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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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What does it mean if your ex-boyfriend says I love you?
It means he either still likes you or hes playing with you...
How do you get revenge on a boy thats a player?
When you get a player, and are played BY that player... you play back. When he breaks your heart use the hurt and channel it to revenge. First off you use a friend that he doesn't know. hook them up without him knowing that you did. Make sure the friend isn't vulnerable to sweet words of love and all the tricks he used on you. Since you know all that he likes make her the perfect girl for him. If you see he starts to play her tell her to break it off. If he begins to fall in love with her then your in. Once he does keep playing off of it til you know his feelings are so strong he would just about die if she left. Then when he is comfortable and happy, rip her out from under him, like he did you. The heart is a vulnerable thing, anything can be manipulated if studied and the heart is one of the easiest things. make his game your game except sneakier.
****Tips:
- 1)make sure you know him well, know his game and the way he plays- they always have a pattern.
- 2) don't use a easy to hurt friend tell the friend in advance and see if she is good for it.
- 3) don't let him know you are friends! That messes up the mission!
- 4) do it once, don't over do it with the same guy, it shows that your totally not over him.
- 5) Don't be obvious, a good player can tell when he is being played and remember to remind the girl he is good and it'll be tough.
- 6) if you fail, don't keep trying.
- 7)have fun Chick and remember my tips and advice! ;)
*******How to spot a player:
- It is kinda tough at times. You may think only the pretty boys do it, but no, watch out for the average dudes too! they can be just as deadly if not more. If you don't trust him, stay that way until your sure that you can. If someones says they are cheating on you or that he is with them. Most likely chick.... He is.The average ones are smart ones. You never expect them but they are the worst. They steal your heart right from under you WHILE they are doing it to some other poor little innocent victim. (For the record: older guys like younger, naive little virgins for a reason!) If they want some don't give it to them, respect yourself and use MORALS!
- *********Alright so i know a lot of you girls think that this is bull that's been written but trust me. I know how guys are and this is written from a girl that's been played point of view. yeah you thought you loved the guy and They made you think they loved you back but the reality is sometimes you are used. A lot of the times guys aren't hat you think they are but take the chances of life and stand through the hurt. yeah it hurts& sucks but that's life. deal with it and it may get better!
- *********One more thing: If its hard to be with someone you love.... Leave. because most likely, its not worth it.
What do if someone breaks up with you?
If he breaks up with you just except the fact!! Don't ask him why, don't ask to be friends. Just say ok cya around and walk away. If he still wants to be friends that is his choice. Maybe one day he will ask to be friends again. The best thing to do is not tal,k back to him!!! =D
What are the signs that an ex is on his way back to you?
You know, I think you've answered your own question here, and it's to do with you and not him. The fact that you have identified him as immature and an ex suggests to me that you are more than ready to move on, and to go back to him, even if he wanted you back for any other reason than he can't find another girlfriend to replace you, would be a waste of your time and his. So take charge here. Tell him it's over, to stop calling (use your caller ID; that's what it's for) that you have no feelings for him, and you are not going to be his sympathy date. Of course, if he's really immature, there is always the risk that this kind of firm treatment will make you that much more desirable to him, but he'll get over it eventually, unless you give in. Phil
How do you know if you are in a bad relationship?
Things are bad for you. there are several ways to tell if you are in a bad relationship If you dont trust the person your with or that person doesn't respect how you feel or listen to what you have to say then you should let them go. The most important thing that you need in a relationship is communication and respect . Also if your with someone and you feel you have to change them Dont even try to change them just let them go because if you try to change them your just going to hurt yourself.I hope this helps alot : )
What do you do if a guy loves you and another girl but cant decide?
He can't be in love with two people at the same time. There's a difference between 'loving someone' and 'being in love with someone'. He needs to make his mind up. Which one does he go to sleep and dream about, and then wakes up every morning, and thinks about her. That's the girl he needs.
He probably wants to see you 'long time no see' or he is probably missing you, wants you back or wants to be friends (they are many more reasons) if your not shy ask or you could always say 'no'
I don't know if you should wait at all. If he loves you why doesn't he want to date? Get yourself out there and experience other things because you will never know what you could miss if you hang around waiting. Tell him that you'll be there when he is ready but in the mean time you are not sitting around.
How do you use exuberant in a sentence?
He was a man of exuberant fancy, and, withal, of an authority so irresistible that, at his will, he turned his varied fancies into facts.
- The Lady, Or the Tiger? by Frank R. Stockton
Why does he call you every day?
It depends on whom "He" is but chances are they enjoy talking to you and are possibly interested. If you do not like it simply ask him not to and do not accept his calls. If you don't mind then speak with him but maybe let him know he doesn't need to call so often.
What does it mean when your ex boyfriend defends you?
It doesn't necessarily mean that he likes you. But it could mean that he still respects you and cares for you as a person.
What is th secret of a true love?
There is no secret to finding true love. Some people are very fortunate to find 'true love' but many more do not. Some people who don't 'find' their true love, grow to love their mate more over time, but many relationships also grow apart. There are even people who never find love but manage to lead very satisfying lives all the same. Certainly, this is preferable to the many relationships that turn harmful or destructive.
There are so many qualities and personal traits that come into play, and people are all so different, that no formula exists.
How do you know if you truly love someone?
You would know when : It's the most amazing experience in your life. You feel disconnected with everyone around you except with the person you are in love with. He is there in your thoghts and silence. You feel his happiness, his pain, his touch and everything about him is so special even his faults. You would find it in your heart to forgive and explain any mistake that he might do. Also, You feel sorrow in your heart when you need to see him or talk to him and he isn't there for some reason. You feel the need to help him in any way you can.It's painful and enjoyable experience at the sametime if it is true love.
Why is it so difficult to get over a relationship with a narcissist?
Im going through the same thing you are. I know it sux, but im finally over him! I just took up writing all my problems down and just went over everything he has ever said to me and i finally relized that everything was just bull crap to him i did'NT mean nothing to him. My problem and most girls as well they all think that they did something wrong and "if i only treated him better i would still be with him" But i did'NT do any thing wrong. And im sure you didnt either. All they are in it for is fun and just thank god that your not with him anymore because now you can start over and make a new life for youself a way better one too. Just stay strong and just remember that you could'NT have done any thing to make this happen! And try to find a better honest sweet guy there are some of them out there still just have hope and be aware of the ppl you get involved with and think to yourself "do i really need to put myself through this again" cuz you and me both diserve better than that. See ths is how i see it hes gunna be doing this forever while your happy and have moved on to bigger and better things. I just feel sorry for the next victim. Love, Peace and chicken grease! :)
AnswerA simple answer to the questions is this: The Narcissist has no feelings of their own, but they need feelings from others to survive, like emotional vampires. One way to get this supply is to 'push the right buttons'. They instantly seek out week points and while charming at times they make you feel that any problem is YOUR fault. They create a vicious cricle of dependence, little by little crushing your self-esteem and confidence so that any fight is all but driven from you. A good analogy would be heroine, a first people take it to feel good but it has such a devestating effect on the body that once withdrawal sets in they need to take it to stop feeling 'bad'. A relationship with a Narcissist/Psychopath can be like this, at first it feels good, the praise, the kindness etc but suddenly it all turns and it is your fault. So for the rest of the realtionship you are on tip toes in order to stop him feeling bad and hurting you. Going cold turkey may seem hard to do and often the craving for the old relationship is still there, however do it, get away, run away and soon you will realise you are missing nothing positive, it was not your fault, and you are not responsible for other peoples problems. Wishing you well. Keep looking on the web, there is a great yahoo group called Nacissists I don't have the link to hand but if you search I am sure you will find it easily.You are well rid. AnswerAfter 10 years living with a female narcissist, believe me, 'it ain't easy'! She was the perfect trophy woman...5ft 2in, blue eyes, hourglass figure (uh huh!), light brown hair with blond highlights... and I thought she loved me, or so she told me... I have been separated from her for about 2 months, and I have had no contact with her. She told me has "moved on with her life" and has completely isolated me from her and her family... I did have an occasion to cross paths with her, and it was nerv racking! My heart was racing, my stomach was churning, and I was shaking... Gee, think I still had feelings for her? even when she was seen kissing and hanging on her boss in public 4 or 5 days after I moved out... Hmmmmm I think she lied to me about her love for me? even after she told me her boss was a no good womanizer, and she would never get involved with him... Gosh, when I stopped by the house about 10 days later, i found clothes and shoes belonging to him in her closet??? and a photo of the two of them together on the wall... (in the ten years we spent together, she never hung or displayed a photo of us anywhere in the house we bought together)... Now that I am away from her, I begin to see how subtle and devious her abuse was. She teased me with her body just enough to keep my interest, and she paid just enough attention to me to keep me believing that she was still interested in "us"... while all the time she was flirting and teasing every male that she came in contact with. When I would begin to voice my protest, she had a VERY practical answer, and somehow made me feel guilty I was feeling jealous!... multiply this with the 10 years I spent under her 'thumb'(she was extremely adept at making all her arguments sound resonable and pracical) and I eventually would never argue or cross her... After all, I Love her, right? Yes I stil do love her, but I don't like her very much any more. I am not been happy with my physical raction to coming in contact with her, but time is the ony cure for the abuse I was put through. I may not have been bruising physical abuse, but it was definitely abuse non the less... She is a master at manipulation, and verbal judo. she could practically control everything I did, and she drained me emotionally... and the longer I stay away from her, the more I se what kind of control she had over me... I was no more than a paycheck and ranch hand, to keep the perfect home and property up for looks. Money and looks, the most important things in her life. thet is why she forced me to move out, I did not fit into her ideal life, I am a woman....Not a professional opinion, this is just an observation from someone who experienced it first hand....Did diggy break up with his girlfriend?
Yup jenevieve Johnson she so pretty her dad is a basketball player magic Johnson
How do feel when your in love?
Simple, you feel happy when that persons comes to your mind. But do not say you are happy when you think of them doing naughty things. That my friend is lust, a quick and cheap substitute for love.
In a relationship but he doesn't want it to be serious?
He might still be attached to the one who breaks his heart, and find it very hard to ever be in a serious relationship again. He will find himself again, you just have to let him be and heel his wounded heart.
You have to make her break up with you... be rude. Ignore her... but do not... do NOT break her heart by doing this... maybe... make her lunch or something and make it something she doesn't like... that she thinks you KNOW she doesn't like... pretend that you don't know much about her... you don't know her fav. color or anything... :) Good luck
How to get back with an ex boyfriend?
Try to have absolutly no contact. get out and enjoy your life and in time you may feel differently towards him. If he has any interest at all, he will seek you out, but, if he has moved on, you will have a fuller life without him.
How do you explain how much you love someone?
just let them know how much they mean to you and you would do anything for them no matter what..u will be with them though thick and thin and nothing can makeyou change your mind
How long before you careless ex girlfriend contacts you?
At anytime. And she's mire likely love you more if you get hurt A LOT!!!!!! Blonde's are the most careless girlfriend's. And is best to get a new girlfriend and show her off to your ex or ex ex girlfriend. If you show your newest girlfriend she's likely to accept you more as a friend.
What does it mean when your ex-boyfriend calls you every night?
How flattering!! There's a few reasons I can think of as to why he would do this--but you are the best judge of which one fits best. First, I would consider why he is your "ex": was he kind and generous when he was with you, was the breakup due to a dealbreaker (I.e.verbal or physical abuse), did he return to an ex-girlfriend, you broke up with him, etc. If you broke up on friendly terms, then he just wants to maintain the contact. I would not imagine anything further, or encourage him to return to you. If the parting was not friendly or in response to misbehavior, you need to block his calls and emails, since further contact is not going to do you any good and may, at most, endanger you. Also, it is not helpful to him since he is keeping busy trying to contact you instead of moving on! That he is very bored* He may need to get a job/hobby/girlfriend~ in that order
Why does the narcissist always have to talk about their ex partners to their new one?
Narcissists like to brag about their past and they also collect "victims!" Without actually saying how rotten they were to their former ex's they want you to know how important they are and I bet he/she made sure they added that THEY left their ex. It's about control! When I dated if a guy talked about his former girlfriends in a bad way (unless it was an abusive relationship) I kicked him to the curb because that part of his life should be private and he should think enough of his past ex's to keep it private. I never asked about any of my boyfriends former ex's. I heard a lot of stuff from my N about his ex. According to him, he was a saint and she an evil woman. He told me of some domestic disputes involving the law where SHE was (of course) at fault. I did some investigating after I broke up with my N. It turns out that all the things he accused her of doing were actually done by HIM! Not very pleasant stuff either... Now that we have broken up, he is telling everyone that I cheated on him...(?!) It is not true (of course). Makes me wonder what HE had been doing! People may believe him once or even twice, but anymore than that and people get the picture ... it's him! Just move on hon and thank your lucky stars you are rid of him. You're one smart girl!
