pre-school child -- a fully grown goat is excellent. If you intend to have more than one child, take more than one goat. Buy your week's groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goats eat or destroy. Until you can easily accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children. # Hollow out a melon. Make a small hole in the side. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side. Now get a bowl of soggy Fruit Loops and attempt to spoon it into the swaying melon by pretending to be an airplane. Continue until half of the Fruit Loops are gone. Tip the rest into your lap, making sure that a lot of it falls on the floor. You are now ready to feed a 12-month-old baby. # Learn the names of every character from "Barney and Friends," "Sesame Street" and "Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles." When you find yourself singing "I love you, you love me" at work, now!, you finally qualify as a parent. == == * I feel it my duty to point out that the previous answer sugar-coated the topic thoroughly. == == * I knew at age 40 -- hey, I finally know how life works. So why not pass on some of that knowledge. A year later my son was born. I felt ready when I knew I could carry any responsibility. == == * I don't think anyone is every truly prepared for the life changes, responsibilities and incredible joys that come from being a parent. But, some good questions to ask yourself are: Is my home life stable enough to provide the emotional security this child will need? Do I feel comfortable with making tremendous sacrifices as far as my personal time requirements? Am I financially stable? (Please note, this does not mean "Are you wealthy?" as income levels have nothing to do with parenting) Do I have a support system in place? (Partner, friends, family, church, etc.) Is my partner in agreement with my decision to become a parent? (If you are emotionally involved with a partner) Do I realize that the decision to have a child will CHANGE MY LIFE FOREVER?!?!? Does my desire to have a child reflect my need to compensate for a void in my life? (If yes, WAIT...) Does my desire to have a child stem from a need to be loved? (If yes, WAIT...) Is this a reaction to friends and family members who may be having children at this time in my life? (IF yes, WAIT) Do I want a child because I think it will either save or improve my current relationship? (If yes, or even maybe...WAIT). Our city has a facility that provides shelter and parenting classes for pregnant women who have nowhere else to go... if there is one in the city where you live, it might be a good idea to volunteer some of your time there to get some idea of what being pregnant is all about, and the challenges you will be facing. Visit or volunteer at a day-care center as well as that could shed some light on what the day-to-day care of an infant will involve. = = * I am in total support of the last answer given above. I contend that it is an inhumane act of criminality to bring a child into this world if you do not have the financial, emotional and physical ability to competently cater to the needs of the child. A person who decides to bring a child into this world should consider the social, physical and emotional conditions under which the child will be expected to exist. A person who is unfit to be a parent should not be permitted to bring a child into this world. Unfit persons can fall within the following categories: medically unfit, physically unfit, emotionally unfit, socially unfit and financially unfit. A child does not have the freedom to choose the most competent person for his/her parent, so those who have the privilege of choice, should do so wisely. * You are ready when you are prepared and comitted to providing a loving, stable, healthy home to the child. Being a good parent is an unselfish act. I have observed that most teenagers THINK they can provide all those things - HORSEFEATHERS! Teens are NOT ready to become parents. Well - maybe the exceptionally mature 18 or 19 year old who has graduated from school and is married to the other potential parent (if you aren't willing to make enough comitment to marry someone, you sure aren't comitted enough to be a parent). The comitment required to be a good parent bears a lot of resemblance to the vows a lot of people take when they get married - in sickness or in health (you make whatever sacrifices are necessary for the child's health including staying healthy yourself), for richer or for poorer (you make sure you provide for the child's needs - not their WANTS - their NEEDS, like food, shelter, love, education/training, clothing, social skills, etc.), till death do you part (once a parent, always a parent - you continue to look out for them as long as you live - although you do have to let them go out on their own when they are grown and ready to start their own life) * If you wait until you are ready to become a parent, it will never happen. Children do not come with a manual of how to do this or that. You follow your instinct that is inbred in all of us and ask friends and family members for input when you need assistance. Don't be afraid to call out for help, no one will know better than you what you need. Good Luck
Why do parents buy smartphones for their children?
If used responsibly it is a wonderful source of information. Imagine when you were a child and a thousand questions came into your head a day. How does this work? Where does electricity come from? etc. By the time you got home you had forgotten all about it. But imagine you could find out the answers on the spot or when you were sitting on the bus or waiting for a lift. It is a wonderful educational opportunity. It just needs to be carefully monitored and ground rules need to be set as with any other form of ICT. Basically because the parents just give in to their children when they keep on nagging them about getting them a smart phone.
Asked in Parenting and Children, Siblings
How do you make uncontrollable teenagers controllable?
By first coming to the realization and accepting the fact that, people are not meant to be controlled. -Control..What a disgusting word at times, isn't it? What is "uncontrollable" about these teens, and what could be the underlying reasons for their actions? How could they better control you, in order to achieve what they want? Aha! And therein lies the problem, Mom. It's the conflict of each parties' wants that is getting in the way. (Either that, or your wanting to have this elusive "control") There is a happy medium between what you want, and what they want. It is not an issue of exercising "control"...and if that is how you choose to go about it, then prepare to be trampled-and rightfully so.
On a bridal shower cake do you use the brides maiden initials or what they will be after she is married?
Asked in Parenting and Children, Century - 1800s
What were children in the 1800s like and how were they raised etc?
Children were dressed like little adults and, in fact, treated like adults in that they were (in the lower classes) expected to go to work as early as 5 or 6. They were probably more serious than our children; working in a dangerous factory will knock lots of foolishness out of a child. There was no such thing as a teenager and no cult of children who need to be spoiled and entertained. Girls were often married at 15 or 16 and, in the middle to lower classes, boys were expected to decide at about 10 what trade they wanted to go into, so they could be apprenticed. There was no standard or requirement for literacy; the boys in the upper classes were fluent in Latin, Greek, often French, with some Italian. They were heavily versed in the literary classics. Their less fortunate peers went to school when they could and often taught themselves after work. Girls in the upper classes were literate and probably knowledgeable in light literature (poetry, novels, etc.) but were discouraged from learning anything more than "feminine accomplishments": playing the pianoforte, drawing, fine needlework. Poor girls were lucky to be able to read, but often knew something the "better" girls did not: how to run a household. These children were also raised with a greater presence of death. Dying in childbirth was fairly common and, since birth control was illegal and unreliable, childbirth was tough to avoid. It was rare for a mother, of any class, to raise all her children without one fatality. Fathers were often killed in factory accidents--with no OSHA to monitor working conditions. The Victorians' repulsive methods of disposing of waste generated many of the fatal illnesses they suffered. And many people died at their doctor's hands, being bled or "cupped" for all sorts of illnesses and complaints, or treated inappropriately for under-diagnosed symptoms. I think this climate, in which responsibility was ever-present and mourning was big business, had to have a melancholy affect on children that, luckily, our children don't have. ______ There were huge changes aftecting children between 1800 and 1899 (probably more than, say between 1700 and 1799). During the 1800s basic (elementary) education became compulsory (and later also free) in all the more advanced countries. The 1800s saw the development of the concept of childhood, that is a definite period of development between the age of physical dependence (or infancy) and adulthood. This had started to develop already a little earlier (about 1770 onwards) in the middle classes. For the first time, books (other than school books) were written specifically for children; they began to dress differently, at least in the middle classes. In all or most advanced countries laws were passed from about 1843 on forbidding or at least restricting child labour in factories and mines. More generally, there was a growing sense that children were delicate and vulnerable, and needed protecting from the harsher aspects of adult life. Penalties for children breaking the law changed, with the emphasis shifting to reform. Late in the 1800s (from 1890ish on) the additional concept of adolescence (a stormy, stressful period) was created by psychologists ... All this tended to delay the age at which children were treated as 'mini' adults and delayed their entry into the labour market - and therefore cost money. Many of these changes were most marked among the better off.