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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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Is it healthy to have a boyfriend at age 13?
it depends on what your standards are. if that is okay with what you believe in,then sure. why not? NO. I suggest that u wait until u r 15
answer if your heart says yes ask your parents Yes it is perfectly fine there are many 12 year olds that have boyfriends! Good Luck!
What do i do if i love him but don't want to be with him?
If you love someone the you should want to be with them and I have no idea why you are trying not to love him. Doesn't make sense to me. Unless he's into drugs, alcohol, a jerk or an abuser, or married then it appears you have found a real nice guy. You need to ask yourself what is stopping you! Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy
No, the answer in this case is rarely, if ever, yes. Especially in cases in which she broke up with you aka, she dumped you.
That depends on who she is.
Oh yes, the "I need my space" line. It means she wants to keep you dangling on a string while she feels completely free and without guilt dating other guys. Since she is asking her friends about you she is obviously still interested in you. This gal wants her cake and eat it too. Start dating and give those friends of hers something to tell her. Don't ever use a girl to get back at her, but just move on and find a nice girl that you deserve. No one like playing love games and she's hurt you. Let your ex have all the space she wants! Good luck Marcy
How successful is narcissistic new relationships?
in the beginning of a new relationship with a narcissist they will idiolize you and be everything you ever hoped for they will give you gifts n dinners n be attenitive then once they have you hooked they will play their mind games and start the devaluing process which concist of verbal abusive mental games pathologic lying cheating have no empathy then discard you like you never exsisted n move onto their next victim...stay away cuz once your hooked its all over with
What to do when you met your ex?
Though it is very much hard to face ur ex at any place again, try to formal (relax), talk to her as a good friend, don't act too strange to her, say something good about her or her friend, Plz try to be reasonable when you speak.
How do you tell your best friend that you're a lesbian?
Information as follows is necessary to be able to answer this question:
- How long you have been friends.
- Whether she is friendly towards other lesbian/gay/bi friends.
But, if she is a true friend and worth keeping, she will not mind and will support you no matter to what gender you're sexually inclined.
- Speaking as a Lesbian myself; telling straight friends is the hardest thing to do. you spend hours and hours going over it in your head. I went to a Christian school and as you can tell it didn't go down that well, truth is I lost quite a few friends, it's hard at first but you realize later that it's their problem and your friendship wasn't really that important to them, and who wants friends like that. I disagree with the person below me. If you hold hands and cuddle or whatever then tell her she'll freak out, think you're coming on to her and run for the hills. Last year I started at a new school and everyone knows about my sexuality there. At first I denied it because I wasn't sure how it would go down seeing as my past experiences weren't that good. I sent a text message to my best friend from my new school one night and she fully excepted it. It was such a relief to get it out to her. It sucks feeling like you have to bottle all that up. When I started to reveal it to everyone else it was easier knowing I'd always have my best friend with me to stand up for me. All the girls are completely cool with it and treat me no different and I'm as proud as heck about it now. I'm not saying this will be your case but I hope that it is. A persons sexuality has got nothing to do with their personality but people are selfish and pig headed. I recommend doing it in a letter or text or something not too confrontational. It gives them time to think about it. Give it some time and let her come to you first. I'm sorry if this hasn't helped you, let me know how you go if you haven't told her already.
- If she is a lesbian, then don't worry about it; just tell her. She'll be happy. If she's straight, then it depends on how comfortable she is around lesbians and gay people. Does she have any other friends who are lesbians? If she's one of those homophobic people, then it's probably best if you just don't tell her. But if she's a homophobic, then she's probably a stuck-up prep, and I'm guessing she wouldn't be your friend to begin with. Don't just spring it on her (so don't listen to the answer above me). Do something to make her wonder first. Like you could hold her hand or just cuddle with her, and see how she reacts. If she seems comfortable with that, then go ahead and tell her. If she doesn't seem comfortable, then wait a while. The best people to get advice from are other lesbians. Talk to a lesbian that you trust at least a little bit, enough that she won't tell your friend before you do, and just ask her how you should tell your friend. If you actually decide to tell her, do it sometime when you are alone and comfortable. I know this will sound weird, but people are more comfortable expressing themselves honestly in the dark. So maybe outside at night, or when you are sleeping over at her house or something. Or if you're talking to her on the phone late at night, and she isn't doing anything other than talking to you.
- By now I'm sure your friend has some suspicions, but hasn't approached you about it. If she is straight and you are good friends then you being a Lesbian should have no bearing on your friendship. It doesn't change who you are inside. Keep your personal life to yourself unless she is interested enough to ask. I have Lesbian friends and we get along just fine. One lady is particular was a nurse that looked after my father during the early 70s. She was a great nurse and was the only one that could get my dad to laugh while in hospital. I kept in touch with her until she passed away.
- The last thing a heterosexual wants is someone rubbing up against them. That is a violation of personal space. being cuddly can give the wrong impression. She may have had her suspicions but do you really want her thinking the crush is on her? No and this advice is coming from a bisexual. I agree with number one's answer and number three's. Number two you have some good points but you mustn't forget that not all heterosexuals are okay with us lesbians, bisexuals and gays. I agree we shouldn't spring it on your friend at all; it should be a quiet and private space where the two of you can talk together, alone, without being overheard, but please, don't cuddle up to them or touch them unless you two are good enough friends that holding hands is okay between you two. Do not cuddle. Your friend will be very surprised and may react either way. you must give them some space and breathing room because the last thing a person wants when an elephant has been dropped on their chest is their friend squeezing them with hugs to death. When confronted like that some people snap or lash out. be polite and give your friend some space. be accommodating and patient with them. when they are ready they will react and take the news either way. If things go well you'll hug and go one with your lives, stronger and better friends; if not and it's a very negative reaction give them space and they may come back to you in a better thinking mood. or they may not. If your friend leaves you, it's OK. There will be new friends. if a person can't accept you as you are, then they were never really your friend.
- Okay, Coming from a bisexual, I wouldn't tell her straight up. Play a joke on her, then when you tell her it was a joke, also tell her your gay, as if you were playing another joke on her. See how she reacts. If she takes it badly, tell her you were joking again, if she takes it okay, then come out to her. That is the easiest way. I just told my BFF this month, and that is what I did. But I do recommend telling the jokes, and the truths, through texting, IM, or e-mail. This will give them some time to think it through before they see you again. Also, expect it to be a little akward for like the first week. After a week she should pretty much be over it. And if she is truly your friend, then she won't really care that you are gay.
How do you get your boyfriend back after you lied to him?
You broke the worst rule of the lot "trust!" Sorry to say, but you have to face the music and hopefully you have learned your lesson. If so, then phone him, apologize and ask if you can meet to talk things out. You may get lucky and if you do then mean what you say!
He wants me to show him that i want his trust back but how
Do guys realize what they have lost?
Some men do and some men don't. Some men can take it very hard while others move on without blinking an eye or looking back.
Is it ever too late to apologize?
Its never late too apologize. Even if she/he doesnt approve it in the future you will know it was worth it.
How do you make your boyfriend jelous?
Pretend your busy all the time because he'll think 'wow she really doesn't need me for anything' Go to the gym! he'll see that you going and not only will he think 'jeeze maybe shes losing weight to get ready for a single summer', he will also be very attracted to you if your working out and eating good.
well what if that don't work because he says i am fine the way i am
snog another boy in front of him, or even better- get another boyfriend. Then he'll desperately want you back! If he says you are fine the way you are then why do you need to make him jealous? Just move on, and get some new hobbies, the more you sit and mope over him the worse you'll feel. It also gives you more time to hang out with your girl friends. Do something really girly together and have loads of fun without him, youll realise that you can live without him, you have a life more than him. You don't deserve him if he doesn't want you!
How do you tell someone you barely know you love them?
well a good way to start would be to get to know that person first because if you get to know them they will either a) turn out to be a jerk and you will have saved your self an embaressing moment or b) like you too then give them a card on their birthday saying "hey i heard it was your birthday have a good one!" a home made card will be best they will think you where really sweet by rembering their birthday and get to know you better
How many stages do girls go through after a break up?
Yes at first it is unbearable pain. At second its unbearable pain. At third after you do don't see them for a while you get a slight glimpse at the possibility at moving on, but then you see them and you heart comes shattering down. You go through a couple months of not seeing them, kind of recovering, and then seeing them and have your heart shatter. Then you kinda get used to your heart shattering and it goes away. Then after a real long time you start to wonder why they even made your heart drop. And then you get over them. Good luck.
- Lke the dumpee, the dumper also goes thru several different stages of development. Understanding these stages may help in whether you are trying to win them back or not.
stage 1- Contentment- after the break up, there are content or think that they are happier out of the relationship and free to pursue what they think that they want. this do
stage 2- Guilt- this stage is tricky. they will either see if the can work things out, be extra friendly to not feel as bad about dumping their ex or always argue with their ex to reassurse themselves that what did was right. the dumpee should be very careful here, espically if they are trying to win the ex hearts back. this stage has no definite answer to where it may lead to.
stage 3- Loving Again- some time after the break up, they will eventually let themselves fall in love with another, or at least attach/trust themselves someone they think is better for them.
stage 4- Remorse- At some point, the dumper will look back at what he/she had with their ex and question and compare it with their new partner. they will see if they really miss what they had and was it worth leaving. all aspects of his/her new relationship will be questioned. this will either lead them to slip back to guilt (stage 2), may result in breaking up with their new guy/girl, or they may find the get over their remorse and move on to stage five.
stage 5- freedom- this when they have move on with their lives and have completely let go from their previous relationship.
*these can cycle thru many times and before reaching stage five. and like the dumpee it may take years before coming to terms with one self.
**these stages are loose and may not fit with all people, some are just stronger willed than others. the dumper usually always have been thinking about separation for a long time before breaking up.
*** if you are the dumpee trying to find figure what may be going thru your ex's mind, this may help, but do not sit and wait, like stated before hand, it may take years and why would you waste your life like that? you have to let go and let them come to terms with themselves and what they've lost, like you will.
Why does your girlfriend act like she does not care anymore when you break up with her?
perhaps you're being too forward. Relationships are like elastic bands. Go forward and she'll ping away. Take a step back and she'll ping back. Be calm, and leave her to come to you. If she doesn't, then ....
Feeling Hurt? Of course, no one goes through life without getting hurt. We all have our moments. But, what matters most, is how we deal with these moments. Do we let them pass, suffering the pain, swallowing it. Of course, most of the time the pain will get stuck in our throat. It will seldom go away. But isn't it possible that the person inflicting the pain, in this case a man, does not really know how badly he has hurt you? As if he were a child, you will have to teach him how you feel when you get hurt. How can you do that? Of course, you know the answer. You must hurt him equally. Yes, this sounds terrible, but there is no other way. Reason won't do it. It is the pain we experience that will change our behavior.
How do you convince someone to love you?
It is very difficult, and sometimes impossible for you to make someone love you. Emotions like love usually can't be forced, they just come on their own. And sometimes forcing your love on someone does the opposite of what you intended. But one thing that sometimes works, is just smile. Smile for them when they achieved something or help them when their down. It does a lot to just smile. Also, just be kind and happy around them. Talk with them and laugh with them. It will slowly add up.
you dont "make" someone love you they have to love you can do stuff to lead them on to love you like try to impress her do things she likes be kind to her and make her feel satisfied
just impress them. dont know how? then learn.
You can't make them love you -- they do this on their own. Of course, you want to be likeable and true to yourself. From there, love may flow if everything else is as it should be. Treating love as a challenge or goal is not appropriate since it is a feeling between two people.
What do you do if your ex goes out with your best friend?
if a friend goes out with your ex you cant stop her your have to let her be happy. the same goes for your ex ,you cant have him forever so the best thing to do is forgive them .im not saying forgive and forget but you gave to at least let it go.
What to do if your boyfriend wants to break up and you dont?
If he wants to break up and you dont that means even if the relationship last it would not work out. Do you want to spend the rest of your life crying to your friends when he cheats on you or decides not to call you again. If both of you can't come to an agreement then there is no use of the relationship
What does it mean if an ex boyfriend follows you?
- When an ex-boyfriend stalks his ex-girlfriend, he does not think the relationship is over or, if he broke up or cheated on her, he feels she is still his property and he wants to see if she is seeing other men. If he continues to stalk you report it to the police. If you insist on speaking to him then you cannot consider it stalking.
How can you get over the first guy you slept with?
the thing is.... you cant just instantly get over A GUY. you'll always have some sort of feeling for him, but you just wont admit it. Once you've found your soulmate, then maybe you'll get over "the first guy to break your heart". i can just wish you luck, and hope this gives you some truth. <3 Peace - Gio
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Disadvantages of broken family?
I know one, there is a great disproportion on the percentage of entrepreneur raise in a broken family, the number might be telling something. There is always a positive side, it just depends if you can find it.
Boys mostly dump girls because : they want to get a move on in they're life , they saw a girl much prettier than you (so boys think), they don't care about you or that they think you and that boy would be better off Just Being "FRIENDS"
Just try to be honest with them, as long as it doesn't hurt their feelings. A good way to break up with someone is to tell them that you're very sorry but you've lost interest in them, and you think it would be best for both of you to move on with your lives. Also, don't break up with them in public because it would probably embarrass them.
How do you find out if your ex-girlfriend is still in love with you?
In addidition to the question, we became very close in the relationship and she told me repeatedly that I was the best boyfriend she had ever and she loved me with all of her heart. Our relationship just worked out and lasted for a good time, but all of a sudden, she broke it off, saying our relationship wasn't supposed to be like that, and that we were both unhappy because we had some issues we were going through with drama at school and things like that for a while. Everyone I know just says move on, but I feel differently. Yes, I'm a teen, and I know how it works. No high school relationship is ever going to last forever and they're supposed to be learning experiences. But we really worked out and I loved her a lot, and I wish I could understand truly why she broke up with me if she told me, but she says we were unhappy, while she always told me how much she loved me and said she would never break up with me ever. I don't really understand why it ended so suddenly, if all of this was the case, especially how we had just told each other how much we love each other that morning. Then, later in the day, she said it was inevitable to not end soon and it would make us happier I guess. Truth is, I was the happiest with her... Now, since we have broken up I feel like there's someway I can fix it so we can get back to our relationship, and maybe even start with a clean slate so we're "happier." We haven't really talked since the breakup, except when I asked her the next day why she broke it off, and all she could say was she was sorry and hoped I could forgive her. Since then, another guy(s) have been flirting with her, and of course its been bugging me. I don't want to lose her to someone else, especially knowing how much I love her and would give for her. Apparently, at lunch the other day, she was talking to one of the two guys that are flirting with her, and she saw me looking over at her repeatedly (my mistake). She asked me why that was, and I wouldn't tell her, only that I didn't mean to and was sorry. She proceeded to tell me something in this way: "just to let you know, 'the guy' was only over there talking to her because he was trying to make her feel better" because her relative is in the hospital. It kills me to know I can't be there for her... but I told her I was sorry about that anyways. It almost seems like we could still have a relationship, but I think I need to promise her happiness and show her how I truly feel, and tell her I love her still. She was probably the best thing that's ever happened to me... P.S. We broke up the day after Valentine's Day, just to give you a time. Is it too early to try and get her back? Does she want to have me as a boyfriend again, or is she trying to tell me she's moving on?
How do you get over a break up with your girlfriend?
"If somebody you love breaks up with you how do you get over her and leave her alone?" Just do it! Leave her alone. Get busy. Start doing something to keep your mind off of her, you will eventually heal from this. Time is the best healer, in the mean time, fill your schedule with everything you can think of: work, school, hobbies, friends, etc. I can't be exact but here is a suggestion-it worked for me- cut off all contact..do not talk to her even though you really really want to..fake happiness and this will be natural after awhile..go through the grieving process but don't let her know this...She needs to think you are moving on and that you are happy. After doing all this and still no reply from her (if she loves you too than she will contact you), you have to give up hope. Live your life, find other girls to hang out with. Let her go..She isn't meant to be yours. And if this is the case, than some other girl you will meet once you've let go will be the one and trust me you will love her more than this girl.Also,you can't make someone love you..Don't try to, you will not only push her away but at the same time lose a potential friendship. After you get over her, you can go back to speak to her. But this is only after you are sure you have no romantic feelings towards her. Remember, there are approx. 6.5 billion people in the world,if not more..what does this tell you?Give yourself time..Good Luck
