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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
What are the seven worst things to say to someone who just got dumped?
The worst things to say to someone who has been dumped are as follows: "It was for the best, There are other fish in the sea, You'll meet someone else soon." Or how about, "you know? I have a friend (or brother) that you may be interested in".
What do you do if you love someone you'll never forget?
then you won't forget them and leaving them will be tough they have touched your heart and that is something you will never forget
(this bit edited by Daniel Askew, Iplay4u (on YouTube)
i myself have recently been dumped by my girlfriend and the night that she had dumped me i couldn't get to sleep. but sometimes in life you just have to move on.
How can you tell the difference between love and desperation?
Sorry to put this on top, but I want this young man to see this post.
I was extremely moved by your story and some people just don't realize a person can love another person with mind, body and soul and no one else can quite take their place. On top of that your girlfriend has a depression problem and thus, that's why you weren't contacted. This reminds me, in ways, of the movie "Notebook" where two young lovers in the 1940s are madly in love (more so than most) and end up going their separate ways mainly because her family was wealthy and his was not. It ended well in ways, but it was a bittersweet love story.
You did make some mistakes along the way, but, we ALL make mistakes and if we didn't what could we possibly learn on this earth? Nothing! When one chooses not to learn from your mistakes is the sad part of it all.
Joining the Military was a noble thing, but you did so for all the wrong reasons. Now that you are there just do the best you can and God Bless You that you come back in one piece!
If this young woman is getting married then she had every opportunity to look you up and explain the situation. She chose not too for whatever reason (perhaps she thought you had met someone else.) To put this to rest try to contact her (as a friend) so at least both of you know what actually happened in your relationship. If she is still going to be married then it's time you felt peace within yourself and move on. Your friend is giving you some good advice! Change that Will!
No, you are not mentally disturbed in the least. Love can be bittersweet. Some people love but one person and if that relationship shouldn't work out or even get started in the right direction that person may never want to marry anyone else. However, I suggest once you have found answers to your many questions (hopefully from this young woman) you do move forward and find that special someone and have a family of your own. You haven't given yourself a chance to share yourself with anyone else because you are curled up in the shadows licking your wounds. It's time to come out into the light and realize there is still a good life ahead of you.
I wish you all the very best and may God keep you safe.
AnswerI dated this girl my first couple years of college, and I was in love with her. I always thought that we would always stay together. I thought we were really close; everyone would tell us how perfect we were for each other. Then, she went to Europe for a semister and half way through she stopped calling me. I didnt think anything was wrong at first, but, when she didnt call me on my birthday, i knew it was over. What i didnt expect was how easy it was for her to let go. All she would talk about was how perfect I was, and then she didnt seem to care at all. It was so callous and i was completely heartbroken. I tried to move on, but i just couldn't find a girl that i cared about. It didnt matter how nice they were, i just didnt want another relationship. I didnt want the same thing to happen again. I struggled finishing school; I dropped out of two schools i really wanted to go to because it wasnt where i wanted to be. I tried persuing football, but I kept getting hurt. It seemed like all my dreams were gone, and I still never really got her out of my head. I would still think of her when i would her songs that we used to listen to or things she would always say.Then I made the decision to join the military. I tell my family and friends that i joined because i wanted to help, but a part of me realizes that one of the reasons I joined was because i wanted to stop thinking about her. I know how crazy that sounds, but it worked. Then as I am about to go to Iraq and i have stopped thinking about her, I find out she is sick and my world stopped. It turns out that she has a serious mental illness and it will effect her the rest of her life. When i found out, all I wanted to do was fly back home, fill her room with pink roses, and make sure she got the best care possible, but what my friend also told me was she is getting married. She was sick and i couldn't do anything to help her. It has been years, but I cant stop worring about her. I did they only thing I could do, I put her in my will so that, if i do die in Iraq, she will get everything. My best friend was furious when i told her what i did, and she thinks that I have wasted too much of my life on her. So I came across this website, and I wanted to ask people that were impartial. Can it still be love after all this time, are my actions noble, or am I the one with the mental illness? AnswerIt's desperation when you "settle" with someone. Answerdesperation is when the relationship is centered around you. you just want a relationship, it doesnt matter who, you just want one. it may not be love, but it could grow into love. love focuses on the person, theres only a few certain people you can love. desperation doesnt follow that because the person's desire is selfish and only on themselves. you may have heard love means being giving and puting someone else first. desperation seeks to fulfill your desires by using the person you "love". the person above stated it simply and perfectly!Answer
Love is wanting a certain person and cherishing the very thought of them. Desperation is when you cant get anyone and you just want whoever is there. But love is seeing that person in a room full of people, and not caring who else is there.
You love your ex and you don't know how to get him back?
there is a reason that they are your ex- because it is past tense, its over!!!!! trust me, i spent two years trying to work out how to get my wife to come back. she had moved on, and i hadn't- so i could drive myself insane trying different thingsto make her come back, or accept she's gone, it's over, time to move on. another pointless exercise is trying to work out what went wrong, because that is something in the past as well. i was given this same advice by someone in the beginning, i wasn't able to follow the advice. you'll come around to this way of thinking in your own time when you are ready to let go. it's really hard, but things will get better. perhaps we could discuss this.... say, over dinner. even though that's probably not funny from where you sit, when you can see the humour in it, your well on your way to getting better. good luck
Is it OK to break up with someone for someone else?
Yes it is okay to break up for someone else, Just as long as you haven't done anything with this other person while still with your current partner, cause that is very wrong & if you already have well there is your answer..., You shouldn't stay with current person if you have feelings for someone else & you want to be with this person, you shouldn't lead current partner on cause it will just keep getting worse & it will hurt alot more, You should end it.......
Where can you find pictures of pineapple?
you can find pics of pineapple our any kind of pic on www.ask.com or www.google.com let me tell you the steps: #1. go to the web site, #2. go to images, #3. write what pic you want, #4. pick the one you like, #5. print it and then go on myspace and get jiggy wit it all yeah. you can also just go to google but the pic you want to find click it and have fun with it.
Will rebecca and noah GET back together again in season three?
Noah and Rebecca got together in ''The First Impressions Issue'' in series 2 episode 29 . However at the first episode of season 3, ''The Back To School Issue'', Rebecca accidentally tells Noah that she kissed a guy named Elliot in Paris.Noah gets angry and break up with Rebecca.
In the episode ''The Into The Future Issue'' they get a glimpse of their future. Noah and Rebecca realised that their lives would not be complete without each other. At the end of the episode Noah and Rebecca share a kiss and the finally get back together.
Whats another word that means bad love?
There is not an exact match of other words that mean bad love but unrequited comes close. It means a love, or feeling, that is not returned or reciprocated. Other words that can mean the same or close include wretched feeling and cruel emotions.
As a woman my best advice to you is to move on. You can spend years in the endless pursuit of someone that you can never have. Or you can cut your losses now and recover your dignity. It won´t be long before you meet someone who can share a real relationship with you, and the best part is you will be available. The most important person in any equation is you, and this guy is hurting you. Take it seriously, because those wounds can take a long time to heal. Care about yourself enough to put an end to this. You need to take care of yourself, because no one else is going to do it for you, least of all this guy. On a deeper level, the two of you may have trust issues, in other words, fears about being close to someone. Notice that your guy only wants you when you don't want him. If he was available when you wanted him, the two of you would be able to have a real relationship, but he is preventing that from happening. He is probably terrified deep down of being of hurt. But he's not the only one, girl. You are too, because you also have chosen to pursue someone who you could never be close to. True love starts with self love. Your wounds will heal through the love that you show yourself. Part of that love is not letting people hurt you over and over again. Another part is taking care of yourself on the physical level. When you love yourself your heart will gain strength, and you will be drawn towards a person who also loves himself, someone who is capable of being close to and caring for another person. Remember, when you meet the right person, it will be much easier than this. It won't require so much work on your part. The relationship will start on it's own, without you having to do anything more than say yes. Because that is how easy it is when two people truly like eachother.
How do you take revenge from your ex-boyfriend who has hurt your deeply?
There is no need to take revenge. OR the simple way is forget him totally just flush him out from ur mind n whenever he comes in front of u or u met him suddenly somewhere then don't pay any attention to him. Treat as he is a stranger 4 u and u dont get any harm when he left u. This type of attitude make him think that his value is nothing in ur life n u dont get any sort and ur life is better going . this took time....... but at last i assure u he really got frustrated n its a perfect revenge. I hope u understand what i really want to say There is no need to take revenge. OR the simple way is forget him totally just flush him out from ur mind n whenever he comes in front of u or u met him suddenly somewhere then don't pay any attention to him. Treat as he is a stranger 4 u and u dont get any harm when he left u. This type of attitude make him think that his value is nothing in ur life n u dont get any sort and ur life is better going . this took time....... but at last i assure u he really got frustrated n its a perfect revenge. I hope u understand what i really want to say
A guy says that he doesnt like you. Does that mean he really does?
For whatever reason he says it, he needs you to back off.
Give him some room for awhile...
Why is it hard to leave someone even when you don't love them and you're not scared of them?
Apathy? Fear of change? The need for security?
Because they wear you down with self doubt. They work on you so bad to keep you that once you don't love them and have had enough the self doubt keeps you there. Its almost like they have a radar detector to know when you have had enough and no hope is left with them.That's when they turn on the charm. That's when its you that's being blamed in subtle ways. That's when they have the most human feelings such as fear.But beware, this is short lived and soon they return to their nasty selves once they feel more assured you will stick around.It took me a year of not loving my ex until i left. It was years before that of hell. The mental exhaustion kept me there as well as I felt too tired to look beyond the day. I was in mere survival mode.Do not be hard on yourself that you have not left yet. See this as a time to agther your inner and outer resources and strength.Start taking steps to leave. Know that you have so much more inner power and pride that is just hidden from all the abuse.Let who you are come to the surface. You have what it takes to get out and stay out. If I did, you can too!Best Wishes. PS: I love waking up in the morning as I think wow I look and feel great and no person will ever take my pride and self respect from me again. Some days it has been just sheer pride and stubborness that has kept me away but as time goes on I relaise it is also largely a new self love for myself and life. Good Luck
How do you feel about ex-lovers being friends?
well, i feel if you ended your relationship on good terms , then it is perfectly fine to become friends with them again. If you ended on bad terms maybe you should think it through and think of the pros and cons. Hope this helps.
Jim Manara was divorced from Sheila August 17, 2010 and shortly after married Tricia. Jim is the happiest he has been in years traveling the world with the love of his life.
Yes, it is common.
Abusers, and especially narcissistic or psychopathic abusers, maintain a few simultaneous relationships and are serial monogamists or polygamists.
My ex abusive boyfriend had a new girl within two weeks. He also was seeking new relationships while we were together. Don't be alarmed.
It hurt me alot that I didn't mean enough for him to mourn my loss. I suspect that pain is somewhere behind your question too.
How do you keep yourself stop crying over a girl?
don't think about her you'll meet someone else, move onnn
What signs mean she is never coming back to you?
She is with someone else. She doesn't return your calls over a period of a month or longer. She drops off a box of your personal effects, or gifts that you have given her on your doorstep. She has a restraining order against you. She calls the police to tell them that you are vioationg the terms of the restraining order every time she drives be your home. She never has anything nice to say about you. she does not speak to you.
Can a person ever get over the pain of realizing that an ex-narcissist has no remorse?
I don't think you ever do. All you can do is learn to let go of the pain within
Yes. I thought that would be the hardest but in time you just dont care how and what they think. You will just be glad to have your self esteem and life back. There is no future with these types.
That really depends on you, not the narcissist. People are amazing in their capacity to recover. You are a healthier person if you are able to recover and grow past it. It does take time, time and more time. Realizing the person was a narcissist can be healing, since it means you were duped, but at least you were really emotionally invested in the relationship. It helps explain so much to know that the other person was a narcissist. It's good to find a friend (or a therapist) who is willing to let you talk about it and work through it. In time, the pain will fade. It might even go altogether. I heard a quote from an old movie (sorry don't know the title) "I don't believe someone can ever get over something like that...but in time, you can put it where it belongs." That's been my goal for getting over the pain my narcissist caused: to put it where it belongs. After all, that's what separates us from narcissists and other unprincipled people: we don't run rampant when something bad happens to us. We have the self-control to learn and grow, not to act out against others.
How do you prove you wont break up with someone?
Well, I wouldn't suggest proving it, because many things can switch factors in that. I wouldn't suggest swaring on someone's life either. I'd just say "you'll have to wait to see, cuz your gonna be stuck with me forever ;)"
or something along that lines.
What would a guy think if a girl gives him a red rose?
If I were a guy, I would think it was the cutest thing ever.
