Marriage

I'm from the USA. I can still make some general comments. The older a woman is the more likely her baby will suffer a birth defect. So women should have their children early in life. A man is expected to work and provide for his family. A younger man is less experienced and generally lower paid. Therefore a slightly older man is more prepared to provide for his family. The younger man may not be fully mature. The strain of providing for a family may make him want to go home and live with his mom or some other nonsense. The slightly older man should be better prepared to handle responsibilities. Naturally there are exceptions I married a woman 3 years older than me. We raised 3 boys without trouble. Women stop making babies some time in their late 40's. A young man marrying an older women therefore reduces the number of years that he may have children. He might consider this a disadvantage. Women live longer than men. A woman with an older husband will therefore probably have a longer widowhood. She probably will consider this a disadvantage but when you are young who thinks about such far off things?

Trust your gut and just go for it

• If a spouse has only one extramarital affair then it does not mean the end of a marriage, but only that the marriage is in trouble and most of it is caused by lack of communication so each spouse knows how the other feels. Sometimes spouses are married so long that the magic has gone out of their marriage and they may need to get away together on a bit of a romantic holiday even if it is just a weekend away at something you both enjoy. If a spouse is constantly having affairs then yes, it is probably the end of the marriage because the spouse cannot commit to one person and has a disregard for their spouse. Marriage counseling is another good way to learn tools to save the marriage, but often the male spouse is not open to airing out his marriage problems with a counselor.

It is possible. He might do this in order to keep an emotional connection with his wife.

Time to end the marriage and move on to someone who will be a real husband.

ideally, yes. but you could say it's more like 100 100. both parties should give every effort to sustaining it by communication, companionship, moral support, trust, and loyalty. how you choose to divide the "chores" of living is negotiable as long as both people agree to their share. if it works between those two people, it works. marriage in which one person tries harder or does more is not equitable - not fifty fifty.
unfortunately, many many marriages are not and too many people take their spouse for granted or take advantage of them

i love her but i cant explore to her

He remarried a woman named Vanessa in 2004.

It varies person to person, really.

Sorry to tell you But You will always be legally married until you get divorced!

Generally, it is not advisable for a man to enter another man's home when the woman is home alone unless he is related to the woman. Of course, it cannot always be avoided, such as when the husband works during the day and something needs the attention of a repairman. Other than that, at the very least, it would certainly give the neighbors something to talk about, and at the most, it could place the man and woman in a situation that could easily have been avoided.

• If you have absolute proof that your husband is cheating with this other woman then you should deal with your own problems with your husband first and yes, the other woman's husband should know. This is not an uncommon problem and most people (whether a husband cheats with another man's wife or a wife cheats with one of her friend's husbands) is very common and the victim of the cheating generally does tell the husband or wife that their spouse is cheating with their spouse.

I married my husband 8 months ago. He is 55 and I am 35. I didn't know he was a narcissists until 2 weeks ago. He had been single for 20 years prior to me and I just thought that he had bad habits that would change with time and effort. He also has a big ego but I found his confidence sexy and humorous, I didn't think he took himself seriously. Admittely, he has changed for me a lot already. However, now that I know about the narcissism, I am very concerned. I found out that lying is a key charactereristic and so is projecting blame. He tried to plot other people against me to get back at me for catching his lies. I don't know what the future has in store. Everything he has told me in the past about his ex-wife and life, may not be true. Nonetheless, I love him and we are already married. If I had to do it all over again, I'd think twice. Fortuneately, he is very wealthy so I can hire help with around the house that I don't get from him. Because we have a prenuptial that allots me money for each year of marriage, I can afford to give our marriage several years to see if he changes without worrying about where I will be financially if it doesn't work out. In general, he treats me well but is very self-absorbed and does very embarrasing things. But I have my daughter's company, am very independent and don't let him get away with things. We're going to start counseling. My suggestion is to make sure you go through the pros and cons and make sure you are protected against the worst case scenario.

my husband of 18yrs says he needs time but does not want a divorce. he was unfaithful.

because the affair partner is usually a fill in because the wife is neglecting the husbands needs remember that just because he has sex w/ you does not mean he loves you he is probably looking for attention that his wife is not giving him and when you give him that attention then he returns to his wife because he didnt have the affair because he didnt love her any more it was just because he was lacking in certain areas in their relationship and you full filled that need Trust me on this one girls 1% of the time a married man will leave his wife for you. Also worst yet if he has a kid with her. Also girls in this situation who is with a married man stop proving yourself to be so desperate. girls who find themselves in these relationships find it hard to stay in a decent stable after also it just looks shabby on your character.

Personally, I would wait until the boyfriend says "I Love You" first. If you say it first and he doesn't say it back, it could make things awkward and uncomfortable.

Within a month and a half, my last boyfriend (my first love and only one I've ever fallen in love with) said "I Love You" and I responded back with an "I Love You, Too". I didn't mean it at the time, but I did five months later. It really depends on whether or not you're ready yet.

It's his fault for having a mistress in the first place.

Kiss her and show her stuff!

yes

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have been divorced before and am happily married to my 2nd husband. Love does hurt. I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but I shoot straight from the hip (I get angry when nice people like yourself don't deserve it and get hurt) and I feel he's using you as a "pit stop." If he can come back into your life anytime he wants and you end up in bed together then I guess he'll keep coming back. One thing about men is, many of them don't care where they get sex as long as they do. It's confusing to women because sometimes it's difficult to tell if the guy really cares for you or it's all about sex. It's possible your husband does love you and he's confused so you have to "untie the knot" and here is how. Take a risk! Sit down with him and communicate how you feel, then let him have his say re his feelings. Tell him he isn't coming back into this marriage without some commitment and trying to get along and you won't put up with him splitting up every time there is a problem in your marriage. Stand strong, sure-footed (even if you are shaking inside) and don't ever let anyone control your life or take your dignity away. You aren't asking him to commit a crime, but to commit to a relationship and the sanctity of the marriage vows he took. Meanwhile girl, get loaded for bear! That means, get a new look. Get your hair done in a different style; have a girlfriend over for the evening and try different types of make-up (less is best) and buy a couple of pieces of clothing (good prices out there if you know where to look) and besides making yourself feel better it may just knock the socks off your husband. Let him see what he's missing! Sometimes it's easy if a woman is raising kids, cleaning house (some working as well) to look your best all the time, but it can be done on occasion. It's not good (I'm not accusing you of this) to let yourself go and that includes the husband or boyfriend. I go around in jeans or sweats during the day with no make-up on (letting my skin breath) but my hair is always nice and I keep myself in as good shape as I can without being a prisoner of exercise and I eat a fairly good diet. I can't stop the aging process, but, I can look the best for my age. So far, so good. LOL When I go out shopping, out for the evening or even visiting a girlfriend, I'll always take the time to look fairly good, but probably dress in jeans and a nice sweater or blouse, have make-up on and my hair done nicely (I do my own hair.) I love to dress up for fancy special occasions because it makes me feel like a "sexy mama!" LOL Life is more interesting when we, as women, look once in awhile out there to see how we can improve upon ourselves. That doesn't mean plastic surgery, crazy diets, but just general things. Women should look neat, like they care about themselves and again, that goes for the men. Who wants to look at a guy sitting across from you with a dazed, unshaven look on his puss, and stains down his T-shirt, with no hygienic matter going on. Fat, thin, tall, short, doesn't matter. Be the best you can be! I really wish you luck hon, because I know you must feel lonely and probably think you have failed in the marriage (when you haven't), but remember ... it takes two! Go for it girl and stand strong! Good luck Marcy

It's simple ... QUIT LYING AND CHEATING! I hate statistics, but here we go ... it's proven that over 90% of people have cheated at least once in their lives. About 39% of these people could kick their own butts and rip out their tongues for doing it and stop doing it! The other 51% never get it! Those who don't care to give up their lying and cheating, end up a sorry mess for most of their lives and they lose some precious things in their lives such as true love, someone looking up to you, and the inner feeling of knowing you can be counted on 100% by your true love, family and friends. Cheaters aren't hardly worth the air they use up. Many people do make a mistake and can have an affair when they are unhappy, but somewhere along the line their guilty conscience catches up to them and they realize they have made a huge mistake and they stop doing it and make a real effort to balance themselves out again. Why on earth, if one love someone would a person ever risk taking a chance of losing someone they truly loved! This is where the cheater always ends up ... alone, or one night stands, and remember this "the head of the snake always turns around and bites you in the butt." Marcy

== == * By understanding the cross dresser it will put many of your fears to rest. These books also deal with Heterosexual tendencies and this does not mean your husband is gay! Understanding Cross-Dressing Virginia Prince 1976, Sandy Thomas Publications. * Believe it or not I think you are being unfair to him. If you can't handle the fact he cross dresses (in the privacy of your home and not out in public) then don't stay with him. Many people think cross dressers are gay and 98% of the time they are not. Many men like the feeling of silky materials against their own skin and I've learned that if you had the power to strip down males in several high corporate positions you would be shocked at the fact their either wear women's underwear (panties) or play with panties in their pocket because they enjoy the feeling of the silk, etc. No, he isn't going to change anytime soon because this is part of him. If he's a good man and keeps this part of himself private then I suggest you learn more about cross dressers on the Internet. Are you embarrassed for him or you? If he's a good man, keeps things private, then talk to him and try to understand why he does this. You could be missing out on a good guy. I remember on two occasions I was surprised when two of my girlfriends told me that their husbands loved to wear their pantyhose around the house. It started out as a joke, but then their husbands really liked the feel of silk on their legs. They only did this in the privacy of their own home and not all the time. It really isn't any worse than asking yourself why some women dress in only slacks, T-shirts, boots, or, why some men/women shave their heads bald. It's how you perceive it that counts. If you could get into the minds of some of the most powerful people in the world and find out their strange personal habits you'd realize that some of them will dress up as women in the privacy of their own home or, they love kinky sex.

this sounds like he really doesn't want you to see who has been calling or whom he has called. If you do not trust him, talk it over, if he is still cheating, kick him to the curb, no one need this kind of jerk in their life, life is too short, there is someone out there who will be much better for you!

explain you have a friend with the "hurt" you have and tell him you don't know how to help her with her problem, see what his response his? go from there.

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