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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
Why is your Ex boyfriend calling you from anonymous number?
You should not be accepting any calls from you ex. 'Ex' means the relationship is over. He doesn't want you to know where he is, but he is selfish enough to want to know what you are up too. If you are smart you'll tell him to quit calling you and you're busy. If he asks busy at what then tell him it's none of his business as he chose to break up. Keep him guessing!
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What is it called when someone leaves you at the alter?
- When a bride or groom is left at the altar it is generally called 'left at the altar,' but, the other word would be 'jilted.'
What is the physiological reason for your heart to hurt after a relationship ends?
- When someone's heart hurts after a relationship ends and they still love that person the body tenses; chest may be tight; the brain may go numb or starting racing of thoughts of what could have gone wrong in the relationship. Crying relieves the tension and so does time to heal.
Ask him if he he wants to be friends, if he says yes then just talk. if he flirst then just stop talking or keep talking normally
What do you do if someone says i love you but but i do not care about them in the same way?
Say "I love you too my friend" and maybe they'll understand that you only love them as a friend.
It really depends when he/she uses it and in which tone. If your partner is showing off in front of his friends, it might be on the dirty side, but when he/she says it a bit more sincerely, you know that person really means it. But in everyday circumstances, it used in a rather sexual way.
It seems he may still be interested in you but is not sure how you feel and probably is nervous to approach you.
You have two options. One, love this girl for who she is which means you must accept that you will not be her only lover and that you must ALWAYS wear a condom. Or two, kick her sneaky, disrespectful, slutty a** to the curb and pick up your broken heart and move on. Remember, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
How long should you have no contact with ex after they brokeup?
There is no specific time limit however, giving them time and space will allow you both to think about things and sort through your feelings. Especially if they broke up with you for whatever reason(s) - let them contact you if/when they decide and if they do not then that will indicate that its over and your going to have to respect that then move on.
Yes marriage has a future. But no one can tell what the future is but the couple themselves are the ones who's responsible for the ending of their story. It could be good or bad. What matters most is that marriage is a gift from God and should be kept for the rest of our lives.
I would think by getting pulled into gravitational forces and being swung right back out into space.
Her relationship with who is complicated. I'd ask that and if the answer is you than you need to talk about it. If it is with someone else leave. Either way some time apart might help both of you either appreciate the other once again. I'd get into counceling.
Well first of all, I am a man, and men have different ways of handling things like this. If it were me and... let's say Jasper, who is like my brother. I have known Jasper for 11 or 12 of my 17 years of life, and if I thought we were "drifting apart", I would apologize for what I had done and make time to hang out with him as soon as I could. I would also say that I didn't want to lose our friendship over something stupid because, like I said, he is like my brother.
If it really is a true friend, they will apologize too and realize that your relationship is more impoprtant than some petty argument.
I would say if you and your friend are drifting apart you should talk to them. Tell her/him how you feel and that you would like to talk it out and try to work past your differences. If that doesnt work then maybe you just have to accept that you are just different and maybe you should take a break as friends for a while
A person who walks is called a pedestrian. A biped is any creature that walks on two legs, including human.
How can you tell if a Scorpio man wants to end things with you?
Just ask him. Most Scorpio men possess the power of speech.
Why does ex boyfriend act totally different since breakup and makes no contact?
He's either mad, jealous, or scared.
He is not "into" you and not interested. He really doesn't want to be "friends" because if he did he would talk to you. Go find someone else.
How do you tell someone honestly but nicely that they have offended you?
Rather than tell them that THEY have offended you turn it round and say that YOU have found what they did/said offensive. Say "Please don't do/say that I find it offensive because......" "How do you tell someone honestly but nicely that they have offended you?" As the "offender" you don't have the right to expect a nice response or set rules of engagement. In my case, I would have greatly appreciated if he had picked up the telephone and spoke with me directly and privately.
This young man is acting up according to his age. There is nothing better for a young man (or woman) than to have 2 people of the opposite sex interested in them. He's playing this game for all it's worth and YOU have to break the chain. Since he's your ex, then you are free to date anyone you like ... do it! If he cares for you then you'll be together and if he doesn't, still gets jealous at least you know one thing about him "he wants his cake and eat it too." He wants to have you waiting on the sidelines until he has decided what young woman he wants to be with. Don't let him do that to you. By the way, in case your best friend is dating your ex boyfriend, that's no friend! If she hasn't bothered to date him then she's one smart girl. No man or woman should come between brothers, sisters, or friends. Good luck Marcy
Give it up and move on. Yes she can come back my ex did that, but has a boyfriend (found out after 2 week) i was mad and now she is gone again. ANSWER
Firstly you need to recognize that since you have trust issues and he's still with you, secondly, you trust your boyfriend by letting go of any doubt or any unanswered question and just believing without any second thoughts or worries, remember... trust is alwayz blind so to be able to trust you must be willing, and to be willing to trust you must be capable of getting rid of any second thoughts or doubts, and only give trust when trust is earned... trust is the easiest thing to lose but the hardest thing to gain, and you cannot claim you love someone and it be true if you can't trust them because when u love someone u lose all common sense and all logic and you do everything blindly believing you're with the right person, so if u don't trust them, then very possibly they need to understand your points and you need to understand theirs.
There are two very distinct cultures here and you being East Indian you must realize the cultural practices of your own family. #1 Are you so sure your father would allow such a marriage? Doesn't sound much to me he would like you marrying a Canadian not of your faith or culture. #2 Perhaps your boyfriend's parents warned him of the many problems the both of you could have in a mixed marriage. East Indian culture hold onto their roots with a passion and it's sacred to them, but I need not tell you that. I suggest you speak with your father and if he can look you in the eyes and tell you he had no problem with the marriage then phone your boyfriend and ask for an explanation. Something is going on.
I want to tell you a true story of a young East Indian girl that lived not far from my home in British Columbia, Canada. She was born in Canada, but her family roots were close-knit and her mother was strict to the point of "death of my daughter is better than marrying below her class." Her parents arranged for her to marry a man that was at least 40 years older than her. The young woman wasn't pleased with this and tried to tell her parents, but she was sent back home to India. While she was there she met a young man (pulled a cart for tourists) in India and they fell in love. She came back to Canada and when her parents pressured her to marry the older man this is when she said she was in love with the younger man. Her parents went wild! It is unclear how this young woman managed to get back to India to see her true love, but she did. They were out riding on a motor scooter. Little did the young lovers realize that HER OWN MOTHER put a hit out on both of them and had one of the uncles follow them. The car he was in side-swiped the motor scooter and the young man was pinned under it and left for dead (I do believe he survived) The young woman was thrown clear into some brush. The mother must have been in India, because the Uncle had grabbed a hold of the young woman by the hair with a knife at her throat and phoned the mother on his cell phone. It was apparent that the Uncle wasn't too thrilled with what he had to do and the mother (with no emotion) told him to kill her which he did. Again the story is unclear, but the mother was arrested in Canada.
I am not saying this would ever happen to you, but your culture (at least my your parents and grandparents) is very strong. Have that talk with the head of your household and if they say they have no problem with such a marriage then call your boyfriend and find out what is going on.
Most would tell you to move on, but in your case this is more than just a young man with marriage jitters and you need to know the truth (if at all possible.)
Good luck hon
New Answer HeadlineHi, thanks for the reply.Well, we started dating, and I was weary at first cause of my parents. I knew my dad would accept, and my mom wouldn't. We knew through our entire relationship we would have to fight to be together. His parents are fine with us being together. They have warned him though, make sure you want to be with her, cause if you say you want to marry her, then back out, she can get into a lot of trouble.
So, I told my dad about him, and my dad was thrilled. He was very happy and accepted him not being Indian. I told my bf my dad knows, and he said he wsd very happy too. 2 weeks later he breaks up with me without a reason and says "its not going to work." There is a new girl who started working with him, and Im sure it has something to do with her. She started working there 1 week after I told my dad, and he breaks up with me 1 week after knowing her. I told him many times to leave me before I tell my dad, in case he wasnt sure about being with me. But he insisted that he wnats to marry me, and that it was about time I told my family about him. Maybe he thought I would never actually tell my parents? He has commitment issues for sure, and maybe its cause he is adopted. Then when I forced an answer out of him for why we are breaking up, he says "Youre too weak, it shouldn't have taken you 2 years to tell your family. It has to be right with both sides of the family and your mom wont accept it, neither will my dad." That is all bullsh*t, cause he has known for 2 years about that, and its not like I changed cultures overnight. I have always been Indian, and hes always been Canadian. So that to me, sounds like an excuse.
I had to break my dads heart, he was so happy I found someone, and I think he was more happy I found someone who wasnt East Indian, believe it or not.
For 2 years he loves me and talks about marrying me, then all of a sudden....."I don't think its going to work" and blames it all on me. And is in turn so rude to me.
I just don't get why make me tell my dad, if he says his feelings had changed. Why make me go through that? It has was hardest thing I did.
AnswerFirstly, be careful that your mother may not have had something to do with your boyfriend backing off. She could have spoken to his parents. Don't accuse her, but ask if she has contacted his parents about this marriage. However, from what you tell me about him he certainly does has commitment problems and he has hurt you deeply. You could also be right that once you actually talked to your father and when he agreed to the marriage your boyfriend was rather shocked and probably riding on the fact that because of the cultural differences your father would say no.Don't worry so much about breaking your father's heart. He may be more over-joyed than you realize because you know what a jerk your boyfriend is and it's saved you and your family a lot of pain. Parents just want their children to be happy. Another man will come into your life that will treat you the way you should be treated. Consider yourself lucky you found out this boyfriend of yours isn't worth the skin he's in, and also realize that he should well know that the cultural differences you both faced was difficult particularly for you and 2 years isn't all that long. You did the right thing! He is to blame!
If you really want to get to the bottom of this then visit his parents when your ex boyfriend is not around. Explain to them what happened and before you move on would like to know what the reasons were for your ex boyfriend to do what he did to you. This would put your mind to rest. The long and short of it is, this young man is immature, played with your feelings, has commitment issues and you're lucky to be rid of him.
There are jerks in all cultures and we aren't all that different when it comes right down to it.
Good luck hon
