Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

Abuse definitely has a strong effect on the victim. The pain that the individual receives from the abuser, whether physical or mental, has a negative influence on the way the victim lives his or her life. With physical abuse, the physical abilities of the victim may be impaired for a temporary or permanent time span. With mental abuse, the victim may suffer from depression because of the abuse he or she has been forced to deal with. Also, the victim may have low self esteem because the individual believes that he or she is being abused because of his or her worthlessness.

First of all, go to your therapist and stop all types of contact with your abusive partner. You have to learn to defend yourself and if you need any police assistance then don't hesitate to call police. Find new friends and involve yourself in non romantic relationships.

Some people have a difficult time with commitments in a relationship and you sound like you have one of these types of guys. He probably wants to be with you, but is either afraid or just doesn't like responsibility. He could also be checking to see if you are dating anyone. If you want this relationship to go anywhere, be pleasant on the phone to him, but start dating and don't make yourself so available to him. That's should get the lead out of his butt! Let him know you are waiting around. Good luck Marcy Sounds as though the other partner cannot come to terms with the break up and is still caught up with the old routine. Let your phone go to voicemail on occasion. Time is what is required. It sounds like he is still madly in love with you. If he didn't care about you he would'nt be calling. I feel the same way, it's hard when you don't get to say goodbye's. I believe everyone that has a heart, needs some type of closure. That's what makes us human after all, those who don't, well I guess they are heartless and have no soul.

Science Answer: We have done most of our evolution in a prehistoric setting where social interaction only served to advance the interests of an individual. Vindictive behavior serves to get to the top of a social group by force.

Religion Answer: Sin is a natural part of life that comes from free will. Vindictive behavior occurs because of our free will and the fact that we are naturally 'evil' to a certain extent.

Really the two answers do not conflict greatly.

In the law these are usually referred to as "Fighting Words." They can include (but are not limited to) such things as: Racial insults - Religious insults - Ethnic insults - Slurs against family members (particularly against Mothers) - Sexual orientation insults - etc - etc) Just about any phrases that you might think of that could be used to intentionally goad the insulted party into a fight. However - they would have to be considered strong enough or heinous enough to actually draw that kind of honest reaction. Responding to day-to-day minor insults and "colorful language" would probably not be a defense.

A frying pan 'up side of his head usually puts a stop to this condition. If not, distract him, then a quick roll down a flight of stairs will do the trick. Really, I am trying to lighten a very serious situation. Just do not ever tolerate verbal abuse, even once. Get out. Fast. You deserve better, and do not go back. No money, or home, or car, or clothes, or any material possession is worth your soul. Which you will lose when you allow yourself to continue in a sick relationship.

Assault is one of the most common criminal charges. Assault is charged by degree, first through third, with First Degree Assault being the most serious. By far the most common of the three types of assault is Third Degree Assault. This is a misdemeanor offense, and because it is labeled an Extraordinary Risk Crime, carries a maximum sentence of two years in county jail.

Added: As with any crime, there are no set punishments or sentences. The court must consider the applicable state law, the facts and circumstances, the defendant's prior history, and any other mitigating or aggravating factors to come to a fair and appropriate sentence.

becaue they themselves usually had an abusive childhood and are taking it out on the person they are around the most

Why mustn't a boy slap a girl as in what. Because she is feminine.

See if any girl should slap a boy and a boy doesn't slap back then

The boy is a big fool. Why must a girl slap a boy even though for

any reason. Don't you know that if the boy is to retaliate the girl

will find herself in the hospital. So, every girl should avoid any

trouble because me any girl that paraventually comes to slap

me she will see the other side of me.

if you are confused about your relationship what do you do

Well mi boyfriend and i are 2 years apart. He told me when we got together not to tell anyone that we're together. At first i was like OK weird but OK and then i figured out that he didn't want his friends to know that he was dating a freshman and he's a junior. That's why I'm SO confused what should i do because i don't want to break up with him because i REALLY like him! ugh!

You haven't said if you are a man, woman or teenager. So, I'll have to divide it up here. Women who are abused are in a lesser position. They usually have children to raise and because the abusive spouse likes total control they seldom allow their victim to work, so it's tough for her to leave and make a living to raise her kids or even for herself. Believe it or not there are many men out there that are abused by their spouses and these is a very difficult situation for them because men are suppose to be strong, in control and not take "crap" from anyone. However, good men are taught by their mothers that they should never hit a woman. I've seen women hit, slap, throw things, kick and bite their partner and the look of confusion and astonishment on the male's face is sad. How do you control a woman that is doing this? The best thing to do is to just leave this woman and don't look back. Get a divorce. Children who are in abusive relationships with a partent(s) can actually go to Child Welfare for help and they will come and look over the situation and in most cases will remove that child from the home and place them either with grandparents or other relatives and sometimes foster care. The bottom line is, adult male, female or kids should never have to tolerate abusive behavior. There is "Abused Women's Centers" in your area or phone your "Mental Health" and they will lead you in the right direction. There is also help for men that are abused and it's best for men to go to Mental Health to find the right groups to join. All get good counseling and protection with legal counsel and also for the women help in placing them in jobs so they can live on their own or with their children. Women must realize once you leave you can't ever go back. If you do, things will become much worse and the noose around your life will become much tighter and life will be unbearable. So, pack what you can, hide it, find a trusted friend (or do it on your own) and get to that Women's Abuse Center. They will put you up in a "Safe House" and not even staff knows where you will be. Good luck God Bless Marcy Contact any of the following organizations pertaining to your personal situation for guidance and assistance. National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233; National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-392-3738; National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-448-4663; Certified Crisis Center 1-800-784-2433; National Elderly Abuse Hotline 1-800-392-0210. At one stage you have to make up your mind. Will you stay and put up with it or will you organize carefully a way to get out there. It is up to you you make the decision when you feel you can do it. I have been there, it is such a relief when you made the decision and run away. Make sure you go to a safe place. Contact womenshelter in your area or phone befriending service who can give you lots of good and useful information. God bless you.

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If you have conflicted feelings of having done the wrong thing after you have left your abuser which is the Right things that is normal. It shows that you have a conscience, loyalty and such. However, the thing to do is to remember that, you did the right thing for the right reasons, so you do not need to revisit the decision. Maybe, it is because it took so long to consider leaving that your brain just habitually goes there. If you turn your mind to other things, then that will help you pass through this time. Eventually, you will be looking forward and not back.

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Victims of abuse are traumatized. Many of them develop PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). One should feel; angry, resentful, broken hearted, depressed, and crying many tears. Crying is the bodies way of healing itself. You need to get it out or it will cause illness in your body. You should work on forgiving yourself too. Possibly antidepressants might help you, maybe Lexapro, ask your Doctor.

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Depress of course.

What is your definition of "yelling at?" If it involves "curse and abuse," verbal assault," "disorderly conduct," "public affray," or "physical intimidation" (even without physical touching), you could be arrested.

You either leave him (get help if you need it) or prepare for a sad life of being abused because he doesn't love you and will not change. True love does not abuse but instead puts the other ahead of themselves.

try counseling and if it doesnt work out then you may have to get a divorce

Bring attention to these false accusations, keep digging into them and eventually the judge will see there is no substance to them. The narcissist will be descredited.

Although all court systems are different, usually it will only happen once. Unless the complainant has notified the court that they are unable to attend due to extenuating circumstances, the charge will be dropped for lack of prosecution.

Go with your gut instinct and do what you think is right. Do not worry about what others think or how they are going to feel if you say no in specific situations - have a back bone and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. It is important that you can differ from situations that people are using you or trying to manipulate you compared to other situations that you do have to worry about how they may feel.

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It means "I love you very much".

The Period of the Warring States

Psychopaths are by their nature emotionally unstable. They may react to anything that they perceive is not in their best interest, since the only thing they are concerned with is their own best interest. Be advised that provoked psychopaths are some of the most dangerous creatures on earth, and they hold grudges for a long time.

The question is not why is he doing this, but, why are you letting him do this. But to be more precise to your answer, it is because you allow him to. Just remember: "No one may make you feel inferior without your consent."